I was watching a Wong Fu Productions movie called "Just a Nice Guy" this week, which was about a guy trying to get with a girl that he really liked, but was having trouble because well, he was just a nice guy around the object of his affection. I have heard my friends that are guys say that they have had this problem in the past. I myself at one point had trouble with this, but I got past it, and here's how. 1. Be Disagreeable (sometimes) One thing that us nice guys have to stop doing, is being so nice. We need to stop complimenting our Object of Affection(hereafter refer referred to as OA's.) Now don't go insulting her all the time, but rather, stop always telling her how perfect she looks, and start offering constructive criticism, as opposed to smothering her with compliments. 2. Be "Conveniently" Unavailable. Something that you have to do, is be out of your OA's reach. this sounds odd, but it is effective. Doing your own thing, and having a dating life that doesn't revolve around your OA is effective in avoiding the friend zone. Make sure she knows you're out on dates. Not only will this keep you busy on those normally lonely nights, but it will also make the girl think that she's missing out on something. The more you have her thinking of you, the better. Always being there for her as a shoulder to lean on in times where her boyfriend isn't treating her right, could result in her saying something like this: "You'd make some girl out there really happy!" (In this scenario, I suggest abandoning hope.) One thing, though: you cannot be unavailable for too long, lest she forget that you even exist. 3. Become Assertive. (Man Up) As much as girls like your OA may say, "I want someone nice," well, that's not always the case. You know what a woman wants? Barring any homosexual tendencies, a woman wants a MAN. She wants someone who can protect her, someone to argue with, someone who is going to squash bugs without hesitation. Quit being so nice and just man up; trust me, when you start pumping out that testosterone, she'll pick up on it. 4. Change your "look". If you've never really paid attention to fashion, today is the time to start. Buy yourself a couple new shirts and pants...a blazer or two never hurts. This step is important because you want to change her perception of you, and nothing will accomplish that easier than looking different. If you have no fashion sense at all, look to one of your friends - you know, the good looking guy landing all the babes? Yeah, him. Don't outright copy him, but check out his style and mimic it to the best of your ability. If all else fails, just ask him where he shops. 5. Exude confidence. After changing your look up a bit, you're probably more confident about yourself. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a guy who is confident. You know why the good looking guy gets all the girls? Of course, being good looking helps, but chances are, the good looking guy has been told that he's been good looking his entire life. So he knows he's good looking, therefore CONFIDENT about his appearance. Even though you feel like a troll inside, walk tall, fix your posture and look at the girl in the eyes when you talk to her. (Keep in mind, that her eyes, are on her face, not her chest.) 6. Never Confess. I saw in the video "Just A Nice Guy" that he confessed his love for his OA, and it worked out, which is all and good, but seemed like too much of a happy ending. I personally wouldn't suggest this, because if you like a girl, she probably knows anyway, and she probably has a million guys chasing after her already. No matter if you have all those nice warm fuzzy feelings inside for her, don't confess that to her. I think some more things could be added here, but these have been my overall tactics in avoiding the dreaded "Friend Zone" or "Friend Ladder".