Many of my guy friends, and some girl friends,  have asked me advice on how to obtain a Temporary Significant Other. But, for ease of typing, we shall hereafter refer to them as TSOs.(also referred to as girlfriends/boyfriends.)There isn't a straightforward, always effective way off obtaining a TSO. Its almost like a horrid game at times.But, I have integrated everything into 6 simple steps on how to obtain a relationship with that person whom you desire most.(Note: I wrote this kind of for guys more, but I believe girls can profit as well from this.)Step 1: Detective work, followed by a little fishing.You talk to a person, not knowing too much about them.  You don't know if they're interested in someone else,(or already has a TSO unless its clearly evident or they're lying)So, you're playing detective. But, you also have to be a fisherman, and a master tactician. But, you also have to play private escort, ice climber, and the most important part-yourself.Now, after you've finally figured out whether or not they do (abandon all hope if they happen to like someone else, or have a  TSO, btw. Camping females/males is useless, unless you're in middle school, where all relationships last an average of a week.) like someone else or have a TSO, you have at least a little information on them by now.But the game of obtaining a TSO deals with more than detective work. You have to fish as well. And by fishing, you have to put your thoughts onto a hook, and plunge it  into the cold depths known as scrutiny, which you are subject to, as  long as you like certain things, and have an opinion. Because they have one too. And what's worse, is that some tend to disagree, but everyone's different.Step 2: Use what you know, and the friendship grows.After this, you have to play on their weaknesses...er, I mean, strengths, in order to win their respect, and for them to be comfortable around you. (Note that if you didn't have much or anything at all in common, abandon hope, and move on to someone else.) If you both like video games, then play video games together. If you both like hiking, then take a hike(no pun intended). But, still try to grab some friends and take them along too, so it doesn't seem obvious. (This is the tactician part)Talk about things you both like, and the friendship will get stronger, and better, along the way. "But, after some time of this, and hanging out and all of that good stuff,  How will you know when it is time to take the relationship further?" One may ask.Well, that is different for every person it seems. Some, it may take 3 weeks, and another, 3 months. (Just a metaphorical range, by the way.)IF (2 letter word)  you are able to succeed in the above, and things tend to be going really well then I would strongly consider taking the small step forward that is necessary in order to obtaining your future TSO.This step is almost invisible, yet if you skip it with some people, you may ruin everything.Step 3: Reassess everything.Reassess everything.Do they have a TSO already? do they show interest in someone else besides you romantically?If they do not, then advance directly to GO, collect $200, and take the next step.If they do, (or already have had since you started talking to them, but failed to pay attention when I mentioned to abandon hope in this situation earlier) then abandon hope now, because if they are faithful to their TSO, and their relationship is stable.....you don't have a chance. (about 99.9% of the time.)Step 4: The Fun Begins.This is the next step, which is almost the next to last one that you need to make, which should happen automatically, but sometimes needs a little nudging to happen from the member of the opposite sex.Now, you're playing private escort. Go with them alone on "dates". Without all the friends. Tell no one about anything, because nothing is set in stone yet. Enjoy their company, doing something different, but still something they enjoy. A little variety never hurt. Don't go with the whole dinner and a movie thing, that is way too typical. (Unless, they really like movies.) After a while of this, (Varies with each person....) and everything seems to be going well, then, you are usually well on your way to obtaining your TSO. But this is also a hard step as well, if you're clueless (guys), seeing how explaining your desire to be exclusive with your chosen someone can seem a bit awkward, or cheezy.(For right now, you are playing the role of you, which should be the easiest role of all.)Step 5: Seal the Deal.Note sayings you may want to avoid:"Ey bay bey, how bout' we go to my place, and we can roll dees tires?""Will you be my girlfriend?" (For some reason, saying that to a girl would make me feel as if I were in elementary school again)"So, I was hearing this funny joke one time, about you and me, being together, going out...you wanna do that?"(.......This isn't a joking matter.)"Will you go out with me?" is simple, but I feel it is overused, and a bit short. But on the other hand, I can't disdain it, seeing as I've used it before, and it is remarkable how words can get caught up in your throat, when you need to say something like this, so a short sentence like this could be a good option.I would try something like this:"Since I've met you, I've really enjoyed spending my time with you, and was wondering if you wanted to be in a relationship with me." I guess that one seems odd too, but I feel that it best says your feelings about the other person, and follows through, without seeming like a blatant inquisitive statement.But, the point is, say whatever you want, but be sure to include your feelings, just to make it a bit personal. I would also suggest including a buffer sentence of "If you need some time, its ok" or "I understand if you don't want to" to pick off some of the glacier that may have suddenly formed between you and them when you asked this question.(For the record, for this moment, you're an ice climber. lol)If everything goes like it should, both parties will receive an answer that is desirable and hopefully, you will obtain your new Temporary Significant Other. (Or boyfriend/girlfriend.) Step 6: Break the Deal. (But softly...)This step, somewhat unlike all the others, may require some time, or, not at all. It's your option!This is also an important step, seeing as if you did not partake in this step, they aren't temporary! (We wouldn't want them to be permanent, would we?) Inform your TSO one day that you want to have "A talk."  You can either enjoy the look of horror on their face after you've said that, or simply enjoy said look after you tell them that you don't want to be with them anymore.Commonly used phrases for doing this include:"I don't think that I like you "that way".""I think you're a great guy/girl, but I don't want to be in a serious relationship.""I think we should break up. It's not you, its me.""I don't think we make a good enough couple.""I was wondering...is it ok with you if we see other people?"Or, if you REALLY want to shatter that already thin ice created by you mentioning breakup, you can follow up any of the above lines by saying:"Can we just be friends?" or "We can still be friends if you want..."The aforementioned line, used in combination with any of the above  is GUARANTEED to break the relationship without any hard feelings, and there's always the possibility of you being friends still, because you left that door open.   Lets Review:Step 1: Detective work, followed by a little fishing.Step 2: Use what you know, and the friendship grows.Step 3: Reassess everything.Step 4: The Fun Begins.Step 5: Seal the Deal.Step 6: Break the Deal (But softly...)There you go.Follow all of these steps, and I'm sure you will be able to be with that special someone you've had your eye on.And then, you can break up with them, without them becoming bitter enemies, because you can still be "just friends."And that, is how to obtain a Temporary Significant Other.