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#40 White Girls

Posted March 19th, 2008 by Peter · 684 Comments
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Before we begin, if you haven’t read the overarching Post #26, check it out before reading this post or any posts for that matter. Then you’ll get why this whole white guys, white girls, white people business. Thanks! Now on with the talk: Asian guys love girls. Sure, there are plenty of asian girls to go around, but in recent years, a threatening epidemic has raged throughout suburban areas all over the United States.

leftHave you ever wondered why asian girls can date white guys, but it’s rare to see an asian guy with a white girl? This isn’t because asian guys are not attracted to white girls. On the contrary, white girls are many times the secret fantasy of any Twinkie. No, this is not a partially-hydrogenated pastry, but the asian guy who has a bunch of white friends and does the things white guys do. There’s one problem: He’s stuck in an asian body. Twinkies can be compared to a single kitten growing up in the midst of puppies. Twinkies feel like they are puppies because they are enculturated and they like what other puppies like, including the female dogs. Due to this immersion, Asians end up adopting white beauty standards. (but the same isn’t reciprocated by white girls.)

The fact of the matter is that most white girls do not even see asian guys as “dateable.” They would rather ask them for help with math homework, gaming tips, or fashion advice. They wouldn’t ever want an intimate relationship, leaving one lingering question: What causes this white obsession?

The media has a greater influence on asians than they want to admit. The minute asians turn on the tube, out pops all they need to know about being ‘hot,” ‘cool,” and ‘hip.” They also find considerable beauty in large eyes, a thinner pointed nose, a longer face, and fair skin. An increasing amount of asian pop stars are even having surgery to look more like this. However, these are distinctly Caucasian beauty standards. Why else are white males so exciting?

They’re more exotic and promiscuous. But then again, who says that asian guys aren’t exciting? Who wouldn’t want to have a lobster dinner, talk about current events, AND finish their Advanced Calculus Homework (all the while getting their computer reformatted) during the same date? Asian guys sure know how to live it up!

Asian guys would also love to date a white girl, but can’t. White guys, on the other hand, love to date asian women and can. There are immense differences in preferences and motivation among these genders. When asian guys talk about ‘Bleach” to white girls, they immediately think ‘hair product,” before they realize the guy is talking about that book he is reading from right to left (manga). When asian guys talk about meeting after school, it isn’t to make out. It’s to finish up a school project. Asian guys just seem too nerdy.









There is hope: Culture is constantly changing. It still turns heads when we see an asian guy with a white girl, but American-born asian guys just seem a bit more ‘cool” than they used to be. Movies like Harold and Kumar go to White Castle overturn stereotypes by having asian guys star in stoner films.

What usually happens to asian guys, however, is not that they get white girls, but that their tastes start to change. Though asians’ environments shape early inclinations, their thoughts start to change as they continue to develop as people. Some asians will realize that their love for white girls is only a far-fetched dream during an awkward stage in life. Others will continue their pursuit and ultimately fail, but some will succeed. These asians prove that: Asian Guys most definitely like White Girls.

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  • 1 HKGuy // Mar 19, 2008 at 10:29 pm

    I’m of Chinese heritage (first generation immigrant from Hong Kong, but very much “assimilated”), and I’d have to admit I very much like white girls and pretty much only date them exclusively. Only about 10% of my girlfriends have been asian — but not intentionally; I think it’s because most of my social circle is white so I meet mostly white girls.

    Anyway, contrary to what this post might say, I’ve had quite a bit of success, even having dated several models, so it’s really quite possible!

    It hasn’t always been “easy” though. So take it from a guy who’s been there. The secret is this: Every girl is attracted to a guy who is smart, athletic, and confident. Most asian guys I know have the smarts department down pat, but in the athletics and confidence department, not so much.

    So, the fix is straightforward. First, get ye to the gym and get fit. It might take a couple of years of hard work, but the payoff is *enormous*. Start slow and work your way up, it’s the only way to do it. I started by bench pressing only the bar, and after a year and a half I was benching my body weight, and it shows.

    Second, work on confidence. I mean *real* confidence, *not* arrogance or cockiness. The kind of confidence where everyone knows you are the nicest guy around with a heart of gold and yet they also know that as soon as you walk in the room, you’re in charge. How to do this? Probably outside the scope of this comment, but just like going to the gym, start with small successes and work your way up.

    In the final analysis, all three desirable attributes need to be there: intelligence, physical, and social (confidence). With all three in place, you’ll have to fight the girls off with a stick, regardless if they are white girls or any other race!

  • 2 Shaun // Mar 19, 2008 at 10:56 pm

    Great work guys, top article!

    *nudges* Banana Boy * Peter, you heard HKGuy it’s all about confidence and hitting the gym :) hehe as if it’s that simple…

    However I’m sure those 2 get their share of white tail :) I’m sure they found that it was just more fun to lump the majority of asians into one huge pot and stir. Come on, let’s face it, most Asian guys DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT get with white girls, let alone non-asian girls. It’s just how it is. :( Also, not all of us are as suave as you make yourself out to be, HKGuy…

    Also, Harold & Kumar is the oddest example you could have thought of to represent Asians with white girls. Haha seems like I have to go and get stoned to get me some white tail :)

  • 3 YASPY Chick // Mar 20, 2008 at 4:44 am

    Many Asian guys I know, at least in Toronto, are really, really metro (saw a few guys who looked like their hair was DONE at a salon. One guy also had a Gucci “man bag”…and Mr. Gucci didn’t ping my ‘dar, so he probably wasn’t gay). This works well in bigger cities, but in smaller communities? As HK Guy said, get ye to a gym.

  • 4 cj // Mar 20, 2008 at 6:47 am

    common guys you can be slutty. experiment!

  • 5 David // Mar 20, 2008 at 6:59 am

    I’m a white guy, and I obviously like Asian girls. They look like elves, but without the pointy ears. So fuggin hot!

  • 6 Anonymouse // Mar 20, 2008 at 8:28 am

    This isnt funny, why do I bother checking it over and over?

  • 7 Mike Kay // Mar 20, 2008 at 8:54 am

    Haha, pretty funny article. But, I don’t see how this is “stuff asian people like.” It is more along the lines of “stuff asian people like but prefer to complain a lot about.” Try dating a white girl, they aren’t all that great (really needy, sorta self centered, and get less hot as they mature). Great blog tho ^^

  • 8 Shimmer // Mar 20, 2008 at 10:07 am

    Oh, you’re wrong. I’m not the only white girl who thinks Asian guys are attractive–I was just talking about this last week with a friend. The problem is that the guys don’t seem to catch our signals, or maybe they don’t know what to do about them.

  • 9 A white guy // Mar 20, 2008 at 10:39 am

    I’ll tell you what works for me with white women. Give them lots of attention. If you’re an asian guy and you want to hook up with a white chick, just try showing some interest in what she’s talking about. You know why? Because more than anything women LOVE to talk. All women. Even that shy girl at work or school who rarely says a word. Trust me, she’s dying to spill her guts about everything from her grandmother to Coach bags. Be that guy she can talk to. You don’t always have to care, but you always have to LOOK like you care. It’s the easiest thing in the world for average looking guys of any race to hook up with women.

  • 10 MR // Mar 20, 2008 at 11:05 am

    Moderator’s Note: Unacceptable comment.
    White women do not date Asian men because they have small ****. Everyone knows that. Not addressing it in your post will not make that go away.

  • 11 Stuart // Mar 20, 2008 at 1:12 pm

    Take solace my friends in the FACT! that no matter how hot, curvaceous and mysterious the unattainable women may appear there is some guy, some where, who is sick of her shit.

    I’m not saying any man should give-up on the pursuit of the kind of women he wants to be with. Just keep in mind that six months into any relationship her ethnicity doesn’t really figure into the equation. Although, if she’s hot she’ll never stop making your friends jealous.

  • 12 Alex Chow // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:09 pm

    If this is simply a question of ‘White beauty standards”, when then do so many White women date Black men?

    Clearly there is something you’re missing here.

  • 13 tenniscutie1208 // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:10 pm

    I agree with some of this. But just because an Asian guy would want to date a white girl doesn’t mean that most of the people he hangs out with are white. My boyfriend is Taiwanese and all of his friends in high school were Asian, but at our university, there weren’t a whole lot of Asians, but we were friends with the Asians that were there along with other nationalities. and my boyfriend told me that one reason he likes dating white girls is because their families are a lot less strict and the girls are less uptight.

  • 14 Flip Wilson // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:10 pm

    OK, Filipino guy here. I am what is called by other Filipinos as Mestizo”¦ the term ‘mestizo” originally bore the connotation of mixed Spaniard and indigenous Filipino. In short I look like a white boy. As with many asians, I have a very large extended family. In the neighborhood where I grew up, I was the only asian on the block among my peers. In fact, this trend continued through high-school. Growing up (1970s-1980s) my non-asian friends, and peers in school were quick to label me as asian, or something less euphimistic. My filipino cousins all thought of me as a white boy. So, you could say I grew up with somewhat of an identity crisis. It was a natural progression for me to date mainly “˜white girls’. My experience in the DC suburbs was that of being a lone asian. Being that my peers were predominantly white or black, I dated within that pool. I matured with an “˜exotic’ look that many races find appealing. My ex-wife is white, my current wife is white. I never considered any white girl I have had a relationship with as some sort of trophy to wave at my filipino homies, but I can say my relatives did question my penchant for dating non-asians. I admit some of my cousins were envious. I really did not think anything of it until recently. I just think my dating choices were natural considering my peer group.

  • 15 radiodude // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:10 pm

    This Texas white boy has always been powerfully attracted to Asian women – since I was a teenager on the farm far from any Asians. It must be biological. I even think Asian kids are cuter. I’ve noticed that in the gay porno stuff on-line that Asian young guys are lusted after by white gay men too.
    Can’t explain any of it but I’ve always said that to me, if you put a very nice looking Asian girl next to a knockout Anglo, I would always find the Asian more attractive and my life experience has shown that to remain true for me.
    So, Viva you gorgeous Asian girls! I love you all.

  • 16 White (I think) // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:12 pm

    Beauty standards dictate that White men are the ‘pinnacle”.
    Stereotypically at least, black men exhibit many of the characteristics that were supposed to make white men the pinnacle of masculinity (it was an unintended consequence).
    That explains to some degree some Black/White relationships.

    Asian men, however, are not considered ‘masculine” (much in the same way the ‘nice Jewish guy” has a similar problem).

    This is why it is hard for Asian men to find white women willing to date them.

    White men, however, are highly prized by many Asian women (not all), since looks and colorism is rife in the Asian community.

    In the list of ethnicities to marry (handed down by grandma), many Asians will tell you that the Chinese are second (behind your own race) then the Koreans then the Japanese, then the Vietnamese.
    In truth, Whites are at the top, but this is unspoken.

  • 17 White (I think) // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:12 pm

    Uh, Texas White boy”¦

    Gay Asian men are what you call a ‘fetish””“and a very small one at that.

    They have probably the hardest time of any minority in the gay community”“bar none.

    If straight beauty standards are strict, gay ones are Nazi-like. Blond twinks are at the top, and Asians are at the bottom (way, way, way ‘below” blacks, who themselves are ‘below” Latinos).

    We could discuss this further, but it would take all day. Ask any gay Asian male.

    This is confounded by the fact that gay Asian males are exclusively in the position of Straight Asian males”“hopelessly in love with White gay males (often to the point of explicitly NOT liking other gay Asian males); who will almost never return the affection (unless they are older, and off the market in the youth-obsessed gay world. And I mean OLDER”“like 45 years old and up).

  • 18 White (I think) // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:13 pm

    You read the study wrong. Asian women are not the ‘least discriminatory”:
    “”””””””””””””

    ‘We found no evidence of the stereotype of a white male preference for East Asian women. However, we also found that East Asian women did not discriminate against white men (only against black and Hispanic men). As a result, the white man-Asian woman pairing was the most common form of interracial dating””but because of the women’s neutrality, not the men’s pronounced preference. We also found that regional differences mattered. Daters of both sexes from south of the Mason-Dixon Line revealed much stronger same-race preferences than Northern daters.”
    “”””””””””””””

    They do discriminate.

  • 19 Arthur // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:13 pm

    some suggestions:

    -Costco
    -vitamins (especially in bulk)
    -passing off their 16 year old children as under 12 in order to qualify for cheaper admission to theme parks, etc
    -stocking up on napkins, ketchup packets, and other free stuff from restaurants
    -not throwing away old food
    -getting haircuts from a family friend/acquaintance who operates a side business in their basement
    -fruit: lychees, Korean pears (pyris pyrifolia?), white peaches
    -incorporating water into home decorations (feng shui)
    -Toronto, Canada
    -traditional medicine, herbal medicine, ginseng
    -(you’ve already done some, but any Asian celebrity in any field): Yo-Yo Ma, Michelle Kwan, Yao Ming, Kristi Yamaguchi, etc
    -pop music
    -Asian ‘variety” shows
    -ordering only water/tea for beverages at restaurants
    -taro
    -red beans

  • 20 Anonymous // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:15 pm

    That’s sort of funny – I should let my Asian husband know that he really can’t date me.

    -White Girl

  • 21 Anonymous // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:16 pm

    As a white guy, here is my suggestion for what works with white women: just be someone they can talk to. Women love to talk… ALL women. Just show some interest in what they’re talking about. They love that stuff. It’s the easiest way I know for average looking guys of any race to hook up with a woman. Give it a try.

    -White Guy

  • 22 andy dabydeen // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:17 pm

    See Why Asian Guys Can’t Get White Girls — hilarious video. [this video is on post #38 of this site]

  • 23 heather // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:17 pm

    I’m also a white girl, and I have an asian husband. I stand firmly behind the mantra: “once you go asian, you don’t go caucasian…” This goes both ways, as far as I’m concerned.

  • 24 Anonymous // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:18 pm

    that video is funny

  • 25 Anonymous // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:19 pm

    The reason why Asians are obsessed with all things white, to the point of changing their faces to look more white, (oops! I mean ‘Western’ ‘Western’ is the code word for white.) bleaching their skin to achieve whiteness, isolating themselves to themselves (with the exception of white folks), to the point of when being put down by their idols, they take it and don’t say anything (because we don’t what to upset the whites!) is because of one thing: Asians think whites have status in this world and if it’s one thing Asians crave that’s….STATUS!

    They way a lot of Asians try to achieve the ‘great white way’ is an interesting phenomenon. They treat it like a religion!

    Why people can’t be individuals, I’ll never understand…

  • 26 Mike // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:30 pm

    I personally think it all matters how you handle your business. BOTTOM LINE: if you’re shy, timid, and unsure of yourself- you will NOT get a white girl or any other kind of girl to date you for that matter. I think part of why Asian guys tend to strike out w/ white girls is the confidence thing- not because we’re asian. Then, w/ girls, its like high school- when they get these negative stereotypes in their heads they really believe these things. Girls will believe any stupid thing you tell them, even if its just a half truth- trust me.
    MR- I dont know what you’re talking about bro.
    Im pretty happy w/ my power tools man. So apparently you’ve been checking out yellow coc*. How nice of you.

  • 27 Li // Mar 21, 2008 at 10:38 pm

    Re: the comments of MR: It never ceases to amaze me how obsessed non-Asian men are with the genitalia of Asian men. Are you insecure, ignorant, or just a plain weirdo? I am Asian and I have absolutely ZERO interest in other men’s penises. As far as sexual thoughts go, all of mine involve women.

  • 28 Pam // Mar 21, 2008 at 10:55 pm

    A few years back New York magazine did a survey on singles and what they look for in a mate. For women, intelligence, sense of humor, ambition, and other criteria were ranked as more important than race. For men, race was also low on the list, with looks very high (surprise, surprise.) Women had a longer list of criteria, whereas men had a shorter list. From the article I also remember reading something from an exasperated guy, I think it was, that every New York woman wants an Ivy League graduate with a good job, speaks five languages, and plays three musical instruments or something like that, which I found funny. (I only require three languages in my man, j/k.) Neither women nor men regarded race as a deal-breaker in looking for a partner. So ask us out already!

  • 29 Asian girl // Mar 21, 2008 at 11:35 pm

    I think race thing is wrong. But yeah I don`t give a shit about it. I am asian girl, but I am not american. And I am attracted to the black guys, cause they are different from asians. I am proud asian, but I like black guys. that`s my choice. Well, about race and culture thing, I think if compare with blacks and whites ,asians are more shy and not confident, but smarter and talented and cute. but not everyone tho. White chicks – i think most of them are hoes around, and it`s easy to get them than asian girls. Need proof? how many teenage moms you have in US? and how many of them are white? USA is the most rated of teenage pregnancy. so don`t tell me bullshit that I am wrong. wtf is that white chick pregnant at 13. that`s ridiculous. but anyways I still like black guys or asians or white guys.

  • 30 ned // Mar 23, 2008 at 6:02 am

    >>This isn’t because asian guys are not attracted to white girls<.< so think a bit more before you take it only in one line of white girls!
    ——–

    it always depends on pesons what kind of peson they can get as bf/gf.

  • 31 sandra m // Mar 23, 2008 at 12:20 pm

    I think this desire for white partners is the logical outgrowth of white supremacy. But look around, folks. Whiteness isn’t what it used to be and in less than a century, Asians will rule. It’s happening as we speak.

  • 32 Anonymous // Mar 23, 2008 at 1:18 pm

    asian girl you are one retarded b*tch.

  • 33 Jaeri // Mar 23, 2008 at 7:50 pm

    Being Asian myself I have to agree with Asians and having a white partner as a status thing, this is also very true of black guys.

    In my experiance Alot of white girls who go after black guys are usually ones who are rebelling against their parents (mainly their fathers) and the whole “forbidden fruit” idea.

    The white beauty standard is everywhere including Africa especially ones that were held by the French, where models have lighter skin and thinner noses.

    The Penis thing is annoying, if your a secure guy you don’t talk about other guys dicks, simple as that.

  • 34 Jaeri // Mar 23, 2008 at 8:51 pm

    The media also has alot to do with it
    (after-thought) when it comes to how girls (any race) view guys of (any race) and vice-versa. It also has to do with people’s self-image and confidence.

  • 35 Kristyn // Mar 25, 2008 at 6:44 am

    Asian girl is more open-minded than YOU Anonymous. Good for you Asian girl. And Sandra M, I SOOO agree with you, the desire for White partners IS an outgrowth of White supremacy. White people are attractive, but there are some incredibly beautiful people in ALL races. But through colonialism and slavery (which are kindred whether some want to admit it or not), people of color have bought into Whiteness as best. Although I don’t like Tyra, I saw an episode of Amerca’s Next Top Model with this incredibly beautiful Indian girl. But, she was so obsessed with looking White, something she couldn’t be, it made her insecure and she self-sabotaged her own chances. I think she would have been the model if not for her acute insecurity.

    As for Asia, or China specifically, FDR once said, “China is a sleeping giant, let it sleep.” Well, thanks to outsourcing of jobs, China’s population size, and many other factors, China has awakened and, as Sandra said, ” in less than a century, Asians will rule. ” It’s a fact of life. Egypt, Rome, and Great Britian don’t exist “as is” anymore, so why would US be an exception…and for that matter, any empire after that?

  • 36 Winner // Mar 26, 2008 at 8:26 am

    Hey, I am an asian male and I married a white girl (hot one too). So I win!!!! Yay for me!!!! Don’t give up my brothers!

  • 37 chingchangchong // Mar 26, 2008 at 9:19 am

    who doesn’t like white girls?

  • 38 k // Mar 27, 2008 at 12:07 am

    i think the media has set an standard to asian guys making them have less self esteem against white chicks
    i personally think all chicks are the same, its just the way u treat them, unless the chick is racist i dun have a problem dating them.
    for those asian guys that want white chicks, stop being a pussy thinking u cant, its just an excuse that u think u cant get them cuz ur asian.
    if bruce lee can date a white chick and marry one in the 60s why cant u? its 2008 man

  • 39 lol // Mar 28, 2008 at 3:51 pm

    lol the only reason why white guys can date asian girls and asian guys cannot date white girls is because white guys can LIE and asian cannot. lol there is a hope that we all asian can start LIE like white people and it will be over for white guys.

  • 40 just here // Mar 28, 2008 at 9:11 pm

    There are beautiful people in all races. All guys have their taste, if they think white women are their ultimate beauty, then let it be so.

  • 41 Asian guy // Mar 28, 2008 at 11:07 pm

    I stumbled on to this site while visiting another site that had a link here. Anyways, my first impression was, why is this site called “Stuff Asian People Like”??? The article sounds more like it’s mocking asians.

    Example:
    - Who wouldn’t want to have a lobster dinner, talk about current events, AND finish their Advanced Calculus Homework (all the while getting their computer reformatted) during the same date? Asian guys sure know how to live it up!
    - When asian guys talk about ‘Bleach” to white girls, they immediately think ‘hair product,” before they realize the guy is talking about that book he is reading from right to left (manga). When asian guys talk about meeting after school, it isn’t to make out. It’s to finish up a school project.

    Anyways, to comment on this subject, I don’t know why people make such a big deal about race. It’s ridiculous. Unfortunately, most people do. You’re not going to pick up any chicks (white, asian, black, hispanic, or any other race) if you don’t grow some balls and talk to them. If you just starting out, go practice on the not-so-good-looking ones and build your confidence. And don’t put them on a higher pedastal just because they’re a certain race. That idea is ridiculous, it plays to the superior/inferior race theory. That’s what many of my asian friends do, and it really pains me because they’re setting roadblocks for themselves.

    Another thing that I’ve encoutered is that some white men will stoop really low to put you down when they see an Asian guy w/ a white female, saying things like, “Why are you with an asian guy? Don’t you know they are controlling?” or “Don’t you know they have small ****?” Do not let them get to you! Just remember that you the one getting some action while they on the sidelines with a frown.

    -Asian guy

  • 42 R // Mar 31, 2008 at 8:16 am

    I am Asian but my boyfriend is white, and going out for lobster and having him work on my computer actually sounds like an average weekend for us. It’s nice to have a guy who can help with your computer or your car. Current events are too depressing for me though.

  • 43 Tex // Apr 1, 2008 at 12:10 pm

    As an Indian-American growing up in rural Texas in the 1970′s and 80′s, here are my observations on race:

    1). The rural south is still quite hard for an Asian male of any type to get white girls….in the teenage/college years.

    2). The urban north is quite EASY for an Asian male of any type to get white girls…..at any stage in life.

    3). As the Asian male in the south ages, it gets easier, as white women grow “less racist” as they age. By the time they are 35-40, these white girls/women are begging for ANY man.

    4). Most Asian men, especially Indian-Americans are not held back by stupid and untrue things such as lack of confidence or small penis, etc., but by their overbearing and strict parents whose idea of an exciting Saturday night is doing extra homework.

    5). Money talks and shit walks. Get educated, get somewhat wealthy (over 200K), and it doesn’t matter if you have a unicorn on your head. You will get laid even if you are a green martian!

    The only thing that held me back in high school was my overbearing and strict parents. It’s hard to date when your parents open your mail, call the girl’s family up and tells them to stop dating their son, and yell at you because you got a 92 on a calculus test.

    In college, same thing (I went local).

    Now, however, things have changed. I have used my education to get healthy and wealthy, and white guys have to kindly step aside. I went from oily nerd getting beaten up on the school bus to driving a Porsche 911 with a cheerleader in less than 15 years. I went from being humiliated to humiliating white guys as I stole their girlfriends out from under them. I went from the guy who never went to a party or prom to the guy who went to two parties with two different white girls.

    In the end, I had my fill with those useless, overrated, empty-headed, vain, prematurely aged, white trash bitches in 5 years, and now I am happily married to an Indian-American girl, highly educated like me, hot, looks 20 when she is 35, obeys me all the time, and together, we laugh at the ex-football dorks and cheerleaders from high school pumping our gas and stocking our shelves, and cleaning our bathrooms in our palatial estate. Their question of the day is how do we survive this economy. My question is what gas-guzzling supercar do I drive today…

    When you have knowledge, education, and smarts, you have the world by the balls. Asians rule.

  • 44 Johnny Utah // Apr 2, 2008 at 4:05 pm

    I went to college with the Asian girl in the very first pic. No lie. She has a twin sister who dated a white guy during college.

  • 45 Justin // Apr 2, 2008 at 4:13 pm

    small world!

  • 46 mari // Apr 2, 2008 at 6:08 pm

    Wow…I feel like the only Hispanic female in existence who finds some Asian men attractive…

    ::blushes::

  • 47 Anonymous // Apr 2, 2008 at 6:09 pm

    Wow, Mike Kay (#7)… That was a very insulting racist generalization you just made there… Not cool man.

  • 48 C // Apr 2, 2008 at 10:09 pm

    Im an asian guy dating a hot 6’2 white guy from Spain, I grew up in all white suburban america and is constantly live in whiteland. so i think instead of it being a preference i think its more of the situation. Plus I personally never had a problem of dating “white guys” because I’m asian, and i definitely have one of those “asian and never go caucasian” effect hehehe so as for that comment of that asswipe that said for gay guys its the same as the straight asian guys, i dont think so. first of all, asian men age gracefully, look about 10 years younger than our white counterparts of the same age, have nice skin, and less hair(unless your japanese or chinese) which girls and guys love. thats my opinion.

    -C-

  • 49 COMMENT TO "MR" // Apr 3, 2008 at 9:20 am

    “White women do not date Asian men because they have small penises. ”

    Your logic is jacked up. If that were the case White women wouldn’t be dating White men either.

    Oh wait…increasingly, they don’t…

  • 50 WhoaIsMe // Apr 3, 2008 at 1:16 pm

    @ # 12 Alex Chow:

    The idealizing of whiteness in the West is backfiring on white men. Look at it like this:

    White women are deemed the ultimate prize in this society. We’ve been told this all out lives & society is built on this premise.

    White men went so far as to create laws keeping white women from ethnic (specifically black) men. White men put white women on a pedastal for generations while denigrating ethnic men.

    White guys eventually grew resentful of competing for them even though this is the system they created. The ones who felt they couldnt compete often seek ethnic women who in their eyes require much less effort.

    The nature of the stereotyping is the biggest issue (& the long visible history of blacks in the US). Black have hyper masculine traits like athleticism, rebellion etc. Asians (male & female) are historically feminized.

    More images of Asians protrayed as athletic & masculine will change the perception inside & outside the Asian community. Dont wait for Hollywood to volunteer it, take it upon yourself

  • 51 whitegirl // Apr 4, 2008 at 8:53 am

    i wish more asian boys liked white girls, because lately i have been feelin on the asian boys! so many hot asian boys in my area. hot asian boys hit me up!

  • 52 The white girl // Apr 4, 2008 at 10:34 am

    To my mind, Asian boys are really really attractive, they are KAWAII!!!

  • 53 alli // Apr 4, 2008 at 7:31 pm

    I love asian men…

  • 54 maria // Apr 5, 2008 at 2:06 pm

    hey mari, you are not the only one. I am from Panama and married to the coolest Asian-American guy. I have plenty of latina friends who are into Asian guys. I am trying to hook them up with some of my husband’s friends!

  • 55 cat; syke // Apr 6, 2008 at 3:54 pm

    sorry I disagree, I’m a white girl who has no attraction to western guys whatsoever, and I only date asian guys =)

  • 56 Anything Black // Apr 7, 2008 at 6:33 pm

    you just like anime cat syke

    youll grow up soon

  • 57 lisa:) // Apr 9, 2008 at 3:23 pm

    cat;syke
    finally someone who has my thoughts!!!
    i am a white girl in UK, never dated a white man!! i fancy asian men, to me they are hotter than any other male in the world!!! BUT!! do you have any idea it is to find an asian guy?? they either dont talk to me because they fear some sort of language barrier!! or they fear that i will fuck any guy that i happen to look at!! (not all white women are as easy as that!!) all i say is if you like a white woman then talk to a white woman! do you know why white men get asian girls?? because they have the balls to go upto them and make the 1st move!! i have never had an asian guy make the 1st move i have always had to start it! but then they tell me that after being my friend for a while they liked me but were afraid i didnt like them due to there race!
    its soooo frustrating that asian guys think ALL white women do not like them! but in fact white women like there man to be brave and make the 1st move so we wait and wait but then its too late!
    i am solving this problem of mine by actually learning mandarin (for now/something else later) so then maybe an asian man will feel ok talking to me because it wont be such a language barrier but i suppose that untill you men relise that confidence is key i guess i will still be making the 1st move! :(

  • 58 lisa:) // Apr 9, 2008 at 3:30 pm

    oh and one more thing!!! as far as d*ck sizes go asian men are no smaller than any other man!! BUT asian men know how to work it A LOT BETTER wuhoo asian guy come rock my world (your out there somewhere ;) )

    :P

  • 59 Q // Apr 9, 2008 at 11:32 pm

    The comment by Tex has to be the most insecure one of this blog so far. It reads more like a vindication of your self worth. Gas guzzlers? Humiliating people by stealing their girlfriends? Laughing at the less fortunate? Are these supposed to be things to brag about?!? Surely life should be more than that. You’ve had a tough childhood, who hasn’t, but let’s move on. Be an agent of positivity in this world, not bottled resentment. We’re all here as one human race, we all want the same things in life, and all have our own insecurities. Most of the great wars in history were started by bickering little men with superiority complexes like yours. Please don’t contribute to the downward spiral, nor to the gene pool!

  • 60 Darren // Apr 10, 2008 at 2:05 am

    It’s not very surprising seeing the articles and comments on this site. I’m kind of a mutt myself so, I tend to look at all the sites since I’m not sure which one I really belong to. I most identify with the white and asian sites. My last name is hispanic, but my largest single ancestral ethnicity is japanese. I think that the “stuff” sites will do well because they allow people to talk about social matters that are typically out of bounds in most circles. I looked at the sites for whites, browns, and asians and here is what I found. Needless to say these are generalization , but there is probably something to the stereotypes.

    White sites were generally all about white guilt. The main theme for most of the posts were poking fun at hypocrissy, arrogance, and status quo. Generally the white stuff site is the most “high brow” type humor. I would argue that their sensibilities are overly evolved to the point where it is becoming bizarre, much like french culture under Louis XIV for many of the same basic reasons. I would argue that the generic white culture is begnining decay, and is in need of re-invigoration through the struggle of hard times.

    Asian sites are all about inferiority complex. Asia by and large was conquered in large part by the west and the trickle down effect has been a sense of envy/jealousy. The asian cultures generally were largely immasculated during the wars with the west. I would say that confidence/arrogance is highly concentrated to a small minority of individuals, but the vast majority of asians subscribe to the “peasant” style paradigm hence the low self-esteem.

    The brown stuff sites are perhaps the most colorful and funny as one might expect (if you can identify with the humor). Like the asian sites they suffer from the low-self esteem problems also, but with a stronger emphasis on poverty, education, and oppression. In many ways its almost an exact opposite of the asian stuff sites in that the strengths and weaknesses are the mirror opposite of the asians. Where asians see themselves strong in education and weak in physical and social attributes, the browns see themselves as strong in the physical and social departments, but weak in education and opportunity. Having very little in common it’s not surprising that the two mix so little.

    Try not to take too much offense at my comments, as they are just thoughts after all.

  • 61 Yammer // Apr 10, 2008 at 1:18 pm

    Size matters.

    Of course, I am talking about height. The real scourge amongst men is not our ****. Once you’re in the realm of getting your junk out, the date has obviously been going extremely well. There are other ways to impress her in and out of the sack, should you be packing a less-than-gargantuan trouser snake.

    However, chances are that she will not be on this date with you if she is three inches taller than you.

    If it is true, and I think it is, that East Asians are shorter on average, then it stands to reason that East Asian dudes are going to be vertically disadvantaged date-wise.

    I’ve dated girls of various ethnicities and my wife is white. I like to think I’m reasonably witty and presentable, but the real key is being 5’11″.

    If you can’t be tall, fellas, be very very very fit. Everyone else, merely be very fit.

  • 62 Simon // Apr 10, 2008 at 1:35 pm

    All these posts are so matter of fact. Where’s the humor? “It’s funny because it’s true” doesn’t apply here. It’s just true… and sad.

  • 63 Korean J // Apr 11, 2008 at 11:37 am

    I’ve noticed that most of your comments on this blog is not about asians, but about chinese. Alot of my friends dated white girls just for the sport of it. NO ONE I know wants to marry the white girl, true telling point. It’s similar to why europeans love American girls. I think it’s the same reason why my friends like white girls.

    Another comment is for the eye surgeries. I think you posted 2 korean girls, and mostly the finger is pointed towards koreans. The reason is, a majority of korean do not have big “creased” eyes. It does not mean that koreans don’t get it, in fact 15-20% do have it naturally. Rest of the 75% want it not because they want to look like white, but it was symbol of beauty that was passed down. They like the big eyes of their fellow korean. It’s like wanting something that’s rare. Now that most korean girls get it, media is starting to tilt the other way in korea. Too much is not considered cool. On the other hand, I’ve noticed a lot of chinese have it naturally, so less inclination to have it because the shortage is the non-creased eyes.

    Korea also is different from chinese or japanese. We’re very homogenic society and do not like other races that much. This includes whites. Although we might prefer ‘em over other races, we generally do not like whites all that much. It’s more of a curiosity. Alot of these ideas flows from the motherland to AAmericans here. Of course, I do not speak for the white washed ones.

  • 64 Swoon // Apr 11, 2008 at 5:26 pm

    Oh my goodness, Asian guys are sooo addorable! Especially Filipino guys…..wow. Such sweethearts, really genuine and friendly, so nice to meet someone so friendly right off the bat, you automatically feel comfortable with any Filipino. Wish I had one…. haha. The first Filipino guy I met made my heart jump in my throat, so gorgeous!
    I hope Asian guys/everyone realises white girls arn’t all brainless! Although…. yes, some are, but same could be said all over. To sum up, I wish more Asians were super friendly like my Filipino friend!!! Not just for dating, but just for a friend! Although, as I said, Filipino’s are drop dead gorgeous with hearts of gold! :)

  • 65 Ariel // Apr 13, 2008 at 3:44 pm

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  • 66 Anonymous // Apr 13, 2008 at 5:39 pm

    it’s true that many asian celebrities get plastic surgery for a better nose and eyes and what not but NEVER do they think that they are doing so because they want to be “white.” You are missing the true purpose. Stuff Asian People Like? i don’t thinks so.
    Also, this whole article is pretty much streotypical. Twinkies want to date white women? Asians want to be white? wtf Are we in the 1800s when the whites lived in the misconception of Superiority among races?

  • 67 Anonymous // Apr 13, 2008 at 5:42 pm

    I agree… that this is Stuff Asian People Like NOT.

  • 68 jewpanese // Apr 14, 2008 at 12:05 pm

    So of course you can make generalizations, and that’s the whole point of all the “What X People Like” sites. I’m not going to get all defensive about this shit just cause I’m a white chick marrying a Japanese-American guy, but I do want to give nerdy Asian guys (or any nerdy guys) hope. You might want to try chatting up a Jewish girl.

    A lot of Jewish chicks share stereotypical appreciation of intelligence, culture and education, and have strong geek tendencies. Most also love Asian food and might are sick of super-hairy physiques.

    Warning – if you don’t have a good sense of humor, don’t bother.

    And don’t be frightened of their families’ reaction. Even if they are disappointed that their kids are dating non-Jews, they’ll never admit it (even to themselves) cause they are too crippled by white liberal guilt!

    Bonus: If you end up making babies with the Jewish chick, you’ll have Asian-Jewish kids, the SMARTEST KIDS in the UNIVERSE.

  • 69 Justin // Apr 14, 2008 at 12:10 pm

    Cool, thanks for the tip!

  • 70 Amanda // Apr 14, 2008 at 8:43 pm

    I am a white girl, and I find this article funny.
    I don’t know where this “no white women will date asian men” thing came from…’cuz I know I would date an asian man, and many of my friends would rather date an asian man than any other race.
    I like smarts, looks, and personality…those three aspects seem to come hand in hand with every asian man I have ever met!

  • 71 Isha Lee // Apr 15, 2008 at 8:30 am

    David #5, shut the **** up ****** *****

  • 72 Asian dude // Apr 15, 2008 at 12:48 pm

    Alright, I’m gonna have to post my 2 cents here.

    First off, I’m an asian male; 3/4 Chinese, 1/4 Russo-Mongolian. I look like any other asian guy out there but most Chinese people don’t think I’m Chinese at first glance.

    I’m still in college for another few months but since I have been in college, the only girls that I have pursued have been white females. This pursuit has gone both ways too. About 90% of these pursuits, I have concluded was because of my physical attributes. I’m 6′, 180, and my abs will show through an underarmor shirt clearly. You think this is a good thing? Keep reading. Recently, this one girl that I had been hooking up with (who i thought we were dating), SMOKING hot btw, told me that she really liked this other guy and they were about to date but she lost interest in him because she had met me and that guy had no muscle or 6-pac. Furthermore, she made it clear that she wasn’t looking to date me.

    For more or less, every relationship I’ve had, this has been the scenario in one way or the other. I’m one of the nicest and most personable guy you’ll ever meet, I’ve never gotten into an argument ever with any girl I liked and I would always take them out on dates, call them, do nice things etc. Maybe I’ve just been setting myself up with the wrong girls or maybe it’s just not meant to be?

    So what’s my advice? If you’re just looking for some ass, go work out and get a nice 6 pack. As for love and relationships? I’ve got absolutely nothing.

  • 73 Big Chan // Apr 16, 2008 at 7:39 pm

    why is there a guy named radiodue claiming to be straight then talking about gay porn?

  • 74 CoolDustin82 // Apr 19, 2008 at 11:25 am

    First of all, Asians don’t try to look like white people. That sounds suspiciously like white power propoganda to me. I’ve heard of Asians getting eyelid surgery to put the lines in their eyelids. Those are naturally occurring in East Asians but just not as common. Besides, ethnic groups all over the world have “large eyes”, not just white people. Other ethnic groups have thin noses, too, but I’ll admit that it’s a trait that’s probably most common among Europeans. “A longer face”? Like you’ve never seen Asian people with long faces? I do. In the mirror! That one doesn’t even make sense. Fair skin has been a desired trait among Asian women since China was an advanced civilization laughing at European savages stealing their noodle recipes. A woman with fair skin did less work than the women working out in the rice fields. It’s the same standard of beauty principle behind the crazy foot-binding they used to do, because having malformed feet meant a woman did not have to work.

    Onto personal experience. Environment does shape your perceptions. So I bet if I grew up in Kentucky, I’d prefer white trash girls over any other. Luckily, I grew up in a more diverse environment. In the end, it depends on statistics. You go after who you like, not what race you like. If the majority of girls around you are white, which is often the case, then you will probably date a white girl. But if you live in Southwest Texas, you may date a Latina. I’m with a beautiful black (Creole) girl who’s very smart, cooks, and treats me well. We met in college. You can’t go after a woman for her race. It’s the 21st century. You have to treat other people as if they’re all part of the same human race.

  • 75 CoolDustin82 // Apr 19, 2008 at 11:34 am

    A response to Yammer’s post about height:

    My dad was 6′ (I’m only 26; unfortunately he died too young, that’ why I say “was”) and I always thought I would grow up to be as tall as him. Surprise! I’m only 5’7″. But my girlfriend (future wife, we both decided), is probably an inch taller. To me, the idea that a man has to be bigger than a woman is outdated. I majored in anthropology, and one thing that stood out to me was that sexual dimorphism (physical size difference between male and female) has gotten less pronounced since our cavemen ancestors. It’s all up to personal taste, though, so if you’re short, just find a girl who doesn’t mind.

  • 76 mixed breed // Apr 20, 2008 at 7:17 am

    in the words of Russel peters.. India and China have the 2 largest populations in the world.. so, all u white ppl… u can run from us for now. But, sooner or later… were gonna hump u!

    and in the future everyone is going to be beige

    cheers
    ~joker

  • 77 aBlackguy1986 // Apr 25, 2008 at 7:21 am

    I guess I’ll be the man to represent the black community on this topic. Ahem; why do we get all the girls? well if its about fulfilling the 3 criteria of fitness, intellect, and confidence, we fill em but I don’t know about intellect. haha I’m bein real most black men in Los Angeles and San Diego aren’t exactly about hitting books. They pretty much grow up mastering the art of picking girls up with charm and looks. And thats honestly what asian girls are all about, looks.

    You never see hot asian girls with really dorky guys, so you are all led to believe that they want guys that are fit and confident but that’s not true. asian girls think that cause they put so much work on their own physical beauty that they deserve a guy that matches their level of good looks. Simple as that, homies. Asian girls have high high ass standards. and why shouldn’t they, they’re “worth it” right? Meh who knows. HOnestly all the asian girls I’ve dated are pretty much full out white anyway. They embrace white culture hence attracted to white boys more than anyone else. White culture is similar to asian cultures more than my latino brother’s and black brother’s cultures are by far anyway. So Through my experiences they’re a much better match with asian/white boys anyway. And we usually don’t stick with them anyway cause they’re so damn white hahah.

    Anyway all you asian brothers out there that think you can’t get asian girls, you might be trying to date the ASIAN AMERICANS that have embraced american standards of attractive men? like oh i dont know, white/black guys with nice bodies and confidence? I know for a damn fact that shyness from both sexes in asia is attractive. So keep ya heads up. Either you gotta change to fit in with the people here, or date foreign girls, homies. PEACE

  • 78 CoolDustin82 // Apr 26, 2008 at 2:05 pm

    Originally posted by aBlackguy1986:
    “White culture is similar to asian cultures more than my latino brother’s and black brother’s cultures are by far anyway. So Through my experiences they’re a much better match with asian/white boys anyway. ”

    I don’t know about that. Me and my girlfriend are always talking about how her black culture and my Asian culture are similar. Black and Asian women have strong opinions. They believe in cooking a hot meal for their families. Black and Asian parents discipline their kids, not that “time out” stuff white parents do. We like fried food. We like rice. We don’t like Bush. We have strong family bonds.

    I can’t say much against the Asian girl and white guy combination, because my sister dates white guys. She’s the typical bossy Asian girl. I don’t get why white guys like that. But black girls and Asian guys should try each other out more often.

  • 79 CoolDustin82 // Apr 27, 2008 at 7:33 am

    Wow, sam, angry much?

  • 80 sowhat // Apr 28, 2008 at 3:46 pm

    Asian male here, my experience. It takes twice the effort to get a decent looking white girl while it takes half the effort to get a smoking hot asian girl. Even though I’m not that tall (5″11), I’m athleticly slim, relatively good looking, and possess a very open personality with no problems at all approaching women.

  • 81 White female // Apr 29, 2008 at 9:53 am

    What ever happened to a good personality? I love my Jap man because he is a good man. He is a good father. A good provider and great in bed. I have dated white, mexican, black and asian. Men are all the same. They want a good woman, we want a good man. Find someone who loves you. The rest will work out.

  • 82 ABlackGuy86 // Apr 29, 2008 at 4:31 pm

    yeah cooldustin im talking about similarities more obvious than strong family ties and how much our mama’s believe in cooking hot food for their families but aight hahah

    I AGREE 100% with whitefemale Thank you THANK YOU

  • 83 Cheng Tung // Apr 29, 2008 at 6:21 pm

    Not all asians are good at math! My friend Mike failed out of high school and after he recieved his GED, he failed out of public university! WTF?

  • 84 Anonymous // May 8, 2008 at 8:26 am

    i am a white girl, i dress conservatively and 75% of the time i leave my house i get approached and asked for my number.

    yet, i don’t think i’ve ever been approached by an asian guy.

    i grew up in a predominantly asian area and two of my best female friends, who are both white and very very attractive, are engaged to chinese men, one guy is 5’4 and the other is 6’0.

    girls love attention and will feed off of it from any guy, regardless of race. it’s strict statistics, unless the girl is racist.

  • 85 asianbeauty // May 9, 2008 at 10:20 pm

    Well, whatever posted on this website is mostly based on stereotypes.
    Asians, whites, latinos, blacks, we can date who ever/ however we want, there is no boundaries just because whoever thinks they have smaller xx, or have a western look which include a six-pack. I know everyone is “stuck” with their own ethnicity, but appearance surely isnt the most important thing on everyone’s list.
    I’ve also heard that white guys like asian girls because we are “tiny”, (im 5’2 asian girl) but white girls will mainly go for guys who are buff, athletic, tall… therefore asian guys just have work harder.
    But the truth is, go for someone that is the right ‘fit’ for you, not the right “look.”
    IN the end, whoever loves you will end up with you, otherwise; no matter how god damn white, or asian, they leave you before you know it.

  • 86 jumbo // May 12, 2008 at 8:03 pm

    awww this makes me depressed….im asain (indian)…and ive been with one white girl…mostly asains…i would like to date a white girl again too but i guess white women just dont like us?…dissapointing

  • 87 Steve // May 14, 2008 at 11:35 am

    I’m an asian guy. I actually have a hard time dating and meeting asian woman. White girls are not a problem.

  • 88 hot asian chick ;D // May 19, 2008 at 6:26 pm

    I sooo totallty agree with Kristyn!! I saw Onchal (idk how to spell it) on television too.She is such a beeeaaauuutiful girl but society got in her way and overpowered her mind into thinking that, “being white/having blue eyes” is the most beautiful thing. She was trying sooo hard to impress the judges. (no offense or anything to the white people,I didn’t think of it..she did.) Oh,It totally changed my perspective on things.

    I think it all depends on the individual and asians have different ways of thinking/customs than other ethnicities. Ever heard of the phrase, “Oppisites Attract”? Well,I think it’s true. Imagine spending time w/ a person who thinks like you.You guys would already know what you guys are thinking/like…and that’s kind of boring. You wouldn’t have a thing to talk about.

    Personally, I like all ethnicities. I thought I liked white guys only but I realized I also find some asian guys attractive too. So,I don’t know..depends on the PERSON. :D

  • 89 carmen // May 23, 2008 at 4:31 pm

    mari #46 and maria #54
    that would make three of us.

    Wow i had no idea that the whole asian girls dating white guys and vice-versa was such a big deal but i’ve seen that happen quiet a few times although to my recolection i have never seen a asian guy/girl with someone who is hispanic? why? is this what you would consider as bad as dating someone who is black? i did not mean to use black people as a way to offend there are just as many beautiful black people as there are of any other race.

  • 90 samuri warrior // May 26, 2008 at 2:42 pm

    im a white girl an im asian so stop putting in offensive writingabout me and im half african

  • 91 I Wuv Bleach! // May 28, 2008 at 1:50 pm

    “When asian guys talk about ‘Bleach” to white girls, they immediately think ‘hair product,” before they realize the guy is talking about that book he is reading from right to left (manga).”

    First off, I’m a white girl and have loved Bleach (the manga and show) practically forever! (ok so since the subs and english manga were available…)
    And I prefer left to right, any manga I read that’s different messes me up

    and doesn’t that fact that white males can date Asian females mean that the Asian girls find the white guys attractive? Wouldn’t that mean that Asian girls do the same thing as the Asian guys?

  • 92 ceridwen // May 30, 2008 at 1:48 pm

    i’m a ‘white’ girl (mixed heritage: cherokee, german, irish) who always thought that asian boys were kind of cute. I had always wanted to date an asian boy (that of course had similar interests as me).

    Anytime I would try to strike up a conversation with an asian boy at school, I would end up feeling embarassed, like I had embarrassed THEM by being to forward or talkative. Maybe my curvy-ness was a turn-off? I don’t know.

    I guess it just wasn’t meant to be, I ended up married to a guy of mixed blood like myself, (choctaw and scottish) who’s an army officer.

  • 93 hayanyujah // Jun 3, 2008 at 12:14 am

    i think asian girl is a bit jelous…anyways each race has their hotties and their uglies, their sluts and their innocents…al i kno is im a hot polish girl going out with a hot korean guy and our relationship is very strong for a long time. at first i was hesitance with the limitations our relationship could develop but over time i realized our differences balanced out into a beautiful relationship and we love each other and thats all that matters. so al you ignorant mf’ers aka asian girl should stfu and think before you speak. p.s. i love love hina, bleach, princess mononoke, kimchi, and maplestory and all of the above something i wouldn’t have been exposed to if i would have been dating a lame ass white boy

  • 94 blonde white girl // Jun 3, 2008 at 12:26 am

    Im a white girl and i love asian guys. They are so cute. But there are not alot of asian guys at my college or where i live. I would love to have an asian boyfriend.

  • 95 Linda Chen // Jun 3, 2008 at 5:05 am

    Hi guys. I am a sexual and relationship expert, my name is Linda chen. Now I am going to review the secrets fact about interracial dating between asian guys and white girls.
    Most girls only date guys within their own race. Comparing to male, female’s sexual drive are lower, most female do not have a strong sexual preference (for example, my b/f must have six packs) when it comes to attractiveness, we consider a man’s kindness, sense of humour, personality are far important than their looks. That is why most of us prefer dating guys within our own race, because we feel more comfortable and easier to approach a guy who has more culture connection. This is why it is hard for any male to score a female with different race.
    Right now, some people will wonder why there are more af/wm couple than am/wf couples. There are a few reasons.
    1 Europe and US are the continents dominated by white male, because most people living there are white. Physiologically female would prefer to settle down with male who are able to protect them and look after them financially. In most white girls’ mind, white male can do better job than black and Asians

    2 Culture background, speaking openly, it’s our asian male culture. 1000 years ago, male can not kiss a girl or even hold their hands before they get married. Most of our parents do not allow us seeing girls before we finish our university. Asian guys are shy because in the back of their mind, strict family education becomes the barrier to their dating opportunity. Girls like a guy make the first move, that’s the rule.

    3 There are a lot of asian male who only date asian female because they consider asian female are more faithful to them. It is easier to dominate asian female rather than ‘open minded”, tall white female. Again this is kind of culture barrier.

    4 Some white female have strong sexual preference which means they prefer dating white guys only because their body are more attractive (for example they are taller).

    5 Western culture influence and trend matters. The whole world love American culture because they have the biggest corporation companies, best RnB artist, funky fashion design. In korea and japan, teenagers make their hair brown , put on make ups with whiter skin tone. 80% American male models are white, 80% American heroes are white male. our asian just fall for western culture. Once a white female friend told me she needs to love and understand a culture before she falls in love with the man from that particular culture. How many white women love our asian male domination culture? how many white female think its funky and trendy? How many hot asian male models you can find on American TV? we don’t get the asian image.

    Now, I am going to give a few tips to my asian men about how to approach white female.
    1 Be confident, all girls love confident guys, you should go out more, making more friends with different races, this will improve your social skill(also you can ask your white buddy if his sister looking for a b/f . )
    2 Break the culture rules and get into group. Don’t let conservative asain culture or your parents’ strict sex education bother you if you are looking for white female, because they do not buy it. You shouldn’t judge them by asain rules, you need to respect them and showing them you are strong enough to look after them. Be a good listener, pretend you are interested in what they are talking about and make their smile.
    3 get into gym, work out more, build up some muscles. If you are short, this is quite important.
    4 Be a slut, don’t be afraid to talk to the girls you like, you are a man, what are you going to lose? Focus on their emotions, first impression is very important. If they keep their eye contact with you longer than 5 seconds and quickly move away, then immediately look back at you, that means they like you.
    5 Western girls like going clubbing, club is the easiest way and most popular dating scene. Do not just sit at the corner all night hopping a girl will throw herself to you. Do some sexy dance to impress a girl, if you find someone like your butt, then you should approach her straight way( do not delay, it’s a biggest turn off for western girls) The only problem is our asains are not good at drinking, you need to practise more.

  • 96 MW // Jun 3, 2008 at 9:18 am

    Hey Asian guys,

    ask us out! Really, if you strike out with white chicks, you have only yourself to blame. I think Asian guys are hella hot, but none of you ever talk to me! White guys, black guys, whatever guys — they make a move, but you never talk to me.

  • 97 hayanyujah // Jun 3, 2008 at 9:24 am

    Linda Chen, you really shouldn’t be a sexual/relationship expert. it seems to me all you can do is spit out information that is given to you. relationships work because two people love each other not because of some **** statistics and generalizations and stereotypical observations on cultures

  • 98 hy // Jun 3, 2008 at 9:27 am

    p.s. my bf is a drug dealer and he’s asian, now how do you explain yourself now….you still think asian boys are shy and have a strict education system? i don’t think so…you should think before you stereotype. o here’s a stereotype for you, asian girls can’t think for themselves

  • 99 Dove // Jun 3, 2008 at 3:27 pm

    To be honest I think sometimes it can be as different in the opposite sense. As a white girl i have always found asian features very attractive but being 5ft 10 i find it difficult to approach as i fear they will be too conserned with my height or the fact that im not genetically as “dainty” as their female counterparts. Overall tricky really.
    good blog though, very good read.

  • 100 Linda Chen // Jun 3, 2008 at 5:57 pm

    Hi hayanyujah

    Thanks for you comment about my post. I totally agree with you that ‘relationships work because two people love each other not because of some **** statistics and generalizations and stereotypical observations on cultures” But statistics, generalizations and stereotypical observations on cultures are the barriers of interracial dating between asian male and western female. I was using these elements to analyse the fact why most white female won’t date asian male. I don’t think you have noticed that. We all have bios and personal sexual preference in some degree, they affect our dating structure. Most white female do not know what is asian culture about, that’s why they will be afraid to date one.

    You also said ‘my bf is a drug dealer and he’s asian, now how do you explain yourself now”¦.you still think asian boys are shy and have a strict education system?” well good for you, if that is type of guy you go for, but that doesn’t change the fact that most asian guy are hard working, kind and a bit shy when it comes to interracial dating. Did you say ‘asian girls can’t think for themselves” LOL please read my post in asian girl and white guy section to find more.

  • 101 Kate // Jun 5, 2008 at 5:29 am

    I’m a white girl dating a Korean guy, I’ve always been more attracted to Asian guys, they have nicer skin, darker eyes and that great straight black hair. We’ve found when we go out in public people often stare, but it’s mainly been older Asian women, and they mostly seem confused as to how we overcome cultural barriers. But white girls in their 20′s are really jealous of my gorgeous boy, and several of my white female friends also have Asian boyfriends.

  • 102 KahY // Jun 10, 2008 at 1:32 pm

    Over the years I’ve been approached by whites guys, hispanic guys, black guys, one jewish guy- but no asian guys. ever. is this because i’m black? because i’m 5’7″? because i’m not delicate looking? you tell me.

  • 103 Kaila // Jun 14, 2008 at 8:45 pm

    My friends say I have yellow fever, because I love Asians. I love the small nerdy type. I love how the only hair I can see on my asian boyfriend is the hair on his head. They care about what they wear and what their hair looks like. I also love the fact I can’t pay for anything and how he got a 99 in Algebra 2 honors. My boyfriend has been here in the United States for about 5 months, and next week he is returning to Hong Kong for the summer. One of my best friends only dates asian guys too. My mother has dated asian men, and my last stepfather was from Vietnam. From what I know, White girls actually do like asian men. They like the cute gentle features, slim bodies, sensitivity, brains, amazing hair, and style. Most white girls don’t think asian guys want to date them because they never talk to them. My school is about 70% asian. out of that 70%, about 40% are FOBS. You really don’t see any of the fobs even approach a white girl. As long as your taller then the girl, you shaved you facial hair off, you don’t have teeth that match your skin color, and you don’t speak in that annoying heavy asian accent that we have no idea what your saying…you do have a chance like any white guy to date a white girl. Actually, most of my white friends would prefer dating an asian guy then dating a black guy. xDDD

  • 104 TecH // Jun 15, 2008 at 5:21 am

    lets be honest all asain guys are ugly its nature inteneded – it sucks to be asain and unless you wipe them all out (the ugly ones) then there will always be thoses ugly asains who are left at the bottom feeling like shit because they live in a majority white environment so are brought up to find whites more attractive however cannot mate with them because they themselves are ugly- not by features but by race and nature asains are ugly as seen by whites

  • 105 Linda Chen // Jun 16, 2008 at 10:07 am

    Tech, in your mind it’s full of hate. You need to see a doctor. Are you asian yourself? or you are just a jealous kid? grow up

  • 106 lemure // Jun 18, 2008 at 9:41 am

    Huh? White girls are definitely not hard to get and are in abundance. They aren’t some rare trophy or exotic prize. I think this is really an American thing. While I grew up here, I’m primarily Afro Caribbean (Grenadian) identified but have South Asian grandparents. And from what I’ve seen particularly in Trinidad and Jamaica, East and South Asian men are just like any other man, they like pretty women, of any race. Asian women do seem to like white men alot though. As far as I’ve seen, most Asian men in the US (granted I’m a NYer) seem to prefer Asian women (though most of my Asian guy friends in particular – both American and “immos”- date any woman they find hot – then again they are pretty good looking, sweet, and employed guys, so its easy!) I’ve never heard this one.

  • 107 lemure // Jun 18, 2008 at 9:43 am

    “…you don’t speak in that annoying heavy asian accent that we have no idea what your saying”¦you do have a chance like any white guy to date a white girl. Actually, most of my white friends would prefer dating an asian guy then dating a black guy” Kaila you are so ignorant, I can’t even begin to point out how many things are wrong with this.

  • 108 SVT Cobra // Jun 20, 2008 at 11:42 am

    “im a white girl an im asian so stop putting in offensive writingabout me and im half african”

    That’s too many halves. You might be half afican and half white, but no asian would make that math mistake.

  • 109 Ray // Jun 23, 2008 at 5:21 am

    white girls seem to be attracted to me at times. down-to earth regular girl next door types. And vice-versa. As I said earlier. nothing hotter than either a stereotypical pale-skinned redheaded freckled Irish girl (or any girl that happens to be white/european) or a pale skinned chapatsu, nihon-jin.
    so kawaii. got to love the red-heads. dyed or not.

  • 110 Ray // Jun 23, 2008 at 5:23 am

    as for KahY post 102. I’ve hit on plenty of black women. But the only ones who seem to be attracted to me are the ghetto ones. Not my thing.

  • 111 Ray // Jun 23, 2008 at 5:25 am

    Now a white girl with an ethnic sounding name like Cerwiden. that is HOT. sounds like it might be welsh.

  • 112 elgato // Jun 24, 2008 at 7:53 pm

    I’m a Latino who dates an Asian girl (I look white which is what she found attractive) I have a lot of respect and admiration of Asian cultures always have. Don’t put diss the Asians, it lowers your IQ.

  • 113 elgato // Jun 24, 2008 at 7:56 pm

    “Tech is an idiot, read his post, consider the source. He should not mate or spread his mutated inbred spawn across the planet.

  • 114 Peter // Jun 24, 2008 at 8:44 pm

    lol

  • 115 chink that is annoyed // Jun 26, 2008 at 3:28 pm

    loll WTFFFFFF

  • 116 Mr.King Kong // Jun 29, 2008 at 11:30 pm

    I am an asia guys I have a new friend white girls her I really intz about her ex bf lots white never touch africa, latina, and asia I really understand about her cause I never saw a girl beautiful with eye blue and hair brown I have a feel about her….she like me cause she everyday look me into lunch the desk her the other desk but I have no chioce I try date her but I can’t do fuck long far at the road she living so far I do can’t take her…when I like that this is moring she hi to me I feel like that smile her.

  • 117 MistressOfMusic // Jul 3, 2008 at 10:10 am

    I would just like to side with the white girls here. I, too, am a typical white girl, who happens to be VERY attracted to asian guys. But I feel like they won’t give me the time of day!! And I’m tall, so that doesn’t help at all-taller than Dove who posted a bit earlier…but nonetheless I think asian guys are hot! So, asian boys, please don’t be afraid of us darnit!!

  • 118 anna // Jul 5, 2008 at 6:30 am

    I am a white chick. So white in fact, my parents are Euro immigrants and I am blonde. Okay, you’ve got the picture. I live in a big, big city. And I love Asian guys! Or some Asian guys. I love the Japanese skater boys. I love the metros. I mean, there’s lots of different types. BUT…they are so not into me! And I AM hot. I’ve gone out with two, and they were very different and great. I mean like anyone, like all people, they were individual. What I love about some Asian guys is they are so smart, and I love the dark hair and eyes. After that, it’s open. Other than a few creepy middle aged guys {who could be any race} I’ve just thought that Asians preferred Asian women.

  • 119 Blondie // Jul 5, 2008 at 11:20 pm

    this is an interesting topic that seems to be all of a sudden in the current for me personally, and i guess collectively too. i never thought one way or the other about the attractiveness of asian guys, though i have had plenty of asian friends (female/male) over the years.

    but now, i have fallen in love a beautiful brilliant chinese scientist at work. and he has fallen just as hard for me. now i am so into all things chinese! for his part, he says it’s my california attitude and blond locks that were the initial draw. he is so brilliant and so spiritually evolved. he treats me with such respect. and the passion lust between us is just completely off the charts and out of this world.

    i have never met a white guy with whom i have had a similar experience. i am not saying they do not exist, but somehow they never came into my orbit. i have never been happier than i am now with my exotic brilliant zen master lover.

  • 120 leavingjapan // Jul 6, 2008 at 7:11 am

    I’m a white girl and I really like Asian men. I’ve lived in Japan for 4 years and have had 2 Japanese boyfriends and one Chinese-Australian boyfriend. But actually I’m leaving Japan because Japanese men have broken my heart and left me hanging too many times. I love them but they don’t love me! (I’m small, petite, cute and adoring, plus smart! but deep down they really just want Japanese wives).

  • 121 gian // Jul 6, 2008 at 6:19 pm

    ^^^Wow, where were you when I was at Arizona State. Sad to hear, but good thing there’s enough Asians to be had!

  • 122 MM // Jul 7, 2008 at 8:30 am

    What should I make of being called a bitch in the first paragraph? Really, bad joke there, “female dogs.” Yep, that’ll get you attention. Having a real sense of humor attracts people. This, not so much.

    Big news: there are racists. Bigger news: they’re not all white. Biggest news: sexism beats racism every time.

    Want to date anyone? Bathe. Brush your teeth. Cultivate good taste. Engage with the world. Be an adult with ideas, interests and goals. Go places. Try new things. Make mistakes and learn to apologize. Laugh until you cry. Then do it the other way ’round.

  • 123 Raj from Singapore // Jul 8, 2008 at 10:48 am

    Generally white women will not date Asian guys or any non-whites for that matter, even in countries such as Singapore where Asians are a majority..heck they wont even sit next to Asians, guys or gals in a bus…the only exceptions are the white South African women, both Dutch and British origin, who are very so desparate to stay out of their country that they will date and marry any Asian in Singapore.

  • 124 Fred // Jul 9, 2008 at 2:02 pm

    So true. Dating record = 100% European

  • 125 random guy // Jul 12, 2008 at 2:59 am

    well 1st of all i m chinese, and i dont watch anime, so i don’t really know what’s bleach, but i heard it be4. However, i m more like a fob because i always watch chinese shows and not american/white show, but i was born in usa… so i really find it hard to date a white girl when I don’t know what they like… however, i will try to date one when i m in college, which is very soon…

  • 126 Ric // Jul 12, 2008 at 2:16 pm

    All very interesting comments. I, like Flip Wilson, am also considered Mestizo, though I think I look more on the Asian side (no one would mistake me for white). However, having lived all my life in the U.S., and having an extended family that not only includes my wife (who is Chinese American), my kids, but also cousins who are Puerto Rican, Japanese, German, etc., I find that there are many people who limit themselves. I’ve dated girls of many different ethnicities, and I’ve never looked at them as white, Asian, black; I’ve looked at them as beautiful, smart, and attractively curved females. I once had a collegemate who was surprised that I dated “white” girls. My comment was that they were no different from Asians, Hispanics, or otherwise. It was the same with friends. My Asian, white, Hispanic, or black friends are no different from each other. They’re great people. So, people, don’t limit yourself. This is a great world because of its diversity.

  • 127 White chick // Jul 13, 2008 at 9:18 pm

    this is wrong wrong WRONG! you all complain that caucasians stereotype asians when you do the same thing to us! I happen to know a LOT of girls who think asian guys are hot! im actually lusting after the guy who played alongside Shia LeBeouf in Disturbia

  • 128 Anonymouse // Jul 13, 2008 at 9:42 pm

    I’m sure this post will get lost among all the other posts, but I felt I wanted to input something. I’ve given this whole thing a lot of thought and I realized the white girl / asian guy thing has nothing to do about racial preference. How many people here have seen dating posts that say, “taller than me” or “at least 5’10″ etc… Everyone has. To that Dustin guy, sure you might find the one girl who doesn’t mind a short guy, but it’s like finding a guy who likes fat girls. NOT LIKELY. So clearly it’s a height issue. But what about the Asian men who are over 5’10″? Well, let’s be honest white girls suck. This is where I disagree with the post heavily. I have dated white girls and asian girls. Sure in bed white girls are better and more willing to do things, but on daily relationship details it’s not so good. What am I saying here? I think what it comes down to is Asian women aren’t racist but Asian men are. If the Asian man is tall enough to be considered “sexy” to women, he’s gonna choose an Asian girl. This probably has something to do with his white friends who tell him Asian girls are hot as well. So, while there will be a few abnormalities, shorty isn’t gonna get laid. White, black, asian or whatever. And all the tall guys go for Asian girls, cause white girls suck.

  • 129 Korean54 // Jul 13, 2008 at 10:11 pm

    Alright im a asian guy 6’0 Body builder i just recently started body building but I’ve been an football athlete all my life. I have a good build and I’ve noticed girls start to notice me in high school. I would post a picture of myself but im not here for attention. Anyways, what im trying to say is I rarely got any action and it was not because of my build or anything like that it was because I was to pansy to ask the other girl out. And believe me its better to find the girl you want then wait forever and settle for someone who like you. So in Short you just have to be persistent and grow the balls.

  • 130 josie // Jul 16, 2008 at 3:20 pm

    All 4 of my Asian brothers married white women. The oldest of which has been married for over 20 years. I am married to an Asian man. One of the reasons my sister in laws and myself married Asians — Asian children. They are the cutest, cutest, cutest things!

  • 131 Anonymous // Jul 16, 2008 at 8:32 pm

    No offense to anyone, but i absolutely HATE wen azn ppl date any other race but azn. i mean lyk WHY?! so everyday wen u wake up in the mornin n look in2 the mirror u hate urself? What makes u think ur better dan other azn? n wats wrong with azn ppl? especially if u azn, dat means u can’t accept who u r. I am an azn girl,, Ive dated 3 azn, 3 blacks, 1 mexican and 2 white guys. I date ppl because i LIKE dem, not bcuz of dere goddam race. N because im so pround of bein myself, bein azn, i find it dissapointed wen my azn guy friends think only white girls r hot o azn girl friends think only white guys r hot. WHY?!

  • 132 wut // Jul 18, 2008 at 10:28 pm

    i disagree with this.

    i’m a white girl and i find asian guys sooooo hot and I would date one in a second if he was a good guy. I find a lot of asian guys don’t date white girls because they aren’t interested in “us” or they’re not straight forward enough to ASK US OUT.

    i date people because they are funny, or nice, or smart or just have qualities that I’m interested in for a guy. Race has nothing to do with it. I’ve dated people from different races.

  • 133 blkguylovesazngirls // Jul 19, 2008 at 2:56 pm

    I’m a black guy who loves Asian girls.

    If you have confidence in yourself, you can get any girl you like. (Or if you’re a woman, you can attract any guy you like).

  • 134 Iloveasianguys // Jul 20, 2008 at 9:30 pm

    I am a white girl and i looooooove asian guys!!
    I found it kind of funny though, where I live I have never been approached by an Asian guy, yet when I went to Japan for 2 months I found a boyfriend in the first 3 weeks…..why is this?

  • 135 Raj from Singapore // Jul 21, 2008 at 10:09 am

    Women in America are very concerned about anatomy, ie., race..especially the white women are very race conscious and many cannot think beyone race. Here is the evidence…

    http://scienceblogs.com/gnxp/2008/07/why_does_race_matter_for_women.php?utm_source=sbhomepage&utm_medium=link&utm_content=channellink

  • 136 JB // Jul 21, 2008 at 4:10 pm

    For one I’m a 100% asian guy. The thing is ethnicity really does not have to do with anything. In intraracial and interracial relationships the elements that make up a successful relationship isn’t the skin color! It’s the interaction of trust and willingness to change with each other. If you’re not willing to adapt and keep a narrow scope in this ever changing world you’re not going to make it in any relationship regardless of whomever you date (same skin or different skin).

    Personality does win. Everyone seems to make excuses for their weaknesses. I know a bunch of white guys, black guys, asian guys, and mexican guys who crap in their pants when confidence is needed most. If you think your skin color passes or fails you to your goal, you’re a fool. You probably don’t amount to much anyways.

    I’ve dated white, latina, nigerian, tanzanian, and asian. When it all comes down to it we are all the same… we are all people.

    As for those who think asians are “soft,” asians are the most ruthless and calculated people in this planet! If you think they’re “nice” people cause they just smiled to you and patted your back on the way out… in reality you have just been fooled. Cause once you just turned your back they just told everyone how much of an idiot you were with everything they figured out about you, maximize what they can benefit from you, and probably left you in the dark (cause they know everything about you and you really don’t know anything about them!)

  • 137 JawKnee // Jul 24, 2008 at 8:44 pm

    Wahhhhhh. This post works 100% for me. I’m 100% Asian(Vietnamese) first generation American. Eh… Any girl that I may have liked, I try the approach where I befriend them. No matter how hard I try, the closest I can get is best friend. I get so sure that if I were white, we’d have been happy couples already. Eh, kinda disappointing, but that doesn’t mean I’l stop trying, =D

  • 138 paulmeister // Jul 25, 2008 at 12:51 am

    Hello! Well, interesting post, I’m a Filipino guy who has dated White girls, a German girl, a Russian girl, Thai girl, Japanese girl, an Australian girl and some Mexican girls. The point is…I try and find out which woman works best for me. Don’t limit yourself to just white girls. White girls have big hearts and they care a lot about everything. The most important thing about dating is meeting the right sort of girl. It doesn’t matter what color her skin is, if she isn’t the right sort for you, then you’re just lying to yourself. Some people just get into a relationship with a white girl and stay in it just as a status symbol, if you are not happy but just need to show off your trophy white girlfriend, you are just wasting your time. I like a woman that has the same ideals as me and I’m not shy to approach a white girl even if she is taller and strikingly hot and I’m only 5’6.
    White girls…do you really want to know what stops us Asian guys from hitting on you? Or losing interest?
    We might think you’re hot but we are also ANALYZING your personality…not just what you say but how you say it. Not just who you are…but what you’ll be like in the long run.
    So, in the time it takes you to tell us what your favorite color is, we’ve already figured you out. Every girl from every ethnic background has her own “issue” with white girls its that you are too SELF CONSCIOUS.
    Make yourself more available to Asian guys and be a bit more MYSTERIOUS. We like women who are mature and who inspire curiosity. Why do you think white guys love the quiet, petite and mysterious Asian girls?
    Just a little tip for my lovely yummy white beauties!

  • 139 BlackGuy // Jul 25, 2008 at 7:53 am

    I’m a black guy and only date white or asian girls. Majority of white girls are fairly easy, like picking apples from apple tree.

    If some of you asian guys have hard time with white girls, just do what other guys with white girls do…clothing/hair etc until you get the hang of it and create your own (everyone learns from someone). Also try playing the numbers game, hit on as many as you can…you’ll learn ALOT in a short period of time. ANyways thats how I started and now I can pull white girls with a snap of my finger. It’s really very simple.

    Also check out other sites like this or google:
    stuffwhitepeoplelike.com
    blackpeople, indianpeople etc. etc. funny shit

  • 140 shiro // Jul 25, 2008 at 10:53 am

    I think the one thing this article proves is that white women are objectified more than any other woman in the world.

  • 141 Whitegirl;) // Jul 25, 2008 at 1:33 pm

    Shiro I totally agree with you. I think that if everyone makes a huge deal about this then where is it going to take you. Just like if your looking for only a white girl or only an asian girl then it probaly won’t happen, if its fate..then it will happen. Take it as it comes I guess. Thats just what I think =)

  • 142 amanat // Jul 26, 2008 at 10:47 am

    every body

  • 143 Dani // Jul 26, 2008 at 9:47 pm

    Well, the truth is I know tons of white girls (including myself) that are so attracted to Asian men they refuse to date any other race.
    The problem is they don’t seem to like us. I’ve been told many times by Asian guys I find myself infatuated with that no relationship could ever be made between us because their parents would not accept me because of my race.
    :(
    Such a sad, sad life.

  • 144 blah // Jul 27, 2008 at 2:21 am

    i see lotsa white guys with yellow fever here in Toronto, but i dont see the same with the white girls.
    but then again, the chinese/asian community here is huge and i mostly hang out within this group.

  • 145 white girl // Jul 28, 2008 at 1:17 am

    this is just ridiculous.
    asian men can’t get white women because you don’t approach us.
    here’s the difference:
    when a white guy checks me out and i make eye contact he usually comes over and talks to me.
    if an asian guy checks me out, i make eye contact he gets embarassed and looks away and avoids looking at me again..
    i really don’t get it. i really don’t want to generalize but i haven’t experienced an asian guy who hasn’t been too shy to talk to me..even when i’m sending the right signals.
    it’s so not true that white girls see asian guys as “undateable” that is complete crap. where did that even come from? I, personally, am alot more attracted to asian guys than i am any other race. asian guys are attractive and smart..what’s not to like?
    it’s true that not all white females are attracted to asian guys..but not all asian guys are attracted to white girls either.
    everyone has their preferences and sometimes those preferences include ethnicity.

    it’s really upsetting seeing comments like asian girl’s saying that white girls are easy. not all of us are. just like not all of us are high maintainence and attention seeking. on the contrary i’m more than happy to hand over the spotlight. that’s how it should be when you’re talking to someone that you’re interested in.
    the thing is, you’re just assuming that we’ll say no, so ultimately YOU’RE the ones not giving us white girls a chance.
    Oh, the i’m really getting sick of stupid white guys and the whole deal with asian men’s penises. saying that white girls won’t date an asian guy for that reason not only makes you look like an idiot but it also makes white girls seem like all they care about is a big cock.
    you know what? i’d rather date a guy who knew how to treat me right but wasn’t very fortunate as opposed to a guy who is well endowed but a relationship retard.
    and who designated white guys as the men with my most to offer anyway…
    it’s all so stupid.
    here’s the deal: you want a white girlfriend? talk to her. show her that you’re confident..that’s a big deal when it comes to females of any race.
    lots of white girls out there adore asian guys. i know because i’m one of them. =)

  • 146 Hongkong Phoey // Jul 28, 2008 at 11:20 am

    LOL at some of the comments…

    “Once you go Asian you don’t go caucasian”

    White girls in Pacific Northwest, the hardest to approach. I think many of them have cultural baggage of what’s considered attractive or dateable. When I was in school, I didn’t have problem going out with Europeans though. They seem to have less bullshit and they don’t play mind games as much as their caucasian American counterparts.

    Just my .02

  • 147 Raj from Singapore // Jul 30, 2008 at 3:46 pm

    “everyone has their preferences and sometimes those preferences include ethnicity.”

    If the preference is based on culture, it is not racism. However, if it is based on anatomy and skin color like most white American women do, then it is plain and simple racism.

    Many white women from the US and UK who live and work in Singapore say that interracial dating is OK but if they get married thay have to stay in Singapore and forget about going home. Their boyfriend/prospective husband will not be accepted by their families back home, particularly those from the US South and Rocky Mountain States.

  • 148 Fu // Jul 30, 2008 at 5:46 pm

    Asian guys could score with any chick if they stop playing Starcraft and stop listening to their parents.

  • 149 Raj from Singapore // Jul 31, 2008 at 11:59 am

    This is the main reason that many Asian men feel that white American women are racists when it comes to dating…

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdjt-DyoU6s

    White American women will date Asian men if he makes US $247,000. They need it as a security deposit

  • 150 Rjk // Jul 31, 2008 at 5:53 pm

    Raj – Do you believe those things? Most white girls I have dated were when I was dirt poor with no money. Not all white women are bunch of gold diggers looking to cash out rich.

    If Asian dudes want to date good white girls, they just need to ask. Some would say yes and some will reject you. Some will be racists and some will not be. If you are a good guy, some girl out there regardless of the color will like you if there are chemistry.

    Sure the media is stacked against Asian men here in the USA. I would recommend look globally. Not every girl in the world has this stereotypical view of Asian men like they do here in the states.

  • 151 Betsy // Aug 1, 2008 at 12:18 am

    I’m an Asian-American girl, and I find that white guys tend to be too cocky if they’re even a little attractive. Confidence is sexy, but arrogance is annoying. I’ve dated a few white boys but I just couldn’t stand that characteristic. It’s a matter of personal taste. I love, love, LOVE asian boys.

  • 152 Betsy // Aug 1, 2008 at 12:19 am

    And I do realize this post is supposed to be funny, but I find it slightly offensive.

  • 153 Raj from Singapore // Aug 1, 2008 at 8:31 am

    “Not every girl in the world has this stereotypical view of Asian men like they do here in the states.”

    I agree! Please read my statement: “White American women will date Asian men if he makes US $247,000. They need it as a security deposit.” Not referring to any other women.

  • 154 Rjk // Aug 1, 2008 at 5:39 pm

    C’mon Raj. That survey is a joke. I understand things are stacked against Asian men in every way in the USA. Why is that? White media is probably scare of rise of Asia and China. They have to make Asians evil to make themselves feel better. Asian men is their biggest threat.

    There are smart people that can see through that. There are plenty of Asian women who are not white washed (see Betsy above). There are white American women who are smart enough to see Asian men as men vs. stereotypes.

    Date the person you can connect with. I think having similar culture and outlook in things are more important than just skin color. If a white girl is too dense to see a good man, then it is her loss. I am sure she can be very happy with those close minded ignorant white men they are so fond of. Therefore, she is definitely not for me. If you go to countries like Brazil and parts of Europe where most women actually know a thing or two about foreign culture, Asian men do fine there. The situation in the USA is not fault of Asian men, it is the environment we live in just very unhealthy for social acceptance unless you are white.

    Frankly, I prefer women who are much more smarter than ones that believe every crap on TV.

  • 155 Raj from Singapore // Aug 2, 2008 at 3:57 pm

    RJK:

    Where in the US do you live? Hawaii? San Francisco? or may be Seattle? Then I can see your point from your experience.

  • 156 Rjk // Aug 3, 2008 at 11:34 am

    Raj – West Coast in CA. Yeah there are a lot of Asians here. If you live in the middle of hick town, I suggest you make a move and get the hell out. I won’t wish that kind of environment on any Asian kid unless your only purpose is making money there. Majority of America is still as ignorant as hell and know nothing about any foreign culture other than white USA pop culture.

  • 157 Robert // Aug 3, 2008 at 8:01 pm

    “The media has a greater influence on asians than they want to admit.:

    Here in the US the media shows the white men in very bad light…as murderers, rapists and philanderers. In the past twelve months, just one show out of the sixty of so Dateline NBC shows featured a non-white suspect. Of all the sixty or so CBS 48 hour mystery shows only two featured non-white suspects…dont believe me, here is some of the evidence…

    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3032600/

    http://www.cbsnews.com/sections/48hours/main3410.shtml

    True, the media portrays Asian men as asexual and as wimps but they are also portrayed as smart and well off. So when confronted with a choice of white males who are portrayed as dangerous and a risk to your life and an Asexual Asian who is harmless, the average white woman generally risk going with an white male which stats indicate is more likely to be a risk to her life. So the media cannot be held responsible. If the woman’s life is important she will choose an Asian. If skin color and anatomy are important she will end up choosing white…comes to plain and simple racism…so blame the white woman, not the media. If she watched more 48 Hours and Dateline NBC she may end up having a bad opinion of white males…then again may be not! Skin color and anatomy may be more important.

  • 158 Raj from Singapore // Aug 3, 2008 at 8:11 pm

    “If you live in the middle of hick town, I suggest you make a move and get the hell out. I won’t wish that kind of environment on any Asian kid unless your only purpose is making money there. ”

    RJK-I live in Singapore, and if anyone wants to make money you are better off in Singapore than in a hick town. I for one will never forgive the white southerners who nearly beat up a dark skinned friend of mine for being with a “white girl” nearly a quarter century ago in a University campus. The only thing was the dark skinned friend is a Tamil from Singapore and the “white girl” was his wife, a light skinned Punjabi woman. They thought that an African American was dating a local white woman. And here is an example of two imbecile white women from the US South bad mouthing interracial dating….

    http://video.aol.com/video/interracial-dating/1763543

    And then again things are different in New York…

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84H7X5KSfIA&feature=related

    And I guess it is the same in CA and the west coast and also Hawaii.

  • 159 Rjk // Aug 4, 2008 at 2:00 pm

    Raj – regardless where we live, we are still impacted by American media. They still have racism everywhere. Whites are able to enforce their racism and stereotypes because they have greater numbers and they control the media. We still have plenty in NYC and CA. Hawaii is different because Asians are majority there. It was weird for me to go to Hawaii and turn on TV and actually saw some Asian men as news anchors. In the mainland, they have kept Asian men invisible or in ugly stereotypical roles for the most part.

    To Robert above – MSNBC is reporting news for the most part. There are so many perverted white men in this country. Is it any wonder why they are in crimes? Although you said they have some negative news, but there are a ton of positive news in the media for white men. Almost every movie is a positive thing for white men where they are always the heroes and leading men.

    White people sometimes complain why there are Black History month etc. Well, the truth is every day in America is a white holiday. They celebrate whiteness like there is no tomorrow every single day here. Everyday is white culture celebration. I always laugh when I see the annual People Magazine 100 most beautiful people with most of them being white with couple of token minorities. Those people need to get a life and rename the stupid thing to “100 most beautiful white people in America” and stop putting minorities in it cause it is insulting. And they need to stop calling it in the world.

    These are the normal things Asians are subject to day in and day out. It takes a wise white women to rise above this brainwashing and see Asian men as just men vs. all the stupid stereotypes.

  • 160 Rjk // Aug 4, 2008 at 2:12 pm

    Another thing I want to add is most white women in America have not been exposed to Asian men. Most of them only know Asian men through TV or hearsay from their ignorant friends. Most white people think going to eat Chinese food is Asian culture. Even though most Asian men are better educated than your average white men and are more family oriented, they don’t portrait that on TV or in the movies. Hell, they don’t even portrait Asian men and Asian women couples on TV. Other than the couple on LOST, there are no Asian men/Asian women couples on TV. Hollywood is saying we don’t exist even though there are a ton in real life.

  • 161 Raj from Singapore // Aug 4, 2008 at 8:02 pm

    :MSNBC is reporting news for the most part. There are so many perverted white men in this country. Is it any wonder why they are in crimes? Although you said they have some negative news, but there are a ton of positive news in the media for white men. Almost every movie is a positive thing for white men where they are always the heroes and leading men. ”

    News is reality, movie is make believe. The real life is news, which does not have a fairy tale ending. If the white women dont recognize this it is plain and simple racism and if the Asian women dont recognize it is self hate and they need to see a psychiatrist. Some white women on this board say that Asian men are not interested in white women. Perhaps after hearing about some whites (we hear about them here in Singapore as well) beating up minorities for dating white women, perhaps Asian men unlike white women dont want to put their lives at risk!

  • 162 Eric // Aug 6, 2008 at 8:24 am

    You just have to break out of the mold. I’m gonna be a sophomore in HS, and I hang out with white friends and play football and run track. White girls are more open than you think. Like any girl, they’re not gonna find you attractive if you’re just smart. But if you’re smart and athletic, you have just as good of a shot as anybody. Trust me.

  • 163 Tenerife // Aug 6, 2008 at 2:09 pm

    Funny how white women don’t bring up the “Asian guys have small parts” nonsense; it’s mostly white guys do that. Most women care more about touch, sensuality and foreplay than how big it is. And if she’s a virgin (believe it or not, there are still some of us around) she won’t have a frame of reference for comparison anyway.

  • 164 Raj from Singapore // Aug 7, 2008 at 9:38 am

    “And if she’s a virgin..”

    I also think a disproportionate number of white women who date Asians happen to be virgins..agree with you!

  • 165 Rjk // Aug 7, 2008 at 5:46 pm

    Tenerife – Because most white women that have been exposed to Asian penis know the truth. Just ask white women who have been with Asian men what they think of Asian penis and the stereotype. White guys, on the other hand, only know stereotypes because they are the ones who created them.

    Asian men, like every other men, have big, small and the entire range.

    People that have little experience in sex stereotype. People have a lot of sex know each person is unique regardless of the race.

  • 166 Raj from Singapore // Aug 7, 2008 at 8:20 pm

    White women in Singapore looking for local men. Most of these are white South African females desparate to stay out of their country. Their mothers probably never even touched a non-white skin during the apartheid era, but desparate times demand desparate measures..not just touching a non-white but going to bed with one…

    http://www.expatsingapore.com/forum/index.php?topic=35944.0

    You will find it interesting.

  • 167 Me // Aug 9, 2008 at 12:05 am

    Tex, #43 – I was rooting with you on everything till I read, ” obeys me all the time”, that ‘s sorta scary, “Me Tarzan you Jane ” kinda thing. Is female self expression still okay in today’s world?

  • 168 M J // Aug 9, 2008 at 12:09 am

    Tex, #43 – I was rooting with you on everything till I read, ” obeys me all the time”, that ‘s sorta scary, “Me Tarzan you Jane ” kinda thing.

  • 169 Tenerife // Aug 9, 2008 at 3:59 pm

    Raj, # 166 “Most of these are white South African females desparate to stay out of their country.”

    Are the immigration options that desparate for South Africans? Won’t the U.S., Canada, the U.K., Australia, New Zealand take them?

  • 170 Tenerife // Aug 9, 2008 at 4:10 pm

    Something else I remembered to add, I believe there is a white girl-asian guy romance in the new “Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants” movie. Leonardo Nam is the boyfriend.

  • 171 Dan // Aug 10, 2008 at 10:32 am

    I’m Chinese-American and think white girls are very attractive. And you know what? I’m 28 and haven’t dated an asian girl since high school. If anything, I think I have more success with white girls than asian girls (then again, I tend to only ask out white girls and a couple of white girls have actually asked me out which was pretty cool). I find asian-american women kinda weird (their behavior) but I get along really well with asian women from asia and I think they are really cool. If I lived in Asia I’d probably be dating an asian girl.

  • 172 Hilary // Aug 11, 2008 at 4:31 am

    I’m a white girl living in Tokyo, and I almost never see Asian guys with white girls, although I am happy to say that I am an exception. I love Asian guys, and I’ve only ever dated Asian men. I’m not obsessed with Asian men, but the guys I have dated have had wonderful personalities and been sexy as hell, mainly because they are confident enough to approach a white girl.
    White girls don’t know what they are missing by dismissing Asian men.

  • 173 Raj from Singapore // Aug 11, 2008 at 6:03 am

    “Are the immigration options that desparate for South Africans? Won’t the U.S., Canada, the U.K., Australia, New Zealand take them?”

    It is becoming more and more difficult particularly for white women.

  • 174 Raj from Singapore // Aug 11, 2008 at 6:06 am

    “I’m a white girl living in Tokyo, and I almost never see Asian guys with white girls, although I am happy to say that I am an exception. ”

    I guess you have not seen any of these couples that they profess to be?…

    http://www.japan-guide.com/forum/quereadisplay.html?3+18812

  • 175 Raj from Singapore // Aug 11, 2008 at 9:04 am

    This paragraph is pretty telling:

    http://www.xpatxperience.com/before_you_move/downsides_of_living_overseas.shtml

    Single White Female…

    “Well, it’s no secret (no more, at least), single western women have a difficult time finding love and romance in Singapore. The fact is, most western women are not attracted to local men and, well, there simply aren’t so many caucasian men here. Most caucasian men here are married and those who are not (or who don’t take loyalty that seriously) are often more interested in local girls. If you are a single white female and want to move to Singapore, you may have to consider putting your priority for a deep and meaningful relationship on the back burner for a while. Having said that, there are many single women who did find the love of their life here. Difficult does not mean impossible. You may have to find different avenues to get there, like joining a dating website, but there are single western men here, and if you put your mind to it, they can be found. I am sorry to say, however, that I’m already taken. ”

    From what I have heard on this board white women in America wont date minorities over there, so why do we expect them to date local men in Singapore? Actually most American women here are pretty racist.

  • 176 kali // Aug 11, 2008 at 11:03 am

    well, I’m dating an Asian guy, i find him very attractive because he has a nice build and is smart but not nerdy. He is a little finniky with our relationship though. He never wants to come out and say when something bugs him. Before me he dated another white girl for over a year! Race has nothing to do with it really. But im not sure how his parents feel about me?

  • 177 Anonymous // Aug 14, 2008 at 9:36 pm

    Someone commented that white women do not date asian men because of the size of their packages. I have to say that I am happily married to a filipino man and I definitely have no complaints!!! This stereotype is false.

  • 178 Dutch_girl // Aug 15, 2008 at 8:51 pm

    I adore asian men there smart and have the most cutest eyes ^^

  • 179 bL90 // Aug 16, 2008 at 8:05 am

    Im asian an have a hot white girlfriend. America isn’t as racist as you might believe except perhaps the south, but then again don’t worry about them because their just dirty, uneducated hicks. Southern California is chill and everyone treats everyone with respect. There is a giant pool of interracial couples here. My best friends are white. Don’t misjudge America on a few stupid cases because most likely those people have a borderline IQ next to retarded

  • 180 bL90 // Aug 17, 2008 at 12:46 am

    Doesnt matter what race you are, if your good-looking you will get a hot girl of any race. I read these comments about oh i cant this kind of girl blah blah blah.. maybe its just because your ugly. tough luck

  • 181 bL90 // Aug 17, 2008 at 12:48 am

    Doesnt matter what race you are, if your good-looking you will get a hot girl of any race. I read these comments about oh i cant *get* this kind of girl blah blah blah.. maybe its just because your ugly. tough luck

  • 182 P // Aug 17, 2008 at 7:26 pm

    “Once you go Asian you won’t go caucasian”–lol. I’m a white American girl who’s been married to Japanese American guy for 9+ years. He first caught my eye with his gleaming smile. Most gentle, liberal soul on earth. Race was irrelevant to me, always has been.

  • 183 Eric // Aug 18, 2008 at 1:39 pm

    Another thing, you just need some confidence to ask a girl out. Most of them don’t really care about race, and like that they’ve been noticed. Like they always say in football, don’t slot yourself. If you come in thinking that you’re going to get rejected, then you probably will.

  • 184 SaBu // Aug 19, 2008 at 11:52 am

    i love asian boys ( korean or japanese) *o*

  • 185 Mr. COOL // Aug 20, 2008 at 11:01 pm

    At first I though white girls were racist, and only dated with white guys. Apparently, everything that I thought totally wrong, because I didn’t appoarch them, and always waited for them to come , there isn’t F**King way that they would have come to an asian guy for no reason. Enlightenly, I just go to holla and flown with them, afterthat, they automatically gave me their phone numbers and asked me to take them to clubbing or hanging out later.

    so the point is we’re guys, so we have to be confident to appoarch them, not waiting for them to come. Girls are easy as long as we know how to spit the right game, we will get them.
    What do you looking for? One night stand or Long term relationship?

    It’s up to you, however, you have to pick the right girl for the right game.

  • 186 Tri // Aug 22, 2008 at 5:20 am

    I really appreciate what everyone has shared. Both of my sisters really like white guys and I think its fine. In their eyes, I think they see white dudes as having more status and confidence and are therefore attracted to that. We all grew up in Cali, maybe that explains it. All of my girlfriends have not been of asian descent and for a while, it kind of bothered me because I read about internalized racism. . .sucks to say this but i do think that i suffer from watching unflattering images of asian women and asian men in most cinematic productions. white people dominate the world in media and in images and as an actor, i feel this is true although i give serious props to movies like Harold and Kumar. Scary thing is, i even had a dream where in order to succeed in hollywood, i would have to marry a girl who looks like Ariel or Belle or some kind of disney figure. So, right now, I’m at a weird crossroads where I’m not sure if I’m attracted to people for the right reasons. I am shallow and am attracted to what is perceived as a ‘trophy’. So, even though i know i am brainwashed, i can’t help but feel attracted to natural blondes or redheads with nice curvy breasts and wholesome personalities. dammit.

  • 187 AsianKitty_ox // Aug 27, 2008 at 6:25 am

    It’s rare to find good looking asian boys. Most of them hide away and you only see the fat geeky ones.. no offence (: . Plus white girls are bigger in many ways, they have larger breasts, they have bigger eyes, they are taller, and in many eyes they are the superior race and as some are also uneducated and self-obsessed, so they believe in only dating white guys as other races are lower than them. It is also based on parental influences because many white parents are predjudice against they’re children dating other races. (this is also true with asian parents)

  • 188 Eric // Aug 27, 2008 at 7:27 am

    Do I count as the typical asian guy here? All my friends are white/black, I play football, run track, and don’t have a 4.0… I’m also taking advanced classes but only because my parents force me to.

  • 189 Shell.N // Sep 4, 2008 at 8:00 pm

    Sorry, I just have to say, you have no idea what you’re talking about either that or you’ve never really met any cool asian guys. There’s plenty where I am. Most of the asian guys I know wouldn’t go for white girls because most of them are overweight.
    And plus, what’s up with white people saying asians trying to look more westernized by getting plastic surgery? That’s just bull crap or they are just jealous. Would you say that white people try to look more asians by reducing their nose size? Or go for a tan?
    Please think twice before you make such comments. 50% of asians have fair skin to start off white and there are also a lot of pretty natural asians with a high nose already. Wouldn’t you say then that we are just trying to look more like the pretty asians? Or is it in human nature to not be satisfied with what we have. I mean didn’t the white people invented plastic surgery in the first place? You gotta look back at its origin. White people developed it for the white people’s demands many years ago.

  • 190 Mixed Girl // Sep 7, 2008 at 6:54 am

    I’m mixed (Black and White). Attracted to all races. In America we like to think that we have progressed so much….civil rights movement etc… Postings like these just serve to remind me that secretly most people still have little prejudices/preferences when it comes to race. It’s odd to me since I was raised in an environment that let me see the beauty in all people. With that said…forget about the whole Asian & White pairing because Asian & Black couples are the most attractive, and consequently have the most attractive offspring. It’s true. Look it up.

  • 191 Tabitha // Sep 9, 2008 at 11:38 pm

    Krystyn (#35), you rule!

  • 192 white girl in the bay // Sep 11, 2008 at 5:31 pm

    To all my white sisters out there- I’m married to an asian man- you don’t know what you are missing! Hardworking, loyal and cares about family- forget about white guys!

  • 193 Sunil // Sep 12, 2008 at 12:07 pm

    Dude..I dont get it…Why we asians label white people racist..when ever something goes against our line of thinking.

    Every culture has a long history of negative traits attached…like in India…it was casteism..which was worse than racism..in China….It was supression of peasents from warrier class.

    Im not sure why asian people think pop media does not put asian in light….

    It is not true…if you really deserve it you will get it …T of Jackie chan…..bruce lee …and dalai lama offcourse…white people love dalai lama than any spiritual guru from west :o )

    I for one will die to get a white girl…Its my mission to get a white girl…i want to feel how its like to get dumped by a white girl in the greatest nation on earth America or get laid on the greatest nation on earth :0)

  • 194 Raj from Singapore // Sep 12, 2008 at 1:57 pm

    Sunil:

    Man you have lost it!

  • 195 cooper // Sep 15, 2008 at 11:15 pm

    I have no problems at all getting white girls, in fact, i get approached more by white girls than i do asian girls.

  • 196 jack // Sep 16, 2008 at 8:41 pm

    thats right white girl in the bay. because white men don’t even desire white women anymore they age 2 fast and look old by the time they are 50 and usally got no ass. thats why most white men date black women and asain women

  • 197 Actuary // Sep 21, 2008 at 2:03 pm

    Hearing all these white girls who are asking us asian guys to ask them out, I felt compelled to respond here.

    I don’t know what my other asian brothers been doing, but I been bravely asking all races of girls out for many years. I been told that I’m rather good looking by most asian people. I’ve started on several basketball teams, and I earn quite a bit of money as an actuary.

    However, over the years my success rate with asian girls has been about 60% I have dated models, singers…. etc, with black girls I think my success rate is slightly lower, but still maybe 40%… but white girls… it’s like 5%. I try to be as unbiased as possible when I ask a girl out, I even speak english, chinese and spanish all fluently.

    It is hard to argue with staticstics. It is harder to get a white girl for an asian guy.

    BTW, I never actually met a white girl who only likes asian guys. I don’t know where all these white girls from this post come from… they must not be in New York City.

    Also, I think Linda Chen the relationship expert is right. She seems like she knows what she’s talking about.

  • 198 asian gal // Sep 21, 2008 at 5:31 pm

    do you Asian guys not care about Asian girls anymore? You guys make it sounds like white girls are better than us

  • 199 Raj from Singapore // Sep 22, 2008 at 8:18 am

    “do you Asian guys not care about Asian girls anymore? You guys make it sounds like white girls are better than us.”

    Based on statistics and what I see in Singapore, the question should be the other way around.

    “but white girls”¦ it’s like 5%. I try to be as unbiased as possible when I ask a girl out, I even speak english, chinese and spanish all fluently. ”

    Yep. Pretty racist at least the white American women, even here in Singapore. They claim that if they date local guys, white guys wont date them, and supposedly this is from white guys who date Asian women.

  • 200 Yuchi // Sep 27, 2008 at 11:19 pm

    I am Asian male. For me I like white girls much better than Asian girls. My Asian male friends said that I am odd, but I am just more attracted to white girls. They can always catch my eyes so easily. I agree with that most of white girls are not interested in Asian male, because I have tried few times to approach few white girls and it turn out that I made me awkward and felt like a jerk. So now I will only appreciate white girl’s beauty just by eyes instead of thinking any more for any further step. Getting a hot white girlfriend might be just my fantasy.

  • 201 Koreamerican // Oct 2, 2008 at 6:02 pm

    Seeing as how discussions such as this are always going on somewhere and mostly propagated by Asian men, I may have to venture and say most of the Caucasian women who posted that they like asian men are actually the asian men themselves posing as the Caucasian women to give themselves a virtual pat on the back. Just a theory.

  • 202 Lily // Oct 2, 2008 at 9:31 pm

    I’m a white female and I am actually more attracted to Asian men than white men. I don’t know why, but they seem a lot nicer than most of the white guys I’ve met, and I feel I connect easier with them, despite being from a different race.

    @ Koreamerican, I never would have thought that. Its funny to think that people would go that far. xD

  • 203 Ben // Oct 3, 2008 at 8:27 pm

    Wow, it’s amazing how messed up some of you are. There are some truths in some of your comments, but also way too much generalizations and paranoid -racist rantings (from all groups). I grew up in the states and dated mostly Caucasian girls/women ( I was one of two Asians in my high school), but eventually married an Asian female. It just turned out that way. I dated people who I connected with on both an emotional and physical level, not based on race. I felt that all my relationships were meaningful and I find it distressing when I hear anyone talk about another individual as “objects or mere representatives of groups”. Ironically, my parents were actually more upset when I started to date my wife, who was Asian (because she was from another Asian group) than when I used to bring home my girlfriends, who were white. We need to be truly comfortable with who we are first and foremost, then everything else will fall in place without the drama.

  • 204 Anonymous // Oct 4, 2008 at 12:59 pm

    PS. To \jewpanese\. LOL, cute and funny post. I do think that there are many shared traits between the Jewish culture (not religion) and a couple of the East Asian cultures…nice blend!

  • 205 Anonymous // Oct 4, 2008 at 1:19 pm

    To the Angry Asians who posted on this site, please get into therapy. To the Angry Non-Asians posting on this site, be respectful or start hanging out in your own neighborhood…this site didn’t come knocking on your door, what are you looking for?

  • 206 CHRISTIAN CHEN // Oct 4, 2008 at 9:55 pm

    Hi, Im chinese boy, and I was born in Spain and i have a black girlfriend, and im not small…

  • 207 nevetS // Oct 5, 2008 at 12:43 am

    Pssh. I’m Asian. 6Ft tall…170 LBS muscle.
    Not small dikked. I pull white girls regularly..
    I get white girls white guys CANT get .

    **This post is just Sad, and to prove how many asian NERDS there are.

    If you’re an asian guy, and you’re taller, broader, non stereotypical, white chicks chase you man…

    Unfortunately, this is minority of asian guys..
    SO many fukin socially retarded asian Nerds.
    You know who you nerds are….

    And for those asians like me who make us look good…you know who you are too. Props !!

  • 208 nevetS // Oct 5, 2008 at 12:47 am

    And i didn’t come here because of this…ANONYMOUS who accused us of finding this..
    I was searching beauty tip differences from west and differences to write an article.

    ONce again..this is a SAD post….

  • 209 Ben // Oct 5, 2008 at 5:53 am

    to nevets. As an Asian male, you’re an embarrasment. As a physician, I can say you should enter in therapy or strive harder to gain more insight and ego stability.

  • 210 Eric // Oct 6, 2008 at 8:01 pm

    Once again, my theory is proven true. Most asian guys just lack the backbone to approach white girls. They think that they’ll be rejected anyways. We just had homecoming, and if you ask a girl to dance with you, they will if you’re somewhat athletic, and good looking. They are flattered that someone would ask them (even if they are asked all the time), and they don’t care what color you are.

  • 211 Anonymous // Oct 7, 2008 at 3:55 pm

    dear eric, you may be many things, but you definitely are not a social anthropologist or even someone who has traveled. Asians in general, as a culture, do not approach dating, romance or sexuality as openly as they do in the west. Yeah, I things are changing in Asia, but overall as a culture they are still much more reserved and relatively “shy”, compared to their western counterparts. The notion of shame is much more a part of cultural psyche than in the US or most parts of Europe. Even though most of the Asians you talk about have grown up in the US; if they still take off their shoes in the house, eat rice more than 3 times per week and are overly protective of their parents, then they are still deeply rooted in the cultural norms of Asia. Hence, the qualities that shame/disgust the “angry, self-hating asians” or the “arrogant, bigoted, narcissistic non-asians” should not be viewed as abhorrent behavior, but consistent with the values and practices, which help differentiate Eastern and Western cultures. “know thyself, then you may possibly know the true meaning of others.”

  • 212 brandon gerworthy // Oct 8, 2008 at 5:27 pm

    First of all, Raj, I have no idea where you get your attitude from but Asians are typically much, much more racist than white Americans, who while still racist are the part of the ONLY culture (Western culture) in the history of the world which has made a concerted effort to overcome racism. NO Asian culture has made any similar effort and Asian communities in the US – not to mention Asia itself- are infinitely more racist. This whole ridiculous attitude of yours bears no relation to reality and is completely out of place. I didn’t really want to comment on it but it was just getting on my nerves, this completely unwarranted chip on the shoulder atttitude of yours. That you think you – as a Singaporean – have any kind of right to castigate, no, even DISCUSS, the issue of race with an American, or any Westerner, is laughable. Your own society is light years behind, and your entire region is no better.

    Anyways, about the dating issue. Girls in ANY society value social status more, perhaps, than any other quality, especially for longer term relationships. It’s like physical looks for guys. It’s what each sex look for most (although both sexes value other qualities as well, just less). So all this advice to Asian guys about getting buff is way off the mark and is not white girls main complaint.

    I lived in Asia for several years, and the truth is that while many Asian girls found white guys good-looking, it wasn’t enough – it was quite hard for ANY white guy to get the really high quality Asian girls, even if he had a good job and was good looking. Far from impossible, just not easy. The fact is there are few whites in most Asian countries and the white community in ANY Asian country is not strongly integrated into the social structure, so the collective social status of white people is not particularly high (actually, it’s both high and low, but in sum it isn’t as high as rich, high status Asian guys) in any Asian country. Although I was able to get attractive Asian girls, my sexual status was knocked down a peg or two, to my discomfort, through no fault of my own but simply because of the collective social status of my “group”.

    In America, whites are the majority in positions of social power, so they are in fact the group with the highest social cachet. This translates into a a surface sheen of sexual appeal to women of all races. The historical and contemporary ascendancy of Western societies also plays a part – although smaller than many think, in enhancing this status.

    The problem with Asian guys is mainly one of perceived collective cultural personality – and lets be honest, it isn’t just a perception. Asian guys as a whole really ARE more mild, reserved, withdrawn, less risk-taking, etc, and this does make them seem more effeminate and in some way lowers their social status in the eyes of white girls. Those personality traits associated with high social status are not well represented in the Asian community.

    I cannot tell you how many times I’ve encountered – fully grown up and adult – Asian men, both within and outside of Asia, that were painfully shy and embarrassed, reserved, withdrawn, quiet, dare I say it and to be perfectly blunt – timid. To me this is a ridiculous quality in an adult, yet it is extremely common in all Asian cultures. I think of it as the “Asian disease”. There is a reason that despite the high level of average intelligence amongst Asians and their many admirable qualities, it was Westerners who created colonies in Asia and not the other way around. Quite simply, the personality profile or temperament of the two cultures are in key respects, those relating to confidence, assertiveness, and risk taking, poles apart, and this DOES translate into sexual attractiveness.

    But at the end of the day who cares about group reputations? It shouldn’t matter one whit! And to many people – the people who count, the educated and intelligent – it DOESN’T matter. In cities like New York or San Fran, an Asian who is NOT shy and diffident, but confident and outgoing – one who doesn’t suffer from the ridiculous “Asian disease” – will find plenty of white women who won’t even notice his race. And high quality white women, too. And the other white women, who rely more on group reputation than judging the individual on his merit, well, who cares?

    If it is any consolation to you Asian guys, whites in Asian countries, while no, we don’t have it as bad as seemingly you do here, still we suffer our own form of social marginilization that lowers our collective sexual status in any Asian society.

    And as a further consolation, I have heard that in France Asian men are highly sought after and considered sophisticated and desirable as mates, probably the only Western country where this is the case. And French women are HOT!!! Hotter by far than all but the best of Americans

  • 213 Oxfam UK // Oct 9, 2008 at 2:08 pm

    I am not Asian or American but an English from South West England and I am happilly married to a Chinese girl. Its time to scrap off this blog and start something better topic! Thanks

  • 214 Vic // Oct 9, 2008 at 11:34 pm

    like Hispanic girls.

  • 215 tom // Oct 10, 2008 at 5:47 am

    Hi there,
    I’m not asain but ım doıng a project for my fınal year of unıversıty and have to design a ‘free bee’ for the Shanghaı Expo 2010 exhabıtıon -and need some ıdeas and vıews from chinese or asain people of what would be a cool thıng to make- ıf you can help ı would be very happy! thanks

  • 216 Samyaza // Oct 12, 2008 at 6:35 am

    Filipino-Australian here. Asians should stick to asians. Whites shoud stick to whites. Eurasians should stick with eurasians. Fuck all you race mixers, you selfish cunts don’t even think about the kids, only about living out your fetish of fucking another race. Because us mixed people exist as a result of 2 race traitors of different races, we have to stick to our own kind and form our own race so we’re not labelled mongrels anymore. Don’t mix races! Fuck everyone that says that race mixing is OK. I’m of mixed race and I don’t wanna hear no monoracial cunt that dosen’t understand the eurasian experience to tell me I’m a cunt for saying what I said. Fuck you race mixing race traitors that do nothing but create hybrid mongrels with mental issues and substance dependancy that could easily end up taking their own life one day, and dragging many more lives with them just to lash out at members of either race that exists within this confused one individual.

  • 217 Kill this thread plse // Oct 13, 2008 at 9:41 am

    Please kill this thread. It is getting so corny. White guys who spent a few years in Asia think they know Asians inside out. It is even ridiculous to hear the “Asian disease” when Anglo-Saxons are the most uptight ones, execept when they are drunk.

    Genghis Khan invaded all the way to central Europe and created colonies there. That’s way before you Westerners showed up in Asia.

  • 218 Mike Galsworthy // Oct 13, 2008 at 7:19 pm

    It takes far less than “years” to know Asians inside out, there really is very little mystery there. Asian cultures are easily comprehensible – most white guys figure it all out the first few months living in Asia.

    Genghis seems to have carried with him on his great journey that portion of the Asian population with the enterprise and initiative to create colonies (or comparable ventures), thus leaving Asia bereft of such energetic individuals ever since :)

  • 219 Sarahlynn // Oct 15, 2008 at 5:28 am

    I’m white and I love Asian guys! Almost all my boyfriends have been Asian. Mostly Chinese, Indian, & Pakistani tho.

  • 220 Anonymous // Oct 16, 2008 at 4:10 am

    My man is Asian and quite kinky, which is what this freaky white girl needs. So, boys, get them whips and chains and they’ll come in hordes (or would the terminology ‘zerg rushes’ be more appropriate? ;])

  • 221 Anonymous // Oct 20, 2008 at 4:59 pm

    To “gerworthy/galsworthy”. It was Technology and Economics, not inherent cultural differences that prompted one culture to dominate in a particular period of time. You have obviously been reading the wrong history books or so overwhelmed yourself with your hubris as to put forth such ethnocentric views as gospel. Please, your psychodynamic profile is relatively easy to read. Poor white boy, who couldn’t get the respect/acknowledgement they wanted in the white world, goes to Asia and gets “attention” (believe me, most of it was “tatamae”). Put your hubris away, before someone slaps you down. The east has held economic, cultural and military sway for over 90% of earth’s written history. It was the relatively recent shift in technology; ships, guns which allowed the west to conquer the east; just as the mongols used their horses, arrows and silk to overwhelm the world. Technology and timing has more to do with “who’s conquering whom” rather than some idiotic, ethnocentric and dubious theory as the “asian disease.” Please, go back your hole.

  • 222 White Girl // Oct 22, 2008 at 7:22 pm

    I’m a white girl who has been dating the same Asian guy for almost a year and doesn’t plan on stopping. I’ve never been attracted to white guys much, only going for Asians. Maybe I’m completely an anomaly and have a serious case of reverse yellow fever, but if so, I’m fine with it, because my guy is amazing. And he’s not a twinky. He goes to a great Technology and Engineering college and is studying biomedical engineering and got a 2400 on his SAT and was the captain of the Academic Team (a role which I have now filled) and is incredibly Asian. By no means a Twinky. The only resistance I have encountered is from his parents. Mine are completely fine with our dating. They view themselves as being better than me and me being an ignorant whitey. I’m not a huge fan of this stereotype.

  • 223 IchigoGirl // Oct 24, 2008 at 12:26 am

    Whoa. Slow down a second…

    “When asian guys talk about ‘Bleach” to white girls, they immediately think ‘hair product,” before they realize the guy is talking about that book he is reading from right to left (manga).”?

    Is this supposed to be a fact? I am a female who is a proud manga reader and anime fan, I know many other girls who are the same. Please don’t believe all girls to be so narrow minded when it comes to the cultures of others or of comic art.

    If I could date an asian guy, that would be a fantasy come true for me, and there are many other white women like myself in the same boat.
    Apparently, white woman are not suppose to like Asian men? Forget about Asian guys finding white girls, what about all us white gals who would love to hook up with an Asian guy? Would you think me too “nerdy?”

    In the end, It would be the character of the person, not race, nor ‘stauts’, to capture my heart, but there is something about Asian culture, including physical appearance that is so beautiful to me.

    Don’t do white women the injustice of stating that we all don’t like asian men! Guys, don’t be shy, talk to us! You’ve probably been checked out by more white girls then you know! ;)

  • 224 Anonymous // Oct 24, 2008 at 2:59 pm

    Ichigo. anime fan!? where were you all my life!

  • 225 Anonymous // Oct 24, 2008 at 6:36 pm

    To Ichigo> I’ve got wood. =)

  • 226 Lovely White // Oct 25, 2008 at 10:28 pm

    Ok, I have to put a few thoughts down. Some of these points have already been mentioned, but I’m drawing on my own experience.

    1. Asians, and asian men in particular are not well represented in the American media. I lived in japan and saw a ton of hot people in daily life and in the media. It became apparent that a lot of hot asian people somehow haven’t gotten as much mainstream attention back here.

    2. Men hate the thought of women being with any other man, period. A man of a different race is an easy target. My Japanese ex hated the thought of white women getting with black men. One of my white ex s simply said that white men don’t want the competition; asians, as opposed to the stereotype of black men, are viable because they have good jobs, therefore a bigger threat. I was at a party recently, and at one point I overheard a white guy get annoyed at a couple of white girls “hanging out with black guys and an asian.” of course I was there with my half asian guy…who was also the biggest guy there.

    The other catch is that a white woman who dates black men is blacklisted. White men will not blacklist the girl who dates an asian guy, nor will her parents.

    3. The Question of Asian men’s southern parts. Some of them are smaller. Some are comparable to white mens’. There are a fair number of white guys who have 3 or 4 inches, and probably black guys too.

    As for me personally, the last guy I had sex with was chinese and he was average built. Neither of us had trouble climaxing.

    4. The sign that the other party is interested in you is eye contact. If you sustain eye contact with a wf or am, there’s something you can pursue.

    5. The poster who said that if you are good looking, your background is inconsequential is right. If you’re hot, you’re hot, and people will notice. A korean american girlfriend of mine constantly gets stared at, and I just told her, it’s because you’re different and your beautiful. A few different people have reinforced this-because its true!

    6. A few other personal notes….I do not have trouble finding men who are interested in me, it’s just a matter of finding one who is the whole package. I don’t rule people out because of their background, but I mainly end up dating white or asian or mixed men. Asian men seem to have not fallen for the “bro” mentality (the ones who have are sad though) so you can actually have real intimacy and a future with them. In my experience, asian men are more sexual and more able to have a relationship as well.

    If you are asian and you grew up in the US, it may just be that a classy, smart white woman would be a good match for you. Maybe not. I am more traditional with out being backwards, educated yet possessing social skills, and life experiences have allowed me to have a better understanding of the double consciousness that asian americans have to deal with, in comparision to other white women. The most suprising thing is that I find that I have had a lot more unspoken communication w am than with wm….wm as a whole seem to be becoming lower and lower quality unfortunately.

    So……be someone she will admire, who ever she may be. When it comes down to it, that is what all good women want.

  • 227 Anonymous // Oct 26, 2008 at 7:01 am

    L.W. > thank you for injecting some sanity into this thread. solid, reasonable and lucid thoughts. i agree that the mainstream media in the US continue to corner asians into a stereotypical, unflattering image. yes, there are many capable and attractive asian actors, both in asia and the US, who are available. however, producers, casting directors, and writers, who are white, continue to create roles that are unflattering, epecially for asian males.
    image isn’t everything, but it matters a lot, especially in modern society. those who help to control the media, take part in creating these images and public perception. for example, the black image has come a long way since political and social pressures came to bear on the entertainment industry and actors such as bill cosby presented affirmative images of blacks. since that time, their presence in the media has changed immeasurably.

  • 228 Anonymous // Oct 28, 2008 at 4:47 pm

    Lovely W. you sound very intelligent…just to complete my mental image, please tell me you’re hot!? Got wood, will travel. ;-)

  • 229 Smile // Oct 28, 2008 at 7:19 pm

    God, what a load of racist BS. I’m Asian & grew up in England. Never had any trouble finding a girlfriend: almost all of them were white. There’s no sexier race. It’s entirely 100% down to the individual, e.g whether he takes care of his appearance, his personality etc. If an asian male/white female coupling turns heads in your town, you have one boring town.

    Your whole post strikes me as white propaganda, like the penis thing which is also load of bullshit, it’s as variable as any other race. I don’t know if you’re white (which it sounds like you are) or asian but if you’re asian, you’re doing us a huge disservice.

  • 230 Anonymous // Oct 29, 2008 at 2:57 pm

    to smile? which post are you referring to?!

  • 231 Lovely White // Oct 29, 2008 at 9:37 pm

    To the second poster after me, refer back to what I put down about the “bro” mentality.

    And to smile, if you were addressing me, if you look at what I put, it was that all things are dependent on the individual person, and that I am going on one person’s experiences. I had the chutzpah to be open enough to give my own.

  • 232 Whitty // Oct 31, 2008 at 10:10 am

    Heheh this article was pretty funny. I’m not really sure why white women don’t want to date asian guys. I’m a white girl and I absolutely love the asian boys. But maybe it’s because i’m also an anime fan that likes to study while eating pocky :P I’m currently dating an Asian guy, and hanging out is just as fun as studying with him.

  • 233 Anonymous // Oct 31, 2008 at 1:45 pm

    I probably have it worst. I live in the South of the United States where much of the population consists of Christians and Conservatives. The white population here is 73% compared to the 1.6% Asian.

    Oh yeah, and I’m an asian male without a religion and single. kinda sucks. If being an asian in the South wasn’t hard enough, try being a non-Christian on top of that…

  • 234 Ben // Oct 31, 2008 at 4:16 pm

    My recommendation to anonymous living in the South: MOVE! That’s the same advice I would give to a non-asian living in an area that was 73% asian and 1.6% white, who is complaining about not being able to find someone to date.

  • 235 Anonymous // Oct 31, 2008 at 6:58 pm

    Ben, re-read what I said. I said 73% are white and 1.6% are Asian, not the other way around

  • 236 Shaun // Nov 1, 2008 at 4:29 am

    I’ve noticed two things in the multitude of comments this piece has received…

    1) people prefer being “anonymous” in outlining their oh-so-radical views on a delicate subject… i kinda feel for poor ichigo girl being harassed anonymously by some weirdos aroused by the fact that a white girl likes manga (#225)

    &

    2) I agree with poster “kill this thread plse” (#217) more and more with every passing comment…

  • 237 Ben // Nov 1, 2008 at 5:14 am

    To Anonymous: Please RE-READ my post again. It would be the SAME advice for a scenario, where the stata were reversed for a white person….MEANING, “you, asian male, living in predominantly white neighborhood, having significant social difficulties should move, just like a white person living in an all asian community having difficulty finding a significant other, should move.”

  • 238 Chris // Nov 1, 2008 at 6:28 pm

    I’m eurasian and i have white and asian guy friends. From what i’ve seen, my asian guy friends tend to be more financially stable, dress better, smarter and are more \loyal\ to their partner compared to my white guy friends.

  • 239 KayZoo // Nov 7, 2008 at 12:05 am

    I am a white, attractive American girl and I completely disagree with any comments said thus far about Asian men not being able to “get”/attract white women.

    I am COMPLETELY attracted to Asian men. 100%. I think all Asian people are gorgeous.
    All these “standards” people try to pin on other races, specifically “white people” are ridiculous.

    YES, some white girls are attracted to Asian men. In fact, all of the girls I know prefer guys who are NOT white. Why? Because we appreciate the beauty and embrace the differences between people groups. Also, we’re starving for some culture. I can’t tell you how much I wish my family was more cultured and not just your average “American” family (whatever that is…fricken boring that’s what).
    So, once again, YES some (99% of the girls I know) “white girls” are attracted to Asian men, just like some Asian men are attracted to white girls.
    Please, don’t ever let your race get in the way of pursuing someone you have feelings for. Don’t assume that a girl won’t be attracted to you just because she is a specific race.

  • 240 Asian Guys get the White Girls // Nov 8, 2008 at 9:24 pm

    I really admire anonymous comments they are so brave… lol. Asian Guys should like Latinas more- pound for pound the most beautiful women in the planet.

  • 241 sophia // Nov 13, 2008 at 9:22 pm

    wow, you’re a pathetic little bitch, aren’t you? this article proves it. you clearly have a problem with am/wf couples, but trust me sister, you’re completely off the mark. asian guys are in, and this coupling is becoming more and more popular (i usually see more am/wf couples than the reverse these days). it’s ok– run off to your fat, ugly, pasty, smelly, socially inept white boyfriends. judging from this post, you’re equally repulsive. what a perfect match! just don’t be hating on others because you’re in such a sorry state.

  • 242 James // Nov 14, 2008 at 7:22 am

    This is bullshit. One, Asian guys do love white girls, Two, Asian guys do like white girls and the maturity and thoughfulness is something white girls love when compared to their meathead dumbfuck white counterparts, and Three Asian guys do get white girls, I decided to do what white guys do to Asian girls and it’s been working out great. I’ve been sleeping with these white girls and treating them like shit and they love it. I’m changing the world one white girl at a time.

  • 243 Anonymous // Nov 15, 2008 at 6:37 am

    James, you really need to get some help. Your anger has turned into hostility and have obviously objectified others as they may have objectified you. It is okay to be angry, but strive to know thyself. I encourage you to get professional help. Fellow Asian male.

  • 244 C.C. // Nov 15, 2008 at 6:34 pm

    Here’s the down-low on the white guy Asian gal thing:

    White guys want what every other guy on the planet wants – a decent woman who respects her man and treats him like a king.

    And he treats her like a queen.

    Anything wrong with that?

    White gals have swallowed the feminist B.S. carryover from the 60′s that says ‘me first’.

    Well, you get what’s comin’ with an attitude like that.

    Asian women (for the most part) treat the man with respect. They value family, reverence and a humble attitude (not to be confused with subservient…)

    _That_ is where the attraction comes from.

    Peace -

  • 245 Anonymous // Nov 15, 2008 at 7:04 pm

    To CC: The only possible explanation to your post is either a history of being in special education or traumatic brain injury.

  • 246 Virginia Levsen // Nov 16, 2008 at 1:30 am

    History may play a role in the characterization of Asian males in the U.S. media. Our last three wars, prior to the Middle Eastern conflicts, involved Asian countries as our adversaries so for many Americans, Asians are representative of enemies. And many of those attitudes have unfortunately been passed on to the next generation.

    This board has shown that racism exists on all sides of the issues by many participants. It would seem no one race has a monopoly or anything close to it when it comes to racism.

    For me, the most important traits in a potential partner are intelligence, humor, compassion, and similar interests and values. Being attractive is a plus but not high on my list. I think more people than not also feel the way I do, though these attitudes do become more important with age.

    (Raj, the study you referred to citing white women’s racism at Columbia is heavily flawed research in numerous areas. I think a number of other posts have made that point though.)

  • 247 joey // Nov 20, 2008 at 6:46 pm

    why asians can’t get white girls? cuz asians are too nice. like your post of asians being nice guys. the culture today, girls don’t want nice guys. they want alpha males.

  • 248 korean guy // Nov 21, 2008 at 12:40 am

    i am a typical korean guy who is married to a korean woman. i came to us when i was in junior high school. and i know that my parents only talked about korean girls. even though there were many attractive white girls, i never saw them as someone to have relationship with. other than having sexual relationship with. which is wrong. its simple korean guys have been brainwashed by their parents that only korean girls are relationship worthy. while for korean girls, the parents are less concerned about who they marry as long as they are doctors, lawyers, etc… in korean culture, we tend to uphold man’s status over races. for korean guys, typically we are constantly told by our parents that we need make cute korean babies….

  • 249 korean guy // Nov 21, 2008 at 12:48 am

    oops… to be clear, when i say white girl, it means(american white girls) . most of white girls from europe are fiminine. and are similar in character to girls in asia. white girls from us can’t figure out if they want to guy or girl. to be honest i like girls who are girlish not the ones that fart to make you laugh…. ha ha.

  • 250 Anonymous // Nov 21, 2008 at 5:32 pm

    hey K.G. , I really hope you are not “korean”, because you are an embarrassment.

    sincerely,
    another korean guy.

  • 251 kalle // Nov 22, 2008 at 3:54 am

    You are generalizing too much. I think we have to take into account social strata within the “asian” or “white” or whatever populations and check who pairs with whom.

    I think the heavy skews towards AF-WM and BM-WF can to a large degree be explained by differences in (un)willingness to move up or down in social status: Most white females I see with black males (most, not all!) are from the lower social strata within white population, while the black guys dating them seem to have relatively higher social status within black population (money, fame, education,…). Similarly, most female asians interdating seem to come from relatively lower social status groups within asian population, while again the white guys dating them seem to come from relatively higher social status groups.

    I’m talking only circumstantial evidence here, based on my own observations, I’m not aware of a scientific study of this unfortunately.

    So the question I ask myself is more like why are asian males seemingly not willing to date or marry “down”? Because you will have to agree, it’s almost always the case that if you can’t find a partner, it’s not because there is absolutely nobody else in the world who would take you but because your standards or expectations are not met by those who would and those who meet them do not want you. So why do asian guys not want to date white or black females from relatively lower social strata (relative to their own status within their own population)? Something to do with their upbringing? Why do richer or higher-status black males actively seek white females? And why are black females not willing to date or marry “down” (relative to their status within their own population)?

    I think if you can find an answer to that, you will have a better answer than simply “white guys are this” or “black females are that”.

  • 252 korean guy // Nov 22, 2008 at 9:20 am

    i am a proud kimchi eating tofu loving korean guy. and my comments were frank and there is nothing to be embarrassed about. this is my recommendations for all korean guys out there. if you want to find a right girl(white, latin, asian, black), you need to be proud of your own heritage and where you came from. girls find that very attractive. also girls are very good at reading your mind, which means you do need to sincerely like them to start a relationship. for me i am attracted to asian and european girls. they are different from white girls from us. i can have nice long conversation with them. unfortunately there isn’t much of culture in US. but this is just me….

  • 253 korean guy // Nov 22, 2008 at 9:23 am

    But I love this country I call home “United States of America

  • 254 whitegirli // Nov 22, 2008 at 6:05 pm

    first of all i have pretty bad yellow fever… especially for the “fob” asians, but when i dated an japanese guy over the summer, my white friends thought it was so weird! they always joked around and said “how big is his penis?” that question was really annoying!
    p.s. i just wish more asian guys would be confident because then more white girls would like them

  • 255 Anonymous // Nov 23, 2008 at 7:50 pm

    Hey K.G.: crapping on and insulting other groups of people isn’t very cool…yes, believe it or not; making generalized, insensitive statements towards “white girls” from the US is NOT a reflection of them, but a reflection on your inability to connect with them. I’ve lived in a variety of countries, as well as many parts of the US and there is an “American culture”, which exists. If you truly believe in your statement of loving this country, why don’t you get a little more insight into your own weaknesses and bigoted world view, before insulting whole groups of people.

    another K.G.

  • 256 korean guy // Nov 23, 2008 at 8:03 pm

    can i love this country and not into white girls??? you need to calm down and focus on your own weakness. sounds like you got quite a bit. what part of country are you moaning from?

  • 257 Ben // Nov 24, 2008 at 5:44 pm

    Someone please kill this thread! The amount of brainless babble is getting out of hand.

  • 258 Tai Mai Shu // Nov 25, 2008 at 2:41 am

    Hai dier.

    Mai name is Tai Mai Shu. I am Secks expert ok?

    Basikalle, dier is man and dier is womun, ok? So den, da man put dier penis inside da womuns body, yah? u following me lah?

    wen da whyte womun, see da asian man, she is like, “waahhh, ngoi surng diu cui ah!” and den da asian male is like, “waahhh, sei hoi ahh gwai lo, ngoi mm surng tong lei diu ah! Hui sek see ahh, SEI BAK PO!”

    mai name is taimai shu. I hope u hav gud day. ok?

  • 259 Anonymous // Nov 25, 2008 at 4:19 pm

    This is an excellent example crack cocaine exposure, while in utero.

  • 260 Hapa Surfer in Long Beach // Nov 26, 2008 at 12:55 am

    Bob Marley was born to an English father and Jamaican mother. He was spit on and ridiculed throughout his childhood and called “half caste” by all the other people in his neighborhood. Because of his mixed race, he had no friends growing up.

    “I don’t have prejudice against meself. My father was a white and my mother was black. Them call me half-caste or whatever. Me don’t dip on nobody’s side. Me don’t dip on the black man’s side nor the white man’s side. Me dip on God’s side, the one who create me and cause me to come from black and white.”

    -Bob Marley

    Stop racism, that includes self racism. Thankyou.

  • 261 Kim // Nov 27, 2008 at 1:05 am

    This thread is really long, and posting seems pretty pointless, but I always like to add my input into any discussion about white women + asian men.

    I’m personally fine with dating a man from any race, but have preference for asian males. I am white (although I generally identify as mediterranean).

    My boyfriend (我的男朋友是北京人) and I are the least likely couple. Him being comparable to the stereotype of the typical asian male (he was my calculus tutor, and his mom clearly picked out his clothes for him) and me: the stereotypical white girl (with a few more brain cells (at least I like to think so). **note I’m not saying white girls are less intelligent than girls of any other race, but that they are stereotyped as being unintelligent – just a disclaimer since I’m sure someone would be jumping down my throat, screaming bigot, and self-hater (is that a real term now?) if I had not included that bit of political correctness.

    Moral of the story: white girls are still girls and thus do not necessarily want to make the first move (of course there are exceptions to every rule, like myself). So be confident and go for it. The worst she can say is no.

    However, from my own experience I’ve found that most of the problems with asian male and white female pairings come from asian males and their families. I know in my situation I think my boyfriend’s family is praying that I’m a phase and that he’ll marry a good asian girl… in order to combat this I am learning Mandarin and am in University hoping to become a doctor(note it’s not the only reason I’m doing these things) because I want minimize the amount of tension between his family and I.
    Also, if I speak Mandarin, they can’t make fun of me while I am in their presence (lol).

    中國男人, 韓國男人,日本人, 我都愛!
    我有中國男朋友! 我愛他!
    我常常吃中國飯!
    我學習漢語。

  • 262 asdf // Nov 28, 2008 at 12:17 am

    caucasians = thinner skin, lower collagen = more wrinkles, age faster

    I don’t see any advantages of that ;)

    Learn some highschool biology, you twits.

  • 263 Tdubb // Nov 28, 2008 at 7:09 pm

    I NOTICE A LOT OF PEOPLE ON HERE TAKING UNNECESSARY POTSHOTS @ BLACK MEN ON HERE(ESP. FEMALES). CUT THE CRAP!!! WHATS WRONG WHY YALL SO MAD AT BLACK MEN FOR WHAT HAPPENED YOU GAVE ONE THE BOOTY AND HE PLAYED YOU ? GIVE ME A BREAK EVERYBODY KNOWS WETHER THEY WANT TO ADMIT IT OR NOT WHITE WOMEN ARE CHASING DOWN BLACK MEN IN DROVES AND HAVE BEEN SINCE SLAVERY(AND PRETTY ONES TO ) THEY CANT GET ENOUGH OF THA BROTHAS!! ;-)

  • 264 epiclolz // Nov 29, 2008 at 2:30 pm

    i seriously think that asian male lack of success mainly stems from a SERIOUS lack of GAME. don’t get me wrong I know plenty of asian guys with tight game… but on the whole, it appears this is more the exception than the norm… sure you might have more forces against you in certain environments… so either tighten up your game or lower your standards =) I myself have never dated an asian, and all of my gf’s have always been white… for me where I grew up.. it was easier to pull cute white girls.. than the terrible princess asian girls… I grew up with alot of black male friends.. and those guys had serious game… Thus I hypothesize that alot of ASIAN MALES (due to social programming) have ZERO game…. asian females do not need game because they are naturally the choosers… guys.. tighten up your game… or your not going to be able to pass on those 156 iq genes onto any offspring… ciao

  • 265 Anonymous // Nov 29, 2008 at 5:12 pm

    epicloz, I’m not sure if I need to tighten up my “game”, because “my game” may be the reason I’m such a loser, or is it “my game”, maybe there’s another reason than “my game”, but then again, “I think it IS my game…wait, no…no, it is my game…ohhh man, I wish I had a better GAME…or maybe I should learn to write better…no, it’s not my writing style, it’s my GAME.

    please, please…KILL THE THREAD

  • 266 Anonymous // Nov 29, 2008 at 8:25 pm

    Asian guys with asian wives will laugh at you asian guys with white wives when your white wives look 30 years older than their wives…or even you, for that matter (would you like your wife to be older than you? gross).

  • 267 epiclolz // Nov 30, 2008 at 1:23 pm

    man, do i detect some anger? =p

  • 268 Anonymous // Dec 1, 2008 at 5:58 pm

    epiclutz, you’re right in your stereotype of asians, in that there are many of us that are indeed smart…very smart. for one thing. i know that you are the same person as “Tdubb”, the post previous to “epiclolz”. how do i know? exactly, the fact that i do and you don’t, speak volumes. so, as far as being “angry”, i’d look in the mirror. 156 iq? try 165. ps, take some more writing classes, or just get some more GAME.

  • 269 epiclolz // Dec 1, 2008 at 8:54 pm

    Tdubb.. did you know that your asian?

  • 270 lolz // Dec 5, 2008 at 4:24 pm

    why are u all being stereotypical? lol. there’s always nerds, athletic, and racist people in every race. it’s just that Asians have more nerds. Caucasian people are known to be fat and racist (or maybe just Americans). and African people athletic and dumb. but that’s not true, maybe for the majority. it varies from person to person, family to family, location to location. i admit i’m asian i study a lot. why? because of my parent’s exceptions. it doesn’t really matter what race you are. if u had parents that wanted you to work hard and not be a “bad” kid from birth. then of course your going to turn out different than having ones that just simply don’t care.

    whoever wrote this article must be a complete idiot because this can not and will not apply to every location in the world. also if asians are having surgery to have so called “distinctly” white beauty standards. have u even look into asian culture? then i can say this 1000 years ago larger women were considered “hot” because it meant they were well fed and came from a wealthy family.

    this article is bias as hell because the author imo has no fucking idea what he’s talking about and no solid proof to even back this up. i don’t think he’s even asian from his posts.

  • 271 Katya // Dec 10, 2008 at 10:43 pm

    I honestly don’t know any white girls who really like asian guys. I mean I’m sure there are some that do but not very many. And if they do, they’re usually (and I’m not saying always) the ones who really love and are curious about the asian culture. I’ve never even seen an AM/WF couple where I live but maybe I’m just not paying attention?

    I personally think some asian guys are pretty cute but I’ve never really had the urge to date one. It was never because of their race but just because I’ve never really been extremely attracted to one. But yeah, just my 2 cents :)

  • 272 heydood // Dec 11, 2008 at 2:30 am

    maybe chicks just dig blonde hair. Its hard not to fall for a tall, muscled, blonde Viking

  • 273 Amy // Dec 12, 2008 at 4:11 am

    I am a “white girl” and I love my asian men. I prefer asian men over any race. :D Oh and asian men DO want to & will date us…Not speaking for all…But I’ve had no complaints and have been in serious relationships…Not just flings.

  • 274 Jo // Dec 13, 2008 at 3:09 pm

    I know that people who have a vested interest in these topics would search for them but from reading these comments it seems like alot of white girls secretly love asian guys.

    Which is very different from what I have seen and heard in my life from white girls I know and none of my girl friends have ever mentioned asian men being attractive at least in a physical sense. Although I personally think some are cute.
    I sometimes wonder how many of these “white girls” professing how fantastic asian men are on these discussions are actually asian men talking themselves up.

  • 275 Anonymous // Dec 13, 2008 at 7:27 pm

    kill the thread

  • 276 Vic // Dec 14, 2008 at 3:19 am

    I know the majority of white girls could careless about Asian, but some nerdy white girls do like Asian guys.

    I think it is sad that the Asian girl above Jo, thinks Asian guys are so low that they are willing to confess love from themself. LOL.

    I don’t like self-hating Asian women.

  • 277 Arryn // Dec 14, 2008 at 9:14 am

    I’ve always wanted to date an Asian guy, I’m white, but I’ve just never found one that wasn’t in a large group of other asian tourists. So, epic failure?

  • 278 Anonymous // Dec 15, 2008 at 6:54 pm

    In LA, I see a lot of Asian guys and White girls and two White girls I went to school with married a Japanese guy and a Thai guy.

    White girls and Asian guys are becoming more popular and very common. A lot of Asian kids attend my university and the guys are sick of the girls and their attitudes. White girls are much nicer and less racist and self-hating. They don’t have the emotional baggage that many Asian girls have. Sucks to be a self-hating Asian girl, soon everyone will be sick of them. :/

    A LOT of Asian guys like White girls. They just don’t say anything. But once you ask them, all of them have liked at least 2-3 of them, already and have had crushes on tons of them.

    Good on them, I say. Then again, my dad is Asian and my mom is White (and stunning), so I might be bias.

  • 279 Anonymous // Dec 16, 2008 at 7:25 pm

    This is a stupid fucking thread. Hey moderator, kill it now, dipshit!

  • 280 blondie // Dec 18, 2008 at 12:36 pm

    Ridiculous. If a guy is hot he’s hot, I could care less about his race. One of the hottest guys I know is 6″ tall, totally ripped, an amazing dresser, intelligent, funny, and Korean. I am 5″8, blond hair, blue eyed girl and I am open to dating any guy with similar values who I find attractive. I am inititally more attracted to dark hair and dark eyes (that includes Asian), but have dated a blond guy b/c he was kind and intelligent. I was shocked when I first heard that there was this idea of Asian men being undatable. I was 25 when I first even heard about it being an issue, and think it’s really stupid.

  • 281 Richard // Dec 18, 2008 at 5:23 pm

    Has anyone else noticed the two most viewed posts on this website are white guys and white girls which I think says something.

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  • 283 Cloud // Dec 20, 2008 at 5:35 pm

    Well, I am an asian guy and I am open to all ethnicities so to those girls who are not white, don’t be discouraged to date asians. Anyway, about this case then… I have never dated a white girl but that is because I always thought white girls are always into white guys, they seem to talk about that white guy walking down the street etc. I think I’m a cute guy but obviously there seem to be not a lot of white girls who are not into asians so I kind of gave up, or they are just waiting for me to make the first move. I have heard from a lot of girls they are shy so that might be the reason. However, I don’t think any human being was born being attracted to a specific ethnicity, those people who think that are just retarded. If you like a person, I assume it’s because of the personality and not only the looks.

  • 284 Derek C. // Dec 25, 2008 at 12:48 pm

    Hey guys, I would like to point out none of this really matters. We don’t have to worry about this stuff.

    I’m an asian guy and I think everyone has their own preference. If you think a girl’s hot, then go for it. =)
    I would also like to point out that in the early 1900s in Hawaii, 1 out of 5 white women were married to Chinese men. So who’s saying that this is “impossible”?

    So we should be more like Hawaii and “mingle.” I.e. the black guy goes to the Chinese restaurant, the white guy goes to Cinco de Mayo, and the asian guy goes to see a baseball game. Personally, I feel respect when a black person would come to Chinese new Year or something. So we shouldn’t hate, just mix. Isn’t that cool?

  • 285 Olga // Dec 27, 2008 at 12:55 pm

    I haven’t read all the comments but here’s what i have to say.
    First of all this why white girls don’t seem to like asian guys: 1) they either do like them but the asian guys show on interest so nothing happens 2) looks- they either don’t care about fashion and don’t look dateable or the complete opposite..look totally fashionable and thus the white girls would have to try harder and don’t want to waste the effort to spend all their money on expensive stuff or time on hair styling 3) nothing to do with looks, just simple personality. little things like talking in their language with other people in front of the people who don’t understand is a big turn off because it makes the white girl feel like a third wheel. not to meantion the big thing of knowing that the parents won’t approve and they don’t bother to try to convince them that she is a nice girl and have them meet, etc which shows the girls that they don’t care and are not taking the relationship seriously and therfore they conclude that they jsut want to get in ther pants. the end. quite simple no? bascially the only solution is to forget the fact that they are “asian” (i don’t mean culture wise but convincing themselves of these sterotypes) and just act like any other human and approach the white girls.

  • 286 Mason // Jan 8, 2009 at 4:15 pm

    I’m starting to notice a pattern I should have noticed before: anonymous people just get off on putting Asian men down. It must be about their power, and the society as a whole fears them. When an Asian guy puts his mind to something, there can be no stopping him. I am an Asian male, almost six foot, not tall, but not small, and that right away gives many people reason enough to show incredible fear. Sure, they look for other reasons to put me down, but not knowing me from Adam, there is only one thing that set me apart, and I can only assume there is a lot of fear. When I start talking to a woman, other men come around, and start homing in the girl like flies on shit. There is a competitive edge, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Complacency kills. Challenges ignite power. We aren’t trying to take over the world. We are the world. And our women are the seeds.

  • 287 Anonymous // Jan 17, 2009 at 11:05 am

    I must disagree. This article is, without a doubt, written by a biased third-party, which is not an Asian male. Ergo, they do not have the right to speak on behalf of Asian men. They are bound by the stereotypes of the modern culture. Most Asian men treat all women equally, regardless of ethnicity, like how Asian women treat men equally, regardless of ethnicity.

  • 288 Bella // Jan 20, 2009 at 7:27 pm

    How can you get an Asian guy to like a white girl then? Especially if she is the one that likes an Asian. Since they never make any moves it seems………..?

  • 289 Anonymous // Jan 22, 2009 at 9:54 am

    asian men cant get white girls?? the f**k??? so much negativity on the topic, go do some yoga to relieve stress

  • 290 Anonymous // Jan 23, 2009 at 12:12 pm

    bella i can answer that one for you. in america asian guys think white girls only wants a big D**K. and we think there are only a few white chicks who only likes asian guys. the white dudes always compare asians to theirs. so we assume that white girls also have it in their blood. we then wonder why do so many of them date black man. and we often get rejected. so there you have it. goodluck!!

  • 291 White Girl // Jan 26, 2009 at 6:05 pm

    I love asian guys. I pretty much date them exclusively. Why? 1. I grew up with Asian kids. They’re just more attractive to me. 2. I get the pick of the litter. I am a pretty attractive white girl. This means I’m one of THE most attractive white girls who dates asian guys. So all the guys I date are really gorgeous, and haven’t been trained to be assholes like the ‘good looking’ white guys. Hahaaa I win.

  • 292 Anonymous // Jan 27, 2009 at 9:25 am

    are you the white girl moderator on wgwag.net??

    well if you are then i gotta agree with what u had to say. i wouldnt mind dating you too and im not an asshole but i might be too nice, or maybe not? ;)

    got a picture i can see?

    -Another Asian Guy

  • 293 Aero // Jan 29, 2009 at 7:00 pm

    Hey, I’m a white girl and japanese guys can be HOT! Also, I do know what Bleach is, I happen to read it :)

  • 294 Banna // Jan 30, 2009 at 3:14 pm

    I’m white and I married a Vietnamese guy. Lol Just a reminder out there that it DOES happen. I didn’t know it was so rare. (Well, it is in the deep south where we live, but I thought it would happen more often everywhere else. I guess not)

  • 295 Heidi // Feb 3, 2009 at 3:39 am

    Cool post on here! I’m a white girl who LOVES asian guys. Someone commented on WGWAG.net that site is soooo hilarious and I love that term. “WGWAG”. I am one!!! – Heidi

  • 296 Tyrone // Feb 3, 2009 at 3:59 pm

    Oh please asian guy who wrote the last few posts the best fake white girl name you could come up with is “heidi” that is so cliche.
    Also are you serious WGWAG.net? Since white guys who date asian girls are losers, the white girls who date asian guys are without a doubt the ultimate losers in the dating game. The fact you have to log onto a website to find likeminded people only proves it.
    So funny yet so pathetic.

  • 297 George // Feb 3, 2009 at 9:51 pm

    “Also are you serious WGWAG.net? Since white guys who date asian girls are losers, the white girls who date asian guys are without a doubt the ultimate losers in the dating game.”

    By your analysis the entire state of Hawaii are loosers!

  • 298 Ben Dover // Feb 5, 2009 at 5:00 pm

    Tyrone, here’s my profile of you. White boy, pretending to be black (using the name “tyrone”), fascinated with things Asian (why else would you be here, instead of the “things that white people like” website), insulting Asians? Does that make sense to you? It does to me, but you wouldn’t like my pscyhodynamic profile of you. If you can’t be respectful, get lost. You weren’t invited.

  • 299 Wise Guy // Feb 6, 2009 at 3:23 pm

    Ok I’ve read a lot of the previous posts here, and I feel compelled to inject my experiences into the mix.

    To simplify matters I will subsequently refer to all peoples of Indian/Pakistani/Bangladeshi etc as of ASIAN origin, and peoples of China/Japan/Korea etc as of ORIENTAL origin and peoples as BLACK as having originated from AFRICA and People who the average person would say looked “white” as being European. However these terms are somewhat flawed.

    1) Race is simply a social construct; there is no such thing as race.
    2) Race is a scientific fact; average looking members from one race can be easily differentiated from the average looking members of another.

    You need to realise both the above statements are true, they are not contradictory but simply two sides of the same coin.

    If you line 1000 people (no mixed race) up you can go in any order e.g. from European to Asian to oriental to black and you would find it difficult/ impossible to determine where one race begins and one race ends and then find out that the white blonde/blue eyed girl at the furthest white end is in fact an Arab! One of the best examples of such European beauty I’ve seen was somewhere on the net which was the apparently the result of two non-Europeans who both themselves were from two completely different races (not albino child).

    We came from the same seed; both religion and science testify to this though the practical details are different. Branching off of a race comes from groups geographically moving away from the main pack (e.g. for new resources) and then inbreeding and genetic mutations causes genetic drift away from the main gene pool. If the new host environment is markedly different from the original one then this too can skew in favor of certain members within a gene pool. New diseases can also do this as resilient individuals survive.

    When two or more races that have been geographically separate for millennia re-fuse then a new and distinct hybrid race is produced. Is this not how Asians came about; mutated Africans mixed with Arian?

    So with that in mind why don’t WHITE females go with ASIAN males?

    By Asian which major or sub group do you mean? Asian? Oriental? Or something in between? (Many Orientals refer Asians to be Caucasian origin)
    By white what do you mean? Which area of the world?

    IN WHAT SPACE AND TIME CONTEXT!!

    It would extend the article too much to go into details but genotype and phenotype are very surprising elements of genetics.

    We therefore have to generalise to get anywhere.

    When you put together a group of children (say below 5 years old) they will happily play with each other no problems so when does the racism kick in? Is it something that is promoted socially by parents/society or something that comes out genetically as people age and become more sentient?

    Again both are true. Parents/Society want their offspring to continue the genetic line, because they are scared of change and are subconsciously programmed to defend the race from being “tainted” by “alien influences”. After all it works doesn’t it? That’s why they have been born in the first place; while all the while blissfully either ignoring or being ignorant of the fact that their own current ethnicity may well have evolved from multiple such mixings throughout the millennia.

    Also we are social animals. We used to hunt and gather in small packs many modern tribes still do. We depend on each other and that’s why we have been able to multiply and prosper and thereby well on the way to sucking the world dry. Race is the most misunderstood term in human history, even before the label was invented. Race and Racism is actually false terms used to describe “Tribe” or “tribalism”. each tribe may have its own distinct look and culture which needs to be protected because we don’t like abrupt change in our culture (which includes phenotype), though one tribe ay look and act similar to a different tribe in a different geographical location.

    we are therefore programmed to stick within our “herd” we always think the worst of our tribe will treat us will still be better than the best from another, in the same way we may still love our abusive parents who “chastise” us for the most trivial of reasons because they are still our parents! There is an unspoken contract that we owe each other something and that they want the best for us really (while all the while they destroy our lives) so we ignore the abuse because we feel there is a limit to how much harm they would inflict of us. If we petition to be adopted then we feel that no such vested interest would exist in our adopted parents to see us at least survive!

    In the same way the majority of White women will go from one white man to another being sexually used while putting up with it because they feel that the white men love them really, and “things simply didn’t work out” and ignoring that they got played from one guy to the next. But she will never go out with that “Alien” because she automatically thinks that there is no hope in the relationship even though in reality the “Alien” might treat her with honest affection; much more that the men from her own race! IT’S ALL TO DO WITH SOCIAL CONDITIONING.

    Talking crap am I? Well why then do people volunteer to travel thousands of miles to distant lands and get blown to pieces seconds later in trying to fight a war they never started, against people they never directly had a quarrel with? Its social conditioning, mixed with tribalism (patriotism); and propaganda is the fuel as channeled through the media (ideals/ values machine).

    If the media started to advertise and sustain the Asian/ Oriental male as this seasons must have accessory, then we would see an amazing increase in “sales” of Asian/ Oriental males to European women (maybe slow uptake at first). But that doesn’t happen because the European male run media wants to keep all the European females for themselves and take yours too if he can; by mocking you and keeping you poor so you look pathetic.

    Rather than write a book in it let me cut it short:

    1) Most European girls (EG) would go with Asian /oriental males (AOM) in a situation where social conditioning and society pressures are not strongly against it.
    2) A sizeable minority of EG would not go with AOM even in the absence of outside discouraging pressures because they prefer the look and ways of their own tribe.
    3) Then there are the UG in the middle who would date and sex out of curiosity but not reproduce because they only want European babies.

    Social pressures are they key but other factors need to be satisfied.

    AOM will need to adopt the culture and grooming methods of the UG tribe so as to be more acceptable.

    AOM do not go hunting for females so are not groomed/ sociable as they are introduced to females by other members of their tribe/ elders (this is not the same as forced prearranged marriage which is becoming increasingly rare) it is a bit like a chaperone system. You will need to be groomed and sociable and be able to “ask out” girls gracefully and take rejection in the same vain without letting it affect yourself worth. There is a big difference between confidence and abject shamelessness it is all about context, timing and not being vulgar.

    You will need to be well groomed but still rugged/ manly as this advertises you are healthy mate but one who would not fear to pull it out and stick it in her! You will also need to get into the habit of persuading females to be your companion and time you actions to progress it towards physical relations. Again do not be vulgar and use your judgment (just be gentle and chill out!)

    Make sure you have nice clean (straight if possible) teeth. A nice warm smile is a deal breaker it shows you are fun to be with and are healthy mentally and physically. Nice hands are important too (don’t bite your nails and make sure you clean under them).

    A nice hairstyle that complements your face and frames it well. Hair style also says a lot about you and will attract/ repel certain types of females.

    A dress sense that suits you and is attractive to the kind of women you want. Clothes are advertisement of character and artistic influences and social standing. It says an awful lot about you.

    Height difference is not such a big deal but if the girl is much taller then it is likely to be a problem.

    Girls are not going to come knocking at your door so go do things that will bring you closer to them; it’s called a social life. if you do not want to club then why not take dance class? or art class? This will give you things to share and talk about rather than differential equations and C++ and do not be afraid to make a fool of yourself once in a while and learn to laugh at yourself.

    MAKE SURE YOU BATHE – though studies shown ugly men’s body odor attracts EG??!! Something to do with less likelihood of recessive harmful genes being passed on in ugly white male/ attractive white female pairings due to contrast in individuals gene pool. But this does not apply to non-European males because you might eat different foods to EG.

    THIS IS THE MOST HORRIBLE PART: it is important to have money; few females (though they won’t openly admit it) will take on a broke guy. Even if the girl earns enough to “keep you” this is a recipe for disaster as so many breakups have a financial component. If your broke’ seriously think about dating “down”. This isn’t too bad as the kind of look of girl you looking for will certainly be found in lower social groups though be it in rough diamond form. Being rich doesn’t mean you will produce beautiful children and vice versa, it’s to do with environmental conditions.

    “Dating white” doesn’t have to mean European, there are plenty of European looking girls in Middle East and Asia.

    Reason why black males get hot European girls is simple because they ask……… so why don’t you? Family/ community/ cultural pressure? Religious indoctrination? Or all?

    This was not the case a decade or two ago, but those Black brothers worked their way up from the ugliest to the cuties, while all the while socially conditioning the ones above to think “going black” was a viable option. How bad do you want to go white? Enough to work your way up from the bottom? Perhaps you won’t need to if you follow what I have said above.

    In the end people are people; the worms will not differentiate so should we? so go for the people you want, there is no shame in wanting to share affection with someone, just make sure they love you back spiritually and not just physically.

    There is no real reason to go “white” there are plenty of Asian Oriental Hotties around and at the highest levels European girls look “pale in comparison”. Asian / Oriental girls are also totally loyal and wormer than European females with the added bonus of nicer personality and you can get “cute” with them too :D

    You can “get cute” with European girls too but just like walking down the street being glued by the hands it’s usually fake superficial. The following week they don’t even take your call or recognise you as you walk past. It is a side effect of the dating game that they become sociopathic in this department. European girls may give you their heart (superficially) but Asian / Oriental girls give both heart AND soul.

    The previous article is a generalisation based on my experiences and general knowledge. I do not mean to offend anyone by it and you are more than welcome to post your disagreements about any part of it, but remember it is a general account and specific examples do defy the norm as any normal distribution curve will suggest.

    ALSO TAKE NOTE “GOING WHITE” MAY ENDANGER YOUR LIFE IN SOME PARTS OF THE WORLD EVEN IF YOUR INTENTIONS ARE ENTIRELY HONOURABLE: BE CAREFUL.

    Can’t be bothered to write anymore.

    Peace.

  • 300 Wise Guy // Feb 6, 2009 at 3:59 pm

    UG was supposed to be EG (European Girls) sorry typo error.

  • 301 Wise Guy // Feb 6, 2009 at 4:12 pm

    A nice smile is a deal “maker” not breaker (another typo sorry (type too fast)

  • 302 Wise Guy // Feb 6, 2009 at 4:14 pm

    A nice smile is a “deal maker” not “deal breaker” another typo (sorry typed too fast)

  • 303 T.L. // Feb 7, 2009 at 3:33 am

    Interesting thread. Just wanted to comment on the overwhelming characterization of Asian men as being “shy”, “timid”, etc., which is given as justification for the lack of WGWAGS out there (I love that term too, Heidi! Never heard it before, lol) Here’s another explanation though –

    Many of us American born Asian men don’t ask out white girls, because frankly, we don’t want to deal with all of the racial/social/cultural politics that are involved. It’s just not worth it to us. Probably sounds harsh, but it’s not meant to. Dang, it sounded a whole lot better in my head before I started typing, lol. In my defense, I’ve gotten zero sleep the last two nights. But instead of rewriting, I’m just gonna plow ahead and hope it makes a bit of sense at the end.

    I’m 21 years old. Korean American and a student at USC. And if it matters, I’m six feet tall, 185 lbs, athletic, and consider myself to be very outgoing. I have many friends here at SC (mostly AzAm and mostly Korean), and most of us don’t fit the stereotype of the shy, geeky, and small Asian dude. Heck, I’m not even the biggest one in our group. But none of us is dating a white girl or have a compelling urge to, not because we’re timid or that we’re not attracted to them, but simply because most of us are just a little more attracted to Korean American or other Asian girls. This has been stated indirectly a few times, but it has been buried under the avalanche of this nerdy, shy stereotype of azn men which is a bit annoying.

    Personally, I find all women beautiful. I would seriously give up a year of my life (and one of the good years, like in the forties, lol) for a romantic weekend with beyonce in a faraway secluded place. And I believe I can date outside my race, because, and this is probably going to sound weird coming from a guy, I love to flirt. I may be deluded here, but I think I’m good at it, and I flirt with white girls all the time (in a friendly, non-sexual way), and if I chose to pursue it a little further, I could probably get a date with at least a few of them. But I simply choose not to bc I feel more of a connection with azn girls, especially Koreans.

    For example, I love to hang out with my friends, go clubbing, hit a noraebang afterwards, sing the latest k-pop songs (badly), act like idiots, and then find an all night Korean restaurant. And I absolutely love it when the girl I’m with orders yoogaejang. There is just something so sexy about that, lol. There’s an understanding there that I just haven’t been able to find in the few wgwag (thx again Heidi for this term, lol) relationships I’ve been in. Again, it has nothing to do with the white girls. It’s just a preference that many Asian guys have, but it’s a preference that is not expressed or at least acknowledged enough for some reason, and the stereotype of the socially awkward asian guy takes its place.

    Anyways, I’m rambling. I hope I haven’t offended anybody. That seriously was not my intention. I wish all the interracial couples out there only the best. I truly believe you guys are making this world a better place.

    Take care!

  • 304 T.L. // Feb 7, 2009 at 3:42 am

    Dang it, I meant that I flirt in a friendly, not overtly sexual way. I suck. And I was secretly shaking my head at Wise Guy for so many addendums. :)

  • 305 Yani // Feb 7, 2009 at 1:46 pm

    Yeah its like what T.L said. Our own kind just gets us better cause they’ve experienced what we’ve experienced.
    White girls- try imagine, your parents suddenly tell you ‘Hun, we’re moving to Busan’… first of all, you’ll be like ‘Where the F is that?!!’ And when you get there, your going to feel like an outsider and would only hang out with the white immigrants over there. No matter if you have a zillion Asian friends in your new neighbourhood, you’re constantly going to see in the mirror you just ain’t like them. Sure its great if you can see past the physical differences and only consider whats inside of human beings but hah as if that happens these days, espesh with the media blaring out physical beauty every second.
    In the end, people gravitate towards like-minded people who understand you. No matter what race you are or in which country your in – Chinatown, Thaitown(haha love saying that quickly Thaitown!) Japantown, Koreatown, Little Italy, the millions of exclusively Irish pubs… they all ring a bell?

    Im actually from Sydney, Australia so don’t know the exact situation in America but I reckon it’ll be the same for any Asian anywhere.

  • 306 Rina // Feb 7, 2009 at 2:18 pm

    I’ve just done a paper for Anthropology about race, culture and identities and I find the whole immigrant generation thing a huge factor in someones social outlook.
    THe order of it goes 1.Korean(Grandparents,Parents) –> 2.Immigrant(Half of the generation of Today) –> 3.American(The Other Half).
    So you get the fully traditional Korean parents who have not been exposed to any foreign country,
    then you get the mothers and fathers who are completely confused as to how to bring their kids up-’Do we bring them up in the standard American(i.e.White American) way? or Do we bring them up as Koreans because our blood afterall is Korean?’ The younger, unmarried, mostly student Immigrants have this problem too -Their like ‘Shit all our friends are American and that’s how we act outside our home but once we’re inside our homes we have to change and put our Korean suits on which totally confuses the F outta us and muddles up our future’. This group tends to stick together and rebel against their parents alot by dying their hair a gross orange colour, smoking, bullying younger Asian children(which is unfair as it is Asian culture that even amongst children they have hierarchies that depend on age – its why you see Asians bowing their heads at someone who looks like they’re in the similar age group. Even if he/she was 5 months older you’d still have to be respectful), hardly coming home etc.
    ANd lastly the Americans, most of whom have been born in America or came when they were tiny little tykes(with still quite young, modern parents), or a white American couldve felt like being Angelina Jolie and adopted(or should I say imported?) them. These are probably the ones that are the most comfortable(note how I say ‘most’ and not wholly/fully) in the country and are the ones you see white girls dating cause they consider themselves just another plain American and not Korean. White girls – this is the category of Asians that you will find more success with – because they grew up in AMerica with Americanised parents (or even half white/half Korean parents like me! :D ), they probably won’t know three words in their ethnic language but will be just your average American guy. When I’m with people in this category most white people are surpised to hear that we speak in fluent English and talk about stuf like someone’s 21st party, planning to make a holiday trip in Thailand, which gym equipment gives you quick results or something that they perceive Asians just wouldnt do.
    Most non-immigrants do not understand this situation the different kind of generations have.

    But I’m not saying there isn’t any racism there in the dating pool or any other pool for that matter. My best friend who’s got Dutch immigrant parents and I totally get each other but when it comes to jobs, dating etc, he gets the advantage due to his ‘whiteness’. I.e. he ‘fits in’ with the major population and I still look Asian even tho I’ve grown up like any other white guy in the neighbourhood – and because of this I never got pushed my parents to get extra maths, musical instrument, foreign language lessons like the other Asian guys that I got to know-hence putting me at a further disadvantage (See, the Asians know that unless they are super brainy all-rounders, they will be treated like dirt. This explains why you see them studying so hard and doing so many extracurriculars. Pretty sad aye?)

    Also, Korea is a very homogenous society and for centuries the ideal relationship was based on purity. It’s not meant to be like creating the Asian Third Reich or anything, its just what the culture’s been like. And if you think about it, its what most cultures around the world have been like – even in America there are W.A.S.Ps
    Obviously in the last couple of decades this has changed considerably, although events such as when the American G.I’s stationed in S.Korea ran over 2 girls stirs up the old foreigners=bad feeling. But otherwise you’ll find that if you go to Korea, you’ll just see MacD’s, KFC, Wendys, B&R’s icecreams, all just around the corner. And to add more to the batter, Universal Studios is planning to build another theme park in Korea near the airports. I dunno if this is a good thing – should America be Americanising all these different countries?? As an anthro student, I find having different cultures, no matter how strange one culture may be to another, is a wonderful thing. Wouldnt it be boring if everyone in the world wore a baseball cap, a polo shirt, Levi’s jeans, nike shoes and ate a Big Mac whilst watching Americas nxt top model?

  • 307 International student // Feb 8, 2009 at 1:30 am

    I lived in korea most of my life, i just don’t understand all the fuss about interracial relationships you guys are talking about. I’m a 20 yr old international student currently attending school in california, so please excuse my poor english. First of all, majority of asians, especially guys aren’t attracted to white woman. Is it our fault for not going after white girls? No. Isn’t economic and social status counts everything? Woman seem to love great providers, no matter what race they are. Aren’t most asian-americans have B.A, generate the most income in the U.S? Didn’t you guys already pass caucasians a long tome ago? So if an asian males start going after white women viciously, you’ll have far better chance end up with white girls more than asian girls. Just do the math, there are 100 million white females in this country, and let just say 20% of them are attracted to asian guys, that is TWENTY MILLION white females you guys can pick and choose. That is exactly what’s happening to asian american woman. They get hit on by millions of non asian males, we are out numbered by 1000000X. White girls find us attractive just like white guys find fugly asian girls “exotic”. But the thing is most of asian guys aren’t interested in non asian woman. I noticed that even asian-american guys who are born and raised in states still prefers asian girls. So is it so wrong and geeky for not wanting to date non asians? I am korean, have no problem getting korean girls whatsoever. I pretty much only hang out with international students. Most of my korean friends are dating either korean or japanese girls. But i can tell you this right now. I would NEVER marry asian-american female. To me, majority of them aren’t attractive as girls who are living in mainland, and there is nothing worse than americanized asian who wishes her mother was martha stewart. So you have two choices. Go to your native country, pick the prettiest one who aren’t americanized, someone actually act asian, or study hard, keep moving up, make a lots of money marry a white female.

    This is cyberspace, anybody can say or claim anything. You guys are being played by internet and racist american media.

  • 308 International student // Feb 8, 2009 at 1:54 am

    Rina, i left korea a year ago. I don’t think westerners, especailly english speaking people do not have favorite image in korea. Please don’t think that just because korea does business with an american companies, that doesn’t mean we’re completely open to western culture. And certainly not everyone thinks american culture is superior. This is 2009, we’re not living in 1953. I can safely say that majority of koreans are pretty racist to non koreans. Korean women still get look down upon if she is married to non korean, people still dislike forigners. I do not want my country trun into mini america.

  • 309 dawn Wan // Feb 12, 2009 at 12:34 pm

    i dunno what ur problems are
    all my cousins married white girls and my fiance white.
    Just keep at it…my background is flip btw

  • 310 P.J. // Feb 12, 2009 at 1:53 pm

    Let’s all just stop putting white women on pedestals because at the end of the day, they’re still just that: women

  • 311 International student // Feb 14, 2009 at 6:54 pm

    I could care less if every filipino women on this planet are married to white man. Filipinas also marrying out poor, older korean farmers too. They’re all over in korea.

    Filipinos aren’t asians, they’re pacific islanders.

  • 312 Depp // Feb 15, 2009 at 1:21 pm

    Due to all the fakers online especially the kind this site draws in we need a hall of shame like they have on asiafinest. To the guys on here yes there are some white girls who do like asian guys but I want to post something by jareth chong about the subject. In this instance someone on asiafinest posed as a white girl by stealing some girls myspace pictures.

    “Let me try to explain AS CLEARLY AS POSSIBLE:

    The girl you see in the pictures–her name is NOT Renae. The REAL name of the girl in those picture is JESSICA. The pictures belong to JESSICA (i.e., refer to the first post in this thread.) Now, JESSICA (whose pictures were stolen and being used in here and at MySpace) is a COMPLETE stranger to this place. Most likely, JESSICA does NOT care for or about Asian men or anything Asian. Someone stole JESSICA’s pictures, use those pictures as his/her own, and then call herself/himself “Renae”–in here and at MySpace.

    In here, we have “PureXtasy” who stole Jessica’s pictures and call herself “Renae” (i.e., her banner used to identify herself as “Renae”.) At MySpace, we coincidentally have another Renae, who also stole Jessica’s pictures. Both Renae’s (in here and at MySpace) happen to be into Asian men; both Renae’s happen to have stolen JESSICA’s pictures. Now, use some common sense, and you should realize that BOTH Renae’s (in here and at MySpace) are the SAME person–the SAME person who stole Jessica’s picture, the SAME person who have pretended to be a white chick who is into Asian men. PureXtasy (in here) and Renae (at MySpace) are the same FAKER.

    QUOTE(Tami @ Jun 28 2005, 08:42 AM)
    …a myspace group for white women who like Asian men ( http://groups.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseac…=20050628074029 )

    There are all sorts of online groups out there. Do you know there are online groups for people who have a fetish to roleplay as household furniture? Those weirdos just like to stay still at one spot and do not move for a few hours at a time to pretend that they are household furniture (like coffee table or sofa couch.) They think that is a turn-on. There are all sorts of niche online groups: there are groups for people who want to marry their pets; there are groups for people who talk to their plants; there are groups for people who think they are reincarnations of historical figures.

    As you can imagine, there are not that many people who are into those weird $hits. However, there are enough of them to get together and form a presence and start a group online. I am not saying that a group like “White Women who are into Asian Men” is a niche group like “People who get turned on roleplaying as furnuture” or “People who want to marry their pets.” However, let face the fact: “White women who are into Asian men” is not something that is even remotely mainstream (like “Asian women who are into White men”, “White women who are into Black Men”, or “White women who are into Latin men”.) So, when you see a hot white chick coming in an Asian forum and flirting and teasing Asian guys, you should keep a clear head and be VERY suspicious of her.

    I personally don’t have too much faith in those “White women who are into Asian guys” groups or whatever. Let me tell you a couple true stories: A few years ago, in another Asian forum, a bunch of frustrated Asian dudes started some online group. Those dudes were talking about doing it for some time, and then they finally did it. To me, it was obvious that they were hoping to use that group as a front to hook up with White girls, something they were not able to do in real life, which was fine: people do what people’ve gotta do. So I headed over to that new group they started to check it out. I saw that the group founders were “white women”! Those darn Asian dudes pretended to be white women and started a group for “White women who are into Asian men” to try to get other white women to join!! What is THAT about?!?

    The second true story: there was another (porn) site of a now-quite-well-known Asian man having sex with white women and taking a lot of pictures of it. A lot of Asian guys in here probably know about that guy and his website. Anyway, on his website, he would brag about how he, as an Asian guy, was being a stud, picking up white chics left and right, taking them home and baging them. He would take pictures of the sex and post them online. Well, I knew those chicks. Those chicks were PROFESSIONALS who worked in the PORN business. I recognized those chicks because I knew people who actually worked in the porn business. That Asian dude PAID those chicks to have sex with him. He is definitely NOT a stud. (Sorry to pop your bubble if you wanted to believe he was a real stud.)

    So, I have a realistic attitude about all those websites and groups that proclaim the “sexiness” of Asian men or how Asian men are in demand. I know better. There is A LOT of smokescreens and deceptions going on in those places, and the ego and pride (AND denial) of Asian men play a huge factor in it.

    Sorry for being so despicably honest.”

  • 313 Deep Shit // Feb 15, 2009 at 3:05 pm

    To the guy above why don’t you take care your own problem before bad mouthing asians? You’re the one who is frustrated, that’s why you hanging out in all asian forums. Blonde white girls are the hottest and no one can denie that. And you obviously can’t get one. Black dudes dominate skinny little white turd like you. Poor lil white boy got his ass whooped by black so badly that he thinks he’s going to kick around asian girls to make things even. That’s why you chase after margaret cho clones, eh? lmao at you.

  • 314 ^^^I agree // Feb 15, 2009 at 5:05 pm

    Depp is just a bitter white guy trying to say that all the white women on the internet who do like Asian guys are faking it. Well, he can go ahead and plug his ears and sing ” LA LA LA LA LA LA,” doesn’t change the fact that as this Asian generation gets taller, sexier, and smarter due to better nutrition, white females are starting to take interest in us, and they feel threatened.

    It’s okay though, spread the Asian/white interracial love!!

    But I HAVE to complain! Why is “White Girls” only number 40 on the list??? Should be in the top ten, next to bubble tea. LOL

  • 315 22 // Feb 15, 2009 at 5:59 pm

    The guy who uses the ^^^ in his posts, you are a racist to rival any white skinhead. My question to you is this, if by some chance you end up with a white spouse and have kids will you like them less because they are half white? and your supposedly fantastic asian genetics are diluted? What will you do when you daughter decides she wants to marry a white guy as many eurasian girls do and her kids look white and have a european last name. By the way your science doesn’t work, height is 90% genetic. Thats why asians born in america although taller than those in their native countries are still shorter than black/white americans. A healthly diet only will take you so far.

  • 316 ^^^To 22 // Feb 15, 2009 at 10:44 pm

    Yes, I do agree, height is a large percentage genetic with nutrition being a significant factor in meeting potential. Northeast Asians, like the Mongolians, Manchus, Northern Han, and Koreans have the genetic potential to be the tallest: well over six feet. That’s why we have people like Yao Ming and Bao Xinshu who are the tallest men in the world.

    And no, Asian Americans born in native countries still shorter? I’m 6’0 and my brother is 6’2″. Ever seen a 6’4″ Korean? Yup, I roomed with one. Still though, average white male height is 5’10″ in America, and average black male height is 5’8″ which we are taller than.

    And why compare me to a skinhead? I’m open to interracial love. White females with Asian guys and White guys with Asian females, vice versa. Or just plain non-Asian with Asian. If I have a Eurasian daughter, I wouldn’t care who my daughter marries as long as she’s happy.

  • 317 22 // Feb 16, 2009 at 12:41 am

    To ^^^ i apologise for calling you racist . I had you pegged as the typical bitterasianmale hating on white men with asian women. I suppose its being defensive as I am White and my girlfriend is Asian (japanese) and dealing with the bitterasianmale types. Yes I have seen tall koreans actually they are the tallest asians i’ve seen alot of men 5’9 and above compared to the chinese and vietnamese, the tallest people I have seen are the dutch who average about 6’1, 5’8 for women obviously they are the worlds tallest.

    One of your points I don’t understand and perhaps you could elaborate,” this Asian generation gets taller, sexier, and smarter due to better nutrition”
    Taller perhaps, sexier and smarter? How does better nutrition make you sexier or smarter. If you are ugly being better nourished will not make you sexier and smarter, maybe if you were severely malnourished but that is not the case. I’m assuming you just got caught up in the emotion of your post? Personally I think alot of guys especially when talking on the internet make height a bigger deal than it really is. Assuming you are around average height most girls just want a guy taller than them. I say this being a handsome 5’11 guy and never struggling for a date with asian, white or islander girls.

  • 318 KILL THE POST // Feb 16, 2009 at 8:09 am

    As my friend eddie murphy would say: C….I….L…L… this post. It continues to be a joke; myopic and demeaning at best. Continuing to post helps diminishes us (Asians).

  • 319 Asian guy in taiwan // Feb 16, 2009 at 10:49 am

    If you want to see the real frustrated white man, do some research on youtube “white woman/black man”, or better yet go visit racist all white forums like stromfront, ect. You will see 800000000 frustrated and threatened white man complaining about why aren’t white woman not paying attention to “Superior white man like him”. Obviously many white males aren’t doing well with woman of his own. Maybe white man here should look at his rat faced filipina gf for a reality check. According to you, this land belongs to white man and you control minority woman. What’s your excuse for not getting a hot white babes in the sack?

  • 320 ANONYMOUS // Feb 24, 2009 at 2:19 pm

    I am an educated and good looking white girl, and I love my educated and good looking filipino husband. We just celebrated our 5th year of marriage and our love is strong. For all of you who believe that love has anything to do with race. I pity you. I love my asian man’s soft skin and beautiful smile, and I love that our baby boy looks just like him with a tad lighter skin. As far as asian men always returning to their asian women becuase they are good housewives; this is a silly generalization. Us white women are great housewives too! In all races there are different types of women. Before I dated my husband, I had never talked to an asian guy, and this was not becuase I am racist, but because they never talked to me.

  • 321 reasonable white male // Feb 24, 2009 at 6:28 pm

    stop blaming the media. White men are portrayed as the villain just as much or more as a hero in the media. I understand the Asian frustration but blaming the media is the easy way out, and it takes away ones personal responsibility. Look in the mirror rather than television screen. Improve your confidence in social setting and you will attract females of all races.

  • 322 George // Feb 24, 2009 at 10:23 pm

    “Before I dated my husband, I had never talked to an asian guy, and this was not becuase I am racist, but because they never talked to me.”

    Le t me guess! You must have moved to Hawaii or some part of California. That is where Asian men approach white women.

    “White men are portrayed as the villain just as much or more as a hero in the media. ”

    In shows such as Forensic Files and Snapped, white men are usually portrayed as villains beating up or killing white women. However on regular fictional TV shows and in movies white men are portrayed as heros. Despite increasing frequency of white men dating Asian women, most shows that show interracial relationships portray black men dating Asian women. To mix whites with any other race is not acceptable to majority of the white viewing audience.

  • 323 RR // Feb 27, 2009 at 6:30 pm

    I am asian and I’ve dated a white guy. I’ve always liked them but I sort of grew up with the white crowds too. Then I went to an Asian highschool and I liked the asian guys too. My attraction to the white guys are their pretty cheekbones and outgoing personality. They are just so rugged and scruffy. I love it! All the asian guys I’ve met, that are good looking, are so metro and the ones that are white washed basically date white girls. But I do agree with a lot of people that if the guys are good looking race doesn’t matter. I’m dating a japanese guy right now and he is so fucking hot and tan. =)

  • 324 AM // Feb 28, 2009 at 12:55 pm

    Keep up with the stereotyping and I will hunt you down and eat your dog!

    Seriously, don’t you people think if a guy has the balls to approach any girl, they can and will approach the next girl who’s hotter than you? A “shy” or “reserved” Asian man is probably the safest!

  • 325 George // Feb 28, 2009 at 9:53 pm

    “Keep up with the stereotyping and I will hunt you down and eat your dog! ”

    Now you are stereotyping yourself!

  • 326 anon // Mar 5, 2009 at 12:10 am

    Anonymouse #128
    could you please give specifics on why you think white girls suck? you say “on daily relationship details it’s not so good” do you mean white women are more demanding or neglectful or something like that?

    WiseGuy- #299
    you seem like a reasonable guy who has given this a lot of thought, until the end of your post you’d been fairly objective so why generalize about EG?
    if you’ve had bad experiences with white girls thats a shame, but unless you can prove that atleast the majority of white girls are cold as you say they are, then you have no buisness promoting this generalization.
    you say “It is a side effect of the dating game that they become sociopathic in this department.” I assume this is your explanation and I am simply unable to understand it so could you clarify please?
    A preference for Asian girls is fine just like a preference for brown hair over blonde or vice versa but to imply that white girls only give their heart superficially is quite offensive though I understand from your post that it was not meant to be, so really I am just asking for more details.

    korean J post #63: same question as the others, more details please- why doesn’t anyone want to marry the white girl? cultural differences, perhaps? or is it something else?

    Shell.N #189: “most of the asian guys I know wouldn’t go for white girls because most of them are overweight.” you must be refering to the “white girls” in the United States, where the majority of people are overweight period regardless of race or gender. we haven’t seen the same problem with white girls in Europe or the U.K.

  • 327 George // Mar 7, 2009 at 1:16 pm

    “korean J post #63: same question as the others, more details please- why doesn’t anyone want to marry the white girl? cultural differences, perhaps? or is it something else?

    Shell.N #189: “most of the asian guys I know wouldn’t go for white girls because most of them are overweight.” you must be refering to the “white girls” in the United States, where the majority of people are overweight period regardless of race or gender. we haven’t seen the same problem with white girls in Europe or the U.K.”

    Really?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84H7X5KSfIA&feature=related

    I think most of us wont approach white women becuase we think they are racists and wont date non-white men, which in many cases is true at least in the US! Or in some cases even in if she is willing to date an Asian, her parents and relatives might be racist and she will come with a lot of baggage!

  • 328 George // Mar 7, 2009 at 1:19 pm

    Actually a Chinese millionaire Singaporean who dated a white American woman once in Singapore said that her parents and relatives were very racist and she continuously mentioned that during the time they were together. They eventually broke up. She was from upper class family in Athens, GA. However, they were dirt poor compared to the Chinese millionaire!

  • 329 derek // Mar 9, 2009 at 5:04 pm

    I am a 30 year old American-Asian. I have lived in the US, UK, Germany, Japan and China. In all the countries that I have lived, I never really had any problems dating girls from any ethnic background. As mentioned in many posts before, the trick in getting any girl is a projection of success, strength and confidence. At the mere mention that I am a financier, women

  • 330 derek // Mar 9, 2009 at 5:16 pm

    I am a 30 year old American-Asian. I have lived in the US, UK, Germany, Japan and China. In all the countries that I have lived, I never really had any problems dating girls from any ethnic background. As mentioned in many posts before, the trick in getting any girl is a projection of success, strength and confidence. At the mere mention that I am a financier, women’s eyes and ears immediately perk up (this has never failed even in this horrible economy). If filmed by a slow motion camera, you can actually see the change in their facial expressions! Although I am not the best looking guy, nor am I tall (I am 5’10), my physical attributes do not handicap me. If you are successful and cool, and a woman rejects you then she is going against her own genetic programming (big simplification, but is applicable in most cases). This implies there is something bigger at work, i.e. racism, limited upbringing, sexual orientation et cetera. Thus, you shouldn’t even get involved since there will most likely be a lot of baggage.

    On a given night (if I am up for it), I can approach several women with a success rate of approximately 50% to 80% (measure of success is getting their number). But I rarely call them back – I just do it for kicks. I typically give the numbers to my buddy (who is a FUGLY Asian dude and happens to sleep with different women (of all ethnicities) every week) to follow-up. I do this because he often gets rejected at clubs because he isn’t the best looking guy; but he is my friend and I have to look out for him (I don’t sellout). Also, because it is hella funny! Women please don’t hate me for sharing, but sharing is caring!

    Asian guys should not have a problem getting any woman they desire. Why? Because we work hard and pursue things that really matter in this world. We are academics, financiers, doctors, nurses, engineers et cetera. Women are drawn to success – so go be successful. The traits that your parents have hammered into your head since childhood are incredible assets. You were already ahead of the game before you born, because you were born Asian. When I was kid, there were times I wished I was “white” just so I wouldn’t be teased or called names. But now I am so proud of my heritage and what it means to be Asian-American. I am mentally and physically strong because of my efforts. Unfortunately, as a result, my standards for women have also increased.

    Because Asian women also share a similar upbringing as me, I am more compatible with them. A lot of the white women that I meet in bars and clubs, just don’t meet my criteria. Although they are physically attractive, my so important cerebral connection is not there That being said, I would always consider an intelligent and sexy woman of any skin tone – it just more challenging to find in the places where I hang out. The last woman I dated was blonde girl that was a cheerleader for the Lakers – but we just couldn’t connect at the mental level.

    But please stop all this complaining and self doubt. It really makes us all look pathetic, which is the last thing you want to do. Only losers blame the media and others. Just work hard and be successful and “fortune” will follow. History shows that the successful will dictate social flows.

  • 331 George // Mar 9, 2009 at 6:23 pm

    Perhaps the board should be re-named Stuff White Females Dont like: Asians or Asian Guys! More and more, outside of Hawaii it looks and sounds that way!

  • 332 Asians are Marrying More Asians // Mar 11, 2009 at 11:13 pm

    Quotes from article:

    “Although interracial marriages overall have increased, the rate of Hispanics and Asians marrying partners of other races declined in the past two decades.”

    and

    “The number of native- and foreign-born people marrying outside their race fell from 27 to 20 percent for Hispanics and 42 to 33 percent for Asians from 1990 to 2000″

    http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/03/07/AR2009030701841.html

    Anyone care to make a comment? Good? Bad? Indifferent?

  • 333 George // Mar 13, 2009 at 3:21 pm

    “Anyone care to make a comment? Good? Bad? Indifferent?”

    This is for Asians inside the US only. Does not account for mail order brides from abroad which most likely offsets this phenomenon. Perhaps they are marrying more within their ethnicities. I just dont believe that Asians are marrying other Asian ethnicities, at least among the first generation.

  • 334 asian girl // Mar 15, 2009 at 4:47 am

    i am soo jealous of asian guys right now, im an asian girl myself but my godddd asian girls are the only girls on this planet that make me question my sexuality … asia esp japan, korea, taiwan, china is just POPPIN with super hot, super sexy, super tight banging hot asian girls. if i were you, id go back and get one.

  • 335 cio // Mar 16, 2009 at 5:19 am

    i find that most indian/ pakistani guys tend to date only white girls unless they live in a big city, where they might have a larger group of asian acquaintances. Even then, they still mainly date white girls

  • 336 George // Mar 17, 2009 at 11:20 am

    “i am soo jealous of asian guys right now, im an asian girl myself but my godddd asian girls are the only girls on this planet that make me question my sexuality … asia esp japan, korea, taiwan, china is just POPPIN with super hot, super sexy, super tight banging hot asian girls. if i were you, id go back and get one.”

    Yes Asian American men can do a great service to this country by marrying Asian women from Asia in large numbers and moving them and their families to this country and hasten the day when this country is no longer majority white. Power comes in numbers. Black women could do the same with African men…there are five million African American women who claim that they cant find black husbands!

  • 337 I hope some asian guys will relate with me. // Mar 18, 2009 at 6:29 am

    Alright this is going to seem like a post by just another asian guy but I hope some people will take the time read what I have to say. My post might also shed some light on why some asian guys are the way they are. First off I would like to state that alot of asian guys seem like they don’t get any type of girl because we are to shy to start anything. One of my friends told me that 80-90% of women will give a guy a date if they just ask. With this being said my dilema is that at a young age I grew up amongst alot of ghetto people and the azn population was like .001%. Alot of the girls in my town were african american not that I have anything against black people, but they always called me ugly and asked if I were sleep walking (lol). The insults combined with no-one to really relate too left me as a very insecure child. I was’nt the nerdy asian guy in highschool, but kinda the jock. I played varsity football and in my later days invested my time in bodybuilding. Now that im in college I’ve started to notice girls giving me looks and hints but I try to act like I don’t notice because I’m to shy to respond. My roomate has even told me Im quite handsome, not in a gay way of course. Anyways, the relevenece is that because of what happened at a young age even though I know all this I can’t change the way I grew up. Hopefully with time I’ll become a more couragous person. Bottom line is if your an asian girl, white girl, black girl, etc. it might be best that you let the Asian American guy know that you like him. You might come off as loose or easy but its a hell of a lot better then living your life having to conceal your feelings. Oh and sorry for this long post.

  • 338 I hope some asian guys will relate with me. // Mar 18, 2009 at 6:41 am

    Ah and also for the girls asian, white, or whatever who so-called “exlusively date a race” in honest truth I believe it is out of insecurity. When you find the one you love, the color of your Mr. Perfect it is’nt going to matter. Your going to grow up one day and realize that we are all just people and if your going to love an individual it’s not going to be because of race.

  • 339 Daniel Henney // Mar 18, 2009 at 4:45 pm

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uevE-7dFoNg

    Gweneth Paltrow likes me.

  • 340 Rant // Mar 22, 2009 at 8:11 am

    Woah … alright, I can’t stand it anymore: I gotta say something about all of this.

    I stumbled on this site a couple weeks ago, when one of my friends directed me to it, saying I might find it humorous: and I do. But this pre-occupation with white girls dating/not dating asian guys, the question of resentment towards asian girls when they date white guys, etc, etc, etc, etc, almost seems to be taking up the entire site, and while this could/is seen as an issue, this site is satirical. People need to calm down and lighten up.

    As a white female living in Canada, I find the entire discussion ridiculous, and have no idea where I should even start posting about this, since it seems to have spilled over into multiple threads. (So if this is in the wrong thread, I apologize – same goes for redundant information – I’ve read so many comments on so many different places on this site that it’s all starting to blur together)

    Time and time again, whenever some dude on this site posts a comment (doesn’t matter what his background is, you all have preconceptions and misconceptions about everything), he stereotypes the entire issue and forces his own perceptions onto the girl in question (whether it’s an asian chick or a white one – we are all people, get over it) and the society as a whole. You do not even try to give the girl the chance to tell you WHY the way things are as they are (or rather, the way you think they are), which is no better than some white chick stereotyping asian guys as weak, effeminate, and “too nice” – things that you apparently believe that we espouse to be true – and I cannot even remember if I read that in this thread or the one about asian men resenting asian women for dating white men. (Newsflash, boys, this belief happens no more to you than it does to white guys) And all this “why white/asian chicks won’t date you, and go for white guys instead?” The reasons are ABSURD:

    “Looks don’t matter to girls. Social status does.” (This is an outright lie)

    “Asian guys are too nice. White guys are assholes.” (Another lie)

    “Too effeminate looking for white chicks” (where the fuck is your proof?! Have you even ASKED a white girl about this?!)

    The list goes on and on. Girls can and DO care about BOTH looks and social status, just like you would naturally be attracted to a beautiful girl over a hideous one: stop beating around the bush and trying to make yourselves feel better about it. The only time this doesn’t apply is when the dude in question is loaded to the stars, and then the chick is seen as a gold digger and reviled: she lowered and debased herself because her bloody sugar daddy bought her a designer dress. That being said, looks and social status are not everything: all girls, no matter what their background, would rather date someone intelligent and interesting who treats them with respect, rather than a douche. It doesn’t matter how good you look: if you are an ass, your reputation will precede you, and we’ll avoid you with everything we got. This applies to ALL guys, whether they are asian, black, or white.

    And as for the lack of white girls dating asian guys? It is not because of your looks, not in the least: this couldn’t be farther from the truth. Many of you are extremely attractive, and the fact that:

    A. Many of you care about your appearance and personal hygiene more than most white guys

    B.Treat us with the utmost respect. Seriously, the vast majority of you are the nicest people I have ever met

    C.Have a brain, and can actually hold up an intelligent conversation

    D.Plan to do something with their lives

    makes you very, VERY attractive to us. We would rather date a person who knows how to dress than a caveman that accidently stumbled into the 21st century. We would rather date a nice guy than someone that treats us like shit. We would rather be able to have a conversation with someone who actually has a brain, rather than someone who can do nothing but spew meaningless babble.

    You all have a lot going for you, but still, this so-called problem exists, and THIS is why you see more asian girls with white guys, rather than the other way around:

    1.You let your own insecurities get to you. Yes, YOU. Most white girls would have no problem dating you, but you all seem so paralyzed by a stereotype that has been perpetuated by society that you think there’s no way we would even look your way.

    2.You never approach us. Society grinds into girls from an early age that you should let the guy approach you, not the other way around: it is very rare to find otherwise. And this applies to approaching ALL guys, not just asian. So when you see some white chick that you like, and she sees you but doesn’t say anything, that’s because she’s probably just as paralyzed by insecurities as you are. (Am I too fat, asian guys never like me because I’m white, etc, etc, etc)

    3.A lot of white guys react badly when we date asian guys: like the asian guy resenting the asian chick for dating the white guy. THE EXACT SAME THING. And some girls get intimidated by that. Some. Like BARELY ANY.

    4. The girl in question is either fat/convinced she’s fat, and thinks you would never go for her because she’s convinced she’s ugly. It’s a really big issue. Like the stereotype that wf will never date am, the idea of being fat is usually worse than death.

    THAT’s why you see less asian men dating white chicks. Not because of your looks, not because of your personality, not because of who you are, but because you are letting your own insecurities and the stereotype eat you alive.

    I feel so much better now that I’ve gotten this out of my system. Just watch: in the next 5 posts, I bet someone will accuse me of being an asian guy posing as a white girl.

    Paranoid boys are paranoid.

  • 341 George // Mar 23, 2009 at 6:52 pm

    “A lot of white guys react badly when we date asian guys: like the asian guy resenting the asian chick for dating the white guy. THE EXACT SAME THING. And some girls get intimidated by that. Some. Like BARELY ANY.”

    This is true down in the southern US. There are white guys who wont date white women who dated non-white men. But, then there are white women who wont date Asian men who dated non-white women. Unfortunately, this attitude is common among the western expats in many foreign countries including Asian countries such as China. Know white women who wont date white expat men who have dated Asian women and vice versa.

  • 342 c // Mar 24, 2009 at 1:13 am

    my asian cock is so small that when i sneak it into some white *hole* they might not even notice it. ^sneak attack^.
    white boy: how did u get pregnant? we didnt have sex the past few months. who was it?
    wife: there was this asian guy standing behind me in the elevator. then there was a black out and i felt something small wriggling in my *hole* but when i turned around i only saw him smiling at me. everything happened so fast. U know i dont wear panties.

  • 343 George // Mar 27, 2009 at 4:10 pm

    Stuff White Females Dont like: they dont like to date white males who have dated Asian women..lot of such white American females in Singapore!

  • 344 c // Apr 1, 2009 at 7:46 am

    White guys and asian girls? Dude thats cliche man!

  • 345 Rajive // Apr 2, 2009 at 3:03 pm

    Everyone here should listen to “Mixin’ the Colors” by Iggy Pop.

  • 346 kill the post // Apr 3, 2009 at 5:28 pm

    kill the post. it’s become a bad joke.

  • 347 danaman // Apr 6, 2009 at 1:06 am

    I am an asian guy, for some reason I get rejected by asian girls but I only get dates with white girls go figure… and my current gf is white shes awesome and I am not a twinkie most of my friends are asian!

  • 348 stereomanic // Apr 8, 2009 at 7:48 pm

    man. what a load of crap. Most Asian guys in Asia don’t like white girls..they like their stupid ricers…geez, get your facts right..we don’t need sex..we got erotic anime (hentai) for that…geez…
    white girls…please…they will kill us in our sleep…
    on the other hand, there’s not enough white girls in Asia to pass around. A lot of white guys tho and i love watching them attempt to hit on every asian girl out there thinking that ALL asian girls are slutty and love the white dong…but hey, it’s on how you talk right? i’ve seen guys with the need-of-an-exorcist faces that get the hottest girls (asian/white/black included) and what can i say…some of them got game…now, if you will excuse me, i have some auditing to do and porn to download..i mean songs…

  • 349 jenny // Apr 13, 2009 at 11:46 am

    “”ongolians, Manchus, Northern Han, and Koreans have the genetic potential to be the tallest: well over six feet. That’s why we have people like Yao Ming and Bao Xinshu who are the tallest men in the world.”

    ^

    yaoming is shanghainese not northern han

    average height for :
    koreans: 173.9
    chinese: 172.6
    japanese: 171 something
    vietnamese: 165

  • 350 jenny // Apr 13, 2009 at 11:50 am

    for women chinese are the tallest in asia

  • 351 Hunky Honky // Apr 16, 2009 at 11:51 pm

    I’m white and married to a beautiful white woman. BUT, I’m mostly attracted to Asian girls and redheads. I decided that I want my kids to look more like me, so I went with a white girl. Having EXTENSIVE experience with Asians and whites, my sexual preference is still Asians, not meaning to desparage white girls. I’m just of the opinion that it takes all kinds to make the world go ’round. I think it would be a terrible tragedy if everyone mated with everyone and we ended up with some universal, boring brown skin everywhere. I want to see blacks, whites, Asians, hispanics and everybody else in the world. Makes life ‘colorful’, if you like.

    If you really want a good wife, don’t let silly outward appearances blind you to what’s inside her mind and spirit. Look in the right places: church, libraries, volunteer activities. Find yourself a white girl there and make friends. You’ll be happier in the long run because you found the ‘type’ of person, not the ‘type’ of body you want.

    BTW, I’ve been to Asia. Many Asian women expressed to me the perception that white men are more patient and less violent to women than the local men.

  • 352 George // Apr 21, 2009 at 11:28 am

    “Having EXTENSIVE experience with Asians and whites, my sexual preference is still Asians, not meaning to desparage white girls. ”

    No. you are not desparaging white girls. Just the opposite. You want to have sex with Asian girls and abandon them but the white girl is marriage material! That is precisely what you are saying!

  • 353 white chick // Apr 21, 2009 at 1:43 pm

    well im 12 and have this asian dude friends i have alot of guy friends but for some reason i think im in love and im scared help !!!!!

  • 354 AlaskaGirl // Apr 27, 2009 at 6:38 pm

    I’m a white girl, I’m attractive, and I frequently find myself wanting asian men. For me its not so much a race thing, but I just like darker hair, eyes, complexion. At the moment, I’m crushing on a smoking hot asian/white guy, his mom is Chinese and his dad is white. I’m attracted to east Indian guys, black guys, white guys, you name it. Give me dark and handsome, any race, and I will melt onto the floor before you can even make your way over to ask me out . Don’t think because a girl is white, or any race for that matter, that she won’t want to date you , whether you are asian or otherwise. If you think that way, you could miss out on some amazing women. Approach the women you are attracted to, and see what happens.

  • 355 captian soggy // Apr 27, 2009 at 10:38 pm

    Damn this is funny as hell. Its true about white girls not liking asian guys. Hell even the first picture in this article about white girls and asians guys has a picture of a white guy and asian girl THEY COULDNT EVEN FIND A PICTURE OF THE SUBJECT!!!. Of course except from the movies. I don’t think I’ve EVER seen a white girl with an asian. And there are a ton a asians where i live. Most american girls subconciously want someone who resembles a famous person they are attracted to. Haha and my friends tell me that most americanized asian girls won’t even go out with fellow asians. Thats hilarious. I guess asian guys should finish up what they are doing here (school, work, etc.) and they have a mass migration back to asia afterwords. Hell I think its a great idea. AMerica is over populated and asian guys’ social lives hardly ever break through the “white social barrier” (for lack of better term). Sure there are like about 135 – 36 give or take, white girls who are attracted to asian guys, but they are probably taken by the time you finish reading this sentence. You have to wait for an entire new generation of datable white girls and by that time your 40 or 50 yrs old. Just go back to asia it sucks here for you

  • 356 captian soggy // Apr 28, 2009 at 11:33 pm

    whoops, im sorry, i meant i love asian cock, i didn’t know what i was saying before. they need to go to asia and make more asian men cuz i want to take it up the ass

  • 357 Dude // Apr 28, 2009 at 11:39 pm

    ” Yao Ming is shanghainese not northern han

    average height for :
    koreans: 173.9
    chinese: 172.6
    japanese: 171 something
    vietnamese: 165′

    Actually this is changing due to increased development. Koreans are getting much taller and Northern Chinese are already tall.

    Yao ming’s parents are from the North. He was born in Shanghai. I was born in America, doesn’t make me white.


    for women chinese are the tallest in asia”

    Actually Korean women are the tallest. Quit lying to yourself chinawoman.

  • 358 QueenMiMi // Apr 30, 2009 at 3:40 am

    TWINKIES? Seriously? Isn’t this word related to porn? GAY PORN? XD
    btw I only watch GP, hetero porn freaks me out. >:)

  • 359 George // May 1, 2009 at 3:56 pm

    “You have to wait for an entire new generation of datable white girls and by that time your 40 or 50 yrs old. Just go back to asia it sucks here for you.”

    Absolutely right. However, most of these Asians are Asian Americans with US citizenship. They can play a major role in reducing racism in this country. They should find wives in Asian and move them and their families to this country. If African American women did the same with Africans from Africa or the Caribbean, whites will become a minority in this country by 2024 and racism will decline. However, most African American women think that African men (even educated ones) are beneath them and many Asian American men’s families also think that Asian women are beneath them as they are now Americans! Sadly white men contribute to the darkening of America by marrying mail order brides from the Philippines and Korea than Asian American men because of long-standing prejudices!

  • 360 Margaret // May 2, 2009 at 2:11 pm

    I cannot believe people think White women/Asian men is unusual. In San Francisco where we used to live my Japanese husband and I (white female) were one of 6 couples we knew with an Asian (the rest were Chinese) husband and a Caucasian wife. In Tokyo, where we lived, there were thousands of white wives/Asian husbands. Not all Japanese men, but the vast majority of them were. The wives were from Canada, England, America but mostly from Australia and New Zealand.

    Where we live in North Carolina we are one of at least 15 couples with a Japanese husband/Caucasian wife that we know. And that is just because we are involved in Japanese activities. I’m sure if we knew more Chinese or Indian or Vietnamese families we would know just as many Chinese husband/Caucasian wife.

    There are millions of Asian male/white female couples. I also know Asian male/black female couples (3) and white male/black female (7). If you think these are all “unusual” then you just aren’t paying attention. Wherever there is a large diversity of people you will see every conceivable iteration.

  • 361 George // May 2, 2009 at 7:44 pm

    “I cannot believe people think White women/Asian men is unusual. In San Francisco where we used to live my Japanese husband and I (white female) were one of 6 couples we knew with an Asian (the rest were Chinese) husband and a Caucasian wife.”

    Not surprising. Here in Hawaii as well!

    “In Tokyo, where we lived, there were thousands of white wives/Asian husbands. Not all Japanese men, but the vast majority of them were. The wives were from Canada, England, America but mostly from Australia and New Zealand. ”

    Thousands? Perhaps one thousand, not more.

    “Where we live in North Carolina we are one of at least 15 couples with a Japanese husband/Caucasian wife that we know. And that is just because we are involved in Japanese activities. I’m sure if we knew more Chinese or Indian or Vietnamese families we would know just as many Chinese husband/Caucasian wife. ”

    Unless you are living in the Research Triangle, life is not good for an interracial couple in North Carolina and downright dangerous in many parts of the south!

  • 362 mimi // May 3, 2009 at 10:48 pm

    I dont date asian men or any type of men becuase I have a stereotype of who is best looking or w/e… my husband is asian, I married him becuase he is a good husband, sweet, loyal, takes good care of me, protective, and a good father. thats the stuff I look for in men. people think we dont look like a couple becuase I’m younger than him (in high school when we married), almost the same height as him, and I look like a dumb, imaged obssesed blonde (I’m really not though), and he looks like a mama’s boy (he is! lol). before I knew my husband, I had thought asian men didn’t like white girls because I’ve know alot of racist ones who complain about whites day in day out (about all whites being racist, white girls are fat, ugly, selfish, whores, and cheaters, etc…), so I it just never crossed my mind that I had that option until I started hanging out with this cute korean guy. 5 months later, he asked me to marry him. 3 years later, we are still married & gonna have a baby! :D

  • 363 Neon_Princess // May 4, 2009 at 7:31 pm

    Okay, I am a white girl, and I LOVE asain guys! I get asked out by several white, hispanic, and african american guys, but I always turn them down. I got yellow fever and I am DAMN PROUD OF IT!! All of my friends are asain guys, not to mention that I refuse to go out with almost any other race, even my own. Asain guys are so quiet, gentle, and also very hott! Plus, I am very into the asian culture. My friends are teaching me Korean, and I plan to move there some day. So, just so you guys all know…I LOVE ASIAN GUYS SOOOOOOOO MUCH!

  • 364 Qiutian // May 6, 2009 at 2:08 pm

    I see a different sterotype amongst this whole subject. Guys are guys; thinking with thier package rather than brain. Asian guys are oblivious to the hormones that are inactive in thier body until the pressure of the media & culture here in America starts to englup them. Thier competiveness to fit in or to be the best is what drives the asian male to pursue white girls. Just in opinion, white girls do emit that fantasy like dream to a sheltered asian guy. Asian girls are too pre-occupied with beauty to do anything “fantasy-like” gestures or actions to asian guys, there for they go to the next option in beauty, white girls.

  • 365 ming // May 8, 2009 at 6:38 am

    Ultimately you’re attracted to whomever you’re attracted to, and that’s what you should go after. Say whatever you want to say about the social construct of race or a racist Hollywood and media – if your opinion is so easily swayed by what you see on the television/internet, then why would anyone (male/female/(“enter race here”) want to be with you.
    I wrote about a coupling I really don’t like. Check it out for further discussion.

  • 366 George // May 9, 2009 at 2:06 pm

    Ultimately more white girls and women are more attracted to four times divorced murder suspect and pedophile (who communicted with a minor and then married her as his fourth wife) who also happens to be a police officer in Illinois versus any straight-laced Asian male professional…

    http://www.suntimes.com/news/peterson/1566234,CST-NWS-drew10.article

    At least that is what statistics will tell you! Now, dont mistake me. It is their right, as long as they dont ask me (the taxpayer) to use the FBI to look for them!

  • 367 Jooren // May 11, 2009 at 3:27 pm

    In Europe, AM/WF is not a trend yet, except in France.
    I have been cursed to like WF than asian women…

    Still looking for a white female who likes this asian :)

  • 368 Chichi // May 11, 2009 at 3:53 pm

    Buahahah!!!I am a white north european girl (ok ok woman).. Ever since I was born and knew anything about life,i have told my mom that I will have asian man and children in the future… Weird isnt it?? And for my whole life up until recent years,I did not date ANY asian men… Always wanted,never got to do it… But dont get me wrong,Im not into those lovely men just for the reasons so many white girls these days are.. It is fashionable to have asian guy.. Like I said,I was born this way… Haha. Actually the fact that most asian men are smart,can help with home work and so one,is one of the elements that turns me on.. o_O And the eyes :P ~~~ hhmmmm.. Anyway.
    I havent been “hunting” any asian men,but lately it seems like I have more than enough of them.. One is enough for me.. Well atleast my country is full of ladies crazy about asian men.

  • 369 Chichi // May 11, 2009 at 4:10 pm

    Oh and by the way.. I couldnt resist talking about it… Since I heard it from some of my old co-workers alot.. I do not think asian men has smaller penis than any other men….
    Size of the penis is not mesurment of how much of a man someone is or isnt!!!!

  • 370 Jooren // May 12, 2009 at 1:58 pm

    ChiChi, which country are you living in? whuhahaha, here where i am is called Holland :P

  • 371 James // May 23, 2009 at 1:02 am

    Personally, I have to say white girls have better morals. Asian girls sleep with white guys because then no one in their community would know, or at least they lie to themselves as so. I’ve dated a lot of asian girls, but in the end I’m marrying a white women. I’m a white guy, but my best friend is asian. We have discussed this and this is what we have come to believed. Asian girls are just sex toys, nothing more; while white women are soul mates!

  • 372 Zwip778 // May 23, 2009 at 6:27 pm

    One thing that asian-american don’t know is that they will never be respected as mothers. I am an attractive half asian half russian guy, look a little more white than asian (if I say I am asian, people would laugh at me but if i say actually half, they can see it) AND i do not respect my mom at all and do not talk to my father.

    I am a half asian male that was born in the US and feel bound to my asian brothers that are attacked and rejected by asian-american women like my mom and all my aunts. Though I personally do not have problem dating girls (believe me or not, I do not care, anyway, it is internet, I could be a liar but I am actually a big player), I just cannot stand that my asian sisters act the way they act.

    Asian women, go marry white guys that have asian fetish, but never will you be loved by your sons. Because they will know in which stereotype you fit, and odds are that even though they are not full asian and probably better looking than the average, they will not like this anti-asian man stereotype.

    That’s all I had to say.

    PS: Of course, we do not like our fathers that are usually white dudes that got this yellow fever a little bit because they do not have enough balls to date and feel secure with white girls. My father is the kind of stupid white american (with russian origins) that supposedly love asian culture but the truth is that he just love asian women because easier.

  • 373 Maddyyy // May 24, 2009 at 10:32 am

    My opinion is: who the fuck cares?! you fucking racist people. what the hell is the matter with you?

  • 374 George // May 25, 2009 at 8:06 pm

    “Personally, I have to say white girls have better morals. Asian girls sleep with white guys because then no one in their community would know, or at least they lie to themselves as so. I’ve dated a lot of asian girls, but in the end I’m marrying a white women. I’m a white guy, but my best friend is asian. We have discussed this and this is what we have come to believed. Asian girls are just sex toys, nothing more; while white women are soul mates!”

    Oh really?

    http://books.google.com/books?id=S3aiAw5l90oC&pg=PA223&lpg=PA223&dq=white+women+premarital+sex&source=bl&ots=pK8nVUn3S5&sig=WKja4-7alDCt5TO6T3eb9HDT2D4&hl=en&ei=SVwbSs-pKsaJtgfr1NniDA&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1

  • 375 Princess Sammi // Jun 2, 2009 at 10:34 pm

    In post #78, CoolDustin82 wrote: “But black girls and Asian guys should try each other out more often.”
    It will be the coldest day in the deepest part of hell before an East or Southeast Asian man even looks at a Black woman. The only possible exceptions are multiracial (Alicia Keys) or light-skinned (Beyonce) girls because they look “less Black”.
    TELL THE TRUTH, ASIAN MEN: When it comes to dating Asian men, Black girls need not apply.

  • 376 sanrio the asian lover // Jun 8, 2009 at 12:57 pm

    I’m an all-american white girl and to me asian guys are soooo much hotter than white guys. All of the white guys I have dated have been cocky, ignorant, irresponsible, and really dumb. I mean I’m sure there a few white guys out there that are sweet and caring but I have yet to encounter one. When it comes to Asian guys I have never met one I didn’t like. All of them are so nice and smart and they treat all women with respect like a real gentlemen should. I also love the fact that they are very family oriented and have a strong love for each member of their family. The only problem that Asian guys have is that they are not confident. They think that no white girl is going to talk to them but if they just say something sweet with their cute accent then they can have any girl they want!

  • 377 anon // Jun 10, 2009 at 12:42 am

    Asian guys and white girls make a really good pair, from what I’ve seen. The biology department at my university is full of white girls and Asian guys in relationships and they’re all either married with kids, engaged or they’ve been together for several years. We’re all friendly science nerds so we get along really well with each other. We have some incredibly gorgeous and happy families over here, you would be surprised.

    I’ve talked to a lot of Asian guys, both American and foreign-born about this topic and all of them, I mean literally every last one of them, thought that white women were beautiful and had no issues dating one, would like to date one, etc. The desire is definitely there. I encouraged several of them to be more bold and within a few months, they had girlfriends. It wasn’t that hard, honestly.

  • 378 Monica // Jun 10, 2009 at 2:15 am

    Um, I am a white female and must say (if talking on a superficial level), the best sexual partner BY FAR I ever dated was a full Chinese (1st gen) guy. (not that he didnt have other good attributes too). IT’S ALL ABOUT THE PERSON.

  • 379 Michael // Jun 14, 2009 at 6:39 am

    I’m a Honkie and while I do agree with some of the things brought up in the post, I think that it is complete garbage to say that Asian guys don’t get non-white girls.

    It is actually not that uncommon to see Asian guys with white girls. I personally have never dated an Asian girl in my life; my ex girlfriend was italian; before that: polish, african and even lebanese. My current girlfriend of 3 years is Turkish for goodness sake!

    The guy with the name “HKGuy” raises some good points which I can re-iterate.

    If I can give some tips,

    #1 is lose the coke bottle glasses, get some contacts for goodness sake. Take some pride in the way you look!

    #2 hit the damn gym, get on some weight gainer or something, girls want to feel safe and want someone who weighs more than them! They don’t go for the stick insect look! No need to be a bodybuilder, just look like a real man not a 12 year old girl.

    #3. Keep the hair short, bit of spike, none of these long bangs garbage and definitely none of this streaked hair garbage.

    #4. Fix up your fashion sense, white girls won’t go near you if you dress like your mum dressed you at school.

    #5. Last and most importantly, get rid of the victim mentality and ACTUALLY TRY! If you have a chip on your shoulder acting like people aren’t going to date you, of course you’re not going to get any! Out of 10 approaches I’m sure some non asian girls just won’t bother, but there are plenty of white girls who don’t mind asian guys, just that they aren’t given the opportunity!

    Allot of asian guys seriously need to grow some balls, or remove the shrink wrap from their penises and TRY.

    STOP BEING SO PASSIVE AND WEAK guys!

  • 380 Michael // Jun 14, 2009 at 6:51 am

    In terms of the approach, cut the bullshit and be direct. Don’t play the friends role, or you’ll end in the “let’s just be friends” situation.

    For goodness sake just ask them out for coffee, flirt, add some sexual innuendo and don’t talk about warcraft and other boring shit.

    The most important thing I can say is honestly better yourself, get off your asses and TRY.

    Most girls have no problems dating asian men, its just that they are so damn passive and pussied out, they don’t even try yet they complain! Get the chip off your shoulder, cut the inferiority complex and get out.

    Who cares if you get rejected? It is 5 minutes of embarassment (if that) and then life goes on.

  • 381 Victor // Jun 14, 2009 at 7:04 am

    http://www.aznlover.com/

    An entire site of Asian guys with non-asian women…

    Nuff said…

  • 382 Anonymous // Jun 16, 2009 at 3:57 pm

    As a white girl, let me just say that I find asian guys extremely attractive. I’m not sure why, but I’m almost always more attracted to them than to other caucasian guys. The only problem is, THEY ALWAYS DATE ASIANS! Well, obviously that’s a very general statement. It just seems like among the asian guys I know they aren’t even interested in white girls, always talking to me about the girls they like (*all of whom are asian, as it happens). It just seems like they wouldn’t even consider girls that aren’t asian. So there you have it, sometimes the girls actually really like asian guys, but just feel like the guys aren’t interested at all.

  • 383 Josie // Jun 17, 2009 at 8:49 am

    I don’t know if I’m catorgorized as white or Asian. I’m part Eskimo, part Korean, and half-French, but I do not look Asian. People say I look 100% Hispanic, or 50% Hispanic and 50% Caucasian. Some say I look 1/2 Asian, 1/2 Hispanic, and so many other combos.
    Honestly, I think I look Caucasian with Native American and Asian. Lots of peole say I’m pretty and
    I don’t look like any race; they say I look like a race of
    my own. But my mom looks 100% Asian and my dad looks 100% white because he is with the blue eyes and blonde hair.
    Anyways, I can easily find an attractive white boy, but it’s frusturatingly difficult for me to find an
    Asian boy. I love love love Asian boys (Eastern; Korean, Philipino, Chinese, Japanese, Hong Kong, Vietnamese, Taiwanese…and any I forgot to mention) But every Asian boy I asked out says no. Even (not to judge) a short, heavier, nerdy Asian boy denied me. I never had an Asian boy. One time, this beautiful Vietnamese boy, John,” I asked him out and he replied with a letter, Eew no sorry, I don’t like white girls. Even if you are part Asian you don’t look it.You actually think I’d even go near a white girl?! Your funny.” He is a jerk. But I am going
    to give up on Asian boys. It doesn’t work for me.

  • 384 jenna // Jun 17, 2009 at 9:07 am

    im a white girl, not to be vain but im very pretty. i only had dated white boys, and a bad thing happened at a party. a boy i knew, who is korean, chris convinced me to drink. i am a straight a student, and i dont usually do those things. i think he’s very very very attractive, but what he did to me is quite deplorable. he got me to bed with him when i was drunk, and then i soon realized i was pregnant at 19. I told chris i was pregnant but he did nothing for me. i had two twins at 20, a girl and a boy. they’re so cute, and they look nothing like me!
    the asian gene is very dominant. fortunately with the help of my mom, i am now 27, and i am a nurse.
    i told the

  • 385 jenna // Jun 17, 2009 at 9:12 am

    i ended up marrying a vietnamese man, andrew so the kids would never question their identity. i had another girl with andrew. we plan to never tell the twins that andrew is not thier biological father. but i guess theyll have to find out someday…

  • 386 Blanca // Jun 19, 2009 at 7:06 pm

    I’m a model, and I ONLY date asian men. Sure, some white guys are hot, but only an asian guy makes me blush like mad walking into a room. Oh, and I’m also a huge nerd. In my spare time I read manga, manwha, manhua. I spend 2 hours a day playing videogames, and the rest of the time, I’m reading manga or watching anime. That is of course, when I’m not busy modeling. My input is, asian guys are gods greatest creation. And sometimes I like to help them with their calculus home work. ;D

  • 387 david // Jun 20, 2009 at 1:40 pm

    I’m a Vietnamese boy and I feel so discouraged… I love Caucasian girls. But they don’t like me. And this pretty Albanian girl in my chemistry class, I asked her out, and she gave me a look like, “You’re so funny, why would I consider even talking to you?!” She shook her hair and said, “No, sorry.” I’m not bad looking, either. I consider myself socialable. I can easily find any Asian girl, but I want a white girl. They just find us undatable. And I do think I’m a banana or a twinkie.

  • 388 david // Jun 20, 2009 at 1:46 pm

    I guess some Asian dudes can get white girls…

  • 389 Ashleigh // Jun 21, 2009 at 12:07 am

    I’m a White Australian female and I have never had a white boyfriend, I have just dated asians.

    However I think its hard for white girls to get asian boyfriends when allot of them have been brought up to only be with asian girls.

    Asian guys make the best boyfriends, and shouldn’t be seen as undatable.

  • 390 Anonymous // Jun 21, 2009 at 1:46 am

    Normally I wouldn’t care about this whole issue, and never thought about but some of these trolls on here are a joke. Come on “Blanca” spanish for white is just a lazy effort. After seeing on many internet forums asian boys putting white men down and pretending to be white girls doing the same (when using multiple accounts after being exposed on each previous one all coming from same ip address) , its become an issue. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years and gave no thought to her being asian but apparently its an issue to alot of asian guys seeing a white man with an asian woman. But seeing as how asian guys have decided to wage some sort of hate war against wm/af I’m fighting back.
    As someone going into the advertising business I’m going to counter your hate by pairing white males with asian females whenever possible.
    Just researched your azn lover. Nice try, it gets approx 75 hits per day majority of them azn boys, yea real popular. Also predictions for 2010 census have even greater gap with way more wm/af to the opposite, the stats show a widening in other countries such as Australia as well. If you don’t believe it just look it up.
    Here’s one guy who’s not putting up with this shit anymore.

  • 391 Korean Guy // Jun 22, 2009 at 7:32 pm

    Wow..you people are really interested in asian girls. Good for you people.

  • 392 hxl // Jun 22, 2009 at 11:38 pm

    “…But seeing as how asian guys have decided to wage some sort of hate war against wm/af I’m fighting back.
    As someone going into the advertising business I’m going to counter your hate by pairing white males with asian females whenever possible.
    Just researched your azn lover….”

    LOL Sounds like someone is feeling insecure.

  • 393 Mari // Jun 24, 2009 at 2:06 pm

    Okay ..Im’ trying to get what Princess Sammi has said…and I think I want to tell her to stfu…still I have no proof to the opposite of what she’s saying that “It would be the coldest day in the deepest part of hell before an East of Southeastern man even looks at a black woman. For all my recent on asian guys I hope that’s not true..oh for the sake of life, I hope that’s not true!!!!!But I digress regardless whether Princess Sammi’s statements have any basis in reality..To her I still say stfu you are not being logical…-_-

  • 394 Mari // Jun 24, 2009 at 2:08 pm

    Okay ..Im’ trying to get what Princess Sammi has said…and I think I want to tell her to stfu…still I have no proof to the opposite of what she’s saying that “It would be the coldest day in the deepest part of hell before an East of Southeastern man even looks at a black woman. For all my recent crushing f on asian guys I hope that’s not true..oh for the sake of life, I hope that’s not true!!!!!But I digress regardless whether Princess Sammi’s statements have any basis in reality..To her I still say stfu you are not being logical…-_-

  • 395 XOBlondieOX // Jun 28, 2009 at 3:18 pm

    i am a white girl and i happen to LOVE asian guys, i love the different culture, the way they look, YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL, smell so gooood! really smart, funny, into everything i love. I find white guys boring, lazy, not so smart, Times are changing and i see so many more white girl/asian guy couples now (in the UK), i think they have a happier relationship too. I think the prob is most white girls are too scared to ask you guys out =S
    MARI: asian guys love black girls too luv, as do most men :)
    source: my chinese freind

  • 396 Lyn not LIN! // Jul 3, 2009 at 12:43 pm

    My fiance came to CA from Taiwan at age 12, and he refused to keep to other FOBs. He is very outgoing which is why I love him. He is tall and handsome just like any prince charming should be. He towers over me, and I am 5’8″! He is part Mongol to help you picture how an Asian guy can be so tall.
    He asked me if I would mind dating an Asian, as if I would say, “ew… no,’ or something.
    I have dated enough short & sometimes hairy white guys to know that race isn’t so important.

  • 397 Small Feet // Jul 3, 2009 at 1:55 pm

    Check out this great documentary. It talks about the medias influence on people, specifically Asians. Topics that it discusses:

    -whys asian girls want to be white
    -why asian girls get eye lid surgery
    -why they rather date white guys
    -why they dye their hair blond/brown
    -why they bleach their skin
    -why they say negative comments about their own race

    Please watch this and tell me what you think

    http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-9142171923095749295

  • 398 Princess Sammi // Jul 4, 2009 at 7:55 pm

    “Mari // Jun 24, 2009 at 2:08 pm

    Okay ..Im’ trying to get what Princess Sammi has said…and I think I want to tell her to stfu…still I have no proof to the opposite of what she’s saying that “It would be the coldest day in the deepest part of hell before an East of Southeastern man even looks at a black woman. For all my recent crushing f on asian guys I hope that’s not true..oh for the sake of life, I hope that’s not true!!!!!But I digress regardless whether Princess Sammi’s statements have any basis in reality..To her I still say stfu you are not being logical…-_- ”

    STFU, huh? Have you seen any comments from ASIAN MEN telling me that I’m a liar or that they DO like Black women? No. Know why? Because they know that what I said was true. How many Asian men have you seen with Black women? Not a bunch of online pictures, but couples that you’ve seen with your own two eyes? You even said yourself, “still I have no proof to the opposite of what she’s saying…”. Look, if you’re a Black girl (especially a dark skinned one) that likes Asian men, just hang it up.

  • 399 Princess Sammi // Jul 5, 2009 at 7:12 pm

    I clicked the link & all I saw was some naked fat White dude with a REALLY small dick getting tasered by 3 fat ass cops.

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  • 401 Linds // Jul 11, 2009 at 6:41 pm

    I’m white and i ‘ve liked and asian guy before only once though but i don’t like someone like that a lot.i would think of bleach first as the anime then as the stuff we use for laundry =]

  • 402 Korean54 // Jul 12, 2009 at 10:10 pm

    @ Princess Samie

    Im just going to tell you this from my experience. Im not going to lie I’m an asian guy and I will profess my hatred towards alot of black people. I grew in a prodominently black neighborhood and went to a school that was about 40% black 50 % hispanic and well you get the message. I’ve noticed with a *group* of black people you have to act, talk, and dress a certain way to be accpeted. Becuase of that I started dressing ghetto and slowly I started adopting ghetto ways. Anyways if I didn’t I would be ostracized and at the age that I was I just wanted to fit in. Black people always want to fight and be gangsters luckily for me I was fit and tall so people did not try to mess with me much. The same can’t be said for my poor smaller older brother who got bullied all his life by black people for being azn and for being a easy target by the group of black people. My parents always told me that asian people and black people are different but I never believed them, becuase I always thought were people are people. After a couple of years and moving a more even mixed race community I found my true identy to be an “AMERICAN” asian not a ghetto thug. I somtimes look back and laugh at all the idiotic things I did and how my speach deteriorated into slang. Black people have always done wrong to my family. My family owns a small store and a mojority of the time when we see stealing or conflict is almost 80% of the time with a black person. The other day we almost got robbed by a couple of black individual and I was scared becuase I thought I might have to take some1s life or lose mine. Okay with all this being said my views on blacks and in general black women are set in stone. I know what everybody says “Oh no your just being narrow minded people are people” and yes I know that is true but I found that a majority of black people sadly fall into that category and the reason I give you a little of my background is because I know damn sure that I’m not the only guy or asian guy thats been under these circumstances. So there you have it, thus the reason “I” in general will probably never date let alone marry a black girl.

  • 403 Korean54 // Jul 12, 2009 at 10:19 pm

    Oh yeah sorry for a couple of typos its late at night and im a bit tired. Anyways I know im going to get the argument that there are bullies of every race and etc. but I found that in general black people will tend to bully others more often and in groups. This can be applied to everything that I posted regarding race its my personal experience and from what I see im not alone.

  • 404 Princess Sammi // Jul 13, 2009 at 2:15 pm

    Korean54:
    I, for one, won’t make any arguments with you because I understand what you’re saying. I’ll be judged (by you) for something someone else did. Even though you don’t know me from a can of paint, I (a Black female) am automatically deemed as dangerous or evil. At least you’re honest. Thank you.

  • 405 .............. // Jul 13, 2009 at 10:30 pm

    God damn it here we go again. not this asian guy white girl shit. AM i the only one whos seen alot of asian guys with white girls? where do you people live who say i always see asian girl with white guy but never the other way around. Im white and hav alot of asian freinds cause i grew up around alot of asian people. Some of them are dating white girls, and some of them are sticking with asian girls. Wtf is the big deal. U cant expect there to be a perfect ratio of interracial dating. Im sick of this white and asian crap. U guys are arguing over something meaningless. Get a life and dont discriminate. if you luv someone then u luv them for who they are, thats all their is to it.

  • 406 Alexis G. // Jul 14, 2009 at 9:24 am

    Are you serious?! Asian boys are the ones who reject white girls! I love Asian culture, Asian boys, and I think Asian girls are so beautiful. White girls love Asian boys, Asian boys hate white girls.

  • 407 Karen Song // Jul 14, 2009 at 4:32 pm

    I am a Korean girl and I just can’t get excited over Asian guys. I love Black and Indian guys. The feeling of their dark skin rubbing against my skin really turns me on. One of these days I am planning to have a baby and I want it to be part Indian or Black.

  • 408 Korean54 // Jul 14, 2009 at 11:56 pm

    @Princess Sammi

    Ah yeah, and sorry Princess Sammi if your seriously discouraged or what not. Truth is that when you find a man truly its not going to be because hes azn, white, or black. Not to say that every man or women doesn’t have thier preference, its just a natural tendency of humans and theres nothing wrong with that. I’m sorry about my current views and everything you say is true that im “judging” you but its not to say that every individual view it as how I do. So I guess what I’m saying is just keep your head up the right “Man” is out there for you and if your trully desire an asian man your just going to have to break through the stereo types by being yourself and show the other individual that your just another human being. And I know I’m contradicting my previous post but both thoughts always clash in my mind.

  • 409 Korean54 // Jul 15, 2009 at 12:04 am

    @ Alexis G.

    Agian it just depends on the individual, a majority of time when I was younger I got urgghh hes ugly becuase I looked soooo different from what thier used too but as I got older I found more girls take interest in me. Not to say a majority of girls still wont give me a time of thier day or it seems like it… but isnt this a dilema for most men…

  • 410 Robert // Jul 15, 2009 at 7:03 pm

    As a white guy. Though asians say I am half white for some reason cause my dads greek. Well the fact asian guys cant get white girls is a myth. Confidence goes a LONG way when aproaching them. I have a friend Mike who is second generation vietnamese all he dates is white girls and he has the capacity to go through them like papertowels if he so pleases. Because he always has a good smile and is extremly confident in his approach. One as a skeptic what they say about penis size is a Myth as well. So this will give you some confidence if you are worried about your endowments as this is a major factor for men. It came from a Greek tradition where if you had a smaller penis you are thought of as much smarter. Thats why you saw greek statues with men that had smaller penis’ and a good body. Using geometry in correct proportions they believed this was the body that was in harmony with nature and one with the universe. White people used this methodology in buying slaves back during the slave trade. Slaves with a larger penis sold for more money cause they believed they were strong but stupid so they cannot rebel. While those with smaller penises were feared because they thought they were smart and would incite a rebellion. They took whatever they could the ones with smaller penises were just sold for less money, they also were quite popular cause to them it was a bargain and owning them was a status symbol. So many died along the way they made sure they sold every last one and they did not break even every time. Later they claimed they had larger penises as evidence they were ever closer to animals and they cannot intermix for fear it would destroy the white peoples evolution. Evolution and its bastard offsprings like Lemarkism was popular at the time when they were seperating european ethnic groups in the mid to late 1850′s. Of course this all lead to the whole Nordic’s being racially superior and the abuse of psuedosciences by Hitler to manipulate the german people to give them pride when they were demoralized after the treaty of Versailles. This seems to continue because of the porn industry. White people are the majority in the US at around 74% ish so white guys with an average sized penis was not really a big deal people do not care. If you read some blogs from porn directors about the subject they will tell you how its not true and the great labors involved in finding black guys that were up to snuff. There are hardly black guys in the US that are average. Generaly they are only attractive with a larger penis and that is the only reason people watch. Black men on the whole are not really that attractive to white women. There was a news article where it showedd a list of a female pornstars “Conditionals”. I have to be a little more explicit but this was what they wrote in what they will not do on camera like anal. One of the most common was they did not want to be with black guys. This had to do about black men though if your black and your reading this you will have the same chances as anyone else if you graduated from college and “Talk White” though it is just the accent all educated North Americans speak english asian, indian whatever. You will come some data from good science scources showing asian men with smaller penis’s than the rest but here is some information that it does not tell you. One of the major factors of growth in people is Diet. The Dutch during the early 1900′s were the shortest people on average on earth beacuse of the flooding of farmland there was not much food to go around so there was not much material for the body to grow taller. That valuable protein the body needed to grow larger to compensate for a bones mass without that you will not grow as much as your genes dictate. Now with easy access to food they are now the tallest. You will look at Height differences between Rural Chinese and Urban Chinese. Average height of Rural Chinese is 6 inches shorter than Urban. 5’1 to 5’7. This is because they have less money and need to sell as much food they grow as possible to be able to live. Because of this they do not have as much food as they want while Urban Chinese are much better off and do not have to live hungry as chinas economic state is much better. Also know there is also a greater difference between a western diet than the east asian diet. In the west the average westerner eats 3 times more protein a year and a third of the vegetables. After all those facts are stated the asians that are more assimilated into western society are actually much taller than thier counterparts from the genetic region. You have grown up eating the western diet ergo the reason why you are much taller on average than the ones back in your region of genetic origin. The data that comes from those studies are inconclusive as the penis size asian males living in the west vary greatly about degrees of “assimilation”. Even though the average length of an asian man in an asian country is not SOOO small that women really give a flying fuck about. In the end I wrote this in hope of giving interracial relationships legitamacy. Like if a white guy dates an asian girl I hope you know its not about penis size. Or a white woman dates a black guy because of his penis size. Instead they have fealings of mutual attraction and love. Do what I do when before you ask a woman out. I watch 300 which makes me feel hardcore and badass. You guys have plenty of outlets to give you confidence which in the end is one of the most important factors. No I am not going to take more time to proofread.

  • 411 MF // Jul 16, 2009 at 9:45 am

    Asian guys like white girls but not all of them, because most of the asian guys judge white girls on their faces. Anyway, my friend gave up white girls cause of stupid racism.!!

  • 412 RLY // Jul 16, 2009 at 9:49 am

    100% SURE ASIAN GUYS DON’T LIKE BLACK GIRLS

  • 413 Princess Sammi // Jul 16, 2009 at 8:21 pm

    “RLY // Jul 16, 2009 at 9:49 am

    100% SURE ASIAN GUYS DON’T LIKE BLACK GIRLS”

    Elaborate, please. Tell me more. What are you trying to say? Are you an Asian guy or a Black girl?

  • 414 SpankRamen // Jul 16, 2009 at 8:50 pm

    Asian guys can hook up with ANY RACE OF WOMAN THEY WANT. Get on youtube. Better yet, jump on http://www.aznlover.com okay? That is a site dedicated to Asian men & the White & BLACK (hello!) women who love them. There are also a couple Latinas & a few of your Asian sistahs. I’ve seen Asian men with Black girls before (in STL)! It’s rare, but they DO exist.

    Asian men who like White girls, be confident
    White girls who like Asian men, be cool
    Black girls who like Asian men, be nice
    Asian men who like Black girls, be not afraid

    Spank has spoken

  • 415 SpankRamen // Jul 24, 2009 at 6:35 am

    Actually it was the White guy that got owned in the end.

  • 416 Anonymous // Jul 28, 2009 at 5:55 pm

    Are you kidding me? asian boys are sooo hot. Way hotter than white boys, who are so *sigh* boring. Not only sexier, they are much more polite and they dont act so obnoxious either. (in my experience, not being racist here!) I never realized how sexy they are but not im married to an asian boy and :) :) :) very happy….
    i get really pissed when people say that asian guys have the smaller weiners. exactly the opposite!!

    korean54, btw, korean boys are especially sexy so don’t feel unnatractive!! :)

  • 417 John // Jul 29, 2009 at 7:35 am

    Although I still am attracted to Asian Ladies physically I have been fortunate, or unfortunate, to have gotten to know many Asian ladies of different ages and to different degrees for over 30 plus years. I can say that there are many similar traits that many do have at least Koreans and “ethnic Chinese”- don’t know any Japanese girls (from various Countries including the US). One of the most irritating is a tendency to be self centered. As a professional with a lot of experience in my field who works with Asians (men and women) it has been irritating to me when Asian women especially show a lot of attention and consideration when they want something from you. During this time they almost make you feel like you are the most important person in the world to them. I had one girl who went “ga ga” over me even and told me she was head over heels in love with me (even though I was married). Fortunately I am not a total fool so I just took it as a complement and treated her kindly. But for a period of a few months she treated me like some kind of Prince (which was an incredible ego rush and overwhelmed with with attention, kind words, and even small gifts — ). NO SEX – I did NOT want to go there. However, when this girl got what she wanted (technical info. mostly, plus money and some expensive gifts too .. yeah I’m pretty stupid) and felt I couldn’t do much more for her she became distant, aloof, and more formal … although she was still not willing to say “goodbye” since I mentioned maybe it was to move on… I have a suspicion that she thinks that “maybe” she’ll need me in the future so doesn’t want to burn the bridge totally. I’m a nice guy unfortunately so if/when someone asks me for help I always try to acommodate… it’s how I was raised. I would say this is not just an Asian thing except that I ran into it more than once with Asian Ladies who are from Asia (not born here)… several times as a matter of fact. The “worst” are with Asian ladies/girls who want to come to the US. I can only say in this case “BEWARE” — their motives are all self serving period…. do not trust anything they say about commitment, friendship, etc. I am sure “some” are honest and sincere, but how do you know? I sure haven’t figured this out. On balance I would say that, sure, people are people and there are certainly self serving manipulative women (and men) in many cultures, but as a whole I saw it more with Asian girls … mainly the Chinese ones that’s true, but I have seen it in a couple of Korean girls too … going way back to when I was in College even. One other thing … I think Asian girls “KNOW” that they are attractive to many (not all) white American men… so they use it to their advantage and don’t think twice about it. I have five lady Chinese coworkers/friends who are not like the above at all, but what they have in common is that they either aren’t attractive by normal standards or don’t “think” they are attractive. They are really nice. No games. No manipulation. Just real friendship and good working relationship… and when you get past the issue of sexual attraction and manipulation and playing games (per the above) I find that the qualities of dedication, hard work, seeking to excel, devotion to family/children, really “are” part of Chinese culture and are great qualities. Guess in the end while I used to be pretty naive about what I thought Asian girls and ladies were like (devoted, sacrificial, hard working …. ) I have learned that, while many of these things are true, there is another side and it’s not very pretty. If you can laugh about it and take it with a grain of salt when you run across it then you’ll be fine, but don’t believe everything you hear…..especially if there is money involved…. as Tracy Ulman said in one of her skits where she played an Asian Lady selling apples …. she was sweet until her customer took the apple then the mask comes off … Gimme Five Dollah …. and before you call me a Racist … one of my good Asian Lady friends who is a Professor in China told me “everything” I said is true and she worked in a Translation Office where most of the lady translators were all planning and talking about how they would “rope” a Western guy so they could get out of China … several did .. and were divorced once they got their green cards. Be careful out there.

  • 418 danaman // Aug 1, 2009 at 10:52 am

    I guess I defeated all of those stereotypes. I am an ABC and I have more asian friends than I do have white friends. I am very much asian and I don’t try and date only white girls, I have actually tried to date asian girls most of my life but failed, instead white girls love me and I have only dated white girls. :P I can’t make a comparison since I have never been on a date with an asian girl before… but white girls are awesome :) I love my white girl!
    http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc1/hs166.snc1/6213_258242840248_665045248_8126424_3001141_n.jpg

    http://photos-d.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc1/hs150.snc1/5573_248022580248_665045248_7869611_784614_n.jpg

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  • 420 The true me // Aug 13, 2009 at 12:05 pm

    Hey Princess Sammi most asian american guys arn’t racist you just don’t have any asian guys approach you because we feel that most black girls wont give us of time of thier day, I mean c’mon your like pretty much like 1 out of 10,000 black girl that show an interest to an asian guy so don’t give up. Same thing can be applied to most girls of other races we simply don’t think you gals have interest in us so we don’t even attempt to chase.

  • 421 M. // Aug 13, 2009 at 2:22 pm

    Hi, I am a Dutch-Asian guy but I’ve never felt attracted to Asian girls and have never dated any. I actually exclusively like white girls, and a specific ‘subtype’ also, namely the ones with a Nordic physique. I find it interesting that the girls that are with Asian guys are most of the time also the type of girls that I would prefer. Is it so that Asian guys in general prefer a specific type of white girls, or it really only me?

  • 422 Anon // Aug 13, 2009 at 6:58 pm

    FWIW I have a natural attraction to blondes.

  • 423 Joe // Aug 15, 2009 at 7:44 am

    Hi I’m Chinese-Australian (lived in Canada for a while too). Personally i find asian girls to be very sexually attractive, which has to do with how they are portrayed on the internet… and also because I’m asian. That being said i feel like white chicks (and black/indian chicks too) have much better personalities, as I tend to have a whole lot more fun dating and being friends with them.

    To asian guys: if you see a nice white or black girl you like just talk to her and treat her really nice… like a princess. For example you can spoil her with surprise gifts, warm love notes when she has a hard day at work, and a date to that French restaurant she always wanted to go to. Set up something special for your special lady and remember to be cool like a spring breeze ;)

  • 424 Joe // Aug 15, 2009 at 8:12 am

    One last thing about the stereotype that asians have small pecks… i don’t know if it’s true or not. Let’s just say that “my friend” *wink* who is also Asian, has a 7 incher though he is only 5’8-9 tall. Why the whole issue of size has evolved into such a big issue astounds me though…

  • 425 Josie // Aug 16, 2009 at 7:04 am

    Like I wish I was considered Asian but because I
    don’t look it, people think I’m not. I’m 50% French Canadian, 25% Korean, and 25% Inuit.
    People say I’m beautiful, but I just don’t look Asian AT ALL. My mom looks 100% Asian, but anyways. I love Asians and White boys, but I can only go out with white boys because Asian boys don’t like me. And can someone answer my question please. You know Mririan or Magibon on Youtube? Is she really Asian? She’s adorable no homo anyways!

  • 426 John // Aug 18, 2009 at 2:03 pm

    In spite of everything I say using my brain and reason I “still” am addicted to Asian girls. Some day I hope there is a major Scientific break through that explains this. One girl who blew me off a few years ago has recently gone through a rough time so as a good guy I called her up and offered to help her through. Now we’re good friends again and I forgot the past hurt feelings and she acts as if nothing ever was wrong. Another girl overseas who was here for a year, but returned home, now emails me every day (after almost a year !!!) and even though she is pretty demanding for my time and attention I don’t mind …. cause I kind of feel the same way about her. This is weird. With the risk of sounding pretty screwed up I wouldn’t mind having several Asian wives …. maybe I was just born in the wrong Country and the wrong Century. Oh well….. (sorry girls — I know this sounds really really bad…. and I “DO” believe in equal rights for women too…. go figure). I grew up watching Nancy Kwan and France Nuyen in movies and I was hooked ever since. Damn Asian girls are just adorable. Love em all.

  • 427 Anonymous // Aug 18, 2009 at 11:08 pm

    I never hear about asian guys liking native american girls : (w

  • 428 Amber x3 // Aug 19, 2009 at 7:53 pm

    Hah, Well… I guess I’m weird then, because I’d date an Asian guy in a heart beat! =3
    They’re cute, even if they are geeks. The only thing that MIGHT bother me is their height, lol. xD Yeah, most of em aren’t tall, but I’d still date them. :3
    (If only we had more asian guys around here, eh?)c

  • 429 Amber x3 // Aug 19, 2009 at 7:54 pm

    Hah, Well… I guess I’m weird then, because I’d date an Asian guy in a heart beat! =3
    They’re cute, even if they are geeks. The only thing that MIGHT bother me is their height, lol. xD Yeah, most of em aren’t tall, but I’d still date them. :3
    (If only we had more asian guys around here, eh?)

  • 430 SGT // Aug 20, 2009 at 8:44 am

    I disagree. I’m a white woman with serious yellow fever, and I’m not alone. I haven’t had trouble getting white, black, hispanic guys, but for some reason I never any luck with Asians! Common, y’all!

    My friends’ theory is that either I’m too forward or my boobs are too big. Thoughts?

  • 431 Anon // Aug 20, 2009 at 11:01 am

    Oh my. Big boobs? I would love to have you. :O

    I’ve always liked white women. I just never went after them cause I thought the cultural gap was too large.

  • 432 George // Aug 20, 2009 at 11:56 am

    “Common, y’all!”

    With that statement you made sure you will never attract too many Asian guys. Fair of not, they will think you are from the south and that most of your relatives are in the klan. Many Asian guys wont approach white women becuause they think (1) most of them are prejudiced or (2) you have close relatives who are racist!

  • 433 Eva // Aug 23, 2009 at 6:46 am

    George – I’ve lived in the southern US my entire life and I have never heard one person saying anything racist against Asians. It used to be so, because of political events, but not anymore.
    I’ve lived in Alabama, Florida, Tennessee, Kentucky, and Mississippi.
    Also, white people are no more prejudiced than any other race and I am sick of that stereotype. In every country, there is racism. Yet “white” people take all the blame for it. It’s ignorant. Quit listening to the media and actually read about world events.

    As a white woman, I can give my opinion on why we might be harder to date. (I didn’t know we were.)

    1) It’s true that we do like confident men. Confidence is a desireable trait in either sex, but is especially appealing in men. We like to think our men are strong and responsible enough to take care of his family. Plus, it just makes people more attractive. If you don’t think you are worth knowing, then you put off that vibe to others.

    2) Asian people tend to look more youthful and child-like to us. The soft, small features, smaller stature, and round faces, for example. We are just used to seeing more mature features and that is what we tend to be attracted to. It makes for very attractive women (youthful, cute), but is not as desireable on a man.

    3) I prefer a guy that is short, because I’m short, but many women in the U.S. like tall guys.

    4) Young white women want to have fun while we can. We are pressured to be young and beautiful, and our confidence fades very quickly as we age. We date guys that also like to have fun, so we can be youthful for as long as possible. If it’s true that Asian men are more interested in manga and homework than going out on the town, then that may be a problem for white women. (I don’t actually know if that’s true, because I don’t know any Asian guys personally.)

    5) I have known a handful of Asian women and their families are very polite until their daughter tries to date a white guy. They have all been very strict against inter-racial marriage and only accept other Asian men for their daughters. Is it not the same when it comes to their son dating white women? Or is this just uncommon in Asian families?

    6) White women in the US tend to be less attracted to thin guys, so putting on a few pounds of muscle would probably help. We like men we see as strong and masculine. You don’t have to look like the Hulk or anything. (I find bodybuilders repulsive.)

    7) Intelligence is hot in any race, so please don’t be afraid to embrace it!

  • 434 Anonymous // Aug 24, 2009 at 5:56 pm

    Interesting study of physical attractiveness in China

    http://ccr.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/42/3/248

  • 435 George // Aug 28, 2009 at 9:28 pm

    Eva:

    I suggest that you stop the stereotyping of Asian men first…Asian men look small..geez! What I told about the southern whites is accurate…you sound like one!

  • 436 Mike // Aug 31, 2009 at 4:47 pm

    What a ridiculously superficial generalization you have written here. It’s a bunch of utter crap.

    First of, you’re comparing different races of HUMANS! Being a twinkie is nothing like “a single kitten growing up in a midst of puppies.” Those are different species of animals you moron.

    In addition most of the asians I know do not try to adopt “white beauty standards”, they adopt generalized beauty standards. Beauty is beauty, it’s a mixture of health, vitality, and confidence. Not everyone considers “large eyes, a thinner pointed nose, a longer face, and fair skin” attractive, a Caucasian can have all those features and still look like horrible. In fact, most asians already have fair skin. Beauty is beauty, and there’s no such thing as caucasian beauty standards, it’s all about balance and attitude.

    Secondly, you refer to asians being good at math, computer skills, and being too nerdy. If these are the same culturally assimilated “twinkies” you talk about in you’re previous paragraphs then you are highly misinformed. Asians males growing up in a predominantly white community are into things their peers in the white community are into, therefore when they talk about meeting up after school with a girl, it is to make out.

    I am an asian american, and I have had relationships with girls of all different races, including white girls. My friend is married to a white girl and he does like “Bleach” the anime. It’s not about race, and the only reason I see asian male and non-asian female relationships fail is because TOO MUCH EMPHASIS IS BEING PUT ON THE RACE FACTOR.

    Your article reads like it was written for a seventh grade cultural studies class. Do more research.

  • 437 Human // Sep 1, 2009 at 7:44 pm

    Just a note to post 43 (Tex). You are obviously uneducated to even write the things you did. You seem very bitter against white people in general. You call white girls hoes – quess what – there are alot of loose women in the Asian culture (Indian) including married women who have been forced into marriages against there will and then find another man in the office they work at who treat them like queens. So next time you are kissing your wife – think again the next time she leaves for the office – the joke is on you. I have seen it to many times to count. Go perfect Asians!. Remember those without sin cast the first stone.

  • 438 George // Sep 3, 2009 at 2:12 pm

    “You seem very bitter against white people in general. ”

    Bitternees is the end result of white skin worship! Especially the worship of white females!

    On the flip side, the best solution to a White woman nagging and Asian or Black man to assimilate is to ask her out on a date. That will show us how much the white woman is committed to assimilation! Tell her no date, no assimilation!

  • 439 Shawn // Sep 12, 2009 at 3:48 am

    Let me just go tell my white wife that I’m not suppose to successfully woo her 5 years back and got married, because this article says that asians can’t get white girls. And what is up with this status crap? I prefer white girls because I’m not into asians. Heck I use to prefer hispanic girls too, but my wife and I found each other through med school. This article is half full of fails, other half is just funnily wrong. (is funnily even a word? well it is now)

  • 440 AznSue // Sep 12, 2009 at 8:58 pm

    Asian Guys and White Girls! Definately a cool match!!!

  • 441 Matt // Sep 15, 2009 at 4:19 pm

    http://www.ryersonline.ca/articles/3022/1/Mixed-couples-have-best-of-both-worlds/Page1.html

    Looks Like White guys with Asian girls have the best of both worlds according to this article.

  • 442 George // Sep 25, 2009 at 1:26 pm

    Yesterday in the CSI show, a Hong Kong Chinese millionaire pays a white guy to kill his son’s white girlfriend in Las Vegas. Probably white women/Asian men couples have worse of both the worlds!

  • 443 Liv // Sep 30, 2009 at 3:06 pm

    I’m a white girl who only dates Asian guys. They are just so adorable…and smart. According to the article, I’m not supposed to know what Bleach is, but I was reading the manga and watching the anime long before my Chinese boyfriend and I started talking about it. I must be a 22 year old freak of nature. haha.

  • 444 fjeiwofjoie // Oct 1, 2009 at 5:19 pm

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z6MNvg40x3g&feature=channel_page

    White chicks can’t resist asian boys

  • 445 George // Oct 6, 2009 at 10:49 am

    Here in the US, majority of white women are obsessed with skin color, white skin color and having pure white babies..

    http://www.readwriteweb.com/archives/white_guys_suck_other_insights_from_okcupid_study.php#comment-161393

    Dating or marrying an Asian defeats that purpose. Note from the article, white women are the only one in majority who say that they strongly prefer dating only white men.

  • 446 Nobody // Oct 6, 2009 at 12:44 pm

    George, I think you are the one that is racist. Considering that (unscientific) poll was taken in the US, the results are not surprising.

    If that poll was taken in asia it would show that asian men/women have a strong preference for other asian men/women.

    Get over yourself. You’ll find a girl one of these days.

  • 447 George // Oct 8, 2009 at 11:07 am

    “If that poll was taken in asia it would show that asian men/women have a strong preference for other asian men/women.”

    No. Asians wont prefer other Asians becuase they look alike. Chinese will marry Chinese, Vietnamese will marry Vietnamese, Japanese other Japanese, etc. Not Chinese prefering Filipinas over whites because they look alike..only white Americans think that way.

    Suggest you get over yourself and get yourself educated about Asia before you spew garbage.

  • 448 Yang // Oct 10, 2009 at 1:55 pm

    Women are just need to be considered and get attentioned, I’m asian girl ,during my whole life (24years )it is just easier to date with white guy,they catch the signal fast and easier to hang out with, asian guys are harder to start with , cos they are rarely take the first move

  • 449 JSL // Oct 11, 2009 at 2:05 am

    I am a Chinese guy. 5.10, 160lbs. I am good looking too, and fit. I am an Enginnering student at UCLA. I just wanna say:

    I am really into White girls. I will marry one.
    In fact, I will only date white girls and marry one.

    DID YOU HEAR ME??

  • 450 got-rice // Oct 11, 2009 at 10:38 pm

    My nieces and nephews are all part Caucasian, since my cousins married outside the race.

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  • 452 SweetHeartguy // Oct 21, 2009 at 3:33 am

    If you have the qualities to trap any girl and if a white woman sees that u have such qualities and smells u, as soon as she sees u , she gets instantly aroused and attracted and smiles and talks to u with lot of interest , she herself comes to u, gives a shakehand, introduces herself, asks about u and falls for u. (even if she is a white supermodel) Its my personal experience.

  • 453 SweetHeartguy // Oct 21, 2009 at 3:44 am

    Hey there, I am ready to Love and marry a WHite girl if we click for each other.
    Any white girl Welcome. Not necessarily American. Im not crazy for a green card or something. A relationship based on love and understanding and a friend for live companionship in all ways is what I need.
    She may be american, croatian or any european country as that is what attracts me.
    PS : Even a white looking indian girl will do based on such kind of beauty and other qualities. Its just a preference
    Ive also seen other indian women who want a white guy only for love and marriage. U see, so its just based on personal preference. So Contact me soon.

  • 454 Powerful asian // Oct 24, 2009 at 10:59 am

    I’m 6’1″ 210lbs Powerful asian MAN. I’m bouncing my chest right now. :) . Beside my physique, I’m like any other person. I like white women but I rather have a woman that has a good heart.

  • 455 sweetheartguy // Oct 26, 2009 at 6:16 am

    Hey Powerful asian, that is good, great indeed that u have a good heart girl or else if that is missing , a man can become poor in all ways.

  • 456 Misso // Oct 29, 2009 at 9:34 am

    I am from Finland and my wife is Chinese. We are very happy together and have been for almost seven years now.

  • 457 sweetheartguy // Oct 30, 2009 at 3:35 am

    Thats really great to know Misso. 7 years is a great time , so u were destined to be with each other.
    Some link in the past births brought u together, else u wouldnt have come together. Great! God Bless.

  • 458 sweetheartguy // Nov 6, 2009 at 10:55 am

    Hi Galz, I want some sound from white gals too. Plz make some sound!
    I want to see ur opinion and what u think.

  • 459 Haley // Nov 7, 2009 at 7:36 pm

    I’m a white girl and I guess I’m a nerd too, I like Asian guys but am way too shy to talk to one. :P

  • 460 ben // Nov 7, 2009 at 8:38 pm

    Don’t worry, asian guys have the market cornered on shyness. I guess that means we’ll never talk to each other.

    :cries: :)

  • 461 Jake // Nov 7, 2009 at 11:45 pm

    Oh snap, I just realized you’re in college. So you’re what, 21, 22 tops? That kinda says it all.

    The REAL problem might be that you’re still a BOY, meaning you don’t have much life experience. Everything sucks badly when you’re a young buck, brother. That’s just the way things are, but you’ll be laughing in half a dozen years – don’t forget that men have a much longer shelf-life than women.

    Hang in there, take your knocks like everyone else, LEARN FROM THEM, and in a few years you’ll be cleaning the fuck UP. I guarantee it. You’ve got the looks, the body… all you need is some time.

    Best of luck – your lack of relationships is probably not because you’re Asian or unlucky. It’s mostly because you’re young and don’t know what you’re doing.

  • 462 J // Nov 8, 2009 at 3:06 pm

    Waaaaat. (!?)

    My previous post was edited down to ONE paragraph (#461), so it makes absolutely no sense now. Might as well just delete that one too, “Peter”.

    Thanks a lot, pal. Jesus.

  • 463 Sweetheartguy // Nov 9, 2009 at 3:52 am

    men have a longer shelf life than women…

    A man who does wonderful things and makes the world better is much more worth than a thousand gorgeous women….. I agree……

  • 464 asdf // Nov 9, 2009 at 5:36 am

    #463, you’re retarded

  • 465 john // Nov 9, 2009 at 11:38 am

    [Interesting study of physical attractiveness in China

    http://ccr.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/42/3/248

    These studies are bogus. They are all white authors and so called “researchers”. Despite they attempt at objectivity, it is clear that there are flaws in their studies. Only brainless American who read these social studies, ranking and believe it true.

    This is all racialist research. They are attempt to place whites standard of beauty on top thus perpetuate the social hiearchy.

    The flaw in this study is who choose the photo of the Chinese person and the Caucasian person and the Chinese company. The objectivity is tainted by the fact that those picture are not controlled. I could generate the same study with the opposite result.

  • 466 Peter // Nov 9, 2009 at 8:37 pm

    The Asian cultures do not promote or nurture confidence like the American culture does. In fact, Asian cultures generally promote modesty. This results in Asians being less confident and thus appearing less competent to Caucasians. For example, students in Asian countries generally do better in math than their western counterparts. However only 1% of feel that they are good at math. Another example is when a Caucasian employer ask an Asian employee if he/she feel confident about being promoted to a managerial position. Out of modesty the Asian employee will say something in the negative even if she feels that she is the most qualified. The employer will then be inclined to promote another person.

    I do not know if Hollywood has anything to do with people’s definition of beauty, but Asians (especially those raised in Asian families) lose out in brawn and confidence. And girls love brawn and confidence.

  • 467 George // Nov 9, 2009 at 8:47 pm

    Here in the US more black men with Asian women than white women with Asian men! Go figure!

  • 468 Sweetheartguy // Nov 12, 2009 at 10:50 am

    Yup peter, wat u say is right, however, things have changed, some asians too are able to project that kind of brawn and confidence in the recent times ………..and make it big in all fields –

  • 469 J // Nov 14, 2009 at 6:30 pm

    George // Nov 9, 2009 at 8:47 pm

    “Here in the US more black men with Asian women than white women with Asian men! Go figure!”

    ^ That would be patently incorrect. Have you even seen the latest census figures and the IR dating figures on AsianNation.com?

    Just because you live in some urban metro like NYC or whatever and you see black guys dancing at a club with Asian girls, it does not apply universally. Black-Asian relationships are the most limited, and that’s a fact.

  • 470 J // Nov 14, 2009 at 6:38 pm

    Sweetheartguy // Nov 12, 2009 at 10:50 am

    “Yup peter, wat u say is right, however, things have changed, some asians too are able to project that kind of brawn and confidence in the recent times ………..and make it big in all fields –”

    I agree SweetHeartGuy.

    From what I’ve seen it’s the Asian guys who aren’t born with looks or confidence who feel the biggest pinch. I’m not saying it’s their fault for being born that way – some people just lucked out, and others crapped out. That’s not my point.

    I do agree that it is getting better for Asian men in the US, and almost all of it is thanks to our own efforts, because not white men, not white society, and not even that many Asian women have supported Asian men.

    What I do know is that the next generation of Asian boys will be a AMAZINGLY strong, resilient, intelligent, and confident batch of men, if we as Asian-American fathers educate them properly about the world they are about to face.

    We must educate them about white’s tendency to embrace Asian females and reject Asian males.

    We must train them to easily pick-out self-hating Asian females who rag on Asian men to justify their own white race-fetish. They must also be taught to call these girls out in public – there’s nothing like public humiliation to straighten out a self-hating idiot.

    We must teach them to value their body and spirit as much as their minds. To train them in sports, guide them in nutrition and weight training.

    Our immigrant fathers didn’t have the knowledge or opportunity to impart this crucial knowledge to us, and that’s something we MUST prevent from happening to our own sons and grandsons, if we want Asian-Americans to become a strong community that doesn’t fall prey to White Male predation.

    This is true because once the MALES in any given population are strong and well-established, the women follow.

    In fact, I’d wager that Asian women have a lot of competition ahead of them – in white women, Latin women, black women, and all kinds of women. The irony of course is that when they do see that more women want Asian men, they will feel less inclined to seek out white men. All women want a ‘high-value’ male, and if the Asian Man’s stock rises, they will follow.

  • 471 J // Nov 14, 2009 at 6:40 pm

    asdf // Nov 9, 2009 at 5:36 am

    “#463, you’re retarded”

    asdf, your name is retarded. Just like your face. If you got nothing useful or detailed to add, stfu and just read. I find posters like you pretty lame.

  • 472 tuan // Nov 20, 2009 at 5:17 am

    too bad you need asian girls for future generations of white guys or mixed white guys. if asian guys do not have babies with asian girls you will never have girls that look like pretty asian girls. mixed girls will never look like their asian mum.

    too bad i guess asian girls will become rarer and rarer until there is so few left ahahahah

  • 473 George // Nov 27, 2009 at 12:35 pm

    There are enough Asian girls to go around if not in China, in Thailand, Vietnam and the Philippines and let us not forget Burma, Malaysia, Singapore and Indonesia…of course Asians are more likely to marry whites than Asians of other ethnicity…

    But, that does not mean, white girls or women will want to marry an Asian guy or male..After all, who which loving white mother would want to deny the white skin privilege she enjoys, to her daughter…

    http://www.thegrio.com/2009/11/white-house-party-crashers-prove-racial-profiling-goes-both-ways.php

  • 474 Rachel // Nov 27, 2009 at 10:06 pm

    I personly would love to go out with an asian guy but they are usually to shy, and im not about to ask a guy out, so hears some advice for asain guys if you fail the first time try again! but on a different girl,

  • 475 Sweetheartguy // Nov 28, 2009 at 5:07 am

    He he Rachel,im not that shy, even I have read david deangelo n others n anyone asian or not will have great confidence just by knowing those things “women” want ————- Any woman is the same anyways——Asian or white,,,, yeah that advice is a great one though, One woman — no — go on for the next! IM impressed.

  • 476 WhiteGirl // Nov 29, 2009 at 6:57 pm

    What’s funny is that I stumbled across this site because I googled “why don’t asian guys like white girls?” =P

    I like Asian guys better than White guys… Not that there is anything wrong with white guys… lots of them are hot too, just asian guys are … hotter? haha. A lot of white guys say “you only like asian guys because you hate white guys” -_- Not true. My dad, uncles, cousins they’re all white. I have white guy friends, I’ve dated white guys, I think some are hot… It’s really rude to hear that. Just like it’s kind of hard to hear… “asian guys date white girls because they grew up around whites, and can’t get with asian girls.” So I guess we’re 2nd place huh?? =(

    That’s okay, I still love you Asian men of the world.

  • 477 SweetHeartGuy // Dec 5, 2009 at 5:53 am

    Thats ok, I still love you Asian men of the world He, he,=== Thas not ok, ,, U have to love us! U have no option…….. Asian men dont isolate women that easily,,,,,,,,,, They care for any woman ……….. Protection of women is considered virtue? for us? ( Na, we do it as our duty!)

  • 478 Jason // Dec 5, 2009 at 6:23 pm

    Hi, my friends say I’m a pretty good looking asian guy, and I live in a big city in the west coast. I notice most of the interracial couples are white guys with asian girls but rarely the other way (no news there), and I’ve actually never found a date with white girls even though I’ve tried online and in bars. I’ve dated asian girls without any problems, but for some reason, white girls don’t seem interested. I’m short 5′ 4″ and the girls I’ve talked to have been either my height or maybe an inch taller. I don’t know if it’s my physique, but I am not shy and my friends say I’m confident (sometimes too confident), and outgoing. I know this sounds like I’m whining, but still…I live in a big city, and not one white female were interested…really?

  • 479 asdf // Dec 5, 2009 at 7:55 pm

    #478, maybe you’re a beta male. Put yourself in the woman’s position – would you rather go out with a beta or alpha male?

    I find (most) women don’t discriminate based on race. They can sense something about you. I am asian and I have no trouble attracting women of all races.

  • 480 white girl // Dec 6, 2009 at 7:45 pm

    hello guys that like white woman, are you ready to figure it out how to get a white girl. first off im a white girl that is European, Russian and native Alaskan. these are the tips how to get a white girl. first of all what the heck are u guys talking about! white girls are just dying to get an hold of u!!!! almost all of my friends love Asian men. but the problem is ASIAN MEN DON’T TALK TO US!! im saying all you have to do is make the move first if you just around looking at the person that you wish u want to talk to but you cant is totally in your head. just make the first move just walk up to us and say “ih” thats it.. if you do that you can get a white girl, its that simple. 92% of white girls in the world dont even want to date white men, we love to date people that look diffrent. becuase for me in general! white men do not even look appealing and people get all jealous because you are dating Asian girls instead of us. you want the person to make the first move. but honey in america guys always make the first move not the women. even if you get rejected who cares, don’t just curl up in a ball and “you are never going to get a white girl to like you, i’m just going to date Asian for know on.” don’t do that!!!! one peron in this commet list was why do white girl date black men? is becuase they are all doing the things that they need to do to get a white girl. take note from all of different people that are dating white girls. every single culture can get a whit girl. the only people that is hard to get a white girl is u guys. im sorry im being mean but these are the facts to get a white girl.it’s soo simple that you can just go to america and just get a white girl that simple and the whit women that are in Asia want to marry a Asian no matter how nerdy he looks.
    p.s when you are done reading this i want u too talk to the first white girl that you see and i bet she will try to start a conversation up!!!!;-)

  • 481 Jason // Dec 7, 2009 at 12:36 am

    #479, I didn’t mean to say white women discriminate because of race, I’ve talked to women from all races too and I’ve gone out with different women except for white women. They just don’t seem interested. There were some white women that seemed interested but they weren’t my type. I know what you mean about alpha male, I don’t have any problems being social, I know how to make a girl laugh, and I consider myself outgoing and confident.

  • 482 sweetheartguy // Dec 7, 2009 at 4:05 am

    Hi Jason, I agree with What White girl says, she is saying things so simple, that most of the guys ignore. But those simple things matter much. Just express confidence around a white gal, that is all.
    Make the first move, but be casual, dont be needy,
    If you go around n look , u may find gals to be in different status, some may be looking, some may be casual, go with the tune, make merry, its a slow cool game.
    Many stunningly beautiful white gals may be single because men never approach them for fear of rejection,,,,,, Hope such gals see me, they will get a great treat!

  • 483 sweetheartguy // Dec 7, 2009 at 4:14 am

    White women are very lovely, they never discriminate based on race. They are open and loving and ready to give themselves even to a financially poor guy who treats them in the right way.

  • 484 George // Dec 8, 2009 at 2:23 pm

    “White women are very lovely, they never discriminate based on race. ”

    In spring hope springs eternal. In winter many become delusional and hibernate!

  • 485 Asian girl here // Dec 8, 2009 at 9:44 pm

    I’m an Asian girl, and I always felt bad about me being an Asian, because of my dark hair and dark eyes, which I think is considered ugly in the US. But I never knew that people like dark hair and eyes, which kind of surprise me because its the total opposite of what i have believed in so many years. People say “just be confident, be yourself!” but I could never do that because I’ve always thought my smile makes people shivers, whenever by any chance my eyes meet theirs, they would be creeped out to death. Its all being the kind of racist thing again. I am an 8th grader, and as middle-schoolers, the people in my school don’t think widely from a different prospective as the adults in this blog do. I feel so much better knowing that Asians have just the same place in this world as any other race do. I knew that before, even Asia is the largest continent. But I just don’t believe in it, because it didn’t seem like so. I feel really good knowing that being “intelligent” is something a girl would look in a guy, that’s exactly what I was thinking. My friends say “Who cares? he’s not hot, why do you like him? he’s geeky and nerdy, and he scored a PERFECT score in algebra! that’s just too creepy.” and I was always thinking if there was something wrong with me. I always fantasize about going on a date + doing a homework together. But in 8th grade, that’s considered boring and old. But I feel better now. I have a mirror in front of me, and when I see myself as the-new-me-who-had-read-this-wonderful-blog-and-all-of-its-amazing-comments. I smile. Hey look, that smile isn’t so bad after all. Its a pure, innocent smile from a face of a naive 13-year-old-girl without make up on, even though all her friends are already using them, there are those who wears too much, even. I feel great now. I like a white boy, and I always think that our faces don’t go together if we were in a picture together, because they’re totally different. Thank you so very much everyone. You’ve opened my eyes to a better world of wonders. Thank you so very much. I’m gonna go after my crush now, and not be ashamed anymore standing next to him. I can’t thank you all enough. Just thank you.

  • 486 Anonymous // Dec 9, 2009 at 4:09 pm

    I think why white guys like Asian girls is because they don’t wear too much make-up, that could impact how fake a girl’s appearance could be. And some of the white guys, are sick of that. Maybe they just want natural girls that are beautiful inside and outside, or rather, if you think you are ugly (even though you’re probably not), the main thing is your mental/inner beauty. Who cares about appearance? I know this sounds corny because lots of people had said this, but trust me, its true. Make-up is just a hobby, an emergency thing that you don’t have to have if you don’t want to, but some people take it as their hobby. Now I’m not saying that if your hobby and passion is make-up, go for it, as long as you don’t overdo it. God had created us how we are, and that’s the best for us, because he wants us to be happy. Now I’m talking to white girls out there who wears thick eyeliner and dark purple eyeshadow on an everyday life, if you want an Asian guy to like you, then try to change it to more neutral color, or just wear lip balm. That’s the reason why every race likes Asian girls is because they are beautiful, smart, polite, kind, and you white girls could achieve that too! Asian girls look good without make up, doesn’t mean that you are not. Just saying. Because one of my friends once asked a girl across from where he was sitting (we were in a group and I sat next to him), then across him was this Hispanic girl who wears silver flashy eyeshadow and thick eyeliner and bright lipstick. Then he asked “Why do you wear so much make-up?” and the the girl just smiled, she thought it was a compliment. And then he asked me, “You don’t wear make up, do you?” and I just simply said no. I’m the geeky girl that is so quiet, most of the time people don’t notice me, even the teacher. And when he suddenly turn around at me, I was scared. But then he asked again, “Do you ever swear?” and I said “no”. and he was surprised.. “Like never ever?” he asked again. “No, never.” I said back. “You’re a good girl,” he said and then pat my back. I just smiled a bit, I thought in mind he thought that I’m a goodie girl. But yeah, that was my experience. And I’m an actual Asian girl, living in America momentarily. I’m going back next summer!

  • 487 SweetheartGuy // Dec 11, 2009 at 2:01 pm

    Hey george, I cannot generalize it though — for every white woman (white women never discriminate based on race and so on,,,,,,,,, the way they are treated counts, and if there are differences in that , I cannot imagine what happens ,, discrimination or somethng else,,,, ) it depends on the moment !

  • 488 SweetheartGuy // Dec 11, 2009 at 2:04 pm

    Its great that u girls found this place. Yeah, nothing compares to natural beauty n the warmth of asians is never comparable ….. Just be urself !

  • 489 George // Dec 14, 2009 at 8:13 am

    “Hey george, I cannot generalize it though — for every white woman (white women never discriminate based on race and so on,,,,,,,,, the way they are treated counts, and if there are differences in that , I cannot imagine what happens ,, discrimination or somethng else,,,, ) it depends on the moment !”

    May be we need to ask Sarah Palin. Friend of mine in Hawaii tells me that she left the island in disgust, after too many Asian men asked her out not on date but for a cup of coffee! Furthermore, many white men who she wanted to date were dating Asians which also she found disgusting! Needless to say this guy claims to be one of them and he is a Professor at the University of Hawaii married to a white woman for twenty years…so I do believe him! Sarah Palin is as bad as Nellie Forbush in the movie “South Pacific.”

  • 490 Johnny Cheng // Dec 17, 2009 at 1:17 pm

    I’m an Asian guy and I’ve had white girlfriends and so has my friends. You know I think a lot of it is mostly in our heads. There’s so many Asian guys who go around thinking that a white girl won’t have him and they have these limiting beliefs even before they go over and just say hi. So guys just react in two ways. The first way is to just resign to that thinking and never approaching (and staying dateless) and the other reaction is to get angry about it and it shows when they talk to white women – like they have something to prove.

    I mean, some of it is definitely also about how the media has portrayed Asian males as either Kung Fu masters with heavy Chinese accents or geek, computer nerd types and it’s inexcusable really, but how you react to that is entirely up to you.

    In the end, women are attracted to confident men and if you are comfortable with who you are, then it’s going to show and you will be attractive to women. I worked hard on getting over my negative thinking. I also took the advice of some Asian guys who were very succesful with white women. I made friends with them and went out with them. I also bought a product called Asian Dating Superstars (http://asiandatingsuperstars.org), that was really good at motivating me. My current girlfriend is Chinese, but it’s not because I couldn’t date white women, she is just a great girl!

  • 491 asian dude // Dec 17, 2009 at 6:39 pm

    im asian and i dont like white girls. Ive turn down a lot of white girls that want to date me. I feel more in tune with asian girls. However, i come to realize that every asian girl i like reject me becuase im not white. If your an asian guy youve probably heard of “Oh im only attracted to white guys” or “i like my kids to be mix becuase they look so hot” or “i dont date asian people because they have a small package” which obviously they have not seen mine to conclude that statement.

  • 492 Woah. // Dec 21, 2009 at 5:57 am

    Listen,
    Everyone has different types it’s as simple as that.
    Im white and I love asian guys, mainly because since childhood i’ve been watching anime, asian drama’s and reading manga, plus I hang around the central part of my city which contains ALOT of asian guys.
    This is the ultimate secret trust me, all you need is confidence.
    Im seriously not lying! Be it black,white,indian or whatever~ every girl will get turned on by confidence. If a man knows what he is doing and likes to chase after a girl in a very sexy way, then that is a complete turn on. Some times you see these small nerdy not so confident asian guys No.
    Simple as.
    No one is going to like him, thats the honest truth.
    Heres an example, if any of you have watched the taiwanese drama’s Devil beside you or MARS look at how those male leads work the women. Mike He was very pushy with what he wanted but he did it in such a sexy way, same for Vic in MARS. So many fangirls liked them because of that acting.
    Now if actual everyday men were like that.
    Us girls would have nothing to complain about :) .

  • 493 toe-she // Dec 24, 2009 at 1:16 am

    So many white girls I know would die to have a asian dude…but then those are the chicks who are anime crazy or obsessed with asia. Maybe it has something to do with how a family is viewed and how generally a man is viewed as being the head. and white people dont want an asian representing their family, so white chicks dont date asian dudes.

  • 494 Pixie // Dec 25, 2009 at 8:22 pm

    Soo many racial generalizations =(
    Wes Im white in case you were wondering
    I personally find Asian guys to be attractive , and I know loads of other white girls who do as well. A lot of the steriotyping has to do witht he media which unforunately does border on racisim at times, thankfully though the situation is improving.

    My current boyfriend is Chinese, I am not dating him just because of his race (although it was one of the MANY things which attracted me to him in the first place) he treats me WAY better than any of the other guys who I have ever dated (who were all white, not by choice just because there didn’t used to be much racial diversity where I lived).

    I think that people are just people and everyone should be able to date whoever they want if they feel a connection.

    Hope you all find love as I have in whatever form, behind whatever face, regardless of race (ooh I rymed =D )

    PS: You know the steriotype about the size of asian males “parts”…. it’s FALSE ;-P

  • 495 Iluvemp // Jan 6, 2010 at 1:33 pm

    Filipino and Japanese men don’t seem to have an issue on dating white women at least statistically

    You can also see that a few celebrities have Filipino or Japanese fathers and White mothers

    Is it also a coincidence that both Filipinos and Japanese are two of the most westernized Asians in North America?

    It’s not as much about looks as it is sharing a similar culture, being able to relate with someone and talk to them on the same level.

    Thing is, the Chinese, Vietnamese, Koreans etc. build little communities of themselves in America and isolate themselves. Filipinos have their own communities too but they’re very adventurous and welcoming of foreign cultures.

    I would say out of all ethnicities, Filipinos are the most hospitable ethnicity – you will rarely find a Filipino who is hostile towards another foreign race. The only ones I can think of are the Mestizos and Mestizas who have preference for mixed Filipinos.

  • 496 Eric // Jan 6, 2010 at 3:48 pm

    #495, you make a good point. That’s why I will probably never date a white girl even though I find them very, very attractive. When it comes down to it, I really don’t want to assimilate into American culture. It’s too damn straightforward and obnoxious. I prefer subtle and indirect. I like asian behavioral customs better. Plus, I’m sure she’ll have a bunch of friends I won’t get along with, LOL.

  • 497 George // Jan 13, 2010 at 1:52 am

    Actually Filipina women are the least prejudiced. Most will date black men in a heartbeat!

  • 498 Eurasian // Jan 13, 2010 at 6:48 pm

    486 you are so right, I’ve turned down gorgeous looking white girls since they wear ridiculous amounts of makeup, Asian girls come across much more natural, intelligent, nice (my perception, not absolute truth). I’m a northern European guy who really has lost interest in white girls (I don’t hate or dislike white girls at all, just lost all interest), I’ve always had a subconscious attraction toward East Asian women but only recently realized it, I am in a relationship with a Japanese girl and marriage is on the table. The only problem I see is Asian girls tend to want equal treatment in everything but expect the guy to do 75% of the financial part – I cannot follow this logic (based on my limited experience). I have nothing against Asian guys going for white girls, I would even gladly be the matchmaker in a club, lol. Another thing is modesty which almost all Asian girls seem to have, I don’t mean passivity or dependence here – white girls tend to overdo everything and it’s getting tiring.

  • 499 Karp // Jan 16, 2010 at 9:16 pm

    Im an Asian guy and Ive totally given up on asian women. I mean…whats the point of trying to talk to them when you know they wont even give you a chance just cuz your an asian dude. Its a huge waste of time. Most of the girls I go for now are non-Asian and all asian guys should do the same.

  • 500 Chun // Jan 18, 2010 at 7:47 pm

    I am 100% Chinese and I like white girls, and my whole school is white, but they don’t like me. I consider myself decent, I’m 5’8″, I keep my hair medium length, and I have a nice build but I lose everytime. I once dated a Korean girl but in all honesty and not to offend anoyone, but I just don’t feel any attractions to Asian, African, or Hispanic woman. My asian friends feel the same way. But my best friend who is Vietnamese and part Korean can get any white girl he wants and only goes out with white woman. I think in several years Asian male white female couples will greatly increase due to interacial marriages. My little sister has had several white men and prefers white men.

  • 501 Danster // Jan 20, 2010 at 8:28 am

    Interesting website. I’m always fascinated by people who desire interracial relationships. I’m an Asian male who has grown up in the west and while I’ve dated a few white women I’ve grown to realize that interracial relationships are wrong for most people. Different races have different values and that is perhaps the primary reason for why such relationships do not work. I think that interracial relationships are mostly a big deal in America because there is so much outward racism in that country.

    Unfortunately, Filipinos do not have good values and cannot be considered Asians. Not real Asians anyhow. I’m not saying they are bad people, but it’s really hard to have a healthy outlook on life when your own sense of self is so undefined. They are heavily influenced by Spanish culture and American culture due to the history of their country.

    I have never met another Asian male who was interested in a serious relationship with a woman who wasn’t Asian. It is very rare because our values are so different. People who pursue these type of things need to look inside themselves and wonder what is wrong.

  • 502 George // Jan 20, 2010 at 11:03 am

    “Different races have different values and that is perhaps the primary reason for why such relationships do not work.”

    Really? No differences in values between Koreans and Japanese? Vietnamese and Chinese? Thai and Mongolian? That is news to me! I learn something new every day!

  • 503 in china // Jan 21, 2010 at 5:05 am

    hey, I’m white, a 1/8 native american and a bit black but i basically consider myself white. i had a friend growing up he was kind of short, half white half korean, all his girlfriends were white. not the best looking girls, but neither was he really. however i knew another half korean and he had a lot of white girlfriends who looked pretty good. so i think yeah its a bit harder for an asian guy to date a white girl but definitely not impossible. if the guy is tall and strong and good looking, i dont think it matters what race he is.

  • 504 in china // Jan 21, 2010 at 5:09 am

    also, i know this post is old but i’ve spent a long time in china, and the whole white skin thing is not about looking white. dark skin=working in the fields white skin=you dont have to work in the fields, therefore your skin is whiter. also for the nose thing, the old word for foreigners in china means “big nose” which i dont think is a synonym for attractive. so i think people should hesitate before they project american problems onto foreign countries.

  • 505 A // Jan 23, 2010 at 4:02 pm

    i don’t know where i’m from you don’t see a asian dude with a white girl it’s normally a asian dude with a asian girl. but i don’t know. i’m chinese and yes i do notice that alot of asian go through alot of cosmetics things. because they think that bigger eyes, pale skin and a pointer nose is beautiful. when i was young my mother always told me to pinch my nose when i was bored because it was a myth that it will make your nose pointy. some asians even use whitening creams to make them paler!

  • 506 Ed // Jan 26, 2010 at 12:09 pm

    Here are my thoughts on this post as an Asian man in Canada…
    1. In North America, most women do not find asian men sexually attractive. I want to categorically state sexually attractive because I’ve heard a million times from women that we’re nice, warm, smart and loyal blah, blah but are not really attractive.
    2. Most of the people on here posing as white females are not white females. I’m not sure what the purpose of doing so if but it does not help.
    3. Confidence as an indication of attractiveness is a fallacy. Most people that know me consider me extremely confident and in all honesty I have no trouble walking up to complete strangers and having a conversation with them. In my line of work I’ve had to quickly establish a confident, authorative presence and I’m quite good at what I do.
    4. I have black male friends that do not have any game yet sleep with more women in a month then I have my entire life. Women (especially white women) pursue them aggressively and quite frankly will do anything for them (mainly sexual in nature). I find it hilarious when white women say that we need to approach them, when many clearly have no problems approaching other men.
    5. I think the post by the “Actuary” (197#) is the most accurate description of what asian men face in the dating scene. The reality is you can be the best man you be but it still won’t be enough, because you’re asian.

    AM/WF relationships are very rare and beautiful north american women of any race that find the facial features of an asian male attractive are even more uncommon.

    As I’ve said, I’m considered very confident, intelligent and funny. My female friends say I’m stylish, cute or good looking (not sure about that one). I make six figures annually which I refuse to flaunt in anyway. Average size at 5’8 with a slim athletic build. Yet western women (white/asian/black etc) do not find me sexually attractive.

    What can it be? I’m either not good looking cause I’m asian or I’m asian so I’m not good looking.

  • 507 Eric // Jan 26, 2010 at 4:30 pm

    Ed, do you have any proof for #2? If not, don’t say it. Just because in your experience white girls don’t seem to be attracted to you doesn’t mean it isn’t so for others.

    What I’ve gathered from my life experience is you either have it or you don’t. You either ‘get it’ or you don’t. Also, stop being so damned nice to them. Being a nice guy is probably the #1 female repellent. And if you’re wondering how you should act if you can’t be a nice guy then you probably don’t have it. Sorry!

    I am short (shorter than you) and I don’t have any trouble attracting girls at my university campus. In EVERY class I manage to attract a few white girls.

    In my experience most women don’t look at you and think of your race. Every now and then I come across one or two that I sense as preferring to be around only white people, but what race doesn’t have people like that? Asians probably have more people like that than anyone else IMHO.

  • 508 Kublai Can // Jan 26, 2010 at 10:43 pm

    “The greatest happiness in life is to crush your enemies, to see them scattered before you, to rob them of their wealth, to see his loved ones bathed in tears, and to clasp at your bosom their weeping wives and daughters.” -Genghis Khan, Asian man

  • 509 Susan Lucy // Jan 29, 2010 at 11:08 pm

    I’m a white girl and have dated men of all races. They were very aware of race (except the white guys) while I was very aware of who they were as individual people. Was he a good guy, good boyfriend, etc.

    What’s really disturbing is how the women mentioned in this discussion are set up as a prize to be conquered and shown rather than someone to relate to. You are all adults,right? You do, by now, understand what dating is actually for, right?

    We’re all going global baby, better give up your factions now – and that includes gender.

    -The Future

  • 510 Brea // Feb 10, 2010 at 5:42 pm

    I always thought it was the other way around: “Why white women cannot get Asian men” I mean Megan Fox, the most beautiful woman ever in my opinion was declined by Korean popstar Rain, that I do not find attractive at all. I consider myself decent looking and I am attracted to Eastern Asian males, but I cannot seem to find Asian men. I pretty much gave up on Asian men and I will just stick with European guys.

  • 511 pale // Feb 15, 2010 at 2:02 pm

    @Anonymous, pale skin has always been an ideal of asian culture. It symbolized wealth because the pale girls were the ones that didn’t have to go out and work in the fields. Sorry to rain on your parade, white person, but not everything we do is because we’re trying to follow white people. And I’m pretty sure big eyes are a universal attractiveness booster. Try naming one culture that idolizes small eyes

  • 512 Melissa // Feb 18, 2010 at 1:48 pm

    @The white girl, You know, a lot of asians also tend to think that some white girls only like them because of the Japanese culture involving anime, manga, J-rock, and the likes. No average person shouts out random words of anothers’ language, nor would you do this outside of the Japanese language. Either you speak it, or you don’t. They aren’t going to find this cute, or as you would say “kawaii.” They think that you are fetishizing them, and the only thing that matters is that they’re asian. Non-Japanese especially hate that. Don’t incorporate everything of the Asian culture you can think of into your everyday life. You know that not only Japan has manga and anime? It just goes by a different name because of the language. They also have similar fashion, music and so-forth. Also, the Japanese ‘borrowed’ the Chinese culture back in history. My point is, if you find the Japanese culture interesting, other cultures will be too, whether it be modern or ancient. Stop putting the Japanese on a pedestal, and broaden your horizons otherwise people will just think you’re ignorant. Above all other races, I tend to find Asians more attractive, while being a white girl. It’s my preference, but when I think of Asians, I don’t associate them with the Japanese culture. I find ‘weaboos’ to be very annoying. I’m interested in asian food, fashion, history, music (traditional and not; and speaking of not I don’t tend to like visual kei bands), sure, but I’m certainly not obsessive. Race does not matter in the end though, end every race has a person I’d be attracted to, and not. Asian is just a preference. Also, this isn’t specifically directed at you. It’s really more of a rant. I’m not saying you’re a ‘weaboo’ or obsessed. You’re to decide that yourself. It’d just make more sense if you said specifically Japanese were attractive, rather than asians in genereal while saying kawaii.
    Anyway, I personally really hate the stereotypes put on in this artical. Asians certainly don’t try to be white. This may be the case for some, but in general, ‘white’ isn’t what they are going for. Also, every single one of my friends find Asians to be attractive. All of them. Of mixed European (most are mixed) decent, Black, et cetera. I live in New York, NY, though. That could be a factor in the matter.

  • 513 Melissa // Feb 18, 2010 at 1:53 pm

    @Melissa, Excuse me, I mean descent, not decent.

  • 514 John // Feb 19, 2010 at 10:19 pm

    @Brea, White society is racist. Most of all white men are racist, so dating a white girl will be trouble because you have to deal with her father. White girls who don’t know their fathers are better.

  • 515 John // Feb 19, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    @Actuary, New York City is a White/Jewish town. Asian people have no culture in New York because it totally dominated by Jews and Whites. New York is probably the only place that have an Asian ghetto, Chinatown. The West coast are a lot better because I notice white culture is not as great here.

  • 516 fl4mers // Mar 1, 2010 at 12:52 pm

    @HKGuy, I completely agree with this post. It’s all about the confidence. I’m a white girl who lived in Korea for a year and I met loads of hot Korean guys, but even though I could tell some of them were interested, none of them…and i really mean NONE of them had the guts to make a real move. I also met a lot of Asian-American guys out there though and I thought they were really attractive. They had good looks, were intelligent, knew how to make interesting conversation and best of all were not scared to approach me simply because I’m white! (Oh and it helped that they didn’t make me feel like I was some sort of trophy to be won and then paraded around to show how cool they were to have a white girlfriend…I kinda got that feeling with purebred Koreans…)

  • 517 boxcar // Mar 2, 2010 at 11:21 am

    As a white woman, I get the impression that the yellow fellows see us as ‘easy’. Most men of all types prefer the chase and if they think something/someone is too easy, they don’t want it. So that may be why although I see plenty of WM/AF couples, I don’t see as many of the opposite.

  • 518 boxcar // Mar 2, 2010 at 11:36 am

    But for the Asian men who want a white woman but haven’t had any luck, here are a few pointers:

    Accent reduction may be in order for some. Also, Assimilate! Otherwise, you’ll have nothing in common at all.

    a. Expand your musical repertoire to include some rock once in a while.
    b. Same goes for your diet – switch out the rice for some bread every once in a while. Try some good ol’ Southern and Midwestern comfort food. Fried chicken…mmm!
    c. Do keep up the grooming and fitness, don’t go all rugged and shit, but try to tone down the metrosexuality a bit. We’re not used to it and find it a bit intimidating.
    d. White American women are not used to seeing foreskin. You don’t need to be Jewish or use a rabbi to get circumcised. A urologist or maybe a plastic surgeon would gladly do it.
    e. Get a few white friends. I notice that Asians like to hang out in large packs of just their homies. Contrast that to white people, who go out with just their immediate family, as a couple, or with just a close buddy or two.

    So if you’re going out to look for white chicks to pick up, go with a white male friend or two as your wingmen.
    Not with your Asian homies, or we’ll just think it’s the IT department coming over to assign us our new passwords.

  • 519 boxcar // Mar 2, 2010 at 12:07 pm

    A few more tips:

    Get a sense of humor and become a better conversationalist.

    Also, try to reassure the white girl you’re interested in that you’re not a Green Card Groom. Do not bring up the subject of marriage.

  • 520 George // Mar 2, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    @John,

    Dont underestimate the racism of white women and white girls!

  • 521 George // Mar 2, 2010 at 3:37 pm

    Boxcar full of stereotypes.

    “Accent reduction may be in order for some.”

    Asian Americans dont have accents and many speak better English than white southerners!

    “Contrast that to white people, who go out with just their immediate family, as a couple, or with just a close buddy or two.”

    Have you ever been to a white sorority party!

    “Not with your Asian homies, or we’ll just think it’s the IT department coming over to assign us our new passwords.”

    More racist stereotype from a racist white woman.

    “Also, try to reassure the white girl you’re interested in that you’re not a Green Card Groom.”

    This racist white woman thinks all Asians are foreigners…somethings dont change!

  • 522 Andy // Mar 3, 2010 at 5:25 am

    @George, where do you live? I am an asian male and rarely have I ever had racism issues with white women, or anybody in general. Asian women, on the other hand, are another story. The stats don’t lie. Outside of asian men, they choose white men to the exclusion of every other group of people. A lot of them are racist against their own men!

  • 523 Andy // Mar 3, 2010 at 5:35 am

    @George, calm down. I don’t think boxcar was trying to be offensive. I found what she wrote to be interesting and FUNNY. I’m sorry for whatever negative experiences you must have gone through in your life.

    Boxcar, George is not representative of all of us asian guys. A lot of us find white girls to be very attractive. We find them so attractive we wonder why they would want to have anything to do with us! :) There are lots of social reasons why you rarely ever see this coupling. You could probably fill a book with them.

  • 524 nor cal // Mar 4, 2010 at 10:38 pm

    Who are these asian guys obsessed with white women? As a white girl, I have been rejected by many asian guys, and end up dating mostly white guys for that very reason. Maybe we *are* too loud that only white men who are used to it can deal with us! :)

  • 525 rowo // Mar 6, 2010 at 11:04 pm

    This site is really cool… and especially this topic

    It is interesting to find out that a lot of white women are attracted to asian men…. I live in vancouver, canada… and it is quite difficult to find white women who are attracted to asians…. give me a shout out if you are that white girl who wants some dim sum for lunch

  • 526 curiousobserver // Mar 10, 2010 at 3:39 am

    I wonder if White women are less receptive to Asian men in areas with a large Asian population.

    In my experience Americans (in particular Whites) are generally very open minded and accepting. However, I can’t help feeling that this is some sort of a glass ceiling, where White women have a preconceived notion about Asian men not being dating/marriage material. Perhaps this preconception is not as prominent in predominantly White areas, where they haven’t had much exposure to Asians and tend to judge people as individuals, and not by preconceived notions about their race. E.g. I can totally imagine someone going \Gee, Asian men are sweet, but they’re not my type because they tend to be too nerdy!\. These stereotypes may well apply to most people, to the detriment of well integrated Asians who buck the trend.

    What do people here on the thread think?
    If you’re a woman, I’d like to know what your peers think. You and your friends may find Asian men attractive, but that might not be the prevailing opinion among women in your area. Also, can you indicate where you live? That might help prove/disprove my theory.

    Full disclosure: I’m an FOB Indian guy who has been living and working in the San Francisco Bay Area for a couple of years. I don’t know what the real issues are; I’ve never had the heart to ask an Asian person about this, but I’m distraught at the disparity in the number of WM/AF and AM/WF couples. In case anyone was wondering I’m attracted to Indian, White AND Asian women.

  • 527 Thanks for that // Mar 12, 2010 at 7:34 pm

    @Melissa,
    My god, thank you for that. I feel the same way you do. I’m interested in asian culture-modern/ tradition-whatever. However, I would never use “kawaii” in a sentence unless the sentence was in Japanese and I was attempting to speak with a Japanese person. I’m not particularly partial to Japanese culture and don’t put it on a pedestal over other Asian cultures. I hate to be associated with weabos/cosplayers/ girls who have slashy fetishes for Japanese guys. I just happened to grow up in a very Asian influenced culture and went to a school with mostly Asian students. I’m also part asian but it does not show at all so I guess it doesn’t really count, I look basically white.
    Can’t help but develop a little love (and some attraction, too) for the Asians when I was surrounded by them for most of my formative years.
    So thanks for reminding me you can be normal and have an interest in Asia.

  • 528 Charles // Mar 14, 2010 at 8:13 am

    Well, I’m a100% Vietnamese male, I live with my dad who is Viet, and his fiance who is from Sweden. So basically my Asian dad is marrying a white girl! I dated an Asian girl once in junior high. I discovered that I am not physically attracted to Asian women maybe because I’d feel like I’m going out with my sister!! It’s hard finding a white girl, but my current girlfriend is HOT. She is from Albania, with the accent and all! The typical hazle eyes and lond blonde hair, we’ve been together for 10 months.

  • 529 Jess // Mar 14, 2010 at 12:39 pm

    Hey, youre alaskan? meh too! lol but im half french , ans half eskimo. ppl make fun of me cuz of that, because here in Massachusetts im the only eskimo! but i look asian, and to some people, white, and many say i look hispanic. others tell me it looks like i dont have an ethnicity, like i dont look white or anything.

  • 530 lili // Mar 15, 2010 at 8:40 pm

    i’m a white girl, and i think asian guys are very attractive. one name as a very famous example among many–ken watanabe–makes me weak in the knees every time. i would choose him over brad pitt, tom cruise, even johnny depp, ANY day. he’s so elegant and seems nice. um, and HOT!

  • 531 Meriyam // Mar 16, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    I’m a morrocan girl and I found asian guy realllllyyyy attractive and I’m not an the only one to think so! I just never had a chance to go out with an asian, there’s not a lot of them here tought… When someone’s beautiful he just is that’s it whatever where he might be from. (sory for my english I’m francophone ;-) )

  • 532 Jacki // Mar 18, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    @Shimmer,
    I agree! I think Asian guys (especially Japanese) are cute and am a white girl. I think that it’s just the whole stigma of white girl/Asian guy relationship being so uncommon that it intimidates any sort of moves on the guy’s part. Meanwhile, girls (at least American girls) usually wait for the guy to make the move, and if the guy doesn’t think the relationship is possible, adios chances!

  • 533 twinkie // Mar 19, 2010 at 10:59 pm

    I just scanned through this and thought, “wow, this is so ridiculous that I just have to comment”.

    Yes, FYI I am one of those “twinkies”. But you know what? I don’t just go for white girls, I pretty much go for whatever I feel attracted to (she could be asian, persian, indian, black, latina… It wouldn’t matter). It just happens to be that there are soo many white girls that it would be stupid to write them off.

    Although I do consider myself more Canadian than Asian because when I go to Asia they almost already “know” that I’m “foreign” without me speaking a word, I don’t feel that being Canadian has anything to do with colour. Hell, if anything those first nations should be considered more canadian than the white people here since they were here first.

    To say all the CBCs or ABCs are all nerdy and can’t get a white girl is so ignorant I can’t even comprehend it.

    But then again maybe that’s a good thing, and I thank you for giving us all the hot white girls, brown girls, etc,… While you exclusively date only asians and complain about the white guys taking “your” girls.

    Cheers.

  • 534 808 // Apr 30, 2010 at 10:21 am

    i have just started liking asian guys, but so far i dont really think asian guys like me. i dont know if iti s physical or my personality, but about myself, im not the kind of girl that would ever approach a guy but once i meet a guy i get more comfortable.. but i feel as though asian guys like asian girls that r perhaps ‘hard to get’ and not that interested…? i have no clue…
    i just started seeing an asian guy recently who i thought was SUPER cute and i really thought he was into me, but after 3 dates he said he didnt want to get serious, but its not like he is/was seeing anyone else so i dont understand…
    im blonde, not too tall, consider myself attractive/… i am not skinny though, maybe thats why? (ok im far from being fat though) what do you guys think??

  • 535 Er // May 1, 2010 at 6:05 am

    @808, It might be a sociocultural thing. Maybe he identifies more with being asian than being american and therefore feels like a minority/outsider and therefore not as good as you. 1st or 2nd generation immigrants are still at a bit of a disadvantage. It takes a couple of generations for them to assimilate and feel comfortable.

    BTW, it’s a myth that asian guys only go for skinny gals. Everyone knows they have to be blonde AND skinny. LOL, j/k.

  • 536 Snake // May 1, 2010 at 3:35 pm

    White people are sociopaths. White women are extemely racist when it comes to sexual preference.

    You can’t talk a white woman into bed, cut the crap “all you need is confidence” crap. She either wants you or she dont.

    In clubs, I see the hot white chicks get laid by retarded looking White guys but will brush off the most handsom non white guy.

    Im very attractive male, I get hollered at by non racist white chicks all the time but most white chicks brush me off WTF?? Its pure racism. It has nothing to do with me. The white girl will go with me if she aint racist, and if her family / friends also approve.

    Do you know white people don’t clean their ass and private parts properly? Eww, and you idolise that? Guess you been got at by the “white is right” media, you sir is a fool!

    Finally would you use your jonson as a laverty cleaner? I guess not. Then why you want to put your best friendit in that white hole that been hammered by an average of 20 other dicks? Eww. Also kissing a white girl means sucking off 20 other dicks that had been in their previousley…

  • 537 LaurieAnn // May 2, 2010 at 9:07 am

    Okay, I think asian guys have chances, I’m a white girl who loves her boyfriend. And he is Korean .<

  • 538 The ASIAN prophet // May 2, 2010 at 11:23 pm

    I admit i have been dating mainly asian girls because of their race and and their irresistibly attractive hard 2 get personality, and also cuz my first date with a white girl cost me 100 dollars xD but besides that my perspective on this matter has shifted entirely cuz of all ur thoughtful comments on this matter^_^ ty
    @808 if ur physique is as u say it is then his personality must be the issue cuz different guys get turned on by different personalities ;)

  • 539 808 // May 4, 2010 at 10:26 pm

    hey im just curious
    ok i know you cannot generalize, but i feel like most asian guys are pretty shy, right? (which i think is SOOOOOO cute btw! :) )
    but then asian guys don’t really like aggressive girls either… right? (with aggressive i mean girls that will initiate all the moves) so how do asian guys usually meet girls? esp if the girls are NOT asian? or what are signs that a shy asian guy is into you??

    oh and btw @snake, are those rude insults really necessary? you say white people are racist, but clearly YOU are the racist… but its ok i dont get offended by other people’s ignorance and lack of respect

  • 540 Anonymous // May 11, 2010 at 2:42 am

    Has anyone else here noticed that the white girls (or those who claim to be) are very similar to the asian girls on this site who claim to find white guys hot and asian guys ugly.

    That is they both seem to be the ugly rejects of their own race and are forced to alter their preference to find a mate.

    Perhaps this could be further investigated.

  • 541 Hachi // May 17, 2010 at 2:21 pm

    Hey ~ I’m a white girl. 100 % – Platinum blonde hair and blue eyes. And I’ve ONLY dated asian guys. They are the only thing I’m attracted to, and my boyfriend now is 100 % Korean and he’s the friggin hottest thing ever ~ ! This article makes no sense. All my white friends are jealous of me because they can’t find asian boyfriends. NO SENSE.

  • 542 J // May 28, 2010 at 1:29 am

    I’m white and LOVEEE asian men <3

  • 543 EMOSNAH // May 28, 2010 at 9:15 am

    @Anonymous,
    - Hi All. Here’s something to consider. HMMMMMM
    Do you women even know what they want???
    - They ‘ll tell you what they think they want, then they see something else and tell you some more, then after coffee they’ll tell you something else. Here’s the thing – women will talk your ear off on something they want, then out of no where will go for the complete opposite.

    Here’s the thing – women are more emotive, and emotive triggered then men. Meaning you might see fugly guys with hot women. Could be to do with humour, money, personality, social status – and lastly looks. Women might know what they want in a guy – BUT something that triggers a relationship could be nothing in their criteria list. Meaning …. Learn as much as you can about how women respond. They don’t even know it.

    Men – are visual creatures. Hot women. thats all thats needed.

    Farking get over your psychological floors, and go out there and BE A MAN. play, tease, annoy, woman. Be confident, know who you are.! know what you want. Fuck what you look like! she might care but her emotional circuitry doesn’t. Make her feel good. Your the prize cuntz.

    And as a good asian brother from HOngkong said earlier – Workout, be confident, get out of your comfort zone, have ambition, have high standards, groom yourself, and Have an exciting life that doesn’t revolve around girls, and if it does revolve around girls atleast pretend your fuking awesome.

    Its all about Connection. both mentally and physically.
    Picking up is called game – so learn how to play.
    JUST DO IT! stop whinging and get on with it. Fuck statistics. Believe in yourself! Where there’s a will there’s a way! there’s always exceptions to the rule! being the exception is a choice, not luck!

  • 544 EMOSNAH // May 28, 2010 at 9:32 am

    @Snake,
    Man. wake up. smell the roses. talk is cheap.
    You know nothing bro!
    Hey mate. If you can’t pick up. Thats knowone’s problem but your own.
    Women mate have their own games. Women are the one that have always held the power. You play their games. Guys play their games. The Guys taking women home know their games. Play there games, and finally, win their games. At the moment I feel pity for your hate, anger, and low self esteem to say such hurtful things. Man. If you wanna be master! it just takes practice. By the way – Confidence is everything! If your not confident at being yourself – than who the fuck are you. NO chick likes a poser. And chicks can smell a bad egg, poser miles off.
    Best thing for you! is to learn from others in your shoes of what not to do, and start learning and aspiring to those that are achieving the results you want. Mate. I am Anglo. I have african, indian, asian, mexican, morrocans, taiwanese,- just to mention a few – friends. WHO HONESTLY GIVES A SHIT who people look like – YOU EITHER LIKE SOMEONE OR YOU DON”T – get on with it. I’m helping you here. and stop wasting your time with hate. Heal my brother! and start loving life, and those people that do give you time despite their race. Embrace man!

    Love thy neighbour, and be a good samaritan despite what others are doing. Fuck what people think about you! the only thing that matters is what you feel about yourself.

    Now if you ever reply. I expect the same amount of respect that i have given you in return.

    THere’s always exceptions to the RULE! being the exception is a choice not luck! p.s. i’m the cleanest mother fucker, hygienic, compulsive person. Your saying others are dirty! start by cleaning up your language than your act!

  • 545 Pinky // May 29, 2010 at 2:17 pm

    I’ve been very attracted to a couple of Asian guys, but unfortunately they were both married. My issue is height. One of these guys was about as tall as I am, the other one shorter. I tend to be more comfortable with taller men, but that’s because short men can be insecure and talk about how “unfeminine” tall women are to them. The hell with that. It’s like the guys who have long hair fetish. I’ve had longer hair, but now it’s chin length and I like it that way. Some guys just have very set attitudes about what’s attractive, and they can’t seem to move beyond that. Too bad.

  • 546 Tim // May 30, 2010 at 9:55 pm

    I like a lot girls who happen to be white. I can’t say i prefer white girls, but I’ve never had any Asian friends in my life.

  • 547 White girl // Jun 2, 2010 at 10:02 pm

    I like Asian guys a lot! I think they can be really attractive, but I never think they like me because I’m tall (5’9) I tend to think they won’t because they want someone cute and small to caress, and I’m not petite and tall isn’t cute.
    I know there’s a fetish with huge breasts (seen it in lots of animes and I am not lacking in that department) but still, I’m taller than lots of Asian guys :( I just don’t see how a really attractive Asian guy will like me :S

  • 548 White girl // Jun 2, 2010 at 10:05 pm

    I’m also blonde, with big blue eyes, and fair skin obviously, which I’ve heard are things Asian guys like, but it’s like I’m too big or something :(

  • 549 Asian Guy // Jun 3, 2010 at 9:59 pm

    Hey White Girl. I’m an Asian guy who LOVES big and tall white girls. I’m only 5’7” but if you can deal with that you should totally hit me up

  • 550 Chance // Jun 9, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    @Stuart, Absolutely true. spoken like a man who wised up on the nature of woman. “there is some guy, somewhere, who is sick of her shit.” haahaaa love that!

  • 551 Asian Hero // Jun 9, 2010 at 11:33 pm

    Lol you’re full of shit white boy. This is what they call white lies. Why the fuck would an asian guy want to date an ugly white girl when they got their own beautiful asian babes to choose. I got white girls chasing me all the time and I turn them down or ignore them as I only like asian women. I love my race and I’m proud of protecting my people and serving them. Your race is fugly and has nothing to offer.

  • 552 Asian Pride // Jun 10, 2010 at 6:46 am

    white girls are ugly. Just look at them.

    Pink skin, freckles, skin that burns in the sun easily, they’re hairier, have lower IQs…..

    LMFAO, I just described white people in general EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

  • 553 vanillablue // Jun 14, 2010 at 1:04 am

    Dummy’s Guide to Asian Girls with White Fever

    The WHIGGIE (White Guy Groupie)
    A brief profile of Asian girls afflicted with “White Fever”
    ORIGINS: A subset of women of Asian ethnicity, usually found residing in major U.S. cities, although they have been known to appear overseas occasionally. Closely related to their cousins, Yellow Cabs (Japan), Gwei-Po’s (Hong Kong), Sarong Party girls (Singapore), Twinkies and Bananas.

    NOT TO BE CONUSED WITH: Intelligent, emotionally-secure women who are free of identity problems, self-hate, racial prejudice and chips on their shoulders.

    CHARACTER TRAITS
    - Poorly developed self-identity. Pathetically insecure with themselves and their ethnicity.
    - Resentment of father’s traditional, authoritarian upbringing (whether real or perceived).
    - Brainwashed into believing that they, as AF’s, are more desirable than other women in exotic lotus blossom kinda way. Willingness to pander to western media sexual stereotypes of AF’s, which they perceive as marketing advantage.
    - Thoroughly whitewashed. Desperate need to fit into “mainstream” (i.e. white) society and to distance themselves from their Asian heritage. Racial inferiority complex.
    - Feigned air of superiority when dealing with members of own race and any other minority groups. In need of major attitude adjustments.
    - Exaggerated, whiny, Encino-esque valley girl accent.
    - Delusions of grandeur… “I want it all…and that begins with the right (i.e. white) guy…” Asian-American princess complex.
    - Uncanny ability of determine one’s nationality, occupation, earning capacity and make of auto within three minutes of commencing a conversation.
    - Exaggerated perception of white males’ value in increasing AF’s social status.
    - Ignorant and narrow-minded, eager to adopt and perpetuate fallacious western media stereotypes of Asian men.
    - A compulsion to trash Asians, particularly Asian men, in order to justify their autoracist tendencies, placate their guilt and bolster their self-esteem.
    - Extremely shallow, self-centered, argumentative and boring.
    - Disdains ethnic studies; regards it as a major threat to her carefully constructed, self-deceptive whiggie identity.
    - Despises all Asian men, with the occasional exception of their brothers (after all, they share the same genes.
    - Believes that racism does not exist because she, as an AF, has never experienced it first hand, or is too dense to realize it. Besides, those Asiaphiles are so nice to her (while plotting to get into her pants.
    - Gets a warm fuzzy feeling when watching The Joy Luck Club, while snuggled up to her geeky Asiaphile boyfriend.
    - Believes that the only reason an Asian person would disrespect her is because they are racist.
    - Has lost count of how many WM’s she’s done this month.
    - The wet-dream come true for socially-handicapped Caucasian nerds who are unable to attract Caucasian women.
    - Threatened and insecure in the presence of any culturally-perceptive Asian person or any AM not fitting her stereotype of the quiet , marginalized, “model minority” geek.
    - Fundamentally insecure, utterly confused, lacking in self respect.
    - Many aging whiggies, after being used and abandoned by WM’s in favor of younger, more nubile whiggies and being rejected by AM’s who see through their transparency, develop a bitterness towards all men, period.
    - Denial of all of the above.
    FACIAL EXPRESSIONS: a) Look of contempt when eyes meet those of any non-white male, converting to beaming grin upon sighting of WM victim/target; b) terminal pout or c) bimboish expression that defies deep thought.
    TYPICAL ATTIRE: Anything trendy, mainstream-looking and seductive (especially if it’s black and tight). Big hair (perhaps their most valuable asset) tossed with hand every 15 seconds. Wonderbra. Fanatical whiggies have been known to undergo certain procedures such as eyelid surgery, breast augmentation and vaginal tightening operations in order to increase their marketability to WM’s. Blue contact lenses and bleached blonde hair have even been sported on occasion. Note: Attire may vary depending on the specific type of WM being targeted.
    I.Q: Too low to measure.
    NATURAL HABITAT:
    Personal ad columns (“exotic, slim, SAF seeks successful, generous SWM”), cheerleading squads, sorority houses (role: token “oriental sisters”), T.V. newsdesks, B-grade Kung-Fu flicks, trendy nightclubs (usually found necking with aging WM’s), Chinese restaurants (slumming with the WM and demonstrating that she’s “in touch with her heritage”), anywhere else frequented by White males.
    TYPICAL WHIGGIE QUIPS:
    Age 10: “Mom, why do we have to be (Chinese/Japanese/Korean)? Do you have to dress like that? And what’s with Dad and his accent?
    Age 12: “Mom, I want an eyelid job for Christmas, okay?
    Later on…
    “I’ve always only dated white guys. I don’t know why, I just have.”
    “Race doesn’t matter. I just happen to like white guys. It’s just a preference.”
    “We are the world, we are the children…We…”
    “I’ve gone out with all kinds of guys…Dutch, English, French, German, you name it. Even went out with a Jewish guy once! After all, love is color blind.”
    “Eeeew, Jennifer, how could you go out with that (insert minority group here) guy!?” Totally gross!
    “Oooh Roger, you’re like soooo strong and intelligent. Did you say you drive a beemer? Kewl! (giggle).”
    “I want to learn English better…you maybe teach, handsome man? Are you U.S. citizen?” (Yes FOB’s can be whiggies too!)
    “Like why would I want to go out with an Asian guy? They don’t own me or anything. Uhh, and besides they are all male chauvinist …and domineering too…yeah that’s it! Didn’t you see The Joy Luck Club?”
    Like, I’m dating *out* of my race, so how can I be racists?!! Duh!!
    CLOSELY RELATED TO: Racists, bigots, wannabes, ho’s, chameleons, white supremacists, a fish out of water.
    MEDIA REPRESENTATION/ROLE MODELS: Connie Chung, Amy Tan, Lisa Ling, Margaret Cho, Sheryl Wu Dunn, any of The Joy Luck Club protagonists (except the one who married an Asian dude).
    NATURAL COUNTERPARTS: Asiaphiles…who else?

  • 554 Asian Hero // Jun 14, 2010 at 2:33 pm

    @vanillablue, LOL i laughed so hard when i read ur comment, u should go out and preach the truth buddy. to sum it all up, these ugly white hos r the trash of the asian world who would fuck anything that has a dick.

  • 555 Sorcha // Jun 21, 2010 at 1:53 pm

    Can I just say that I’m a white, irish girl who loves asian boys..they’re so cute and nice compared to irish boys. I’m an open person when it comes to culture and relationships, seeing as most of my friends are from other countries. I love asian culture and respect it and asian people. I think the problem with most white girls is they hold these stereotypes and never realise what they are missing out on with asian guys. I’ve also noticed that other Irish people can be quite racist against certain minorities and that always upsets and angers me. Lets all try not to be racist or hold prejudices. That’s all I gotta say =D. BTW I love this blog ^-^

  • 556 Luna // Jun 23, 2010 at 10:50 am

    I’m a white girl and recently I’ve noticed I’m only attracted to asian guys. They are smart, funny and really nice. And it just gets on my nerves when a bunch of these girls just run up to them and say “kawaii” and “baka” and ask questions about anime and manga. I see that it gets on their nerves too. I have allot of asian friends too. I don’t like asian guys because of manga and anime (even though I used to watch naruto and I like martial arts but that is just me. I also love knights and european history too)
    Allot of my friends get upset because it seems that girls (outside of asian. all the asian girls I know love white guys) just like them becuase of anime and manga.

    So the point is I like guys for who they are and not for what their country does or for the popular culture in their country. I heard some guy telling a japanese friend of mine to go to some anime convention if he want to date someone. I think saying that is heartless… Don’t mix anime and manga with asian people. And if you just like them because of anime and manga, stay in your little anime world.

  • 557 Luna // Jun 23, 2010 at 10:59 am

    I’m continuing my earlier comment also. You guys are saying american girls are self-centered and bossy and stuff like that. I kinda have to agree (I am a earopean girl anyway and most of the stuff on this site goes for my parents to. Learn allot, get yelled at if you get a a-, piano, cutting in line and all that.)

    I personally an understanding and hate taking advantage of people. I hate bossing others around too because that is just wrong. I learn allot too… But because I’m white and I moved to america when I was kid (I got the american accent too…) i am put in the same american bunch…

    So if any of you girls wants ANY guy to like you:
    don’t be self-centered of a slut
    be understanding,
    don’t take advantage of people,
    be kind,
    and
    do not like people for just their race but for their actions and who they are too.

  • 558 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 9:13 am

    @Ray: This is unfortunate.

    There are many “un–ghetto” African-american Women (myself included) who are VERY attracted to Asian men (but not for the reasons caucasians are). We speak in complete sentences and aren’t loud; we are slender, educated, we dress very well, and take very good care of ourselves.

    We’re pretty much above the influence of manipulation by mass media because it doesn’t apply to us. So, thankfully, we can’t relate to it. No one dictates trends or anything to us because we make these decisions for ourselves. There are very few of us, especially in NYC. For this reason, we are rare and often alone. We don’t think Asian Men are attracted to us at all.

    We only see Asian Men chasing white women and not understanding that the buzz is only coming from what the media is dictating to them and their families: “Go White.”

    I don’t understand this about them is this after looking at the big picture.

    To speak for myself, sharing background and my attraction to Asian men:

    I am Cherokee (readers: my mother’s father is full Cherokee, so I don’t have to be a card-carrying member of my tribe. Don’t give me your politics and statistics. Thx)/Caribbean NYC native.

    I’m not ghetto, nor do I aspire to be “white” or Asian.

    I skirt the edge of creativity and academia: I spin in both hemispheres equally. I was a programmer, but I’m more a musician (Not R&B and Hip Hop) and writer. I don’t watch TV or follow the latest trends (in short: I’m not manipulated by the media. I can think well on my own, thank you very much.)

    I like Asian men very much because I can relate to them better than I can to anyone else: African-americans don’t like me and ridicule me. Sadly, we can’t relate to each other. White people, just don’t like me, period. They have this mania for doling out various degrees of oppression on others to keep themselves elevated. I can’t relate to them and their standards, nor would I want to.

    I am far from ghetto and I am eamoured with Asian men. Not all of them. I don’t like “twinkies” (as I’ve read them to be addressed) who have adopted the ‘white’ mentality as their own. Sometimes it can’t be helped. The Asians who look like famous people seem to have massive egos and like money. I hope I am wrong; that they are genuinely nice people who just enjoy life not a the expense of others.

    The Asian men I am attracted to harbor the traditional values of their culture: family-oriented; firm, yet soft-spoken; dominating to a degree as it applies to home/life stability, while at the same time listening to their women and/or bringing the relationship to a point where spoken words aren’t necessary. The last part may or may not be so traditional as I am no expert on Asian culture behind closed doors. But these are my personal preference.

    I have had Asian boyfriends: Japanese and Korean. a couple of them expected me to be the stereotypical ‘Black girl’. Since couldn’t deliver, the relationships were short-lived. However, other relationships ended because they had to go back to their countries. We still keep in touch.

    Along with traditional values, I’d like to meet more Asian men with open minds about dating/marrying outside of their race. Primarily with mine. I feel that African-americans and Asians/Asian-americans have a lot in common (‘Han’ for one thing, if I were to list anything. You don’t think so? Listen to their version of R&B. It has feeling and substance. Everyone else is just imitating what they’ve already heard: Joss Stone. It lacks genuine emotion.) It only makes sense, our coupling. Besides, to be vain, as some of you have been, our offspring is waaaay cuter. They grow up to be most attractive and highly envied. But that’s a whole other discussion.

    We may sometimes look angry: but it’s because we are disappointed at our race for not being mindful of themselves and each other. Also, we’re too busy avoiding the African-american men who come at us like sexual predators ; and the white (men and women) and Asian women who view us as inferior.

    Which left me even more confused regarding the ‘white’ pursuit:

    I don’t understand the quest for white acceptance and white partners. Didn’t they hate and make fun of you/oppress you collectively at some point in history? (For example, the gold-rush and the detainment in California? The coining of and responsible for the term “zipper-head”?)

    They’re destroying the planet and they teach the world to hate people like me, you and our families. Yet wanting to F- your women. It doesn’t mean they have a genuine respect for you and your families. They only like people of different races, especially yours, because they’re jealous and want to be a part of it. white people have no real ‘culture’ of their own except war and oppression. So they go around adopting the parts of many other cultures they like and want to be a part of, adopt it as their own, then kill off or dehumanize the the people they envy. (Jealousy/Envy=threatened. white Solution=dehumanizing/oppression/genocide).

    ** Tangent 1: (case and point: the english language itself, is direct evidence of this. The English language (British and American constructs) is a sign of conquering and domination. The world is forced to speak this language in order to be accepted by these people and to even ‘succeed’ on their terms, thus strengthening their control over you and the rest of the world. So you’re struggling to meet their standards and while focusing on your own.

    I’m waiting for someone to say to the white British and white Americans, “NO. I will not speak your language. YOU will speak MINE.”Unfortunately this would eventually lead to yet another kind of war. I, for one, am quite sick of wars. Honestly. Leaders should play chess instead. It would save many lives.

    ** Tangent 2: (African-americans can’t make such a demand because thanks to whites, we had our native languages and cultures beaten out of us on top of the billions of dollars spent on keeping us oppressed (if we were truly inferior, it wouldn’t take billions of dollars as well as vast and various campaigns/programs/laws to keep us at a certain level.)

    P.S. I am quite familiar with your use of soft-power. It is subtle and intense. Hopefully when you achieve your goals, you will make the world a more tolerant, cleaner, and peaceful place to live. And we won’t need technology to heal the earth of all its white damage.

  • 559 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 9:15 am

    Correction:

    “I don’t understand this about them after looking at the big picture.”

  • 560 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 9:30 am

    I had also meant to add regarding ‘white pursuit’

    Japan was bombed twice; China was forced to trade with the US; they had to keep up with US demands by building factories (furthering the planets destruction); the mass genocides in Africa and the raping of the land to get her resources (South Africa is now mostly white. It used to be inhabited by Africans before they were killed off or relocated. In turn, a new language was created : Afrikaans.)

    Among other atrocities. Their sentiments are only for their best interests. How so? look at how they inter-act with and move about the rest of the world.

    Which is a reason I believe human love s flawed: How can you say, “I love you” to someone, yet treat others poorly and violently? Love is not conditional and is not confined to the person you’re sleeping with. Love is Universal, global, and unconditional.

  • 561 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 9:44 am

    @shiro,
    That’s exponentially far from the truth.

  • 562 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 9:52 am

    @Raj from Singapore,

    News is not necessarily reality.
    Seriously.

  • 563 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 9:54 am

    @Tenerife,

    Speaking as a “woman of color”, Asian men a quite endowed. I mention this based on my own experiences.

  • 564 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 9:58 am

    @bL90,

    “America isn’t as racist as you might believe.. ”

    You might want to retract this statement.

  • 565 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:08 am

    @Mixed Girl,

    I concur. I am Caribbean/Cherokee born in america. Mixed heritage and quite exotic-looking. (I’ve a right to toot my horn as the blondes had in previous posts.) I understand your saying:

    “In America we like to think that we have progressed so much….civil rights movement etc… Postings like these just serve to remind me that secretly most people still have little prejudices/preferences when it comes to race. It’s odd to me since I was raised in an environment that let me see the beauty in all people. ”

    Exactly the same for me. This is the state of society right now.

    Remember:

    “Love sees no color, but America always will.”

    When people here mention that caucasians aren’t racists, it’s only regarding them. Look at how they treat everyone else. Besides, how many of these people are attracted to people like us or even have genuine friends that are not tokens? Less than few.

    And, yes, dark-complexioned women and Asian men: we spawn magnificent offspring. And we age well, to boot.

  • 566 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:13 am

    @Raj from Singapore,

    I concur. Whole-heartedly.

  • 567 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:19 am

    @jack,

    I agree with the statement,

    “they age 2 fast and look old by the time they are 50 ”

    My family ages really well. My mother is 50 and looks like she’s 28. My grandma looks like she can be my older aunt. We live well past 95 and look great doing it. Without the use of high-priced products or surgery.

    For the record, I don’t date white men. I used to. It’s the collective false sense of privilege that turned me off. Personal experience.

    Also, check out Tim Wise on Your Tube. He’ll shed some light on your human-shaped ‘status symbol’.

  • 568 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:24 am

    @Actuary,

    I was born & raised in NYC, still reside here.

    I’ve seen several rare “black”/Asian couples. They look HOT!!! Seriously. So much so that others are quite intimidated. There’s this energy and the couple has a commanding presence. it speaks volumes about the individuals involved with one another too.

    An amazing couple indeed. Striking, actually.

  • 569 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:33 am

    @asian gal,

    They’re not better than you. Please don’t worry. It’s only Hollywood and tabloid culture, mass media…. propaganda.

    This is what the Germans did to the Jews, actually. Under the regime, who controlled the media, they’ve bombarded their society with negative portrayals of the Jews, primarily, while making themselves more attractive and more desirable. Plastering themselves all over publications and such to make them larger than life.

    Sounds familiar? If not, I implore you to go outside and look around. Better yet, sit in front of your TV for several hours. Pick up any fashion magazine.

    It’s all propaganda. It’s not to say these people are better than you. It’s only them exercising their control over you down to your mating preferences.

  • 570 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:36 am

    @CHRISTIAN CHEN,

    Cheers!! :)

  • 571 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:49 am

    @asdf,

    I agree.

  • 572 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:51 am

    @epiclolz,

    Did you know that you’re African?

  • 573 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:53 am

    @Cloud,

    “Well, I am an asian guy and I am open to all ethnicities so to those girls who are not white, don’t be discouraged to date asians. ”

    Thank you. :)

  • 574 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 10:57 am

    @,

    Big penises aren’t so great. I was once with a Brazilian man. The moment he took off his pants, I had resolved to put mine back on: Too big.

    I’m 5’7″ at 114 lbs. I’m pretty tight (mostly because I’m not promiscuous or have sex regularly. Asian penises fit me perfectly.

    Large penises are over-rated, unless you’re so stretched out that you require them.

  • 575 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:00 am

    @Ben Dover,

    Thank you, Ben.

    Nice try, “Tyrone”. Please stop f-ing with my race. You can’t speak for us.

  • 576 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:11 am

    @George,

    No, he was joking about all the stereotyping on this site. I’ve been reading the posts, so i got a good chuckle. :)

  • 577 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:18 am

    @I hope some asian guys will relate with me.,

    Please don’t take your 1 “ghetto” experience and apply it to the rest of them. White people make the same comments and insults.

    You discount them because… you want to be with them? Let’s be fair, yes? Don’t justify your attraction at the expense of others. thanks.

    I find Asian men attractive. Their personalities and their open minds, mostly. The ones who see me as a person.

  • 578 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:27 am

    @Princess Sammi,

    You’ve never been to NYC.

    You’re a racist.

    Asian men do find dark-complexioned women attractive. Not all of them. Just as there are some Asian Men who don’t find white women beautiful. Especially racist ones.

    I have had Asian boyfriends: Korean & Japanese (non-whitewashed). We’ve received compliments from many people.

    Please stop acting like you know so much. You are not authorized to speak on behalf of Asian men, white american.

  • 579 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:31 am

    @Mari,

    Please know:

    Peasant Sammi’s assessment is incorrect on all levels. Just because she hasn’t seen any A/B couples doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

    She’s just adding to the propaganda machine.

  • 580 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:32 am

    @XOBlondieOX,

    Thank you :)

  • 581 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:35 am

    @Princess Sammi,

    Actually, Peasant–

    If you have read through the comments as I have, there are two people that posted who are in relationships with ‘Black’ Women. Happily.

    So, yes. STFU.

  • 582 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:44 am

    @Korean54,

    “I’ve noticed with a *group* of black people you have to act, talk, and dress a certain way to be accpeted. Becuase of that I started dressing ghetto and slowly I started adopting ghetto ways.”

    Even I went through this and I went to a predominantly ‘black’ HS. I didn’t fit in at all. I was a “nerd” with big long curly hair who spent lunch periods in the library and the orchestra room. I was thankful for being on the fencing team because I didn’t have to take regular gym classes with the other students. I thought I had to talk like them and be like them to fit in. But I couldn’t stick with it. I felt terrible inside because I hated the idea of lowering myself to fit in and to keep myself from getting beat up by the girls and boys.

    I’m sorry to hear about what you and your family had experienced in the past, but please don’t make all dark-complexioned people responsible for what you went through. My family didn’t know you and your, and neither did the families in my neighborhood or in different states.

    Besides,
    if you can date white people after they’ve nearly destroyed Japan with two atomic bombs or detained Asians in CA because the current white people you’re pursuing personally had nothing to do with it, then you can take the burdens of your past from our shoulders.

    Thanks.

  • 583 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:47 am

    Correction:

    “My family didn’t know you and your family. Neither did the families in other neighborhoods in NYC or in different states.”

    Thank you.

  • 584 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 11:50 am

    @Korean54,

    You’re generalizing.

    white people are the biggest bullies. Learn about U.S. and world history.

    Again, sorry about your experiences. But don’t elevate yourself at our expense. besides, You were in High School. Honestly.

  • 585 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:00 pm

    @Princess Sammi and Korea54,

    Flattened by irony.

    Even I didn’t see it coming!!

    Sammi, there are Asian men who would find you extra-ordinarily beautiful. No matter what the white (or Asian) story-book says.

    Take good care of yourself and stay beautiful. Enunciate when you speak and be mindful of how you present yourself. You’re under heavy scrutiny, as you can see. We’re born into a world that was taught to hate us. Some people cannot handle this and so they become violent because, well, it is a bit frustrating. Just be at your best always and keep your head clear. You don’t have to play this game. Set your own standard and move forward. Your Asian mate may be just around the bend.

    Remember:

    “The contents of a person’s heart shapes their appearance.” Be good to yourself and those around you, even the ones who don’t like you. They can only make you better because they hate you so much.

    Shine on you crazy diamond.

    Sorry about calling you a peasant.

    (Am I the first and only person on here to apologize or even admit that I have mis-judged a dark-complexioned person? Yes.)

  • 586 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:03 pm

    @Korean54,

    Thank you for your thoughtful response.

  • 587 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:07 pm

    @Princess Sammi,

    There are people who live for conflict. You’re greater than that, so there is nothing or him to elaborate on.

  • 588 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:12 pm

    Correction:

    There is nothing for him to elaborate on.

    I, however, will elaborate on this:

    - Naomi Campbell is part Japanese. She is now married to a Japanese man.

    - The model Chanel-Iman. Also Black/Asian mix

    Here are more:

    http://blasian.blogspot.com/2006/03/notable-blasians.html

    Idiots have to post in all capital letters to distract you from the truth. Sounds like mass-media, yes? Make yourself immune to it.

  • 589 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:14 pm

    @SpankRamen,

    Well said!!!
    Thank you for your post!

  • 590 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:19 pm

    @john,

    Good point.

    Everyone should look up Tim Wise on YouTube. Especially Asians..

  • 591 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:23 pm

    @J,

    I don’t dance in clubs and AsianNation.com are not experts. They don’t span the globe so they really don’t know what they’re talking about.

    There are many ‘black’ men and Asian women couples here. But there are more white men Asian women couples. The AM/ww trend is emerging here. With this said, I believe George is not only incorrect, but is trying to instigate a racial blowup.

    Nice try, george.

  • 592 ForwardThinkerInBackwardWorld // Jun 27, 2010 at 12:26 pm

    @sweetheartguy,

    “White women are very lovely, they never discriminate based on race. They are open and loving… ” etc.

    You’re obviously not dark-complexioned.

  • 593 lasik eye surgery // Jun 29, 2010 at 9:00 am

    We found a few tweets about this topic by Dr. Romane last week.

  • 594 Anonymous // Jun 29, 2010 at 8:59 pm

    @The white girl, IMHO, women who say Kawaii and follow that up with a intelligent line in Japanese are not worth the effort to talk too. I, an Asian guy, avoid avid anime-fangirls like the plague. It’s like saying a guy who loves Anime will find it easy to get a Japanese girlfriend – your extensive knowledge of manga/anime is not consider a compliment to any Asian culture.

    Just as I find it insulting to say that ALL Asian guys talk about are manga and computer, I feel the same when all the non-Asain folks around me feel that I can relate to their Anime/Manga fetish because I’m Asian.

  • 595 Angela // Jul 4, 2010 at 8:45 am

    @CoolDustin82, I have to say I agree with you on that one!! Haha!! Black girls and Asian guys should try each other more!!*cheering* Not knocking white girls or any one but culturally, black woman do discipline their children. I think culturally Asians and blacks have a lot in common with certain things in they way regard family and respect for elders. We have to deal with stereotypes all of the time. We have the ghetto black girl image of being strong, bossy, un-lady like, fight like men, over-weight, disrespectful, loud etc…. The Asian men geeky, nerdy, prudish about sex,(I don’t see how though Hehe!) mystic Kung-Fu fighters, feminine, sexist, controlling, etc….. Yes, this does exist to where you do have men or woman who are like this however, it becomes a problem when these generalizations apply to everyone. It is not fair. There are things that do happen in certain cultures more often but it does not apply to everyone. I my self do not fit any of the stereotypes I listed for a black woman. The same shouldn’t be done for a Asian man. Hell, we shouldn’t do this to any one of any background. This is the reason why we have the internet so we don’t have to rely on Hollywood and rehearsed dialogue to tell us as people who is hot and who’s not, who is smarter and who’s not, who is the better race and who is not good at all type of thing. Through these blogs even if we don’t agree with everything, it shows growth with people of different backgrounds socializing. It would be a blessing if we can start doing what we do online in person. Ahh, ya gotta love Bill Gates!LOL!! He knew what he was doing when he created microsoft. Clever man. Hehehe. Anyway, ONE LOVE!!

  • 596 This is so funny // Jul 9, 2010 at 4:13 pm

    @Korean54, Hey you made my day~ I am a Blackanese woman and I have dated Japanese men. But i was wondering did your familys store get more black thieves because it is in the ghetto? Could you not afford the more affluent zip codes? Not looking to fight, just wondering?
    And,,,, Not to you but this whole thing is sad it is obvious you people don’t get out much in the cities i have seen plenty of Black ( espically Mixed) women with Asian men, and speaking about people being mean~ well i guess the slavers kinda left their imprint on a whole class of peoples to this day. I find this all very educational for my Psychology class.

  • 597 Anwar Amir Isreal // Jul 13, 2010 at 1:23 pm

    @Alex Chow, That is a very good question. From personal experience I have found out that black men appear to be viewed as being men,more “manly” than even white men on a subconcious level. They also apear more confident,relaxed, secure and graceful elements of what “swagger” or “game” is, the ability to meet and obtain relationship status with a high percentage of attractive women. Asian guys with the exception of Bruce Lee, and a few others who actually have caucasion facial structures and “extreme confidence” are not portrayed or subconciously thought of by women as being sensuous and masculine in an appealing sense. It is unfair sterotypes and the type of asians who first came to America that are responsible for this mean and pitiful representation of the Asian male. If you want to even go deeper Alex alot of it has to do with white males been smart enough to neutralize the odds against them by painting ugly pictures of asian men and even blacks and other non whites to secure most of the females. Without this trickery and propaganda the white male would be at alost because they are the minority on the planet. In the early 1900′s a lot of asian men seduced white women by getting them hooked on Opium and using them this frightened the s**9 out of the white men and they started a lot of false propaganda to frighten the white women away. TV and movies their other insidious tools did the rest of the damage in the womans minds.

  • 598 chelle shock // Jul 14, 2010 at 12:48 pm

    I’m a Black woman; I date Asian men. Actually, I only date Asian men or Black men. Why is this never topic? The Black woman/Asian man couple? Oh, I know: no one cares.

  • 599 Kropa987 // Jul 15, 2010 at 5:24 pm

    To say it short and simple… I’m from Europe, the whitest girl you will meet. Since I can remember, I have been attracted to Asian man. I do not find white man attractive at all. That is true that it is uncommon to see white female/Asian male and I sure as hell get some stares from people (especially being in Asia!) but I am loving every minute of it. It doesn’t matter what nationality or color you are. Some people have to take a little more chances because they can really miss a good person by picking through.

  • 600 six.Oh // Jul 18, 2010 at 10:37 pm

    @fl4mers, thanks a bunch for the perspective, it helped explain a lot :)

  • 601 cam // Jul 21, 2010 at 12:58 am

    I am a whaite girl who LOVES asian men. Unfortunately for me there are very few where I live (Reno, NV). It is sooooooo hard to meet any around here. So, here is another white girl who likes asian men, we are out there even in remote areas lol.

  • 602 Mary // Aug 3, 2010 at 10:05 am

    I am a small, blue-eyed white girl who really likes asian guys. Whenever a cute asian guy catches my eye, he never seems to notice me. Is it because he’s just not used to girls checking him out when he’s with his white guy friends? What should I do in this situation?

  • 603 Anonymous // Aug 21, 2010 at 4:54 pm

    @Pale, I totally agree with what you said. (By the way I am half Filipino and half British and of course with a Spanish/French twist so for me women are not a problem, just curious on this subject )

  • 604 Anonymous AM // Sep 7, 2010 at 4:41 pm

    @ Mary, oh how this CBC wishes he had someone like you to spoil. Maybe next lifetime (if there’s such a thing).

  • 605 A Girl // Sep 10, 2010 at 9:36 pm

    @White (I think),

    We like Asians, and nice Jewish Guys!

    Nice guys just don’t seem to ask people out as often!

  • 606 A Girl // Sep 10, 2010 at 9:41 pm

    @Mike, Exactly! Confidence is important! You ask people out, you get dates!

  • 607 A Girl // Sep 10, 2010 at 11:15 pm

    @Asian guy,
    I agree with you.

  • 608 J. // Sep 11, 2010 at 8:47 pm

    this article is full of $h!t. the only thing i found true about it is that you do see a lot of white guys dating asians. but then again you see a lot of guys dating any ethnicity. why? because beauty comes from all ethnicites rather than just one. this article simply shows that compared to white men, asian men are lesser. compared asian women, white women are lesser. i could believe that asian men MAY not be attracted to white women but that is just individual preferences. im sure most asian guys wouldnt say “i dont like white women” if they see a white woman spreading her legs for him. it doesnt matter what ethnicity you are, but this was poorly written.

  • 609 Sara // Sep 14, 2010 at 8:18 pm

    I am a white gurl. I lived in Japan for 4 years. I had some strange dating experiences. One atrocious one. I came back to America totally discouraged about ever finding ‘finding love.’ I didn’t want to actually. I didnt give a shit. Then I met this boy. He happens to be half viet half chinkyy and Im absolutely in love. He loves me too. We ate pho on our accidental first date. Im in love. <3

  • 610 Madeline // Sep 17, 2010 at 2:02 am

    Stereotyping. That is the problem. “Nerdy Asian guy” and “Stupid white bimbo”. Neither races give each other a chance simply because they THINK the other one is like that.

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  • 612 Adesia // Sep 26, 2010 at 7:31 pm

    I only want to date Asian guys now.
    Wish I could find the right one to settle down with ..

  • 613 asian boy // Oct 15, 2010 at 8:22 pm

    well in my school, there’s full of hot white girls but idk, something is repelling me so i was like nah…. fck it. idk if it’s just me but i rarely find asian girls attractive for some reason. and it’s not because white girls have stuff like pointier noses and shit. but my school is racist so everyone goes around and does stuff like: “SLANTED EYED BITCH, GET AWAY FROM ME.” ya and when i say everyone i mean the asians themselves too. HOLY SHIT!!!

  • 614 Asian lover // Oct 28, 2010 at 8:30 pm

    I think the reason why most white girls don’t date asian guys is not because they don’t find them attractive. Speaking as a white girl with an asian bf. I find that there is a stigma that if they do date you it will be cause it’s easier to get in your pants than an asian girl and your just something to mess around with and till they get married to a girl from back home. Also I was worried for a while that asian guys just wouldnt find me attractive. I also read some references earlier about penis size and I didnt see much difference than my non-asian bfs in the past. Plus size dosent matter its how you rock it in the bedroom ;)

  • 615 courtney // Oct 30, 2010 at 10:49 am

    @Mike Kay, thats not very nice. im white & im not like that

  • 616 Ashley // Nov 5, 2010 at 7:13 am

    I’m a white girl (an attractive one), and after dating tons of a**hole white guys, you know– the preppy, spoiled, meathead type– I finally wised up and said to myself, “I want to date a sweet and caring guy, because those qualities are the most important.” The next guy I met was a cute Chinese guy. He was funny and confident, but he was also sincere and open, and we got along so well. I feel really lucky to have found him. I could never generalize and say that ALL asian men have better personalities than white guys, but I’m starting to think there might be a little truth in it. Also, about the *size* thing: I personally don’t care about that, and I don’t see much difference between white and asian in that respect. Some women may be all about that, but you don’t want to date someone who only cares about sex anyways.. or maybe you do!! (haha)

  • 617 Bruce // Nov 6, 2010 at 11:00 am

    Hey, dude. You compare white people to dogs? Screw you! Racist!

  • 618 Bruce // Nov 6, 2010 at 11:19 am

    P.S.: And you dare to call interracial dating a “threatening epidemic?” Who do you think you are? You’re no better than a black-white segregationist of a few decades past.

  • 619 Anon // Nov 10, 2010 at 3:02 am

    I’m nerdy, and a white girl.
    I didn’t even read the paragraph beside Ichigo, I was just thinking the latest chapter is being released soon (Yay!)
    And math geeks FTW!

  • 620 AlphaWolf // Nov 10, 2010 at 5:12 pm

    I like white girls. I’ve dated a lot of them and I am Chinese. No difference

  • 621 Amanda // Nov 20, 2010 at 12:01 pm

    I’m a blonde haired blue eyed white girl and love Asian men but have never had an Asian boyfriend. I always read articles stating that Asian men like white women but I’m not sure if I see it :/ Even when I try to flirt with/ hit on Asian men they seem disinterested… Maybe it’s just the Asian men of Austin, Tx? and no, I’m not fat or ugly or anything…

  • 622 AM in TO // Nov 20, 2010 at 6:10 pm

    @Amanda,
    I understand how you feel. I am an AM in Toronto and I adore Caucasian girls. They’re so friendly, sweet, and open-minded. But I never have the guts to make a move because I don’t think Caucasian girls are interested in me. Or maybe I just don’t know how to read signals. I’m neither short nor ugly. I’ve come to think that only Asian girls like me, but they remind me of my sister.
    Perhaps you can help the AMs who read this. How can we tell if you are interested? Do you steal glances, or stare, or smile?

  • 623 Amanda // Nov 21, 2010 at 12:57 am

    @AM in TO, Well I can’t speak for all Caucasian women but I show I’m interested by smiling a lot and being giggly. Eye contact is usually a good sign as well as stealing glances. Look for the same signs Asian girls give you, flirting is flirting so just pay attention to if the woman is paying extra attention to you, it’s usually a sign that she’s interested.

  • 624 aznzombie // Nov 21, 2010 at 3:13 am

    I’m an Asian male and I’ve had various experiences with several white girls. My first encounter was in high school. She was a cute Jewish girl and we did our thing. After high school we lived in different places. During my 4 years of college I’ve dated a couple of Asian girls. Last summer I’ve tried to date a white girl 7 years younger than me. I even got to meet her parents and shit. But I didn’t make a right move so now we’re in a limbo state. Recently I’d a couple of random encounters. I met a cute blonde girl at my workplace. She was a customer happened to be in town for a few days. We exchanged phone number within minutes and the next night she called and wanted to get together but god damn it I wasn’t in town that night so I missed the chance. Now she’s back home far away and we text a lot. A few weeks later I met another cute white girl at work and managed to get her to come over to my place and work on some stuff. She had a boyfriend so I tried to test how far she’s willing to go with me. So I seduced her a bit. First she didn’t resist and totally let me touch her, hold her hands and shit. But a while later she said her boyfriend probably wouldn’t appreciate it and left. So my conclusion so far: meet a white girl that likes YOU and fucking make the right move at the right moment and be fucking confident about it. Have eye contact with her when you talk. Have some ball and approach them and tell them what the fuck you want. I wouldn’t say I’m successful as I’m still experimenting. But I would say that Asian guys do get white girls. It takes effort and some ball.

  • 625 aznzombie // Nov 21, 2010 at 3:29 am

    @Amanda, most Asian males aren’t born to know how to flirt. Our culture is just so different and flirting with random women are traditionally unacceptable manners. Some people call it “shyness” which I think it’s correct to certain extent. In fact any male in the world would agree that they all want to flirt. Sometimes they’re just socially restricted. So a lot of white girls (and ABC Asian girls) don’t find that attractive. I used to the the “shy” type and now I’m trying to improve myself and really confident and approachable in front of girls in general. I’ve gradually learned how to flirt with girls and have eye contacts with them. If you like Asian guys, spend some time observing them and learn about their personality and culture. Tell them what you’re looking for and be the one to break the ice if necessary. Keep me updated Amanda.

  • 626 aznzombie // Nov 21, 2010 at 3:34 am

    @AM in TO, hey dude, I’m with you but you got to have some gut to approach them. I used to be like you too. But I’m starting to change and I think it’s working bit by bit. I’ve gone to clubs, hit on and danced with some really hot white chicks. All you have to do is to approach them confidently and look them in the eyes when you talk. Tell them what you want. Be brave my bro. Just pretend they’re Asian girls or your sister. You wouldn’t be shy in front of your sister, would you?

  • 627 Lovelyguy // Nov 23, 2010 at 5:54 am

    @Amanda, Connect with me Amanda, May be I can help you out, I am an asian guy , buzz me on the id if you want, asian guys are very easy to get , I dont mean any kind of asian guy, even serious genuine guys

  • 628 Lovelyguy // Nov 23, 2010 at 5:58 am

    @Adesia, Let me know about you adesia, please reply me on the email

  • 629 Lovelyguy // Nov 23, 2010 at 6:01 am

    @Mary, Mary, u must smile well, email me if you want to know more , the link shows my email

  • 630 Lovelyguy // Nov 23, 2010 at 6:02 am

    @cam, Hey cam girl and ur friend, reply me on email if you want to have asian guy who likes white girl , im asian

  • 631 Lovelyguy // Nov 23, 2010 at 6:10 am

    @Kropa987, Hi Kropa, im an asian guy and can help you if you need something, email me on the links email id if you need anything

  • 632 Lovelyguy // Nov 23, 2010 at 6:15 am

    @Sorcha, Hi sorcha, I love you very much for your views , its good to respect everyone’s culture and a human being for what he/she is , email me on the email in my link if you need anything, Im a wonderful asian guy , I love european girls too , they way they are born, their innocent nature, etc

  • 633 adesia // Nov 23, 2010 at 7:05 am

    @Lovelyguy, my email is systemfx@gmail.com

  • 634 carson chan // Dec 6, 2010 at 8:47 pm

    be a badass, yet a gentleman, yet a smartass..

    then any asian can get any girl

  • 635 First gen Asian in US // Dec 13, 2010 at 10:45 pm

    This website really shouldn’t be called stuff asian people like but rather Facts about Asians. I mean everything about us is so true down to the details it’s scary. And yes for the record I think white girls are cuter than asians, and yes we do need to act less nerdy and hit the gym once in a while…

  • 636 First gen Asian in US // Dec 13, 2010 at 10:55 pm

    @Mary, I think I can speak for most of my Asian brethren that we are just really shy and don’t know how to read signals. I’ve known a white girl for a really long time and one night she told me she was really attracted to me and that why I didn’t do anything about it and all I thought about was “there were signals?” So yeah I guess be more explicit about your intentions :)

  • 637 Ching // Jan 11, 2011 at 11:27 am

    @First gen Asian in US,

    LOL. You’re a first generation asian in the US? damn, i congratulate you for your integration into their society, because you are evidently no different from a dumb american blonde. unfortunately, if i follow what you say, that white girls are cuter than asians, then you are at a losing end, because–lo and behold– you are now both dumb AND not very attractive.

    In case you haven’t realized, a lot of the posts here, including this one, are dismissive of Asians, so simply by exclaiming that this site espouses FACTS which are “so true… it’s scary”, you are pretty much concurring with the belief that ALL asians try too hard to look like whites, are ugly as hell, and are all nerdy and have lousy bodies. And oh, by the way, no thanks to your unlousy fate of being an Asian, you are all of that. Maybe you should save the advice of being less nerdy and hitting the gym for yourself, because here in Singapore, I know of many girls who exercise, and have BOTH brains and looks.

    On behalf of fellow Asians, I’d like to tell you that you are not fit to be one. You’re too stupid. You’re probably thinking, ‘I dont wanna be one either’. So, well, feel free to do a Michael Jackson and become white. I feel sorry for him, because he was brought up in an age of blatant discrimination. You are not. But hmm, on hindsight, I do feel sorry for you. You are so self-deprecating about your own race, something you cant really ever change, that you will forever be trying to live up to the dream of being something/someone you can never be.

    Good luck.

    P/S: I just discovered this site, and god, I am so never coming back here again. It’s practically a place where stupid people reinforce one another’s lack of intellect, where people of sense come to try, in vain, to offer a glint of hope to enlighten you people. If anyone here thinks ‘god, you’re a f***ing arrogant (Asian, oh, wait, Chinese) bitch who thinks she is so much smarter than the rest of us, well goddamnit, you finally got something right. I am.

  • 638 Annette // Jan 30, 2011 at 7:44 pm

    White girls don’t like Asian guys, seriously? I’m white and I really think Asian guys are attractive! I thought maybe it was the other way around, that they don’t like white girls…

  • 639 Jack // Jan 31, 2011 at 10:02 pm

    Don’t be retarded Annette. White girls hate asian guys. Just because you’re one rare instance doesn’t mean this article is completely true

  • 640 Jack // Jan 31, 2011 at 10:03 pm

    isn’t true…. is what i meant

  • 641 James // Feb 6, 2011 at 11:23 pm

    I’m asian, vietnamese and chinese AND NOT ALL ASIAN GUYS LIKE WHITE GIRLS.

    I don’t, for once. I think they are all slutty. The only reason why they want you, asian guys, is because of anime and kpop. They are obsessed with asians and want to be one.

  • 642 zrk9a // Feb 27, 2011 at 3:52 pm

    I am an asian man and I have the biggest thing for Jewish girls.

    To be more accurate, I have seen many very attractive Jewish girls here in Toronto.

    THEY. ARE. SO. HOT.

    Unfortunately, I don’t know any Jewish girls personally. Can anyone help me on that?

  • 643 white guy with a question // Feb 28, 2011 at 10:42 pm

    good article, i agree with what “HKGUY” when he had written about intelligence, physical, and social confidence

    but here the thing i’m true to who i am a white guy some may say white guys have an edge with asian women but im still abit puzzled because thats not so true, yes they are friendly and cool people but some times thats as far as i get to know some i have had the pleasure and honor but mostly its any body guess

    i am athletic i do construction i cut trees and bmx i exercise so yes iam athletic .. , social confidence –i work in a business setting and you have to be confident to be in business, Inteligence well i am not a bag of hammers and iam not Einstein either lol but i can hang lol

    i know my rant was kinda not so much on topic but oh well i had a question
    so if any body has got some advice i am willing to hear it

  • 644 Natalia // Mar 11, 2011 at 10:46 pm

    I as well am white, and find some Asian guys to be attractive, in particular (if we’re talking about the Asian ‘continent’) Filipino, Korean, and Indian men. But on the whole issue of confidence, I find that Asian men who normally associate with non-Asian men do seemingly have a lot more confidence and “game” and don’t have a problem following suit with their buddies and hitting on any hot chick regardless of her race

  • 645 George // Mar 22, 2011 at 1:55 pm

    After the UCLA white girl rant against Asians, Asian men thinking of asking white women on a date, are running for the exits, particularly at UCLA and some in relationships are also running for the exits!

  • 646 Sorry I'm into Confidence // Mar 22, 2011 at 6:16 pm

    I know see plenty of white girls dating Asian guys, and I know plenty of white girls that find Asians attractive and some that don’t. Fact is confidence is sexy, if your intimidated before you even you talk to the girl then you’ll never have a chance. Also I’d like to add that Asian guys like other races too. One of my good Korean friends is literally into all girls, no matter what their race, another one of my friends is into mostly black girls, in fact I have a friend whose father is Vietnamese & her Mother is black. So to sum it all up, we are into what we’re into.

    I’ll also add, that James is sorta right, some girls are obsessed with Asian culture [such as anime & Kpop] and though they are NOT Asian, they wish to become one, so if you want them I’d say get em’ while they’re hot, but be careful of dating someone who’s not even accepting of themselves.

  • 647 Teapot // Mar 24, 2011 at 3:24 am

    I think white girls don’t date asian guys are because of the little fiddle in the middle. They go for brothas like crazy.

  • 648 Christ // Mar 30, 2011 at 1:00 am

    Asian girl – you are an uneducated fool and you clearly have some issues. You are so obviously jealous of white girls it’s not even funny. You say that race doesn’t matter then proceed in a pathetic attempt to throw white women under the bus. As for your ” White girls are hoes, America has the most teenage pregnancies.” Well now, that’s not true at all. Last time I checked that would be Africa and any other country that still has bride prices.

    In Africa there is so much rape of young girls because for whatever reason people have come to believe that men can be cured of AIDS through virginal blood. There have been cases of girls as young 3 months old being raped because people think that if they have sex with a virgin their AIDS will be cured. Aside from that child brides are still very common place, so to see a pregnant 9 year old is not something that would turn any heads there being that their forced husbands rape them every night beginning when they first get them from ages 5-9.

    Sorry to say, but in many Asian societies child brides are very common place as well as polygamy. So it’s not uncommon to see multiple girls from ages 9-16 all pregnant from the same old man they were sold to by their parents. I know for a fact that this is still a very common practice in rural China even though the law mandates that girls cannot be married younger than 16. Apparently under 10% of girls are actually married after that age.

    So for you to say that America of all places has the highest rate of teenage pregnancy is laughable. People are shocked when they see a pregnant 17 year old in any westernized society, never mind a pregnant 13 year old. I just got finished reading an article about a girl in Guizhou who was married (sold) by her parent to a 40 year old neighbor at the age of nine to be his 6th bride. By the age of 13 she already had 2 sons and was pregnant, again, common occurrence in China and many other Asian countries.

    It is culture rather than race, cultures that still covet virginity and youth so highly will continue to rape children. The parents will continue as well because younger girls are more likely to be virgins and are usually bought for more money influencing the parents to sell their daughters younger and younger.

    More urban centres may not be able to get away with such things but the cultural stigma remains none the less. Women are expected to be married young, and even in places like Japan it is not uncommon for young school girls to be dating men twice their age and to be sleeping with them before they marry. That is why hymen reconstructive surgery is so common place in Asian societies where it is almost unheard of in the west. Girls are suppose to be young and virginal to be seen as attractive prompting men to be attracted to younger and younger girls. ie) look at the huge school girl fetish.

    As for Asian guys not being “able” to get white girls, that’s bull. Asian guys just need to stop being so shy and get up there and talk to them. White girls are used to white guys, white guys are pretty clear when they are interested in them. White girls don’t know when an Asian guy is interested in her or not because he won’t just walk up and flirt, they tend to dance around it for too long and the white girl thinks that you’re either gay, or you just want to be their friend.

    Plus, so many white girls are told by their Asian girlfriends that Asian guys are only interested in small girls and that they are too tall and too curvy to attract Asian guys, that’s why you end up in the friend zone. Girls are very self conscious about their bodies, and if an Asian guy is taking too long to hit on her what her Asian girl friend said will pop up in her head.
    “Of coarse he doesn’t like you, he’s Asian, Asian guys only like Asian girls, I’m too tall, too busty, too curvy, I’m just not petite and cute enough to be attractive to him.” Then you drop off her radar and enter the friend zone. If you want a white girl, make sure you don’t send her mixed signals, but don’t be creepy either. It’s pretty simple.

    As for white girls not staying hot as they get older. My mom only now looks 40 now that she’s 53. My grandmother is in her late 80 and is often mistaken for being the same age as her other friends who are 65 or so, she also has more energy than they do. Women age differently depending on how they live their lives, my family is very active and has a seething hatred for elevators and the like. I’ve seen plenty of Asian women blimp up as soon as they hit 30 and plenty that look amazing for their age, but that is because of how they lived personally.

  • 649 SZ // Mar 31, 2011 at 8:14 am

    Actually, even in a predominantly white university–UW-Madison, as far as I know, I can think of 10 asian-americans I know here, and realistically, 8/10 Asian Americans are dating a white girl, so I think the trends are changing, and changing fast, since I remember when I was 16, I was the only Asian kid with a white girlfriend, and now I’m not so unique anymore. Regardless…I’ve actually started to desire asian girls more..LOL

  • 650 Bobby // Apr 6, 2011 at 4:01 pm

    @SZ
    Are you sure about those statistics? Not to sound negative, I do not believe the trend is changing…it’s actually going reverse. The reason is all the negative images from the media have even gotten even worse for Asian men. Just look at the recent films lately like 21, Dragonball Evo, King of Fighters, The Last Airbender, upcoming The Weapon with David Henrie, upcoming Genghis with Mickey Rourke, Extraordinary Measures, and Jay Chou as Kato (which was not very flattering). It was already bad in previous years but by far it’s nowhere as bad as the 90s. I was amazed back in the 90s to see how progressive we were getting with quite a few Asian alpha males like Jason Scott, Ernie Reyes Jr., Brandon Lee (before his death), Russel Wong, Philip Rhee, Mark Dacascos etc. The only famous Asians people recognize today are William Hung, Virginia Tech shooter and the nerdy Asian dude from Heroes. There are other Asian celebrities like Daniel Henney (Agent Zero Wolverine movie), Ken Leung (X-Men 3) and Daniel Dae Kim (from Lost) but they haven’t had their own stories where they’re starred as the alpha male except for inde films where nobody watches…so far I’m only seeing John Cho and Kal Penn in Harold and Kumar films, unless if you count Jackie Chan, Jet Li, Ong Bak, Rain, Jay Chou, and Stephen Chow, but of course everyone knows these guys would never get a starring role in a American film without martial arts in it!! I’ve heard the tokan Asian dude on the Bachelorette was the first one to go and even Rush Limbaugh beat Daniel Dae Kim in a sex appeal contest!

  • 651 Roby The Germ // Apr 7, 2011 at 7:12 am

    Hey! Well, I am a white girl and I when I think about hot guys the word ‘ASIAN’ spins in my mind. Actually, I consider Asian eyes amazing, Asian smile more beautiful than white guy smile.
    I don’t like blonds with blue eyes and I know a lot of girls who like more Asian guys. It is the illusion of USA/Asia thing. USA people (especially those stereotyped California girls) think HOT means blond hair and big blue/brown eyes. Europe, on the other hand, is more opened to Asia culture. And when I look at Asian girl-white guy and white girl- Asian guy I say the white girl with an Asian guy look better together.
    So, I love Asia and Asians are way hotter than everybody else on Earth, whether they are from Indonesia, Philipnes, China, Japan, Korea or a little federal state in India where I found my love, Nagaland <3

  • 652 Evolet // Apr 18, 2011 at 6:22 pm

    Lawls, weird, I see more White girls with Asian guys at my school. XD

    Also, white girls are totally attracted to Asian dude…just celebrity Asian dudes. I find more average joe Asian guys fugly. :\ I’ve only see a hand full of attractive Asian men in my life so far. Maybe it’s just bad genes here…yet, again, more girls dating Asian guys than the other way around.

  • 653 Ghost // Apr 30, 2011 at 1:39 am

    Most asian guy like me find White girls attractive. Never dated my own race don’t know why?? White girls here where am at are not attracted to asian guys so sucks for me!

  • 654 kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk // Apr 30, 2011 at 11:08 am

    There are many white girls obsesed with asian Pop, anime, manga and television, and they want an asian boyfriend, but in my case, I don´t like all of that, I have got an asian boyfriend and I love him because he looks like a good child, not too many hair in his body, hair in his head and perfect skin.

    I´ve dated before white guys but they where all too sellfish and tried to treat me like an object.

    Asian guys are very kind and you can talk many many things with them. Their mind is very clear and the relationship is very easy to carry with.

    That is what I like about my asian boyfriend, not his culture, I like what he has inside his head.

  • 655 Sierra // May 12, 2011 at 6:59 pm

    I’m a white girl and I love Asian guys. :) I don’t why the article says they have little chance. I’ve dated a few Asians. I’ve only dated white and Asian guys but I prefer Asians over any race. ^-^

  • 656 nahor88 // May 13, 2011 at 1:49 pm

    I’m Indian (technically Asian), and my one and only serious relationship has been with a white girl, I don’t even find Indian girls sexually attractive, I was raised in a predominantly white environment. Honestly, any white girl who specifically won’t go for an Asian guy prolly isn’t worth it in the first place. There are plenty of white girls like the one I got serious with that see Asian guys as not just nerds, but smart, sweet and sophisticated guys (furthermore, less likely to cheat on them than some hunky white or black guy). In a sense, Asian guys posess the nature to have better luck in a serious relationship with a white girl than other races.

  • 657 Anna // May 16, 2011 at 2:01 pm

    accually guys I’m a very cute white girl brunette long hair. 120lbs 5’2″ 35″ 25″ 38″ with a 32C cup who models who LOVES asian guys. my dating experiences with white or black men have been terrible cheats who couldnt accept the fact that i was catholic and practiced celabacy. or just jerks who treated me as a toy. the BEST and LAST relationship i was ever in has been with a chinese twinkie. 5’7″ 180lbs. ya know. average. what attracted me to him was the respect he showed me. the absolute trust he put in me and the intelligent conversations he added me in. it wasnt that im not smart. im a 3.8 average physiotherapy student. but i was treated like a dolt because i model. he made me feel special and smart and to be honest he complimented things other then my body and my dancing. he complimented my intelligence and my faith. he put me up on a pedastle, and i know that a lot of you asian guys out there hate it when you hear that. thinking that white girls use guys to make them feel amazing, and granted there are many skanks out there who will use you. but if you find a great girl shell bring you up there with her. and no, you dont need to have cheese grater abs or a flawless jawline to have your prize. all you need is a strong back to carry her. His patients with me and his confidence in our relationship and his clingyness lead me to adore and respect him more then i have any other man on earth. his knoledge of cars and computers tells me hes a great handy man to have around the house. and his shy sweet behaviour is what attracted me to him in the first place <3 we are getting married next year. he still beleives that i am out of his league. he has no idea that it is the other way around.

  • 658 Gabe // May 21, 2011 at 3:15 am

    Well, first of all the original article reads quite obviously racist to me. You condescend asian guys, don’t you?

    And not all women like masculine men. I’m a hyper-sensitive man myself – pretty much the antithesis of being manly, as one might say – and I’ve found my best lifelong partner. It always seems like all men are supposed to be masculine because well, this is the mainstream idea so these guys can talk way louder than us. In truth though, some personalities are just not as visible as the others, and if you’re one of those people who doesn’t correlate well with the gender roles, your personality will still lead you to the right person. Just be true to yourself.

    I personally dislike the mentality that guys need to take the initiative or be more proactive; I think it’s about time that the trope dies. It’s been some empty talk for too long – people asking or encouraging other people to be someone else, to pursue a masculine (or feminine / feminist) ideal. Especially it’s gender-based. (just watch out for saying things like “guys need to…”)

    As for my own story… I’m an asian guy myself, been in love with an asian girl and two Europeans. I’ve found that the ethnicity matters little – something that these three girls share have drawn me to them once and again, and far outweigh the cultural differences between them. They’re all somewhat pretty, very creative and smart and have way too many friends, the latter is one of the main reasons I’m no longer with any one of them. I ended up with someone quite different – asian, blunt and almost stoic, independent and dependable. It’s like I’ve learned about what I really want after spending these time with the girls. Should I ended up with one of the other girls, doesn’t matter asian or white, it’s now obvious that it would have ended up in disaster.

  • 659 stuff you like // Jul 12, 2011 at 1:40 pm

    live in your pond forever and never come out of it please. people like you are better off isolated from the rest of society.

  • 660 Adam // Jul 26, 2011 at 11:38 pm

    Dummy’s Guide to Asian Girls with White Fever

    The WHIGGIE (White Guy Groupie)
    A brief profile of Asian girls afflicted with “White Fever”
    ORIGINS: A subset of women of Asian ethnicity, usually found residing in major U.S. cities, although they have been known to appear overseas occasionally. Closely related to their cousins, Yellow Cabs (Japan), Gwei-Po’s (Hong Kong), Sarong Party girls (Singapore), Twinkies and Bananas.
    NOT TO BE CONUSED WITH: Intelligent, emotionally-secure women who are free of identity problems, self-hate, racial prejudice and chips on their shoulders.
    CHARACTER TRAITS
    - Poorly developed self-identity. Pathetically insecure with themselves and their ethnicity.
    - Resentment of father’s traditional, authoritarian upbringing (whether real or perceived).
    - Brainwashed into believing that they, as AF’s, are more desirable than other women in exotic lotus blossom kinda way. Willingness to pander to western media sexual stereotypes of AF’s, which they perceive as marketing advantage.
    - Thoroughly whitewashed. Desperate need to fit into “mainstream” (i.e. white) society and to distance themselves from their Asian heritage. Racial inferiority complex.
    - Feigned air of superiority when dealing with members of own race and any other minority groups. In need of major attitude adjustments.
    - Exaggerated, whiny, Encino-esque valley girl accent.
    - Delusions of grandeur… “I want it all…and that begins with the right (i.e. white) guy…” Asian-American princess complex.
    - Uncanny ability of determine one’s nationality, occupation, earning capacity and make of auto within three minutes of commencing a conversation.
    - Exaggerated perception of white males’ value in increasing AF’s social status.
    - Ignorant and narrow-minded, eager to adopt and perpetuate fallacious western media stereotypes of Asian men.
    - A compulsion to trash Asians, particularly Asian men, in order to justify their autoracist tendencies, placate their guilt and bolster their self-esteem.
    - Extremely shallow, self-centered, argumentative and boring.
    - Disdains ethnic studies; regards it as a major threat to her carefully constructed, self-deceptive whiggie identity.
    - Despises all Asian men, with the occasional exception of their brothers (after all, they share the same genes.
    - Believes that racism does not exist because she, as an AF, has never experienced it first hand, or is too dense to realize it. Besides, those Asiaphiles are so nice to her (while plotting to get into her pants.
    - Gets a warm fuzzy feeling when watching The Joy Luck Club, while snuggled up to her geeky Asiaphile boyfriend.
    - Believes that the only reason an Asian person would disrespect her is because they are racist.
    - Has lost count of how many WM’s she’s done this month.
    - The wet-dream come true for socially-handicapped Caucasian nerds who are unable to attract Caucasian women.
    - Threatened and insecure in the presence of any culturally-perceptive Asian person or any AM not fitting her stereotype of the quiet , marginalized, “model minority” geek.
    - Fundamentally insecure, utterly confused, lacking in self respect.
    - Many aging whiggies, after being used and abandoned by WM’s in favor of younger, more nubile whiggies and being rejected by AM’s who see through their transparency, develop a bitterness towards all men, period.
    - Denial of all of the above.
    FACIAL EXPRESSIONS: a) Look of contempt when eyes meet those of any non-white male, converting to beaming grin upon sighting of WM victim/target; b) terminal pout or c) bimboish expression that defies deep thought.
    TYPICAL ATTIRE: Anything trendy, mainstream-looking and seductive (especially if it’s black and tight). Big hair (perhaps their most valuable asset) tossed with hand every 15 seconds. Wonderbra. Fanatical whiggies have been known to undergo certain procedures such as eyelid surgery, breast augmentation and vaginal tightening operations in order to increase their marketability to WM’s. Blue contact lenses and bleached blonde hair have even been sported on occasion. Note: Attire may vary depending on the specific type of WM being targeted.
    I.Q: Too low to measure.
    NATURAL HABITAT:
    Personal ad columns (“exotic, slim, SAF seeks successful, generous SWM”), cheerleading squads, sorority houses (role: token “oriental sisters”), T.V. newsdesks, B-grade Kung-Fu flicks, trendy nightclubs (usually found necking with aging WM’s), Chinese restaurants (slumming with the WM and demonstrating that she’s “in touch with her heritage”), anywhere else frequented by White males.
    TYPICAL WHIGGIE QUIPS:
    Age 10: “Mom, why do we have to be (Chinese/Japanese/Korean)? Do you have to dress like that? And what’s with Dad and his accent?
    Age 12: “Mom, I want an eyelid job for Christmas, okay?
    Later on…
    “I’ve always only dated white guys. I don’t know why, I just have.”
    “Race doesn’t matter. I just happen to like white guys. It’s just a preference.”
    “We are the world, we are the children…We…”
    “I’ve gone out with all kinds of guys…Dutch, English, French, German, you name it. Even went out with a Jewish guy once! After all, love is color blind.”
    “Eeeew, Jennifer, how could you go out with that (insert minority group here) guy!?” Totally gross!
    “Oooh Roger, you’re like soooo strong and intelligent. Did you say you drive a beemer? Kewl! (giggle).”
    “I want to learn English better…you maybe teach, handsome man? Are you U.S. citizen?” (Yes FOB’s can be whiggies too!)
    “Like why would I want to go out with an Asian guy? They don’t own me or anything. Uhh, and besides they are all male chauvinist …and domineering too…yeah that’s it! Didn’t you see The Joy Luck Club?”
    Like, I’m dating *out* of my race, so how can I be racists?!! Duh!!
    CLOSELY RELATED TO: Racists, bigots, wannabes, ho’s, chameleons, white supremacists, a fish out of water.
    MEDIA REPRESENTATION/ROLE MODELS: Connie Chung, Amy Tan, Lisa Ling, Margaret Cho, Sheryl Wu Dunn, any of The Joy Luck Club protagonists (except the one who married an Asian dude).
    NATURAL COUNTERPARTS: Asiaphiles…who else?

  • 661 m3 // Aug 3, 2011 at 2:33 am

    Tex // Apr 1, 2008 at 12:10 pm (43)

    I HAVE CHILLS. I was reading all of the posts until this one, and had to stop.

    I am a white woman, who dated white, asian, latino, and black people before falling in love and getting married (just so happened to be white).

    It would be naive to discount any cultural influences from family, the media, region of the country, and actually these factors are important.

    Now mid-30s, divorced, and dating, I am still someone who doesn’t care about race, the racial divide most people are talking about seems to me to be cultural, not racial.

    The exception would be the person who is intentionally going for “exotic” or “status” or have a racial fetish – and who wants to date those people, who don’t really want to be with you, but with something they think you represent? What a waste.

    I’ll spare you personal history here, however, I live in a city where there is a large Asian population, gorgeous Asian guys pretty much everywhere. They look at me, some flirt with me, and yet, I still can’t seem to get a decent date with one. A Japanese guy I really liked turned out to just be going out with me because, well, he’s a guy, and I was there. Stereotypical of any race. I don’t care how much I like a person – I’m generous, and if they aren’t into me, I’m not wasting my time.

    Another honey I had just started talking to asked me/nearly accused me outright of having “yellow fever” because I’m white. Really? Do I actually have to recite out loud the races of my past dates in order to prove that I am interested just because he seemed cool? Operative word “seemed”.

    Like a lot of women, I look for qualities in a person’s character long before I get concerned about how much money they make or any of that bullshit. Really, life is too short people!

    Some Asian men have taken interest in me but then something didn’t seem right, and I suspected some of the things the things hateful, racist, Tex mentioned.

    Does perpetuating hate, and at that, on people who had nothing to do with your terrible high school years really make you feel like that big of a man? It’s sad and pathetic, when anyone (of any race) gets so much glee out of being such an egomaniacal ass.

    Newsflash, across the US, pretty much anyone who wasn’t a jock or cheerleader in HS had a shitty time, get over it, the rest of us did. And “those people” you hate so much get theirs anyways because their lives peaked at like 19. So who exactly are you delighting in punishing so much?

    Tex has just reinforced my own experience with Indian guys, except, huh, you grew up here!!

    I had my first real racist epiphany earlier this year when I decided that I can no longer date men who grew up in India. I was sure there was the exception, and so I kept going out with them, but I’ve had it and am no longer keeping my hopes up for one who will actually be a decent and respectful person.

    If the guys I was going on dates with are any indication, basically the regional cultures throughout India have something in common – raising their sons to be pompous asses that are charming and kind on the surface and toxic on the inside. Wow, I never thought I would find myself a racist, and yet, here it is.

    As for other Asians, perhaps Tex is right, do y’all cringe when a woman ages? Because you know what? So do you, and we women accept you anyway. Not by nature, by choice. The only way to not age is to die.

    Contrary to what Tex thinks, at 34, I will NOT go out with just anyone. I’m not desperate, not an Asiaphile, or any -phile for that matter, and guess what, I’m not a model. I’m not stuffy or full of myself, it’s just plain old self-respect.

    Surprise! There are women out there who are intelligent, have lives, and have a lot to offer, and don’t give a crap about your race that actually didn’t die soon enough to avoid a wrinkle or whatever the ageist issue you have is.

    I hear there are a few guys left who actually prefer a real woman to one that hasn’t graduated high school yet. If you know of any that happen to be Asian, please, feel free speak up.

  • 662 m3 // Aug 3, 2011 at 3:26 am

    James // Feb 6, 2011 at 11:23 pm (640)

    Vent over, thought I’d go back to reading posts, but this time scattershot.

    Seems I have a knack for finding the posts of bigoted, misogynistic, racists.

    James, get over yourself.

    Some white women want to date some Asian men because some Asian men are actually pretty great people (gasp!) and besides, Asian men are sexy.

    So are Latino men, and white men, African, the list could go on since I can’t think of a single race of Exclusively ugly people. And since beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I’m guessing you can’t either. Oh wait, except you hate white women, never mind.

    Ugly on the inside knows no race either, as your post shows. All white women are sluts? White women who date Asian men are closet wanna-be-Asians?

    I just erased some pretty heinous examples of stereotypes of Asian women, but I just can’t bring myself to post that.

    All of these absolutes must make you feel really secure….even in my own admitted racist thoughts written above regarding men raised in India, I would still give a guy the benefit of the doubt if he seemed like a decent guy.

    Being hateful and small-minded towards others dose not protect us from people who would be hateful or small-minded to us.

    And before you think I say this out of wishful thinking, just try to think of a personal example where this strategy has been effective.

    I’ve experienced plenty of bigotry (where I grew up), misogyny (I’m female), and been treated badly, called names, excluded, experienced prejudice for all sorts of other life things.

    Repeating it on others doesn’t serve as a shield, deterrent, or protector in any way. You have to decide if you are going to hold a whole population responsible for your (maybe, maybe not) justified anger, or the actual person/people who harmed you responsible instead.

    That said, I may have just dissolved my own previous racist remarks about cultural Indians, however being cautious from experience is not the same thing as being blanket hateful.

    James I suspect you haven’t gotten too much of that white slutty tail you talk about, because if you did, you wouldn’t be so bitter. Perhaps we’re not all such sluts after all.

    This whole thing is ridiculous, don’t know why I am bothering to type anymore.

    And I’m starting to become sorry that I started looking things up online.

    It’s becoming clearer why Asian guys aren’t giving white women a chance. Maybe I didn’t really want to know that it’s “you”, when I previously assumed it was me/us/whatever.

    Contempt and superiority complexes are a turn-off. That’s not white, that’s human.

  • 663 Heather // Sep 1, 2011 at 2:04 am

    Sigh. I just don’t know many Asian guys. When I do, they always have to go back home because they’re an exchange student. F my non-traveling lifestyle…*shakes fist* one day, one day!

    White guys are just so boring…all they care about is video games and watching sports. Or they wear girl pants and “vintage” pedophile glasses and use more smiley faces in their texts than all of my girl friends combined. Why is it so hard to find a masculine guy?
    At least foreigners have interesting things to tell you about their culture and language.

  • 664 Maria // Sep 13, 2011 at 4:33 pm

    I agree Heather,

    I’m a Greek American woman who finds Asian men very attractive for so many reasons. On an obviously superficial level, I value a man who is masculine yet stylish and am sometimes frustrated with the typical jeans and a tshirt look and attitude (if that makes any sense) of many white American men. I also value intellect, culture and respect for others. I’m not saying that all white men are stupid and sloppy; I’m generalizing here. It’s not just the outward appearance of Asian men that attracts me, but also their values. I’ve observed a decline in values of respect and education, for example, and I suppose that’s what has turned me off to many such western men.

    On a somewhat humorous side note, I also read manga, watch anime and korean dramas in addition to being an academic. I’m often considered nerdy by people of my own culture because of it, but I’m ok with that :)

  • 665 Luke // Oct 13, 2011 at 9:02 am

    Lol Adam, I’m going to steal that list of yours if you don’t mind. You are so right on all counts. Whiggie is exactly the right word to describe them.

  • 666 Lexi // Oct 16, 2011 at 1:39 pm

    I’m a white girl and I loooove Asian guys. Most of them are so funny, and sweet, and sexy. ;D
    You meet a white guy who is sexy and he usually turns out to be a total douchebag. :|

  • 667 Troll // Oct 19, 2011 at 10:52 am

    Original Posters got it wrong. The article should be about white guys. Asian women LOVE white men. We all know about Asian Fetish. But Asian Fetish exist only because White Man Fetish exist. After all, it does take two to tango. Moreover, in the world of dating, it is a seller’s market. The buyers, i.e. men, go where the women are. And if Asian women are offering themselves up easily to white guys and the white guy takes the offer, that guy doesn’t have Asian Fetish per se. He’s just being a guy.

    If you don’t believe me, here’s some empirical evidence for you to digest.

    http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/

    As you can see from the results, Asian men don’t necessarily respond more to white women than they do to Asian women. Reply rates are both 48%. in line with their average. On the other hand, Asian women respond disproportionately higher to white men than to any other race — White Men Fetish.

    Then again, it appears everybody has White Men Fetish because they appear to the most popular among women across all races.

  • 668 Diddy // Oct 25, 2011 at 10:46 am

    I am white, and I would not mind dating an Asian boy. I do not know if we can say that girls from a race like (or don’t like) boys from another.

    Isn’t is more like a personal choice? I may love one guy and despise another, regardless of their skin colors and origins.
    Maybe the problem is morre linked to culture and values, far more than merely his origins. There are sweet guys everywhere, and scrubs too!

    I hope this is clear, I do not speak English that well ^_^

  • 669 k8y // Nov 27, 2011 at 5:00 pm

    I’m a white girl, and I find Asian men attractive. They never seem to like other races that much though (just my experience) Not all of us whites are mindless sluts you know! Honestly! But really, the thing that held me back from dating Asians was mostly fear of racism inside their culture and family, and the fact that I (and a lot of other girls to) am very shy.
    I find that their families are nice to you, but don’t make an effort to welcome you (AGAIN not being racist just experience) or they flat out hate you. And don’t say it’s cuz we’re (whites I mean) not smart! I get straight A’s most of the time! But they seem to just dislike other races a lot. It’s sad.

  • 670 anonymous // Dec 5, 2011 at 8:42 pm

    reading this brings back sad memories…. because my ex dumped me (asian) for a (fat and ugly) white girl and they are currently engaged and living together. and now i’m still very bitter when i see an asian guy/white girl couple on the street

  • 671 Fillibuster // Dec 11, 2011 at 6:10 am

    In my experience, Asian guys will fool around with white girls and fuck them but they’ll ultimately end up with Asian girls. Or maybe I’m just bitter because the last Asian guy I dated made me keep our relationship a secret (nevermind his parents!) and dumped me for an Asian girl because they “connected”, but he was only into me for the sex. Not even the first time this has happened.

    Yeah I get the impression that Asian guys just think white girls are sluts and thus only fuck material. Or maybe it’s just the cultural disconnect, I don’t know. I really tried, but every time it’s like Asian guys just write you off from the start.

    Or maybe I just dated the douchebags. But I don’t think I can date another Asian guy, or at least not anyone 1st generation/too fobby (my history). Maybe CBCs will give a white girl a chance….

  • 672 WF-Admiring CBC // Dec 11, 2011 at 8:39 pm

    Hi Fillibuster,
    I’m sorry to hear about your bad experiences with AMs. Please don’t let them discourage you. Seeing AM/WF couples always fills me with hope.
    I’m a CBC AM in Toronto, and I find that I want a Caucasian girl as a life partner more than anything, but I just don’t have the guts to approach you, usually because I don’t think there are too many Caucasian girls who would give us AMs a chance. How I hate this reticence that has plagued me my whole life. I know this webpage proves you’re out there, but to me you’re rare and so hard to find in a sea of strangers. You are everywhere and I adore you, but the saddest part is you have no way of even knowing that.

  • 673 Eric // Dec 16, 2011 at 6:53 pm

    Asian guys love white girls. My brother is married to a white girl (they just had a kid) and my girlfriend is white.

  • 674 Ysabeaux // Dec 25, 2011 at 1:47 am

    I am a white girl and I have to admit I LOVE Asian men. I think that they are beautiful and intriguing and pretty much date them exclusively. So to all those Asian men out there who think white girls don’t like them: It’s not true for ALL white girls, just the stupid ones ;)

  • 675 a girl // Jan 6, 2012 at 6:27 pm

    I’m a white girl who really likes Asian guys. So many are just so handsome! I have dated one half Asian guy (who looked more Asian than white imo), but never any Asians. Actually, I’ve always felt nervous that Asian guys don’t like white girls — Asian girls are often so pretty and delicate, and I feel like maybe a lot of Asian guys find white girls too tall or whatever. So Asian guys should definitely not assume that white girls are not into them, or feel shy about making a move!

  • 676 Tyler // Jan 18, 2012 at 9:59 pm

    I agree with this idea 100% even though I’m not Asian. I’m black and this is the same idea for black interracial relationships. It is rare to see a black girl and a white male dating. Yet, you will always see a white girl dating a black man. I wonder why this is the way that it is. It honestly just blows my mind.

  • 677 SK // Feb 26, 2012 at 1:51 pm

    I used to love Chinese girls and only fantasize them, because I grew up in Hong Kong.

    I used to think white girls are open and friendly, but didn’t pay a lot of attention to study them or whatever.

    Then I was attracted to a Latino.

    One time I was sitting in a cafe playing Chinese chess with friends, and a white girl (we were in Canadian High School) whom I always stared at due to her beauty sat next to me and asked me how to play the game, and I used my broken English to literally explain to her the game, and she was pissed for some reasons and gave me the finger.

    11 years later I knew what that meant, she was giving me signals! But I didn’t know. I thought she was really asking me about our Chinese chess game!

    Then I continue my inflatuation with the Chinese girls. Later I started to consider Korean girls too.

    Just last couple of years I opened my eyes to white girls. Not that I was exluding them before, but I didn’t know enough about them to like them.

    I suddenly discovered their beauty: long legs, bigger eyes, colorful eyes, fair skins (some chinese girls have very good skins though), and just a more athletic body figure.

    That was after I discovered their inner beauty when I read more from them, mainly from social media with blogging features. I started to learn about their inner work and values.

    They are very diverse, unlike how Hollywood portrayed them—easy, feminists, bossy. Not too few of them are quite traditional and submissive too. A trait I find rare in Cantonese (hong Kong) girl.

    Then I realized how good the other guys have it! (Black, white, and other guys who have relationsips with one of those sweet, peachy white girls)

    Watching Shaytards on Youtube, Peter Chao with his french Canadian girlfriend, and chatting with white women online help.

    I find them challenging to get, at least in the beginning. Since I am only starting to get the best part of the white culture(s), I expect that things will only get better between me and white women!

  • 678 Longhorn // Mar 4, 2012 at 8:25 pm

    It’s interesting to read. And I was surprised how many people commented.
    I am interested in sharing cultures and open minded. I live in Dallas TX USA area. :)

    If any of you wants to be friends with me, add me. :)
    http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=7906631

  • 679 azn_guy // Mar 17, 2012 at 2:27 am

    Azn guy here, and I’m open to dating all races white, black, azn, Latino. But prefer white girls for these reasons

    1) beauty: I always prefer a pretty face over a perfect body. I just happen to find caucasian womens’ faces to be much more attractive than other races – chalk it up to having grown up in America, and the caucasian standard of beauty. They also seem to have the perfect balance of the hourglass figure – I’m not a “ass-man” or “breast-man” – rather, for me its the waist-hip ratio – I can spot a sexy hourglass figure from a mile away ;)
    2) confidence: sense of self, lack of insecurities
    3) open-ness: white and black girls tend to be the least judgmental; most open to new experiences.

    but I also love asian girls who strongly identify w/ asian-am culture. I cannot stand twinkies; and I can’t stand Asian people who hold a superiority complex over other asians, especially fobs.

    I also cannot stand asian girls who constantly pull the “cuteseee” act, lip pouting etc. they will always be “girls” in my eyes – I’m looking for a woman.

  • 680 K // Mar 29, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    Are you kidding me? Asian guys are SUPER dominant, probably because their mothers dote so hard on them. What is this nonsense about them being pushovers? It’s true that the vast majority don’t approach girls, but only because their egos would never let them live down a rejection. (Too proud by far) I’m not saying Asian guys aren’t attractive – it really does depend on what you’re looking for in a guy.

    I also don’t like how Asian girls who do date white men have to justify their relationships to others, but never the other way around. I find it extremely racist when people assume that we’re all gold diggers/looking for citizenship/wanting white babies/pissing off our parents just because we’re not dutifully dating some Asian guy. It’s really shocking, how many reasonable people will say that Asian women are whores because they’re not dating an Asian man.

  • 681 Bill // Apr 15, 2012 at 10:50 am

    @azn guy 676

    Hi there. What you said is so true. I actually am looking for the same physical traits in a girl. I don’t really about boob size or ass size, contrary to how male desires are portrayed in mass media. If a girl has a pretty face, she’s a winner.

    I’ve never really known how to describe it, but I like skinny or built girls. I hear alot of girls say they are not skinny but curvy. I feel that curvy is such a loose definition. What exactly does that mean? If a girl looks like she is close to having abs, then that is great. If not, then I would say that she isn’t skinny.

  • 682 DayDreamingKitten // Sep 19, 2012 at 2:29 pm

    im a white girl personally i find asian men attractive. preferably japanese, korean and some chinese men. because they tend to take care of they’re appearence a bit more then your average western joe. =3 they are cute. i just hope one day i can find a nice eastern asian man. (can be counted in the 25% of western girls who will go after asian men, not for their money. but for their personality ) ^w^

  • 683 M2. // Jan 14, 2013 at 1:43 pm

    I agree with most posters here that it is very much a matter of confidence. I wonder however if it is something genetic, and not cultural. I am of 100% Chinese descent but my family came already three generations ago to Europe, so I am very Western by Asian standards. I have dated many (and all) white girls and don’t hesitate to compete with white guys in going after white girls. But still it costs me a lot of effort to overcome a certain shyness once the moment is there I have to make conversation and interest a girl that I really like. I have a profession that any girl of any ethnicity would appreciate, I have slightly European features, I am 5’8” height, a good physique, but still find myself wondering if I am good enough for many white girls I like, despite previous succesful efforts. Black guys, regardless of their looks generally seem very skilled in talking to girls. I always wonder what they say, and from where they get the confidence. Might it be something genetic indeed?

  • 684 Advice to White Women With "Yellow Fever" // May 15, 2013 at 5:44 pm

    Hello to all my white sisters with yellow fever:
    I applaud you for wanting to date Asian men. There’s so many things you don’t know about them. As an Asian girl who has dated Asian men for 20 years, mainly Chinese and Vietnamese men, let me give you some advice on how to get an Asian boyfriend.
    1. When you approach them, don’t let them know that you have any interest in Asian culture. If you speak an Asian language, keep it to yourself until you marry him. If you do show any interest in or knowledge of his culture and language, he’s going to think you have a weird Asian fetish.
    Also if you have dated a black guy, keep it to yourself.
    If you have dated a string of white guys, by all means, do tell. They’ll just think you’re normal and well-adjusted. You’re not an Asian woman, so it won’t reflect badly on you
    Just talk to the Asian guy like how you would talk to a white guy. They really aren’t any different. Asian guys who grew up in Western countries are about as Asian as wonderbread.
    2. Asian guys are much better than white men in bed. They’re willing to let you do things to them that no white man, especially if he is Christian or from the midwest would stand for. Here were some of the things my past Asian bfs have liked me to have done to them- being handcuffed and/or tied up, having cigs put out on them, having hot candle wax poured on them, being water boarded, being strangled, etc. Try to do that to a white Christian bf and he’ll call you a Satanic pervert and run for the hills.
    Asian men are freakin’ kinky in bed!
    3. Contrary to what people think, Asian men are more than willing to help out with the housework.
    I like making them scrub the floors with a toothbrush. As they scrub, their butt moves around in a circle. Try that with your Asian bf. I guarantee you’ll be amused and turned on at the same time.
    4. However, if you are a white woman, there are several things that you must watch out for when dating an Asian man (these are general warnings and do not apply to all Asian men).
    Some Asian men date white women because they are: 1. mentally unstable. In the US, Asian males rarely ever commit crimes, but when they do, they generally go on a mass shooting spree. Look it up on the net under “Asian males, mass shooting spree” or other similar search terms. 2. They are dating you because they hate themselves and their Asian race and want to assimilate into white society. 3. They are after your money. 4. They might be living in your country illegally and view marriage to you as a path to citizenship.
    Again, I’m not saying that most Asian males who date white women harbor these dark motivations, but most of them do.
    So to white women with “yellow fever”, I say bless you, good luck to you. I hope you find the hot, kinky Asian bf of your dreams and may he look like a young Russell Wong.

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