Asians have of tendency of setting bars for themselves (no not the bars that you go drinking at every weekend). We’re talking about setting bars and standards of recognition. Asians always feel they either belong to something or feel left out. It’s a sense of belonging or entitlement. Each person thinks they’re the perfect Asian and rags on others. But in reality there is no such thing as the “Perfect Asian,” and it’s hard to understand why there is even a category called ‘being Asian”.
This article will be split up into four parts of belonging or not belonging.
The first two parts involve identifying Asians versus everyone else.
#1 There aren’t enough Asians.
We’ve all heard this one. Whenever there is a top 10 list or something popular you will always hear “Why aren’t there any Asians?” or “Why aren’t there any Asians in that list”
Why does it matter that there aren’t enough Asians in Hollywood, or not enough Asians in People’s 50 Most Beautiful People? Or there are not enough Asian professors at your school or not enough Asian CEOs? It shouldn’t matter that much but Asians love to raise that bar and want Asian people to ‘represent’ in everything! If there are no Asians in something, then it’s racist!
“Do you watch House?”
“Nope, there aren’t Asians in it.”
“Do you watch hockey?”
“Nope, no Asians, I watch Ichiro, Daisuke and Yao Ming!”
You would be missing out on alot if you only watched stuff or participated in activities that had Asians in it.
#2 There are too many Asians
Sometimes there are too many Asians in something. Why are Asians only good at sports like table tennis and badminton in the Olympics? There are too many and they should be better at other sports. There are too many Asians taking computer science and engineering. And of course everyone’s favorite, there are too many asian women with white men! There are instances where people will avoid these areas of too “Asian-ness” in order to not be lumped in with the rest.
“Why don’t you take Accounting?”
“Ewww, it’s all Asians in there.”
“Let’s play ping pong.”
“Nah, so Asian, let’s go shoot some hoops instead.”
Which bring us to #3 and the next two parts are Asians comparing themselves to each other.
#3 You’re too Asian
How many times have you been called “Too Asian”? What the heck does that mean? But hear it all the time.
“What are you bringing to the picnic?”
“Rice and salad rolls”
“That’s so Asian.”
“What are you listening too?”
“Chinese ballads? You’re too Asian.”
“Where’s your dad”?
“He went to Future Shop to buy a digital camera that is 50% off.”
“Oh, he’s being Asian again.”
Last and probably the worst of the four is:
#4 You’re not Asian enough
You’re whitewashed! You’re a banana! You’re a FOB! You have no connection to your culture at all!
This is very judgemental. The other day my friends and I saw a couple of Asian girls wearing cowboys boots (we are in Calgary after all) and my friend whispered in my ear “Girls are so whitewashed these days”
I replied, “Maybe she just likes those boots,. She might be more Asian than you Miss Bluejeans”.
Ok so sometimes I’m guilty of all this too!
So my plea to everyone is too not lump everything into Asian or not Asian. Watch and listen to anything you like. Take any course you like and buy anything you like. Try not to do more Asian stuff or avoid all Asian stuff. Embrace everything and you’ll find yourself a more well-rounded person.