Asian chicks dig white guys. Somewhere in the midst of the pseudo-nationalistic indoctrination our well-meaning parents inflict upon us, we ladies stop paying attention and allow tall(er), skinny, white boy engineers to steal our hearts.
What’s up with the race treason? One theory: They love us. Asian fetish, yellow fever. Whatever you call it, there’s plenty of literature out there telling white men that we slant-eyed princesses are the exotic, submissive, and hypersexualized women of their dreams.
This post, however, is not about why white guys live in a delusional fantasy world. It’s a dissertation on why, despite the tawdry roots of our suitors’ affection, we just eat it up. One economist says it’s because Asian women are the
least discriminatory female demographic (second-to-last paragraph)—that “the white man-Asian woman pairing was the most common form of interracial dating … because of the women’s neutrality, not the men’s pronounced preference.”
Uh, ok. Whatever. What about our strict fathers and sheltered childhoods? Plus, we all saw how well that John Lennon/Yoko Ono thing worked out. And we can’t resist everything white men have to offer—and no, I’m not talking about that. White men indulge our deepest PDA-fantasies; they hold our hands, they aren’t terribly cerebral about their emotions, and they will—heaven forbid—tell their parents that we’re actually dating. Asian parents don’t do any of that gross hand-holding, making-out stuff. 
Asian boys learned the lesson; girls, not so much.
Lastly, if you think this is all a pile of BS, we all can agree on one tangible reason the Asian/white pairing works so well. God knows we all just want highly attractive children, and halfie babies are so damn cute.
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1 Anonymous // Mar 18, 2008 at 5:09 pm
true, but what about black guys?
2 steve // Mar 18, 2008 at 5:32 pm
haha!
white men consider their overly-large nose to be a symbol of authority, strength, and moral fiber. they know that asian women subconsciously recognize this as an important facet of western history and are deeply attracted to his nasal mojo.
however, the white man is stuck in a dilemma- although the disproportionate nose carries with it power, he knows that if his kind continues to breed with other big-nosed types then one day there will arise one who can woo any women in the world with one flare of his nostrils.
in defense of men everywhere, then, the white man must bear the burden to ensure noses don’t grow too large anywhere in the global gene pool. the best way to do this is to couple their genes with smaller-nosed asians.
i assume the writer is an asian female, which could explain why she was not privy to these details. that’s forgivable. but people should know.
3 Tonya // Mar 18, 2008 at 6:35 pm
Just so you know, Wentworth Miller (the handsome guy’s picture you posted with this entry) is half African-American and very proud of it. He first came to critical fame in the movie “The Human Stain,” which is about a light-skinned African-American who passes for white. But it’s nice to know you dig him.
4 Kyle // Mar 18, 2008 at 7:11 pm
OK - At first I thought maybe this little essay was a self hating Asian thing - then I started to think it was a little more researched with the stats and might be legit - and then I started to feel that the author is just someone being upfront about a subject we were taught that “we ’shouldn’t’ speak about” - (sex relationships and stuff like that is just programmed in me from my Asian mother to just not talk about) - but then the author won me over with the comment on cute “halfie babies”…being a cute “halfie” (I prefer the term HAPA) myself with a white dad and Asian mom; well. . .I was flattered enough to end up liking the essay in the end. . .=) thanks!
5 suzy // Mar 18, 2008 at 7:48 pm
Just to clarify Tonya’s statement, here’s an excerpt from Wentworth Miller’s wikipedia entry:
“Miller has stated that his father is of African-American, Jamaican, English, German, Jewish and Cherokee ancestry, and that his mother is of Russian, French, Dutch, Lebanese and Syrian descent.”
So I’m thinking the “half black” is a little bit of an overstatement. That being said, he’s a poster child for making a beautiful person out of a multitude of nationalities.
Kristin Kreuk is an interesting blend as well. Here’s a quote from her wiki:
“Kreuk was born in Vancouver, British Columbia. Her father, Peter Kreuk, is of Dutch descent; her mother, Deanna Che, is of Chinese descent, but was born in Indonesia; her maternal grandmother is Chinese-Jamaican.”
Seriously, I gotta find me a guy who’s black-asian-french-brazillian-indian-arabic to marry so I can have the most gorgeous babies EVER. Wentworth Miller will suffice.
6 YASPY Chick // Mar 18, 2008 at 9:01 pm
Note about John and Yoko: Yoko was also like 7 or so years older than John! Does this mean that she’s a cougar? Or does she have to be 10+ years older to be one?
Oh, and I notice a lot of Chinese women dating Jewish men…
7 Anonymous // Mar 18, 2008 at 9:24 pm
LOL, I don’t think so. Sure there are some gorgeous half Asian/half white people out there, but there are also just ugly ones. Mixing with whites doesn’t give you magical, guaranteed-beautiful kids. To be honest the cutest Asian-mixed kids I’ve seen were Asian-black and Asian-Middle Eastern. Yup.
8 estella // Mar 18, 2008 at 11:00 pm
i’ll be honest. i’m an asian female who happens to be attracted to white males. i’m primarily not attracted to my nationality for the “fear” that i could be related to them.
that, and for some unknown reason, i find most of the white males asthetically pleasing to my eyes.
9 perfectlynice?? // Mar 19, 2008 at 12:56 am
white guys are lot more aggressive in pursuing a girl they want compared to most Asian guys I know. Plus, they don’t seem to care that the girl may be more educated, earn more money, smarter, etc. Most Asian guys want a more traditional bride, stay at hoome mom even though their women may have graduate degree physics, chemistry, etc.
10 Scott // Mar 19, 2008 at 2:50 am
estella: “i’m primarily not attracted to my nationality for the “fear” that i could be related to them.”
I have tons of Turkish friends. They’re a very closely knit group and none of them date non-Turkish people. And Turkey is such a smaller place than the major Asian countries. I swear, I know five girls named Zeynep. Anyway, from your statement I think you’re weird! The chances you’re related to the Asian guy in the next cubicle is probably nil.
I’m a Chinese-American male and I also find whites (women) more attractive than Asian women. I have since I was in junior high. I was the one Asian guy who always dated white girls when all my buddies were dating Chinese girls. I think the reason for this, and perhaps for you as well, is because my whole life I’ve been exposed to nothing but beautiful and sexy white women–Maxim magazine, Playboy, the SI Swimsuit issue, Victoria’s Secret, tv commercials, tv shows, movies, fashion models, etc. Probably the only time I found an Asian woman attractive was when I was in Hong Kong and there was a cute girl in a clothing store. I think if I had stayed in HK I probably would have ended up dating a Chinese girl but when I got back, I became Americanized again. I’m guessing you watch Brad Pitt or whomever white actors you like and the only Asian guys you see on tv and movies are dweeby scientists while the white actors play the hero and romantic lead. It makes alot of sense to me if that’s the case.
11 Anoymous1 // Mar 19, 2008 at 3:07 am
I agree with Anonymous; how many Kristen Kreuks are there in the world? One in 100,000? By the way, some of the best looking halfies are from Asian-male/White female and Black male/White female combinations:
AM/WF:
Russell Wong (DROOL! Have you seen New Jack City or Romeo Must Die? Gorgeous!)
Keanu Reeves (Also really good looking. He looks more white than Asian, though he’s definitely got the Chinese eyes. I think he looks most Asian in Speed.)
Brandon Lee (Bruce Lee’s late son–great body)
BM/WF:
Wentworth Miller (already established above)
Derek Jeter (shortstop for the Yankees–quite handsome)
And the women, too:
Halle Berry (one of the most beautiful women in the world IMO)
Alicia Keys (also beautiful)
I think that’s the better combination–Ethnic Male + White Female LOL
12 Justin // Mar 19, 2008 at 3:54 am
@Scott: very nicely explained. I agree that being related should not be a fear. I’ve never heard that as a reason from any asian girl. Today was the first.
13 YASPY Chick // Mar 19, 2008 at 5:59 am
Scott,
Maybe you like girls who are the equivalent of the “All American” type? The Asian girls I grew up with here in Toronto were either really high maintenance (you know, those who take all the advanced classes, are pretty, play piano, violin AND flute until they finished high school AND hold high-paying jobs (if they’re out of school) ) or quiet and nerdy types. Rarely do I see an in-between. Hong Kong, however, has lots of those, and that girl-next-door type is their ideal. Why else would the Edison Chen sex scandal be so career-ending for the female celebs involved? In Hollywood, it would only ELEVATE the girls.
14 Anonymous // Mar 19, 2008 at 9:31 am
FYI, if you’re going to talk about white guys, at least post a picture of a 100% white guy. Wentworth Miller is half black . . . not that he’s not eye candy!
15 ?????????????????? // Mar 19, 2008 at 10:07 am
i see alot of asian women with white men, but i think it would be more accurate to say that asian women love black men. I see it so often its normal. As a matter of fact, i see that more than two asians together. BTW my black boyfriends mother is thai. i rest my case.
16 Justin // Mar 19, 2008 at 3:46 pm
@Anonymous, please read suzy’s explanation above, also read post #26 to understand why this article is about white guys as your points are valid that asian girls date other people than just white…but majority of them date white guys…you’ll understand if you start our blog with #26
we were going to stick with wentworth miller since girls consider him hot but we found another picture.
17 anon // Mar 19, 2008 at 6:46 pm
You should have left the Wentworth Miller picture up. That picture you have up there? I’m guessing that’s not a real couple. Look at the guy’s eyes. He looks like a robot. This looks like an Asian girl tourist visiting an Abercrombie store where they have the half-naked models at the door and she asks to have her picture taken. He might as well be Mickey Mouse at Disneyland. On second thought, maybe you *should* leave it there b/c it’s such a goofy picture if you look at it for more than a second. Besides, any tall, blonde haired, blue-eyed, muscle-bound male-model type is not going to go for a short Asian girl whose eyes don’t reach his neck. A guy like that gets with a tall, gorgeous white woman, probably also blonde with long legs.
18 zimri // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:20 pm
Hmm… interesting blog. (I’m English, personally; we’re the Japanese of Europe…)
A few comments:
I have met Hapa girls and I have been to New Mexico… honestly, I can’t tell the difference. One Hapa lady friend (Korean-Greek) told me that Mexicans kept talking Spanish at her. But although she did not look nearly as exotic as she in fact was I will concede she was cute.
As for Ono - Lennon, my impression is that the relationship was working out great until some butthead shot the gaijin.
19 Anonymous // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:21 pm
I lived in Japan for 10 years and have 4 gorgeous half-breed kids.
My youngest now works at the Polynesian Cultural Center in Hawaii where he tells the tourists that he’s a full blooded hawaiian, tongan, or samoan. He’s half Japanese and Half white….no polynesian blood at all.
He looks a lot like Johnny Lingo in the old movie.
20 gil // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:21 pm
A buddie of mine refers to his ABC sister’s kids as ‘Swirlies’, but they sure are cute. As for the whole Asian fetish thing, it’s totally A) Childish and B) Moronic. Girls lap it up because they like the attention, but it’s hardly the kind of thing that’s going to result in a real relationship. As for my ABC friend, he’s going steady with a good Korean lass who is totally hiding there realtionship from her parents, but that’s life.
March 21, 2008 4:48 AM
21 song li-ling // Mar 21, 2008 at 4:22 pm
OK, easily offended hetero folks, stop reading now. Gaysian guy here to say that the white guy fetish is even more prevalent among gay (U.S.) Asian guys. Not brain surgery to figure out why, for the all the obvious socio-political psycho-sexual reasons. If white guys have the ostensibly highest status in the American dating pool among straight people, you can imagine how doubly minimized a gay Asian guy might feel in the even more insular competitive gay world. Don’t know if you would ever hear this in a straight bar, but get more than two Asians in a gay bar, and some white guys will actually say out loud that we have taken over, and when did this place become Saigon City. Believe it. Drag out ever bad cliche about the older unattractive white guy getting the twinky off-the-boat smaller Asian guy. The “last one picked” syndrome.
Pretty much the same, but to a lesser extent, for the American-born Asian gay guys, who are most likely to want to date in this order: White, Hispanic, Asian, black. It’s changing slowly; improved self-image, self-empowerment, enlightment, or simple political correctness now dictate that younger gay Asians will actually consider dating their own kind. It’s progress of sorts. But go to any gay ghetto in the big cities, and if you see a couple where one is Asian, the odds are more than good that other guy’s gonna be white.
March 21, 2008 2:14 PM
22 estella // Mar 22, 2008 at 8:49 am
Scott : “Anyway, from your statement I think you’re weird! The chances you’re related to the Asian guy in the next cubicle is probably nil.”
maybe i am weird. or maybe it has happened to my friends. she became attracted to this guy of the same nationality as us. after awhile she had this feeling she was related to him, so she checked it out and they were. it wasn’t like she was attracted to/liked/had a crush –what have you — on an immediate relative (uncle, cousin … because that would be really unnerving). it was more of a 2nd or 3rd cousin, or even more distant.
but even if its to someone related somehow, someway, even a distant relative. its still not a good revelation to find out.
i don’t know if the last few statements of your comment were directed to me, so i’ll just say that from the time i became attracted to the opposite sex, i noticed that i was primarily attracted to white guys.
23 544 // Mar 23, 2008 at 5:25 pm
America hates Asian guys, and makes fun of us. When we start getting some respect, they find a clown Asian to mock. Other people of color do it too. It’s been fucked up like this for a century, and shit isn’t changing fast enough.
I don’t blame our Asian sisters from doing the crossover. They’ve been facing the same thing, but in different ways, and, white people are giving them a pass into the white world. It’s only human to take the goodies when they’re offered.
And it’s not like Asian guys have been 100% upstanding either. I know some who go and screw a bunch of women to make some point to themselves. Some women do this, too, but not the way guys get out and just do the “pump and dump.” Some of them pay for it. (Then again, it’s not like they’ve got a lot of women after them, so, at some level, they’re free to do whatever they want. I don’t bag on Asian women who’ve fucked a lot of guys. The opportunity for them is more than for any other women, and they have shit to work out, too.)
One thing that bugs me is Asian women who get with white guys and then act like they’re better than Asians, and start getting racist on Asians. (Some guys do this too, but it’s not that common.) Another thing that bugs is Asian women who get with a Black man, and start talking like they’re Black, and then start acting all aggressive and ghetto.
I’m not saying this happens to everyone. Most people don’t even get like this. Way more often, it is the other way around, with the guy wanting to be Asian (which is also creepy). It’s just, please, ladies, you’re still Asian, and the rule in America is that if you’re Asian looking, you are a representative for all Asians. Don’t be a racist, and don’t be a bitch.
I guess it would be fair for me to criticize crossover guys too. I’m not sure what to say, because I’m a crossover too. Maybe the main thing is don’t get racist on Asians and don’t pretend to be some other race. Even if you feel more comfortable in other environments, look in the mirror and know how the world is still looking at you. You have to spend time trying to lift the situation for your Asian brothers.
24 Just because // Mar 26, 2008 at 11:12 am
I’m a white guy dating an Asian girl so I’m getting a kick out of these replys. (tribute to fark cliches)
25 Kit // Mar 26, 2008 at 8:35 pm
I can guess why white guys get Asian girls - possibly because THEY’D ASK THEM OUT. I swear in high school almost all the Asian guys were like shorter and thinner than I was - and I think my average height and average weight must have scared them off. Because they never paid any attention to me. There is a double standard - Asian guys complain Asian girls date white guys, but a lot of them want thin thin HK girls or are all too engrossed with their computer games to pay attention to girls who weren’t a size 2. As I got older I realized I could not engage in regular conversation with an Asian guy. Topically, the ones I knew, we had nothing in common. I also grew up in a predominantly Asian neighbourhood in Ontario, so who knows how I ended up with a white army boyfriend.
26 vldschmidt // Mar 27, 2008 at 11:25 am
that’s not Wentworth Miller by the way…that dude is definitely not him! Stop being such haters and get over it…Asian and white dudes are about as American as apple pie and make better couples. This is coming from the product of a marriage of a White dad and Vietnamese mom.
27 leezy // Mar 28, 2008 at 4:01 pm
I’m a black man married to an asian woman. I personally hate these conversations, asian women have all sorts of preferences in men. To me, it all depends on where they are from. If they are cali asians sure they loooooove white guys. In NY you see more asians with black men than you do with asian men. We black men also get this rep for liking white women, but that is soooooooooo not true. It may have been 10 years ago, but not anymore. a woman is a beautiful creation whether she is asian, black, white, latino, middle eastern(asian),etc… if she’s hot she’s hot. once people start thinking that way. We’ll be on our way to a better world. Until then….I’m happy with my choice and glad she looooooooves black men!
28 Justin // Mar 28, 2008 at 6:09 pm
i feel like it’s not a matter of race when you’ve fallen in true love…asians white black latino etc…
29 Steph // Apr 1, 2008 at 11:01 am
I’m an asian girl and am only attracted to asian guys. Can’t ever imagineeeee dating a white guy, nor do I want to.
30 Maia // Apr 1, 2008 at 9:51 pm
I’ve read somewhere that typically if a child aged 10 and under moves to a different country that has a different language, they are more likely to completely absorb the new language and accent better than a child 11 and over who are more likely to speak in the new language with an accent. I think this can also be applicable to culture and even preferences. My older sister was about 14 when she moved here from the Philippines and she still has her Filipino intonation when she speaks English. My brother who was 7 when we moved somehow physically can’t speak Tagalog though he understands it. I, on the other hand, moved when I was eleven and though I can speak fluent Tagalog, I can’t get rid of that slight American twang when I speak it.
Interestingly enough, our dating records all reflect this predominance (my sister dated mostly Asian guys and married a Filipino, I dated a little bit all over the board but I’m in a long-term relationship with a white guy and my younger brother have only dated the whitest [as in skin color] girls I’ve ever seen).
So that may have been a long obvious response but nonetheless a small consideration. And the fact that my offspring could possibly have green slant-y eyes (I have some European blood too so it is possible), not a bad deal topper.
OH and I’d have to agree with Kit that yeah, the white guys actually asked me out! None of the Asian guys I went out with asked me out directly per se. It was always kind of pussyfooting around the issue until it was pretty obvious. But then again these instances were in high school and college…
31 Mongol Warrior // Apr 3, 2008 at 4:54 am
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Asian women with white guys are ****. Pure and simple. Go with whites - but never expect anything again from your own race. You have sold out. A traitor. The lowest of the low.
End of story.
32 sy88 // Apr 3, 2008 at 6:31 am
Mongol warrior, from a personal point of view, I’m a bit sad that the white guys are taking “our girls”, but man it’s the 21st century, get a life! There’s a thing called ‘free will’ and people can date whoever they want, pur and simple. Your insulting comments aren’t wanted on a place like this.
End of story.
33 M3 // Apr 3, 2008 at 10:49 pm
Mongol Warrior speaks the truth. ALL YOUR WOMEN ARE BELONG TO M3.
(M3>Civic)
34 YASPY Chick // Apr 4, 2008 at 9:53 am
Maia,
I know people who were born and raised in an English speaking country, who speak without an accent, yet have recognizable traits of a specific culture. For example, one only has to listen to Martin Scorsese or Rudy Guiliani speak to realize that they’re Italian-American. Plenty of Asians, especially Hong Kong Chinese Canadian women under 40 have a tone of speech that is very much Hong Kong Chinese as well. Including people who do not have accents.
35 Justin // Apr 4, 2008 at 3:54 pm
Hi Al, we’re just talking about a group of people who like white guys in this post. I would agree with you that majority of asians date within their race; however, dating outside is a new trend many people are observing. I feel that skunkgal has the freedom to explain her choice and where she’s coming from. Thanks for your comment. - J
36 freeearth // Apr 5, 2008 at 9:17 am
I am a German/English-American guy married to my beautiful Korean-American wife. We have a beautiful daughter.
What originally caught my eye for my wife was her gracefulness and beauty when we were in psych class together. She paid no attention to me and from observing her I determined she stayed within the Asian groupings. Another hurdle I figured for this blue grey eyed white boy. I had shortly dated a Laotian-American girl before but besides that my girlfriends had either been white or Mexican.
I purposely sat near her and made it a point to be very friendly and jovial with her. She was born here but her parents had immigrated in from S. Korea.
I finally asked her out for coffee and she said no that she couldn’t. I had found out she had a boyfriend (Chinese-American) but I took the gamble anyways. I kept “bothering” her about coffee and finally she relented.
To make a long story short, we hit it off wonderfully and eventually she broke it off with her boyfriend and then we started dating. We dated through college and graduated at the same time. It took over a year for her to finally tell her parents about me. Needless to say they were none to happy and even threatened to force her to change schools. But their barking was bigger than their bites.
We married 3 years ago and have a great life together. She put her career on hold for our daughter (not at my urging btw…entirely her decision) and her family fully accepts me now..especially now that we have a child.
37 Justin // Apr 5, 2008 at 9:45 am
Check post 40 for more discussion on Asian and Dating. Keep in mind that this is a fun, light-hearted satire piece - so please take it for what it is.
38 WhoaIsMe // Apr 5, 2008 at 8:25 pm
Media case in point:
The film “21″ is the life story of MIT grad Jeff Ma.
Instead of an Asian actor playing him, they chose a white Brit.
How many Asian actors are chosen to star in films based on white guys lives?
39 sy88 // Apr 5, 2008 at 8:53 pm
“How many Asian actors are chosen to star in films based on white guys lives?”
The answer is: very few. You have a valid point, WhoaIsMe. The main exception in Hollywood seems to be Lucy Liu, who as an Asian can get white roles, but she is a real discrepancy. There’s a few others, but they can’t seem to get ‘white roles’ on a regular basis, and tend to float back into ‘Asian roles’. That’s why many a respected HK actor like Tony Leung and Maggie Cheung almost refuse to break into Hollywood, because of their fear that they will be pigeonholed as an ‘Asian character’.
As for the recent film 21, simply put, it’s been Hollywood-ised (that’s not a word, is it?). Pretty much, the sad truth is, there’s not enough Asian actors of prominence, or with rising star potential that can be used to headline a film. There are 2 Asians in the film, Aaron Yoo (Shia LaBeouf’s friend in Disturbia) and some girl with the name of Liza Lapira, who possibly could be half Asian (?). They’re hardly the sort of people who can be used to headline a film. So basically, I’m not too fussed about that. Most people would seem to be more fussed about the fact that a pretty much unknown Brit actor (Jim Sturgess) has got the lead role instead. Well, at it’s core, deep down inside, 21 can be seen as a bit of a star-pushing vehicle for Jim Sturgess, as they see him as a potential star-in-the-making. He was awesome in a little film called Across The Universe IMO and 21 is another film to push him as a leading man, but I digress… Point is, there just aren’t any Asians in the same situation. Perhaps it’s something wrong with the system, perhaps it’s subliminal racism, who knows…
Hey, also relating to 21, you could argue anti-sexism as well, as in ‘real life’ the group comprised of all Asian males. They plonked 2 females in there (Liza Lapira and Kate Bosworth) because frankly it’s nothing more than a film. If it was truly based on real life, quite simply, there’d be no chicks in the film…
Ah, great opportunity to let me rant about one of my favourite topics
40 asian girl // Apr 6, 2008 at 5:35 pm
white guys are hot(:
41 foxwithcpu // Apr 7, 2008 at 8:28 am
I have 3 main preferences in men: built, educated, respectful. I prefer the dark handsome types no matter what race. And muscles. I like guys who hit the gym. No pudginess or skinny indie-chic for me.
The thing I find intolerably unattractive? Guys who whine about not being able to get a girl instead of going out there and getting one. Cry me a river. I wonder why you’re not getting any.
PS: For any nay-sayers out there - I am a Vietnamese American woman who has been in a relationship with her Vietnamese American boyfriend for 2 years. Coincidentally, he’s pretty damn secure in his manhood and this has always been a non-issue for him.
42 Asian Girl // Apr 9, 2008 at 2:06 pm
I don’t get the fascination with white guys. They just look foreign to me, maybe the way some white guys look at asians as foreign.
43 LeaMae // Apr 10, 2008 at 11:29 pm
I’m a half white, half Native American and I say asian boys are yummy.
I have dated Native American, White, and am now dating a Viet boy and am extremely happy. I love asian boys because they are a LOT more respectful to me than any African American or white guy has ever been. What is up with the lack of respect for women these days anyways?
44 Korean J // Apr 11, 2008 at 11:17 am
I think ur ****. Obvious it’s the Media. US’s #1 export/industry, entertainment, portrays white men that asian women, all women, fantasizes. Is the portrayal true, hell no. But joke will be on ‘em soon.
One evidence I point to is what is called Korean wave (hallyu) going on in Asia recent (past 3-4 years?). Where other asian countries fell in love with korean dramas, and thought most korean men were good looking and romantic and rich like the leading men. Many women even came to korea to look for her dream man in korea. Jokes were on ‘em, because most of these guys tended to be a playas, and not romantic nor rich at the least. It’s a false portrayal created by a entertainment medium. So blame hollywood. Blacks do, so should we.
45 Latino Man // Apr 14, 2008 at 12:16 pm
I’m sorry, but in your post’s third paragraph you wrote:
“One economist says it’s because Asian women are the least discriminatory female demographic (second-to-last paragraph)”
However, the actual quote from the article is:
“However, we also found that East Asian women did not discriminate against white men (only against black and Hispanic men). ”
So how did you get the “least discriminatory female demographic ” from that??? As a latino man, I can tell you that from my experiences, that getting asian women to give me the time of day is a lot harder than for women of any other race. However, when I show some status, i.e. Harvard grad, financially successful, they tend to become more receptive.
46 Kate // Apr 19, 2008 at 4:24 pm
Could it be height and weight that makes Asian women attracted to white or black men? I know a lot of girls want guys that are taller and from living in San Francisco, MANY Asian guys are SO SHORT!!! And not only short, but HELLA skinny!! I’m average, not a size 0. I probably would break their toes if I accidentally stepped on it. I’m an ABJ (American born Japanese) dating an ABC (American born Chinese) and couldn’t be more in love. I used to go for white guys, but my bf isn’t the typical Asian I see in the city. He’s tall (6 feet even) and is muscular (Mmmm.) All the prior guys I dated were tall and muscular…and white. The only other Asian guy I dated was short, but muscular. That’s what I think. But people shouldn’t HATE on Asians or whites or blacks! People like who they like.
And speaking of half bred babies. There are some really hot half white half asian babies and half black half white/half asian babies, but TRUST ME that there are butt ass ugly half babies. If you think babies can’t be ugly, work at a day care. There are a lot of half babies and some are just NOT CUTE!
47 c0nscience // Apr 24, 2008 at 1:45 am
I have a fever, and the only prescription is MORE ASIAN CHICKS!
48 sowhat // Apr 28, 2008 at 3:20 pm
Mixed white/asian babies are all cute? LOL. If anyone wants to get real for a second, the attractive scale for any race, mixed or not, is usually the same across the board. An ugly white dude with an ugly asian chick will just make an ugly mixed kid with serious identity issues. Still need attractive parents to make attractive kids, genetics don’t lie. Btw, in my experience, most of the white male/asian female couples aren’t very good looking at all, especially the females.
49 HAHAHA // Apr 28, 2008 at 9:46 pm
This was going along pretty good until the end. Then everybody had to go and get racist.
Let me be another ass to add his opion. I am married to a malay and am white.
Asian women like whitey because on average we are nicer and more open with our emotions.
Our familys tend to be more accepting of our wife. Yes we do not have a problem with our wives working or having something defining them outside of our marriage (my wifes mother wept WEPT!! when I told her I was had no problem with her daughter working)
And not to sound like a white power douche, but you just can’t beat the blue eyes.
We are attracted to them because on average they are slimmer and more feminine than white or black women. They tent to be much more apreciative of anything you do for them (my wife about fell on the gorund when I changed a diaper for her sister) They tend ot be much more together financially and emotionally then anybody else.
And come on they are just so freaking cute….
They way their noses crunkly when they smile. And those deep sparkley brown/black eyes.
Man……beautiful.
But mostly I think is becasue the stigma has been removed. Whites/blacks dating are excepted, even embraced.
All I can say is I walk around with my wife and people barley take notice.
I love my wife. She is my heart. She is the person I have found that I think is good enought to have my babies grow in her stomach.
I’m not with her because she is asian, but I was attracted to her becasue of it.
Asian women are dating out of their “race” because they now have the power to do it. They can bring a non asian home without their parents throwing them out.
So don’t hate man. Just live.
50 Elle // May 1, 2008 at 11:18 am
LOL. OMG that film was awesome funny! Tow things: why is the Indian guy calling Philip “you asians”? Indians (from India) are Asian too! And why isn’t Filipinos included in the tags? =(
I’m a 30-yr old asian with female with a white guy from England. But I think Philip Wang is so attractive I will take a breather from my boyf and date him for 2 weeks! I can honestly say I can see myself with a man of various race. I have friends who’s told me “I only date white guys” or “I will only be with black guys” which is so juvenile since the foundation of that relationship will be based on physical attraction. But whatever floats their boat ei?
Dating/marriage outside race has nothing to do with with where the other person is from, which gender/color mix-match. It’s about understanding the other’s beliefs, background, culture, behaviors, and IF THE PERSONALITIES CLICK!
Nuff said.
51 Elle // May 1, 2008 at 11:23 am
Oh and btw, I know that half-naked guy on the photo. His name is Darryl and that shot was taken at A&F at the Grove. lol. small world indeed!
p.s. Why is Wentworth so darn handsome?! =)
52 Cocobutter // May 2, 2008 at 3:20 pm
I am a Black woman from the U.S. You guys seem really nuts! I was hoping for some critical race analysis here, but YOU AIN’T GOT ANY!!! My god, they have brainwashed you. I was hoping blogging amongst your own, you really have something inciteful to say about the weird asian/white couplings. I’m not sure the most important thing is to wish for cute mixed children. Stop being so shallow.
I often have watched Asian women friends go for white guys for a variety of reasons. I think some legitimately like their boyfriends, however many seem to passively engage in a relationship where they will benefit the race and class privilege of their white lovers. I’m a little embarrassed for these women at times. Will you give any part of yourself away, just to be with a white man?? I think you will. Being westernized is a helluva drug.
53 Chibolyte // May 3, 2008 at 7:39 am
I do love them cute halfie babies, and many halfie people are amazingly good looking.
But, as an Asian female, I actually do prefer the Asian male much more than the White male. I don’t know, many white men are very good looking, but I just don’t find most of them as attractive as many Asian men. I like masculine men, but to be honest I’m really attracted to feminine men. There are plenty of trendy, feminine guys in places like Japan, China and Korea (I um, have a thing for Japanese men). So I do agree with you on a certain level from an objective point of you, but the way say it makes it seem you are applying it to most Asian women, which isn’t true. Almost every single of my peers that are Asian (both men and women) prefer Asian counterparts.
54 helena // May 4, 2008 at 2:58 pm
Chinese-American girl here. I don’t like white guys, the only hot one I can think of is Sean Connery (who doesnt even like Asian girls - aww.) In fact I feel especially embarassed for those Asian women who date white men for “pretty babies” or social benefits. I can only hope I see the worst of those relationships, being in the Bay Area ‘n all. I do like Black and Latino guys too, in addition to Asian. I also think black-latino mixes are the best looking in general, with asian-white & asian-black the ugliest. sorry.
55 J // May 5, 2008 at 2:13 am
Has anyone else noticed the phenomenon of cute asian girls with really ugly white guys?! That always angers me. Everytime I go to Santana Row I see a ton of these strange oddball couples. It makes me think that maybe the Asian girls are so happy to be with a White guy that they don’t care what he looks like…
56 joe // May 5, 2008 at 8:35 am
Why does it anger you? Are you angry when you see a cute Asian girl with an ugly Asian guy?
57 ladyluck // May 5, 2008 at 10:37 pm
I’m an Asian American girl that constantly is hit on by white men (every kind of white man) everywhere - on my way to/from work, walking anywhere, going anywhere/doing anything really.
Personally, what I find the most offensive is when a white man comes up to me (I look mixed/racially ambiguous) and will say something along the lines of “I’m French, and you look Vietnamese. We colonized your country! We have something in common! *smile*”
I hope I don’t need to go into why that makes me. . . annoyed.
I like Asian American guys and have gotten verbal abuse from both White males and Asian/Asian American females. In the end, getting mad at me for not dating you, or saying that I’m wrong for rejecting some random white dude doesn’t make the world a better place.
To all the white guys with Asian Fetishes in the Bay Area, stop trying to literally molest and/or press your body onto the girl next to you on the bus (me). She really will kick you where the sun don’t shine next time.
58 guest // May 11, 2008 at 6:34 pm
white, black, yellow, brown, tall, short, thin, fat, etc - who cares?? what really matter is the personality, the heart, the soul and whether they’re mutual…the reason why you guys could be so disgust by interracial dating/marriage is because you had never been in one or it was a bad one, talking about those shallow and narrow minded people…learn people, learn!
59 blah // May 14, 2008 at 11:40 pm
parents: born and raised in hong kong.
me: born and raised in jakarta indonesia…
currently dating: a colombian man, (first boyfriend, goin on three years now)… graduated from highschool together, and now in college studyin art and design…
we both grew up in international schools… and so we’re both super internationalized. i dunno why everyones making such a huge fuss out of who’s dating who and from which race… and i honestly don’t think they’re dating for the whole “my baby will be cute” factor… i honestly think its just based on pure attraction of personalities and characteristics.
i have loads of friends ranging from asians, whites (americans, europeans), blacks, arabs… you name it, i got a friend that is that race. you can be purple, green or blue, and if you’ve got the personality, id date you if i didnt have a boyfriend.
man…i seriously think some people just need to open up. asians that are callin asian chicks bitches for dating another race…wtf man… wtf. that’s the meanest shit i’ve heard. just cos an asian chick is dating someone from another race doesnt mean she’s ashamed of being asian, damnfck im proud of being asian, and no one can take that away from me… and im not being a traitor just because im dating someone from another race (you’re fckin narrow minded and racist if you think so). and second of all… im not dating someone from another race just so that i get respect or whatever kind of bullshit, and im not dating someone from another race so i feel like im better than any other asians… damn that’s so narrow minded to think like that.
im dating a person that happens to be from another race just because im attracted to him and just because i love him.
60 blah // May 14, 2008 at 11:48 pm
ps: you cant say **** about hot asian chicks dating ugly white boys, because it works the other way around where a hot white boy is dating an ugly asian chick….(who ever mentioned this). ALSO- this isnt really valid cos you see ugly guys dating hot chicks, or visa versa - where an ugly chick is dating a hot guy, regardless what RACE!
61 ARGH // May 15, 2008 at 12:02 am
who gives a **** what the baby is gonna look like, asian-white/asian-black babies, whatever man, its a baby! whatchu gonna do if it turns out ugly? ITS STILL A LIVING THING GODDAMMIT… i cant believe u guys even talk about **** like that.
62 bebe // May 15, 2008 at 8:25 pm
im a vietnamese canadian dating an european guy. we’ve been together for two years now and it seems perfect. other that, from where i am in canada, the white guys hardly notice the asian girls.
63 bebe // May 15, 2008 at 8:26 pm
dating a portuguese canadian *
other than that *
64 DC // May 19, 2008 at 8:13 pm
White chicks are too easy!!! I like a challenge.
Honest,
(White boy)
65 Lulu // May 22, 2008 at 5:09 pm
I prefer asian people a lot more than white people (When dating.)
No offense.
66 sy88 // May 22, 2008 at 8:44 pm
^^Gee why would anyone find that offensive, we’re pretty much solely consisting of Asians on here anyway, so in essence it’s another form of flattery to us Asian guys! We gotta grasp onto anything… anything!
67 Anonymous // May 23, 2008 at 5:05 pm
“We gotta grasp onto anything… anything!”
funny aww half babies are sooo cute! :]
not all white girls are easy.
68 anonymous // May 24, 2008 at 1:15 pm
I find it very ironic that we point out that asian women are dating white men when asian men prefer asian women with white features! So why do some asian women end up dating white guys. One answer is that asian males don’t have any interest in asian females with asian facial features and western personalities.
Asian males prefer asian women with not only caucasian like facial features, but also asian personality traits (non-outspoken, won’t challenge the male ego types). I have very asian facial features, and am very independent, a bit over-confident, and quirky in some ways (not exactly the personality trait that will fit into the conformist exclusive asian cliques). As an asian female who does not fit these characteristics, I’ve had the hardest time trying to get the attention of asian males despite living in a diverse urban metropolitan city (and taking the initiative to asking these people out). Instead, i get hit on by blacks, latinos, and whites- go figure.
69 linda chen // May 30, 2008 at 7:27 am
I am a potato queen who only date white male, from my personal experience, there are three basic facts about white guys : Do most white male fancy asian girl? The answer is no. Do most white man like slutty girls for sex only? The answer is yes. Do white male know they are the dominant race in the western world and possible take advantage of it? The answer is yes! This is why white guys aren’t shy in dating scene, because they know their winning percentage.
There are seven types of white male would date asian female : type 1 are the people who only fancy Asians, who has asian fetish, in general they think all asian are hot regardless our looks and personality. type 2 are the white male who thinks asians are easy girls, they pick us from a nightclub or dating site, tell us a bunch of sweet words, but they have to start with sexual relationship first. type 3 are the white male who love our culture and lifestyle, they love our food and looking for long term relationship with us. in general they are well educated. ( my type, just like my hubby) type 4 are the adventurous white male, they don’t have a particular type and would like to cross the racial line and have a bite of different taste. type 5 are the power control male, they like to take advantage of their status in the western society, make visa, marriage promise to attempt us bedding with them. type 6 are the white male who cant get young and sexy white females anymore, they start to target younger asian females as an alternative choice. Type 7 are the white males who thinks a girl’s personality is more important than their looks, race is not that important for them.
Seven types of Asain girls who would date white guys work slicely different but same principle. Type 1 are the asian girls who have white fetish, who only go after white male, they think white male are hotter regardless their age and personality. Type 2 are the typical China doll woman who likes to chased by man, they are extremely into fashion and all time attention from male, they like to spend 1 or 2 hours doing their make up and go out clubbing at least once a week, these type of girl are very likely to date type2 white male. Type 3 asian girl has lost their own culture identity, most of them grow up in America and consider themselves Americans Usually they like to make command like “asian guys remind me my brother” they are similar to type1 asain girl, but type 1 asain girl still follow asian tradition more than type3. Types 4 are the asian girls who thinks a man’s personality is more important than their looks, race is not that important for them. Type 5 girls consider a man’s society status and power are more important than their looks, they like to be looked after and treated well by powerful white male. Type 6 has a soft spot for tall and muscular male, they consider a strong physical appearance is necessity for a man, in general they consider white is better race and sex life works better with white male. Type7 4 are the adventurous asian women, they don’t have a particular type and would like to cross the racial line sometimes and have a bite of different taste.
I personally think interracial dating is cool, every time when I see A/W couple passing by, I feel there is hope and culture connection between our asian and white people in this racist world. The reason we talk about this topic is because our asian in general really care about the relationship between white and ourselves, we have a admit that America and Europe are the continents dominated by white male, so keep a good relationship between us are very important.
70 Jason // Jun 1, 2008 at 10:10 am
I am white male married to a wonderful Filipina woman that I have known since I was a child. Prior to marriage I dated several other asian women not because I have a “fever” or “fetish” but because you can not help what you find to be most attractive. I must admit that in reading these posts I find it ridiculous to think I did it because I expect these women to be submissive, that is BS. I think one of the things that I find so attractive is the intelligence and sense of accomplishment that I see and the pride that is in making all things go well: work, relationships, etc. I hope to instill in our children the same thing that her parents did in her.
71 Anonymous // Jun 2, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Personally, I think that anything mixed with asian=asian. Those so called white asian kids always end up looking chinese to me. A french guy once said this to me: Asian+white=Asian
White +black=black or white or a beautiful in bewteen. Asian and White very rarely give rise to anything except Asian.
72 Linda Chen // Jun 2, 2008 at 5:25 pm
Hi Jason
Thanks to your comment on my post about “asan fetish” please let me expain what is asian fetish: asian fetish means white/black male who could ONLY date asian female because they love their body, skin colour and eye shape,.
Does that apply to yourself? If so, you do have asian fetish. In your post, you have mentioned “you can not help what you find to be most attractive” I do think you have a soft spot for asian female. Does your sexual preference make you exclusive to asian woman.
73 jen // Jun 6, 2008 at 1:17 am
i dunno, im half asian, and im pretty damn hot. so there you go.
74 Linda Chen // Jun 6, 2008 at 3:34 am
Reply to Jen
For asian admirers, you will always look hot no matter what, but you may not be every white man’s cup of tea. Asian woman or half asian woman will always be a special category for western man.
That is why we should always respect our own man(asian man)
I have so many asian female friends being so negative about our own asian man, just because they are not going to date any. Don’t forget your father is asian too.
“Asian man remind me my brother, that’s why I cant date them.” ?????? silly silly little girl. Are you saying all Asians look the same? That is so racist. Show some respect.
I know a girl in work, she is so funny, she told the other white girls in work that the reason she date white guys is asian man treat their wife badly, there’s no life with an asian. People came back and asked if that is true, I felt so embarrassed. There are Asian girls have to find some sort of excuse to ride white guy. Anyway, this girl went out with a Russian guy and she got bitten up so badly and escaped from their apartment after a year.
Don’t get over-confident just because there are a few white guys chasing behind you, don’t be some kinda of drama queen, you still need to respect our own man.
75 Chriss // Jun 6, 2008 at 10:47 am
I agree with anonymous(1:15 pm)
Asian guys tend to be more conservative. As a hobby, I’m a street performer and there were asian guys who were offended by me. They were like..”why would would you bring attention to yourself?”
I have lots of asian guyfriends but I can’t ever see myself dating them because we just don’t click. There’s an upcoming Gay Film Festival in NYC and I invited them to come with me but they just said…” errrr no…that’ weird.” My white guy friends were all up for it. (They’re film makers & photographers themselves)
So long story short, Asian guys think I’m weird. I’m sure there are artsy asian guys out there but it’s a very small pool. I often find myself being the ONLY asian person at art galleries or any other event.
All jokes aside, I think Yoko Ono and John Lennon were a beautiful couple.
76 Shakira // Jun 10, 2008 at 9:34 pm
Honestly, I feel like the study you quoted is correct. I think the reason you see more East Asian girl/white guys couples is because…East Asian girls are waaay more open to dating white guys than girls of other ethnicities.
Pretty much all of my South Asian (Indian, Pakistani, etc.) and Middle Eastern girlfriends have been pursued by several white guys. They might have dated a few of the guys, but most of them didn’t, and almost all preferred not to marry one. They just found quality guys in their own communities. Plus, I don’t think these girls are super harsh on their own men like East Asian girls are. Maybe b/c the guys have big eyes and sharp noses like white guys and you find a diversity of looks within each of these communities. Not that you don’t in East Asian communities, but damn, I have heard several East Asian chicks treat the men in their own communities like they were rats or something. Harsh.
So yeah, I don’t think it’s b/c white guys have a special place in their hearts for the “exotic” East Asian girl…they pretty much go for any hot girl (if you want to get to the heart of it). I think they just find it much easier to get an East Asian girl vs. a girl of any other ethnicity.
Plus, like they always say, a dorky white guy can get a cute Asian girl…all the cute white girls won’t have him!
77 Asian Girl // Jun 13, 2008 at 1:45 pm
I’ve been dating a white guy for 6 years who’s not a geek or unattractive in any way. My relationship isn’t a way to feel more American or “white”. I’ve never dated an Asian guy because I seem to always be negatively judged by Asians just because I can’t speak Vietnamese fluently or hang out with only Asian people. That’s a bunch of crap! I don’t judge the people I date by race. It makes me sick to hear people say such nonsense about races. I no longer talk to one of my brothers because he said I was trying to be “white” just because I have white friends. Well, I live in a predominantly white area and grew up in a small town in upstate NY where a small percentage of the community were non-white. Who else am I going to hang out with? I used to live in SF and my closest friends were Chinese, Koreans and Hispanics. Maybe there are some Asian girls dating white guys for the wrong reasons but isn’t that the same for any race?
78 Brian // Jun 13, 2008 at 6:33 pm
Whoa, that’s a lotta comments. I got a chuckle out of many of them… it’s interesting how many people got so fired up by this issue. I think most people don’t realize that the idea here is that a large quantity of Asian women like white guys, but that doesn’t mean it is all or even a majority of them. Just a statistically significant number, that’s all! It also doesn’t mean that Asian women only like white guys and don’t give a damn about blacks, hispanics, etc.
As for me, I am a white male, born and raised in a smallish town in Massachusetts, USA. Also known as whiteville… though nearby cities have a good number of blacks and hispanics, so it doesn’t get too boring. I believe the fact that I grew up surrounded by whites has a lot to do with why I like ethnic women so much, especially Asians. They are different than the norm. Not that I don’t find plenty of white women attractive, but if you showed me an average white woman and an average Asian woman, I would likely rate the white one a 4 and the Asian one a 7 out of 10. Good looks only get your attention, however, and what really seals the deal for my interest in ethnic women has to do with culture and personality. With the culture and language differences, they are so much more exciting, and personality-wise I find non-American women to be much friendlier and caring. Thinking back to my days before high school, I realize that 75% of my love interests were not white… a half-Filipino, an Ethiopian, several Puerto Ricans, though at the time their race never even entered my mind. They were just the prettiest and sweetest girls in school. It wasn’t until college that I suddenly realized I had this ethnic preference.
Today I am 2 years married to a lovely woman from Thailand. She came to the USA as a student, and stayed as a wife! I didn’t marry her because she is Asian, I married her because I love her. Her Asianess certainly helped, no doubt, for the reasons I mentioned above. She has a lot of the qualities I was always looking for, such as being fun, caring, smart, beautiful, sexy, outgoing, etc. The Asian part is just a great bonus! My life has become a zillion times more interesting with her… eating food I never heard of, watching movies I can’t even understand, traveling to Thailand for 3 weeks, meeting the family I can barely communicate with, learning to speak Thai… I love every second of it!
79 Kanyarose // Jun 13, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Hi… this is Nan, wife of Brian comment #78. I don’t really care whom I’m dating, White or Asian. When I’m dating a guy, I’m looking forward to date a man who like who I am and care about me. I like white guys, but at first I dated a couple of white guys who were kind of asshole. They just treat a woman like crap and don’t really care and pay attention about me. That almost change my mind about them. I think not all of White guys like Asian women.
Some of the white guys do like Asian girl for the wrong reason. I’ve over heard a conversation with 2 White guys talking about Asian women and I was so mad. One guy was telling his friend that he should find an Asian wife because they will treat you like a king and they will do anything for you and the way it came out of his mouth makes me think that he likes Asian women coz they’ll do all the house work for you and all that. Also something else that that guy say to his friend and I think it’s just the wrong idea that he had about Asian women. I wish he never ever get to have an Asian wife likes he dreaming for lol
Personally, I kind of like White guys more than Asian guys. Especially now that I met Brian. He’s the nicest white guy ever. I know some Asian guys are nice too but I had experience dating both and I think White guys are more honest, caring, love family, and don’t lie. I think I’m good staying with the White one and of course the baby is going to be cute. Even though I’m an average kind of girl but the half baby always so cute no matter what nationality they mix in and I can’t wait to have one lol ^_____^
80 anonymous // Jun 13, 2008 at 9:44 pm
LOL If the post above was a joke, it was hilarious!
If not, then I shed a tear for you
its true that western society has a powerful impact on the global perception of happiness… but I guess we just gotta DEAL WIT IT. If you really want to fight it just do ur own thing.
81 Tom // Jun 18, 2008 at 4:27 pm
I am a white guy.
I have had loads of Asian women. I like them because they are generally very simple-minded and like sex. They like white guys like me because we are intelligent, good-looking, and able to give them sexual pleasure.
It is THAT simple.
82 Tom // Jun 18, 2008 at 4:30 pm
And I forgot to add: it is time that Asian guys learned to deal with it.
There is nothing less charming - or less sexually attractive - than a resentful Asian guy.
83 Tom // Jun 18, 2008 at 4:37 pm
Having said all that, and depsite the fact that I am happy to have sex with Asian girls, I will almost certainly *marry* a white woman.
84 5/88 // Jun 19, 2008 at 1:47 pm
im a white male but i dont have any sort of fetish about asian girls the only race i would’nt date is black though
85 lol // Jun 19, 2008 at 4:11 pm
freeearth, what’s funny is you go around bragging about everything when in reality your wife is fugly, and basically cheated on her bf. You say in some other post that asian guys are staring at you guys and her? They’re probably staring and thinking “another creepy white guy hooking up with an ugly asian girl”. lol…it’s funny how you interpret her family as liking you when it’s really clear that they only do that after so many years because it’s more convenient for them.
86 Rodo // Jun 20, 2008 at 2:33 pm
The author of this blog must not get much love from Asian males. From what I’ve noticed, the girls who get lots of love don’t really go for white guys.
As for “yellow fever”, ever notice how white guys will go after ANY Asian chick as long as she’s Asian? It’s like a trophy conquest.
Usually, the girls who get love are the ones who have fun personalities and are pretty cute. These girls usually either have no preference or viciously prefer Asian.
I don’t think it’s really a question of PDA or affection or anything. Every Asian male I know properly gives those in large doses to the person they want to. The real question is, do they want to give it to you?
What does that say about the author?
It’s difficult to argue statistics on this one because the whole topic is so subjective. I’m sure people notice what I notice though.
Putting forth some rudimentary statistics then outlining it from a biased standpoint doesn’t really account for a sound argument. So those who say I’m just being biased should really take a closer look at what Skunkgal wrote in the first place.
Muah!
87 Asas // Jun 22, 2008 at 9:37 pm
Asian people don’t like white guys. Hell this is blasphemy. Asian girls and Gays Asian might. I guess Asian guys are non-existant. Oh well…
88 gay mix // Jun 22, 2008 at 11:24 pm
I’m a afro asian mix guy and my boyfreind is from japan we love each other and he’s my soul mate but his sister had a great asian boyfreind and she dumped him for a white guy she said love is over rated image is everything and she get more respect being with a white boy she feels he makes her better sad but this is what she said
89 King David // Jun 24, 2008 at 6:24 pm
OK this is utter BS with most of the comments first all lets just call it like we see it people in this world still follow that old 19 century eugenics bull crap. class, stereotypes, features, etc that was made to to justify crazy Europeans (the specific ones in power not there common people they just follow the leader) reason to colonize the so called of they considered savage world
Asians, Africans, Arabs, Persians, (native)Indians etc…. and since we as a group of people of this earth since we all the same basically and there no lizard or alien people from mars running around. We Just use from of eugenics now with dating and reproducing its like a retarded version of survival of the fittest(who can make the most pretties baby to rule the earth (no offense to any one gay but the only thing that would effect the human race is if ever one was gay) that would leave no offspring if we only focused on the pleasure side of reproducing . But back to the point the reasoning is stupid we base or hypothesis on stuff we see on tv and what media tells us whats pretty. being exotic(by the means of so called mixing) is very pretty specially leaving in America on TV at first you had to look white to basically be considered beautiful since now pop culture even though still hooked to the roots of how America use to be back then “race mixing(sounds dumb lol the word race mixing) elfs and dwarfs would be is a legit claim to be considered race mixing (not to sound like a sci fi fantasy geek)instead of blackM/F and white M/F or LatinM/F and Asian M/F…etc
funny we talk about are respectful group like how they get all attention or there so godlike ,or hit another group like man!!! I would never date them or maybe there family is a link to al qaidia or a large group of violent gangsters so i steer away from her/him and we even do this to in soceity o my o my I don’t wont my kids to come out looking like osama since i married an Arab lady and he would be looked down upon in school because other kids would think his parents or Muslims. and then we wonder why this world specialy America as a huge rate of divorce because we marring and having families with out having an ounce of true love for our spouse but just married them because of of high up I want to seem like in society (insert nation here) and overlook that true soul mate because to you afraid to look or have a not a avg looking family(yet exotic beautiful family) that’s not seen on the mighty telly.
I’m mix mostly Black, one of the ohio (native american tribes either miami or iroqouis)not quite sure but granny was born in ohio and she was half white just like my grandad and on my dad side majortiy of black ancestry but also grandfather is mix.my family on my mon side looks like you in brazil that’s how mix we are but we considered ourselves black. trust being part of an exoitc looking family is great get stares when you walk in the mall when people can’t make it out if you look Arab, light skin black guy or puerto rican. but also kinda like a game lguess what i am…..anyway I’m not going say I was a victim of someone instresed in you but afraid of what dad going to think when i was about highschool this chinese girl had a crush on me for like a long time but she never gave any real hints that she liked me but only thing she would do lol was give me answers to test but she did work in a family Chinese restaurant that my sisters and dad went there often and she would ask about me all the time but like I said she would never talk to me unless she was helping me in school work in class(yes i was underachiever getting c’s when i could get As didn’t care at the time though its high school) but guess what ( thanks agian setortypes!!!) but the reason she never gave me any bait to really know make a move she knew here father would not approve even though I was like the cool stand on the wall never say anything but still respectfull get all the attention from the with out even talking to them girls type.(not to tut my own horn but i been asked out by more girls then I asked girls out at that time I was afraid of rejection thats another tell) But the point is that if we follow what soceity says about people regardless of what race that are with out checking the actually idvidual you miss out on something. never know now her and I could of been a good couple
the moral of this rant is
Its all about individual character and goals of what type of person your looking for and we should all know beauty only skin deep or should i say race deep. look past race and even looks sometimes and get to know the inside person might be your soul mate that will be with you for thick and thin wrong or right.
peace
90 King David // Jun 24, 2008 at 6:28 pm
dang, lol I should of typed that rant in word first alot of erros heck its freaking chop’d and screwed any way excuse me who ever reads it I’m sorry dont crucify me
91 Dave // Jul 3, 2008 at 5:30 pm
lots of misconceptions here….at least from my experience. As a white guy, I would say about half of white guys are attracted to asian girls and the other half not. For most of the ones who are, its not because of some hollywood image that they expect asian girls to be “subservient”, because they are “losers” who can’t get a date with white chicks, or any other BS reasons thrown out there. Its because they find them……GASP! 1) physically attractive 2) if you were raised in a fairly traditional and conservative household like I was, the high value placed on education by most asian cultures-and thus the often high levels of academic achievement by many asian girls fits perfectly with the values I was raised with and like to see in a girl. 3)some think it would be a huge advantage for any kids to grow up speaking two or more languages and understanding two or more cultures 4)yes, halfie babies do tend to be very cute (at least to my eyes) 5) they are fascinated with many of the Asian cultures and would love to learn more 6)like exotic/different thing (Of course, a lot of people other than just white guys or asian girls feel that way too).
Does any of this totally explain why I like my girlfriend who happens to be Chinese? No. I like her because she’s sweet, smart, pretty and a lot of fun to be with. If that bothers someone else…..get a life.
92 anna // Jul 5, 2008 at 6:44 am
I’m a white chick, and I’ll tell you *exactly* why white boys like Asian girls {and this is NOT on the Asian girls}. I know because I know white guys who’ve dated Asian girls, inc. exclusively Asian girls. Asian girls are small. They are either represented as nerdy or super/trashy/sexy. The small, sexy, supposedly submissive Asian girls make the white guy feel big and powerful, both physically and mentally. Now, I’m not saying that real love can’t blossom between the two–I’m saying for the most part, white guys who date Asians don’t care who the Asian is. They’re dating the type, not the person. Asian girls watch out!
93 jen // Jul 5, 2008 at 10:54 am
I have to admit. The babies from Asian and Caucasian parents are very very cute.
94 gian // Jul 6, 2008 at 7:27 pm
The baby thing is all a crapshoot imo. There are very ugly halfies that I’ve seen and there are also the very good looking ones. Race doesn’t change genetics and its pairing, so who cares. I’d rather have a good and happy family than one that looks great superficially. Nowadays it’s all fair game because it’s become more common. It’s not WM/AF anymore, it’s xM/xF now.
95 Don't Mess Wit Me // Jul 6, 2008 at 7:39 pm
Hi I’m an Asian girl and the generalisations here are so ****
First of all, we come from a myraid of backgrounds, so you can’t just say that Asian women and White men hook up because ____. By hook up, I mean long-term.
In America, for an Asian woman to find her Asian counterpart, she’d have to go back to her country. We fall in love with people who have similar personalities and values. We have very few Asian men compared to white men in America. Look at the size of Asia! What’re the chances that a potential Asian suitor is from the same hometown as she, who also happened to sail to America with her, and lived with her?
Therefore, there’s a wider chance for a girl to fall for a white guy, who shared her beliefs. We’re mutable people, but our blueprint is the same.
The most important thing is to stay true to yourself. I’m Chinese and I get along with people of all races. I also tend to clash with people of all races. I get along with more European men than American men also. It’s not a “white” issue. It’s more of a personality and cultural one.
96 cteagirl // Jul 6, 2008 at 11:44 pm
why do we asian girls like white guys?
-we all have daddy issues (controlling, too-strict, too conservative, too sheltering, lack of humor, too f*cking uptight, male chauvinist, etc) that automatically singes that terrifying imprint upon the possibility of marrying an asian guy.
-hot, good-looking white guys are willing to give us a chance even if we’re not a size 0 or 2. Hot asian guys would not. which makes asian male hotties way too discriminatory and superficial. So please, watch the double standard.
-majority of asian guys we know are “nice guys.” (see other thread, speaks for itself), and too shy and hesitant to ask us out. White guys have more confidence and ask us out first. That is hella more attractive, no matter what race you are.
-white guys are willing to acknowledge our talents , intelligence, and other non-looks-related characteristics as highly significant.
Asian guys in general, want a pretty petite sweet girl… and that’s it. she can be relatively empty up there so long as she’s obedient.
-the “dorky white guys” who seem to score with asian chicks? they’re usually not dorks b/c they have some confidence. confidence is attractive.
-white guys are taller. sorry, but it counts.
-it’s a tough competition out there, asian guys. you can’t let the white guy beat you each time. so you have to make up for it in confidence, and looks. Meaning you have to step it up. it’s not enough to look like a gap commercial. that’s just not stylish. make a move and assert yourself. stop being the nice guy and get some new clothes, haircut, makeover. learn how to groom. Doing so will give you the edge.
97 The Real American // Jul 7, 2008 at 11:47 am
I’m an Asian American Guy and here is my 2 cents:
The only people in here are:
1.) Liberals
2.) Western-Centric Utopian Thinkers
3.) White Washed Asian guys who are bitter, but don’t realize that their bitterness is only a product of their whitewash-ness.
You people are delusional. Get your news and opinions from more sources than your TV, your government run schools, or your liberal college professors.
America is starting to be disliked in the world because it has abandoned its love of Liberty and replaced it with Utopian thinking. You people seem to think that you’re the policeman of the world. That humanity should be united and shaped under YOUR vision. You claim it for the common good.
Government stepping out of it’s Constitutional boundaries, by propagating it’s own vision of race mixing, using taxpayer money and the censured media has created the bias against Asian Men that is in the media today. Even when you see this “diversity” displayed on billboards, posters, and college pamphlets, you will rarely see Asian men displayed favorably, if at all. Is it any wonder that Asian men feel like second class citizens? Don’t you think this is why Asian guys and the women loyal to them, tend to isolate themselves from Mainstream America?
Let’s not forget that whatever government touches it corrupts.
Asian Women have the right to date/marry anyone they want but Asian Men also have the right to dislike, disown, and push away anyone they don’t want. Don’t call us racist, because we didn’t start this, we are just protecting ourselves from the aggression of YOUR Government.
I respect the rights of all people so long as they don’t violate the life, liberty, and property of others. I don’t like the direction that this country has chosen: Force Political Correctness and Forced Equality under YOUR vision of how humanity should look like.
Freedom and small government is not only the American way, it is the most practical and humanitarian way.
98 YELLOWHAMMER // Jul 7, 2008 at 9:05 pm
To Asian guys who feel they are losing dates to White Guys:
I’m an Asian woman and it never worked out for me when I dated people from the same background. Either I wasn’t pretty enough, or thin enough, or socially prominent enough, or proper enough to introduce to their moms, or I was too old! I was told these things by exes who didn’t seem to realize they were “all that” either.
It’s just soooo hard to live up to Asian guys’ and their families’ expectations. There was always something I wasn’t doing right.
Meanwhile my European fiance moved halfway around the world to be with me, introduced me to his family right away, who threw a massive party to introduce me to all the relatives, asked me if I wanted to go to either Rome or Paris for my birthday…I know, I can hardly believe it myself.
But the most important thing is that after being told so often that I wasn’t “the kind of girl who would be good wife or mommy material” (why - because I care about my career?) there’s this gorgeous blonde man who tells me everyday that he wouldn’t change a thing about me.
99 The Real American // Jul 8, 2008 at 9:45 am
YELLOWHAMMER,
I understand your situation because most Asian girls who go for Non-Asian guys for that very reason. If they aren’t the ideal Asian Girl(cute and petite), or once they screw up (Date inter-racially or sleep around) they tend to get a bad reputation and Asian guys reject them.
Yea, it’s a sad reality but to be completely honest I am actually very proud that we Asian men hold women to such a high standard. It’s probably the reason why Asian Women evolved to be as attractive as they are now.
I’m certainly not jealous of your life choice. Most of the Asian girls that do date inter-racially aren’t really the right stuff for Asian Guys anyways.
In the end everyone is happy except those dumb Whitewashed Asian guys who still think that White guys are stealing their women. These guys just need to get out more, socialize more with Asians, and understand the hidden rules of Asian Society.
100 YELLOWHAMMER // Jul 8, 2008 at 4:14 pm
Thanks for the response Real American. I just wanted to say that it’s okay to have high standards - but I just wish that it wasn’t a DOUBLE STANDARD. Case in point: I was 118lbs and called ‘fat and unhealthy’ by an ex who was overweight and smoked like a chimney. I was very forgiving of my Asian exes’ shortcomings, but why couldn’t they take a good long look at themselves and see that they weren’t up to their own standards?
There is so much pressure placed on women in the looks/attractiveness/demureness department that everything else gets pushed to the sidelines. There are lots of beautiful women in my country to be sure, so I can understand why the standards are higher but this is just a tyranny of type! Doesn’t being a good, loving person count? I have lovely, amazing friends who would - without a moment’s hesitation - nurse a perfect stranger after an accident and not leave until the medical staff arrive and then later include said stranger in their prayers. And what happens to a lovely girl like that? They get jerked around! And what happens when they don’t get married - well, people just pity and patronize them as old maids!
I don’t expect anyone to be ‘jealous’ of my life choice because I did not make a deliberate effort to date white guys. In fact, when I moved West I had basically resigned myself to spinsterhood (at 27). I just fell in love with a friend who just happened to be European. And whose mother doesn’t view me as a rival for her son’s affections (thank God for that!)
I’m not saying we should all go White or that it’s ‘not’ a challenge to overcome our cultural differences (or the harassment we get when we go out together). But I think the guys back home (who - I might add - LOVE caucasian girls - which I have no problem with) can do with a little bit more openness, acceptance and equality. But since I place such a high emphasis on those values, you’re probably right - I’m not the right stuff for the boys back home as you say.
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