I suppose we are focusing on something that only Asian males usually like: resenting, or to put it more casually, “hating on” Asian women that (or when they) date Caucasian males.
You’ve heard Asian males many times before about how they hate that “white guys are taking all our women.” There is even a term for this that we have most of us have been accustomed: “Yellow Fever” which has been mentioned in SAPL #38 White Guys. There is also a popular short film by Wong Fu Productions (entitled ” Yellow Fever”) that tackles this “issue.” Check out the post and film and you’ll surely understand more clearly what we’re talking about.
Why do Asian men do this? Well, it’s because most Asian men assume that Asian females date white men because of certain attributes the white man has that Asian men lack. What are these attributes you ask? Glad you asked, there are the small physical features: height, pectorals, biceps, and the infamous private size. Other attributes include that Asian guys aren’t “manly” enough, too nerdy and geeky, and the last but certainly not least, are “too nice.” Many Asian guys usually translate this is to “oh I see, she doesn’t want to date Asian guys because we are not douche bag enough.”
Asian guys of course wish to break these stereotypes and believe that when an Asian female prefers to date white men only perpetuates them. Thus, the Asian guy’s rage ensues.
You will also hear Asian men rant about “how it’s never the other way around, and it’s rare to see Asian men with a Caucasian female.” I used to believe this was true until I went to college. Asian men like to say this because that’s all they’re paying attention to. It’s kind of saying a policeman rarely sees jay walkers, but sees a lot of drug dealers. Obviously this policeman is just not as concerned with jay walkers and more focused on drug dealers as drug dealers clearly present a bigger threat. Asian men feel exactly the same way about Asian women dating white guys.
Amongst Asian men outings or hang outs, when they see a couple walking down the street comprised of an Asian female and white man, they will ridicule the heck out of the couple…but of course never out loud. It is even to the point where Asian men become depressed at the sight of this, asking themselves, “damn, what is wrong with me?” Though this is covered by the outwardly expressed, “damn! What is wrong with her?!”Asian men have a good time doing this, as it gives them something to make fun of and be mad at as group.
Have a conversation with an Asian guy about this when you get the chance. It’s quite entertaining in itself. There are dozens of articles and debates addressing this issue that you can simply find by the magic of Google. Many of which believe that this truly is an issue affecting the Asian Community. Even at extreme cases, many Asian men believe that interracial dating is a threat to the unity of the Asian community, or something like that. (yes I’ve heard this before) You can even refer to previous posts of this blog! That’s how much we Asian guys like doing this!
Take me for instance, I admit that I have thought like this before: I too have had my fair share of hating the white man for taking our Asian women. (though no offense to Asian women, or women in general when I say that you ‘belong’ to us, I’m not implying you are all objects…you know what I mean). I was just so angry at all the beautiful Asian women going after the good looking, taller-than-me white men, and felt like there was nothing I could do but resent them. And I enjoyed it because it made me feel better about myself. I even went as low as using profane slander and scolding against my fellow Asian women for doing such an iniquitous act.
Though ironically enough, Asian men never resent other asian men for dating a white woman, while at the same time, say that interracial dating is a problem for the Asian community. That’s kind of like saying you’re against cutting down trees, and you chain yourself to great red woods but you don’t bother protecting the apple trees on the other side of the field. Aren’t trees all the same? ( I don’t know how good this argument is, but I hope you get the big picture of this major contradiction).
However, most Asian women who do prefer dating white men need not to defend themselves. Most of the time it is because of our own insecurities why we “like to hate on you.” However, you’ve got to consider why you primarily date white men: do you date white men simply because you’re really attracted to them? Well that’s okay, for me I can say I’m really attracted to brunette caucasians, no need to hate on me for that either. However, do you date white men only because you truly do feel that Asian men lack “manliness,” or more so, “are not real men.” That’s where you have to prepare yourself for some serious, legitimate resentment. It’s as if I said, “I date brunette white chicks because Asian women are just not sexual enough, and lack the lush and developed body of a white girl, and only white (brunette) women know how to satisfy men.” As you can see I sound like a douche bag and of course you have every right to resent me for making such claims. In any other case, it’s not your fault Asian women, we’re just bitter that we didn’t do enough to get you to notice us. (which makes us all the live long day what that special Caucasian white male did to get you to notice them. Odds are, nothing much.)
Though at this point, I can hear the hubbub of Asian men coming at me. I’m not saying don’t stop “hating on Asian women for dating white guys.” Just don’t take it too personal. It’s a comical issue that doesn’t need to be debated nor does it need to be treated as seriously as other social issues. I still like to hate on Asian women for it, but I give them the benefit of the doubt as it only goes as far as harmless teasing and jokes. You know, just like every other thing on this website!
And yes it does happen the other way around, for me I’ve seen plenty of Asian men dating white females (including myself)- and it had nothing to do with “oh because white women have bigger features” or “are better at sexual intercourse,” or something obscene that we charge Asian women for when dating white men. These relationships (at least the legitimate ones) are due to because the two people get along, care about one another, and like being around one another.
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